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I'm 30, Dual Minded, and Unsure About My Long-Term Boyfriend: Should I Break Up?

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Thank you for your response. But if I break things now with my long term BF, it would be forever. I am 30 and he is 31 and he won't wait for me forever. I don't expect him to. Because the current situation and dual mind I am in, this is from almost 2 years. My long term bf knows I have no clarity and is supportive enough to let me part ways if I don't want to go ahead with the marriage. He wants to marry me and he is hopeful that things will get better if we work for it. I have taken enough time for myself and still not able to make up my mind.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it is difficult, but you cannot keep your partner hanging like this. He has been patient and supportive of your decisions, the least you can do is come to a clear conclusion. While it is tough, you need to make a choice and stick to it. He deserves the clarity and so do you.

And just a reminder, if you are still unsure about him after two years of thinking, there must be something fundamentally wrong in the relationship; don't you think? Marriage is just another commitment; it doesn't magically sort things out. Please consider everything thoroughly before making a decision

Best Wishes.

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Hi Anu, I am 30 years old girl and for the past three years, I have been in relationship with a guy who is two years younger to me. He is Marwadi and his parents are not agreeing to our marriage. I have tried breaking up with the guy several times and tried moving on but he always keeps saying that his parents need some time. My BF is a genuine guy and he loves me a lot.My parents on the other hand want me to get married by the end of this year. I am really confused if I should wait for my BF or listen to my parents and get married by their choice. I am unable to understand what to do. I am really depressed. Will it be really late if I get married after 30 or is it okay to wait for my BF?Please help me out.
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Dear AY,

And is your boyfriend also really depressed like you are?

Is he also desperate to get married?

Is he afraid of talking to his parents?

Does he also want to get married and settle down?

Is there a future for the two of you?

If the answer to each is a YES, please have that ‘uncomfortable yet firm’ conversation with your boyfriend.

Being in a limbo isn’t great, so please ask him how much time he needs to talk to his parents and when he is going to talk to them and how serious is he in this relationship?

Else, it will be an endless wait and that is what seems to be getting to you, the uncertainty.

So, by getting a clear commitment on the WHEN, will eliminate this stress that is eating you away. Things will get clearer, and you will know what to do!

