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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 07, 2024Hindi
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My sister is married to a jerk. He is lazy, lives off my sister's income and doesn't really care about their children. My sister doesn't want to divorce him for fear it will upset our parents. Please advise how I can convince her that she is better off single than living with this loser.

Ans: It's understandable that you want to help your sister. However, it's important to remember that ultimately, the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is up to the individual. Here are some things you can do to support your sister:

1. Listen to her: Encourage your sister to share her feelings and thoughts about her marriage. Listen to her without judgment and offer support.

2. Empower her: Help your sister recognize her own strengths and abilities. Encourage her to take control of her life and make decisions that are best for her and her children.

3. Provide resources: Share resources with your sister that can help her make informed decisions about her marriage. For example, you can share articles or books about healthy relationships, or connect her with a therapist or counselor who can help her work through her feelings.

4. Be patient: Remember that change takes time. Be patient with your sister and offer support throughout the process.

It's important to respect your sister's decision and not pressure her into making a choice she's not ready to make.
Ultimately, she knows what's best for her and her family.

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Dear Anu,Hope you are doing well!I happened to read few of your articles on family issues hence thought of seeking advice on a very complicated family issue of mine.This is going to be really big email... sorry I badly need help!My elder sister is married for close to 8 years now.It's an arranged marriage and she is married to very big family of three sisters and two brothers....My sister's husband been the last one in the family...Since Day One of the marriage her sisters-in-law would interfere in every little thing that happens in my sister's and her husband's life. Literally everything and her life is miserable now...These three ladies never let his elder brother's wife as well to stay with her husband and now she lives separately fearing his sisters. And it's the same with my sister's life as well.It is an arranged marriage with an age gap of 10 years between my sister and her husband... Since Day One he would pick up silly fights with my sister and emotionally blackmail her... I'm not sure if he was really into the marriage.... He always complains about my sister, ill-treats her and constantly keep asking her to divorce him.He listens to his sisters and humiliates her.My parents have been looking after my sister's needs even after marriage -- phone recharges, dresses and even sanitary napkins. He has never spent money for my sister's basic needs.She has to do all house chores like washing, mopping and cleaning.... And his sister will just cook and leave... they have never let my sister to cook but complain to everyone that she doesn't want to do house chores.I have seen my sister (when I stayed with her for two days just see what was happening in the house) she wakes up at 4 am to sweep the garden mess which is close to half an acre. Then mop the house, wash vessels and clothes. She will be exhausted by the time she finishes all the work and when she finally sits to eat, the in-laws will taunt her and she has starved without eating for days.When she discussed this with her husband, he'd ignore or argue with her not to say anything bad about his sisters.Our upbringing back home was very different. We grew up around house helps who helped us with chores but my sister didn't complain about that as well. She said ‘in laws’ house is way different than mom's place.' It hurts to see my sister this way.All his three sisters rarely stay at their homes, instead they prefer staying at my sister's place and cause troubles between the husband and wife.He treats my sister like a slave.If she doesn't do what he asks her to do he says 'sign the divorce papers and leave.'According to him, my sister should never visit her mom's place. If she has to visit, she has to seek his permission and he will decide whether she can go or not and for how many days. If she stays back a day longer, he would pick up a fight. Even if he is in a different city she has to stay at her in-laws place.He works in army as a subhedhar. We have huge respect for people in the Army, that's the reason my sister was married to him despite the difference in age.And when my sister first gave birth to her son he said the most cruel thing any man could say. She had a C-section so he said, You are lame, you haven't done anything big or great, you had an operation, you easily cut open and gave birth. What pain do you think you have when you give birth in anesthesia?He would humiliate her in front of family members and friends, colleagues...We have advised her to leave him, find a job, to look after herself and the kids. We will support her. But she is not confident enough. She is so used to being dependent that she is scared of taking the big step fearing her kids’ future.She has been tolerating him more than any human can tolerate also because she is financially dependent on him.She has two kids, aged six and three.If she divorces him, she is worried about the kids’ schooling.As he is in the Army he will be moving to different cities every two years.In these 8 years of marriage, they have hardly been together for a year or more.He never took her to any deputed locations. She has to stay here in Kolar with her in-laws and he would visit her annually. My sister has to bear the brunt of the entire family.He will call my sister only if his sister permits, otherwise he will stay without calling her for months.My parents were also bearing all of his attitude for a few years until things went out of hand. Even after having 2 kids his attitude didn’t change.So my parents had to intervene.This pathetic man would find millions of ways to torture my sister mentally and physically.She was a silent and reserved kid in our family. Now she is so used to his behaviour that she is okay to live with him just for the sake of her kids. We are not that well off. My dad is a retired official who gets very little money as pension. So my parents are worried who will take care of her and kids after them if in case we file a divorce. Will alimony work here?There is no peace in our family.My parents are old and struggling with their health issues. And now there is so much of mental pressure due to all of this.After so much struggle and arguments, he finally took my sister with him to his current deputed location for 6 to 8 months. Again upon his sisters’ insistence he left his 6 year old kid with his sister and family and forced my sister to come with him or sign the divorce papers.And my foolish sister who didn't know what to do left her 6 year old kid with his sister in law family and went with her husband taking the another kid. Now she is crying day and night thinking about her kid.I went on with a huge argument with him asking what is the need for a child to leave his parents and study at his aunt's place. Since he is in the Army, changing schools should not be so difficult; he is your own kid and blood. How can you leave him alone there? He said, ‘My son will study wherever I ask him to.’When I asked him why he forced my sister to come with him leaving the kid with his sisters, he used cuss words and asked me to mind my own business. I lost my cool and said that he is acting brainless. He reminded me that he is the Army and no one can do anything to him. He said I could raise a complaint and cut the call.Now he has set rules that no one should visit or see his son. When my parents went to visit their own grandchild recently, his sisters did not allow them.I have been telling my parents to lodge a complaint against this man. But my parents feel that he is their son in law. Anything we do would affect my sister's life and brushed it aside. They’d rather convince my sister and send her back to live with the pyscho.Now they have realised and are repenting for not complaining about him earlier.Please advise us how to move further because whoever we consulted regarding this told us that we cannot complain about this. Only my sister can complain. She is scared of him and fears to lodge a complaint. She is in a different city now and wouldn't be able to do so.Is that right? Can't a grieving parent, grandparent or sister like me who is worried to the core about her sister's and cousins life complain against this saddest man?Is divorce advisable in this case or are we overdoing it? Should we lodge a police complaint? Can we write to his superior?It is possible that he might file a defamation case against us?I literally have no clue what to do or where to seek help. Please help me save my sister from this pathetic marriage.Awaiting your response.
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Dear ST,