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2024
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It is really difficult to explain what I am going through and my words might not completely bring that out but a piece of advice/perception might be really helpful. I am 30 years old. I have a long term boyfriend(started dating in 2012). He was the world to me till almost 2020. He was my family, my everything. I too meant the world to him. We treated each other like "I am his and he is mine". Such was the commitment and care. We never thought we could even think of marrying some one else. We are in long distance since 2017. Used to meet once in every 2 months sort of. In 2021, I met some one else and started going out with him as we were in the same city just casually believing that nothing serious has to happen between us and that I "obviously" will marry my long term boyfriend undoubtedly. But things drastically changed. I developed strong feelings for this person and met more frequently. I went with the flow despite having immense guilt that things will eventually get very complicated and all the three of us will be hurt. But I never gathered the courage to break ties with this new person as the bonding was very maturely strong between us. Nor I could break ties with my long term boyfriend as he still was "my family" and he was the only one I resorted to whenever I needed someone. The new guy belongs to a caste my family will never agree and because of this I persuaded the marriage talks with my family for my long term boyfriend. My family agreed and my marriage date is scheduled in end of November 2024. But I everyday am in dilemma as to whether should I marry my long term boyfriend as scheduled or should I take a bold step of breaking it and going for the guy I met in 2021. I told my mother about the situation but she said my father will never agree for this new guy's caste and that its too late and I should marry as scheduled. I am not able to take a decision and going with the flow and probably will get married with this dual thought and uncertainty. I have thought a lot about this, about how my life will be with both of them, but its very difficult for me to break things with my long term boyfriend even though I have no romantic feelings for him from the past 3 years. There is 0 intimacy, neither emotional nor physical. But I do care for him. I do want him in my life, whether as a husband or otherwise. I feel the way he takes care of me and thinks about me, no one else will. But the thing is I don't actually "feel" for him anything, nor do I miss him as much, we don't talk the way we used to , there's a detachment. We are in long distance and are in such different fields that we never probably will live closer location wise. There's financial disparity. I earn almost thrice as him but we probably are okay with this. We both are aware of all these problems and are still ready to marry with the "hope" that things will eventually be okay. On the other hand, the guy I met in 2021- he has a good career and location wise, we are in long distance too but way better placed and in near future, his job location might be very flexible. He earns more but has huge family obligations as his family including his two brothers are not very well off. I have probably made peace with it when I thought about considering him for marriage. I love him and we have great emotional intimacy . I feel so calm and happy around him. It's like a festival when he is around me. He too loves me a lot and is ready to take efforts to make our marriage possible given the family and caste differences. I am really very disturbed and unable to decide whether I should break the marriage as if things don't improve after marriage, I will regret it always. Preparations have started slightly and it would be a big step now. Should I just forget about the 2021 guy and marry my long term boyfriend in November hoping that things will fall in place..or.. What should I do! My long term boyfriend has also lost feelings for me but he still cares for me and he says if we work for our relationship, things will be good post marriage
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It sounds like a difficult decision to make. But one simple thing is that you should never commit for a lifetime to a person you do not feel for; that does not mean I am asking you to leave him right away and marry the other guy. That means, you can have an open talk with your long-term BF. Tell him how you feel and let him clarify his feelings too. You can postpone the wedding to sort things out first- and think hard whether both of you want to get married at all.
Leaving one does not equate to choosing another. Choose yourself first; your happiness. You can never be happy in a relationship when you are of two minds. Please don't rush to get married to either of them.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 07, 2024Hindi
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This is an urgent situation and is really difficult to explain what I am going through and my words might not completely bring that out but a piece of advice/perception might be really helpful. I am 30 years old. I have a long term boyfriend(started dating in 2012). He was the world to me till almost 2020. He was my family, my everything. I too meant the world to him. We treated each other like "I am his and he is mine". Such was the commitment and care. We never thought we could even think of marrying some one else. We are in long distance since 2017. Used to meet once in every 2 months sort of. In 2021, I met some one else and started going out with him as we were in the same city just casually believing that nothing serious has to happen between us and that I "obviously" will marry my long term boyfriend undoubtedly. But things drastically changed. I developed strong feelings for this person and met more frequently. I went with the flow despite having immense guilt that things will eventually get very complicated and all the three of us will be hurt. But I never gathered the courage to break ties with this new person as the bonding was very maturely strong between us. Nor I could break ties with my long term boyfriend as he still was "my family" and he was the only one I resorted to whenever I needed someone. The new guy belongs to a caste my family will never agree and because of this I persuaded the marriage talks with my family for my long term boyfriend. My family agreed and my marriage date is scheduled in end of November 2024. But I everyday am in dilemma as to whether should I marry my long term boyfriend as scheduled or should I take a bold step of breaking it and going for the guy I met in 2021. I told my mother about the situation but she said my father will never agree for this new guy's caste and that its too late and I should marry as scheduled. I am not able to take a decision and going with the flow and probably will get married with this dual thought and uncertainty. I have thought a lot about this, about how my life will be with both of them, but its very difficult for me to break things with my long term boyfriend even though I have no romantic feelings for him from the past 3 years. There is 0 intimacy, neither emotional nor physical. But I do care for him. I do want him in my life, whether as a husband or otherwise. I feel the way he takes care of me and thinks about me, no one else will. But the thing is I don't actually "feel" for him anything, nor do I miss him as much, we don't talk the way we used to , there's a detachment. We are in long distance and are in such different fields that we never probably will live closer location wise. There's financial disparity. I earn almost thrice as him but we probably are okay with this. We both are aware of all these problems and are still ready to marry with the "hope" that things will eventually be okay. On the other hand, the guy I met in 2021- he has a good career and location wise, we are in long distance too but way better placed and in near future, his job location might be very flexible. He earns more but has huge family obligations as his family including his two brothers are not very well off. I have probably made peace with it when I thought about considering him for marriage. I love him and we have great emotional intimacy . I feel so calm and happy around him. It's like a festival when he is around me. He too loves me a lot and is ready to take efforts to make our marriage possible given the family and caste differences. I am really very disturbed and unable to decide whether I should break the marriage as if things don't improve after marriage, I will regret it always. Preparations have started slightly and it would be a big step now. Should I just forget about the 2021 guy and marry my long term boyfriend in November hoping that things will fall in place..or.. What should I do! My long term boyfriend has also lost feelings for me but he still cares for me and he says if we work for our relationship, things will be good post marriage
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It sounds like a difficult decision to make. But one simple thing is that you should never commit for a lifetime to a person you do not feel for; that does not mean I am asking you to leave him right away and marry the other guy. That means, you can have an open talk with your long-term BF. Tell him how you feel and let him clarify his feelings too. You can postpone the wedding to sort things out first- and think hard whether both of you want to get married at all.
Leaving one does not equate to choosing another. Choose yourself first; your happiness. You can never be happy in a relationship when you are of two minds. Please don't rush to get married to either of them.