If you and your parents know what has been going on, why did you not think of lodging a police complaint against your sister’s husband and his family for mental harassment?

What exactly are you waiting for?

Your sister has become used to this misery and sometimes this misery is familiar, and women are willing to put up with it for fear of societal backlash and being a burden on parents.

Which family separates a mother from a child?

Which family entertains the interference of sisters-in-law so much? I am unable to still understand why they would do such a thing.

And to top it all, our country has a huge mass of parents who believe that a daughter once married is the property of her husband. Which only means that he and his family can ill-treat her the way they wish, and the parents cite an excuse of being old and having no money to take care of her if she comes back.

Please, my humble appeal to each parent who have daughters crying out for help…bring them back home; at least they will have a chance to live and live a dignified life. She is still your daughter.

What if she wasn’t married? Would your parents throw all their children out saying that they are poor?

The reason your sister is hesitating to leave the man is perhaps she feels like a burden to your parents.

The first step is to become her strength by welcoming her back; society and her husbands’ family can be taken care of.

Hire a good lawyer who can take care of legal matters if it goes the divorce way.

Divorce or not is your sister and her husband’s decision.

Let her have some time away from her husband and his family. It might help her gain some objectivity and make a wise decision.

So, first you and your parents welcome her back…the rest can wait.

All the best!