Best Wishes.

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hi sir/maam I am 22 yrs old and my boyfriend is 28 yrs old. We both are in the same office right now and his home is very near from that. At this point, we've been in a relationship for 8 months. He is very emotional and understanding and always there for me. Nobody knows about us, only my friends do. I am not that serious but confused if i lose someone who had loved me this much. He asks about marriage but it would be intercaste so i say that parents would not approve this. My friends advice me to break up. I try to disconnect with him but as soon as I talk to him I fail to do. I feel like talking to him console him. The thing is I'll talk to my parents 2 yrs later but he asking for commitment as he is getting other marriage proposals and its the right time for him to get settle but for me, he's saying he's ready to wait only if i give commitment. My father has said once that study and become independent but never risk my self respect in this society. Should i risk my boyfriend's life by giving the commitment ? I'm confused because i think at this point im kind of girl that will adjust somehow atleast im getting a person who loves me alot, i also love him but he's more into this feeling. What should i do? Recently he's got a marriage proposal and his family is seriously asking for his answer but he was asking what i want? i asked him to consider that and directly said it will not be possible for me to commit but im still in dilemma- im losing sth imp, should i go for him?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your dilemma. All I can say is that neither one of you is wrong here. He wants commitment before he decides to wait for you, and you want some more time. Both your requirements make perfect sense. My suggestion is that if you really think that you can't commit, you should clear that to him right away, and let him decide whether or not he is okay to go on like that. It's not fair to keep him hanging nor will it be right to make a decision for him. Give him clarity of the situation and let him decide.

In case you guys decide to break up, let him move on. I understand the urge to comfort him, but doing so, you are only going to stall his moving on process.

Hope this helps.

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– If you have specific financial goals, allocate accordingly.
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– A fund lagging for over 12 months needs attention.
– Also review sector exposure, overlap, and tax impact.
– A Certified Financial Planner will do this periodically.
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– Mutual fund taxation impacts your net returns.
– For equity funds, STCG is taxed at 20%.
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– SIPs should not stop even in bad markets.
– Market dips are best times to accumulate more units.
– Avoid emotional decisions during correction periods.
– Stay patient and continue monthly contributions.
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– If income reduces, lower SIP, but never stop.
– Stay consistent and disciplined for long-term success.

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– Ensure emergency fund is at least 6 months’ expenses.
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– Start planning your exit 12-18 months before maturity.
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? Final Insights

– Your joint SIP effort of Rs. 75K/month is admirable.
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 29, 2025

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I have two PF account nos. under in a single UAN. I retired from the 1st origination in the month of sept 2020 after attains the age of 58 years and join 2nd origination in May 2022 (as per PF department records) and continue till now. The EPFO department Stop to credit my interest in the Ist account w.e.f. sept 2023 (Aprox) and continue to provide interest in 2nd account till now. I visited earlier several times in connection with higher pension from the beginning from June 2023 the date of application submitted for higher pension. As the amount to be taken from my account /deposited by me with interest for higher pension settlement as required by department. On enquiring at that time during my visit, the dealing official of the department informed me that the amount after demand with interest will be taken from my Ist account only as the case of higher pension pertain to ist origination and not for 2nd one. In view of this I have not transfer / withdraw the amount from Ist account. Finally on several visit and request I have been issued demand notice dated 28-04-2025 to deposit by 30-04-2025 Rs. 1157109 or by 31.05.2025 Rs. 1164916 or by 30.06.2025 Rs. 1172721 with a joint request Form. All the required forms with employer authenticity deposited well with in time. The amount required for higher pension still as of today 13-07-2025not debited or transfer from my account. It is to inform here that there is a balance as of today with interest as on sept.2023 is Rs.9366305/- (INTEREST LOSS OF Rs. 14.16 LAC APROX TILL NOW.) IN VIEW OF THE ABOVE FACTS--- Please advise me what should I do and also confirm the rules for the same to square up the matter with department. Kul Bhushan Rana
Ans: – You have shared your situation clearly and patiently.
– You are taking efforts for your rightful higher pension.
– That shows financial awareness and future planning.
– You have stayed consistent with EPFO visits and followed their process.
– That discipline is truly worth appreciating.