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Dear Madam I am a mother of 24 year daughter. She studied in a reputed school with convent background till class XII. After that she went to Bangalore to study Mass comm but came back to her home town. Here again she got admitted to a new college but due to influence of drugs she could not continue. However she is out of that now. In 2020 she fell for a guy who is two years older and started living with him separately without our consent .She was working with a tier 1 IT company then and later she was asked to leave due to attentdance. After that she joined many company but could not continue. Though the guy work sometimes but the main point is he beats her up. Many times she came out but again she goes back saying she cant leave him. She has 5 dogs. Recently also something happened and her friends from canada called me . We asked her to come back but then later she backed out. We are afraid that we might lose her. We are just clueless what to do. How to convince her as she never listened to us. She is our only daughter and me and my husband are working parents.
Ans: Dear Nibedita,



I'm sorry to hear about the situation you're facing with your daughter. It's understandable to feel helpless and unsure about what to do next.

First and foremost, it's important to remember that your daughter is an adult, and ultimately, it's her decision on what choices she makes. However, as her parents, you can still offer support and guidance to help her make the best decisions for her well-being.

It's concerning to hear that your daughter is in an abusive relationship, and it's crucial to ensure that she understands the gravity of the situation. One option is to speak with a professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who can provide insight on how to approach the topic and offer guidance on how to support her.

Additionally, it may be helpful to reach out to organizations that specialize in supporting victims of domestic abuse. They can provide resources and advice on how to deal with the situation and can even offer assistance in finding a safe place for your daughter and her pets.

It's important to maintain open communication with your daughter and let her know that you're there for her, no matter what. Try to avoid blaming or shaming her for her choices, as this can further isolate her from seeking help. Instead, express your concern and offer to assist her in finding a solution that works for her.

Ultimately, it's essential to prioritize your daughter's safety and well-being, even if it means taking difficult steps such as seeking legal action or involving authorities.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 18, 2024Hindi
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Hi, My sister was married in 2020. her relationship with her husband was good. He used to come late at home and talk to someone for long hours but was very loving to my sister all the time. My sister became pregnant and during that time she came to our home. She was here for almost 10months during which her husband would visit occassionally. Post delivery, my sister was finding it difficult to manage since this was her first child. this her husband never understood and started flirting with another girl and when confronted, he would just say that he had no intention to get involved with that woman, that woman was like her sister. Later when my sister confronted him he refused to answer anything and would just leave the room. Later this matter was informed to his father who disapproved of his behaviour initially and later started supporting him for his behaviour. my sister tried everything that was possible to reconcile. She even told him to forget everything and start new but she just doesnt understand and still behaves in the same way. Now my sister has come to my home again but still he doesnt realise his mistake and doesnt even take any step to reconcile. Please guide what to do? She has a 1 year old girl. please share your opinion. i have tried everything possible even spoke to his father but he is also adamant that its not his fault.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What can be done if the father also supports his son in an act of this nature?
It is time to involve the elders in your family to subtly put pressure on your sister's in-laws. Anyone in their sane sense will care for their reputation and if your sister's husband has an ounce of it left, he will do something to change paths.
If he doesn't and is still supported by his father and continues to be involved with women, then maybe you need to think of drastic steps to secure your sister and her little child's future. It will be a battle if you send her back home now and to manage all that with a little child is not easy.
So, before asking her to go back to her husband, cover all the loose ends which will make it safe and secure for your sister and her baby. If you see anything that will trouble her, then solve that part first...
If the in-laws are adamant, get your side of the elders to push back gently and then watch what happens.
Through all this, let your job be to strengthen your sister in terms of her mind; her baby is dependent on her well-being, so guide her to become self-reliant and mentally strong. It will be a big gift that you give her as a sister...

All the best!

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Mam I'm 27 and my partner is 30 , yes he is in good financial position, his family becakground is like us normal middle class jatt family and we are from teaching background brahman family, I have talked to them again last week they are saying he is low caste then us that's why they can't do that and also my sister think he is not good choice for me because his family live in village kind off area but they live in Agra normal area not like proper villages and he is not even forcing me to live there he is saying we will going to live in city because I have to work also and he is working he is saving up for buying flat for both of us , he is very understanding, suddenly today I know my sister say so many bad things about he used to do in college, she is married and they know each other from college but they were not close at all . My sister think they are not wealthy enough and my parents don't know that, now my mother knows I don't know what to do now , im going to talk to my mom about this situation. Please suggest how to talk to them to change there mind about casteism
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is not easy to change anyone's mind about a firm belief like caste, religion etc.
As I have mentioned earlier, you both have a huge task ahead of addressing your parents' concerns. Obviously, your parents are worried about their financial status and living conditions...
Address these concerns/worries first rather than trying to convince them. The roots cause must be in focus...just do that first...

All the best!
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Hello sir, I am 44 years old , working in private sector. Take home salary is 1.5 lakh. i have a 8 year old daughter. i am investing is Sukanya Samrdhi scheme for my daughter's future needs started at her 6th month.At present value is Rs.345000. Amount was 30K per year till last FY. From 24-25 FY i have increased this to 1 lakh per year. I have home loan of 30 lakh taken 5 years back. EMI is 35000/- 170 month is balance tenure. I am investing in following mutual fund SIPs, 1. quant large cap fund Rs.4500 direct 2. tata small cap fund Rs.4100 direct 3.icic prudential bluechip fund direct Rs.4400 direct 4.Motilal oswal Midcap regular-Rs 5000 5. Parag parikh flexi cap regular-Rs.2500. 6. Nippon india small cap regular-Rs.5000 7.ICICI Prudential equity and debt fund regular-Rs.2500. I have a post office RD of Rs.2000 per month for 5 years. I can increase my SIP amount upto 20-30% every year. I have term plan for 1.5cr and health insurance of 20 lakh. Please evaluate my investment and kindly advice .
Ans: You have taken thoughtful steps to secure your family’s future. With consistent investments and strategic adjustments, your financial goals can be met efficiently. Below is a detailed evaluation and recommendations for your portfolio.

Key Strengths in Your Financial Plan
Sukanya Samriddhi Scheme (SSS): Investing in this scheme for your daughter is a good choice. It offers guaranteed returns and tax-free maturity, perfect for long-term goals like education and marriage.

Mutual Fund SIPs: Your current SIPs cover a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, flexi-cap, and hybrid funds. This diversification provides stability and potential for high returns.

Insurance Cover: Your Rs. 1.5 crore term plan is sufficient to cover liabilities like the home loan. The Rs. 20 lakh health insurance ensures financial support for medical emergencies.

Home Loan Management: The Rs. 35,000 EMI is well within your affordability, considering your take-home salary of Rs. 1.5 lakh.

Areas for Improvement
1. Direct Funds in Your Portfolio
Direct funds require expertise to track and manage effectively.

Investors often lack time or knowledge to review performance regularly.

Switching to regular funds via a Certified Financial Planner ensures better fund selection and guidance.

2. Overlapping and Inefficiency in Mutual Funds
You have multiple funds in overlapping categories like large-cap and small-cap.

This duplication can lead to inefficiency in returns without adding significant diversification.

3. RD Investment
Post office recurring deposits provide safety but low returns compared to inflation.

Consider redirecting this amount to a diversified equity or hybrid mutual fund SIP for better growth.

4. Loan Tenure
The remaining tenure of 170 months (14+ years) is long, resulting in high interest outgo.

If possible, prepay part of the loan to reduce tenure and save on interest costs.

Recommendations for Your Financial Plan
1. Optimise Mutual Fund Investments
Reduce the number of overlapping funds in your portfolio.

Focus on a well-diversified selection of 4-5 funds, including large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and flexi-cap categories.

Allocate more towards actively managed funds to benefit from fund managers' expertise.

2. Utilise Annual SIP Increases
Increasing your SIPs by 20%-30% annually will significantly accelerate wealth creation.

Focus on equity funds for long-term goals and hybrid funds for medium-term goals.

Aim for a target SIP amount of Rs. 50,000 within the next 5 years to meet your retirement and daughter's needs.