? Understanding the Two PF Accounts Under One UAN
– You retired from the first organisation in Sept 2020 after turning 58.
– You joined the second organisation in May 2022.
– Both PF accounts are under one UAN, which is valid.

– Interest stopped on the first account from Sept 2023.
– This is common when PF becomes inoperative.
– As per EPFO rules, interest stops after 3 years of no contributions.

– You were told your higher pension dues will be debited from the first account.
– That is correct, since higher pension application is linked to first service.

? Why Interest Stopped in the First PF Account
– As per current EPFO rules, interest is credited only when account is active.
– If no fresh contributions after 36 months, account becomes inoperative.
– That is why interest was not credited after Sept 2023.

– Even though you did not withdraw, account is inactive.
– Hence, interest loss of Rs. 14.16 lakh happened.
– This situation could have been avoided with timely fund transfer.

– But since EPFO informed you not to transfer or withdraw, you followed guidance.
– So the delay is not from your side, but from the department's delay in debit.

? Higher Pension Demand Notice and Delay in Debit
– You received demand notice on 28-04-2025.
– You were given amount and deadline options till 30-06-2025.

– You submitted joint request form and employer authentication within deadline.
– That shows you followed all instructions sincerely.

– But as of 13-07-2025, amount still not debited from first PF account.
– That delay has caused further interest loss to you.

– This is where department processing failure has caused financial damage.
– You have a valid reason to request interest restoration.

? What You Can Do Now: Step-by-Step
– Please write a formal letter to your EPFO Regional Commissioner.
– Mention full details of your UAN, both PF numbers and service periods.
– Explain clearly the timeline of your application, visits, submissions.

– Attach copy of demand notice and receipt of form submission.
– Highlight clearly that department advised to not withdraw or transfer first PF.
– So you kept funds there only for higher pension settlement.

– Mention the delay from EPFO side in debiting your dues.
– Due to that, you suffered Rs. 14.16 lakh interest loss.

– Request them to process debit immediately and update pension calculation.
– Also request interest restoration or compensation due to their delay.

– Keep copy of letter and get acknowledgement from EPFO office.
– Also send same via registered post or speed post to maintain proof.

? Other Follow-Ups to Take in Parallel
– File a grievance on EPFO official portal under "Higher Pension - Settlement".
– Explain same points in simple words with date-wise entries.
– Upload supporting documents like demand notice and bank proof.

– After 15 days, file RTI to EPFO to ask for action status.
– Ask why debit not done and interest not compensated.
– Ask for name and designation of person responsible for delay.

– This puts legal pressure and speeds up department response.

? Higher Pension and Interest – Rules and Reality
– EPFO higher pension scheme is based on Supreme Court ruling.
– Eligible employees can shift from EPS wage limit to full salary for pension.

– Employees retiring after Sept 2014 with joint option and contribution are eligible.
– Pension is based on last drawn salary and service duration.

– When applying for higher pension, EPFO allows employee to pay shortfall.
– This can be done through PF account or external payment.

– In your case, PF balance was enough to cover demand.
– But EPFO delay has caused interest loss.
– Rule does not allow interest on inoperative PF after 3 years.

– But if delay is due to department error, you have right to raise claim.

? You Can Also Approach EPFO Zonal Office
– If local office does not act, escalate to Zonal EPFO office.
– Carry all documents and submit grievance with written letter.
– Politely explain financial loss and request immediate resolution.

– Zonal office has more power and senior officials.
– Their intervention often helps speed up things.

? Legal Option as Final Step (Only if Needed)
– If still no response after all efforts, send legal notice.
– A notice from your advocate can mention service record, forms, interest loss.

– It should demand debit of funds and compensation for interest.
– This step may push EPFO to close the matter without going to court.

– But legal option should be last resort, after exhausting all department levels.

? Tips to Prevent Future PF Related Losses
– Always take written record of any advice given by EPFO staff.
– Do not depend on verbal instructions alone.

– Always follow up in writing when EPFO gives timeline.
– Keep copies of every form, acknowledgement, screenshot.

– Transfer old PF to active account after retirement if no advice from EPFO.
– Keep account active to continue earning interest.

– Maintain full file of pension-related papers for future needs.

? Finally
– You have shown great patience and effort in following the pension process.
– You have every right to get higher pension and fair treatment.

– EPFO delay is causing financial loss and mental stress.
– With written communication and RTI, you can demand quick resolution.

– Keep calm but stay persistent.
– You will be able to close the matter with rightful benefits.

– Your discipline in record-keeping and action is praiseworthy.
– Please keep moving step by step as explained above.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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