3. Home Loan Prepayment
Allocate any annual bonus or surplus funds towards prepaying the home loan.

Prepaying Rs. 5 lakh over the next 3 years can reduce tenure by 3-4 years, saving significant interest.

4. Enhance Sukanya Samriddhi Contribution
Increasing your annual contribution to Rs. 1 lakh is a commendable move.

This ensures a secure and tax-free corpus for your daughter's future needs.

5. Switch from RD to SIPs
Redirect your Rs. 2,000 RD amount to a hybrid or flexi-cap mutual fund SIP.

This provides better returns while maintaining a balance between risk and growth.

6. Review Insurance Coverage
Your current term plan of Rs. 1.5 crore is adequate, but review it every 3-5 years as liabilities and expenses change.

Ensure your health insurance includes features like no room rent cap, annual health check-ups, and maternity cover, if applicable.

Taxation Considerations
Sukanya Samriddhi Scheme: Contributions, interest, and maturity proceeds are tax-free under Section 80C.

Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term gains are taxed at 20%.

Home Loan: The principal repayment is eligible for Rs. 1.5 lakh deduction under Section 80C, while interest repayment gets Rs. 2 lakh deduction under Section 24(b).

Finally
Consolidate your mutual fund portfolio and focus on actively managed funds.

Increase SIPs annually and redirect low-return investments like RD to equity funds.

Prepay your home loan strategically to reduce interest burden.

Regularly review your financial plan with a Certified Financial Planner to stay on track.

By taking these steps, you can achieve your long-term goals while ensuring financial security for your family.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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Mr. Patel ......I am 60 years of age. Can invest about 20 to 25k pm. Can you suggest a portfolio mix please in MF. Abhijit Guha
Ans: At 60, your primary goal should be wealth preservation and stable returns.
Generating a steady income for retirement is also crucial.
Balancing growth and safety in your portfolio is essential.
Assessing Your Risk Appetite

At this stage, you may prefer moderate to low-risk investments.
A small allocation to equity ensures inflation-beating growth.
Higher allocation to debt ensures capital protection and steady returns.
Recommended Portfolio Mix
Equity Allocation (30–40%)

Allocate 30–40% of your investment to equity mutual funds.
Opt for diversified or hybrid equity funds for stable growth.
Actively managed funds can outperform and adapt to market changes.
Avoid index funds as they lack flexibility and underperform in volatile markets.
Debt Allocation (50–60%)

Allocate 50–60% to debt mutual funds for consistent returns.
Choose funds with a track record of low volatility.
Debt funds suit your need for liquidity and safety.
Balanced Advantage or Hybrid Funds (10–20%)

Allocate 10–20% to balanced advantage or hybrid funds.
These funds adjust between equity and debt based on market conditions.
They provide a good mix of growth and stability.
Investment Strategy
Systematic Investment Plan (SIP)

Invest Rs 20,000–25,000 monthly through SIPs in selected funds.
SIPs reduce risk by averaging costs over time.
They also instil financial discipline in retirement planning.
Regular Portfolio Reviews

Review your portfolio every six months to a year.
Ensure funds align with your goals and risk tolerance.
Work with a Certified Financial Planner for professional guidance.
Emergency Fund Allocation

Maintain an emergency fund equivalent to 6–12 months of expenses.
Keep this in liquid or ultra-short-term debt funds for accessibility.
Tax Efficiency
Minimise Tax on Gains

Equity funds: Long-term gains above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.
Debt funds: Gains taxed as per your income slab.
Plan redemptions to reduce tax liabilities.
Benefits of Actively Managed Funds
Higher Returns Potential

Actively managed funds aim to outperform market benchmarks.
Skilled fund managers adapt to market trends.
Flexibility and Professional Guidance

These funds adjust holdings based on performance and market dynamics.
Certified Financial Planners can guide fund selection and allocation.
Addressing Common Concerns
Avoid Direct Funds Without Expert Help

Direct mutual funds lack personalised support.
Regular plans offer professional guidance through MFDs and CFPs.
Ensure Portfolio Diversification

A well-diversified portfolio reduces risks and enhances returns.
Avoid over-reliance on a single asset class or fund type.
Final Insights
At 60, focus on preserving capital, ensuring stable income, and achieving moderate growth. A balanced mix of equity, debt, and hybrid funds can meet your goals effectively. Invest systematically through SIPs, and consult a Certified Financial Planner for periodic reviews. Diversification and tax efficiency will strengthen your portfolio.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Sir, I want to invest in shariah based funds or funds that will give returns without Interest which is prohibited in my faith. Can you please advise on ways to invest. I am 38 years old, wishing to work till 60 years. Currently employed in Middle east. I have a daughter of 7 years old. My dependants are my parents along with my wife and daughter. I dont have any debt. My next year goal is building a home for which I will save sufficient amount by next year . Please advise me where i can invest , for my retirement fund.
Ans: You wish to invest in Shariah-compliant funds and avoid interest-based returns. This aligns with your faith and values. Your financial goal includes building a home next year and planning for retirement.

Your focus is also on your dependents: wife, daughter, and parents.

Let us structure a detailed plan tailored to your needs.

Principles of Shariah-Compliant Investing
Shariah-based investing prohibits interest (riba) and promotes ethical investments.

Avoidance of Prohibited Activities:
Investments must not involve gambling, alcohol, pork, or other restricted sectors.

Equity-Based Investments:
Shariah-compliant funds invest in stocks of ethically governed companies.

No Fixed Returns:
Shariah investments rely on profit-sharing or equity appreciation, avoiding fixed interest income.

Professional Guidance is Key:
Work with a Certified Financial Planner experienced in Shariah-based investments.

Investment Options Aligned with Shariah
Shariah-compliant investment options cater to your values and financial goals.

Shariah-Based Mutual Funds:
Invest in funds screened for Shariah compliance. These avoid interest-generating or prohibited sectors.

Equity Markets:
Directly invest in stocks of companies that adhere to Islamic principles.

Gold Investments:
Gold, in physical or electronic form, is permissible and a stable investment.

Retirement Planning
Retirement planning requires a disciplined and structured approach for 22 years until you turn 60.

Shariah-Compliant Equity Funds:
Allocate a significant portion to equity funds for long-term growth.

Diversify Across Geographies:
Consider international Shariah-compliant funds to reduce country-specific risks.

Gold as a Hedge:
Allocate a small percentage to gold for portfolio stability during economic downturns.

Flexible Withdrawal Plans:
Shariah investments can be designed to provide regular income during retirement.

Investment Strategy for Different Goals
Building Your Home
You plan to save sufficiently by next year for this purpose.

Preserve Capital:
Use low-risk Shariah-compliant options like Sukuk or liquid Shariah funds.

Avoid Volatile Investments:
Equity investments are unsuitable for short-term goals like building a home.

Daughter’s Education
Your daughter’s education is a critical long-term goal.

Long-Term Shariah Investments:
Invest in equity-based Shariah funds for wealth growth.

Start a Dedicated Portfolio:
Separate this portfolio to ensure funds are available when needed.

Periodic Reviews:
Monitor the investment performance and adjust as her education timeline nears.

Retirement Corpus
Retirement planning requires consistent investments over the next 22 years.

High Allocation to Equity:
Invest 70%-80% in Shariah-compliant equity funds for higher returns.

Gradual Risk Reduction:
Shift to lower-risk gold investments as retirement approaches.

Automated Investments:
Use SIPs in Shariah-compliant funds to ensure disciplined investing.

Managing Family and Dependent Needs
Your parents, wife, and daughter depend on you financially.

Emergency Fund:
Maintain 12-18 months of expenses in a non-interest savings account.

Takaful Insurance:
Consider Takaful, an Islamic alternative to traditional insurance, for life and health cover.

Health Provisions for Parents:
Ensure adequate health coverage for your aging parents under Shariah principles.

Key Advantages of Shariah-Compliant Funds
Ethical Investments:
They align with Islamic principles and provide peace of mind.

Global Opportunities:
Shariah-compliant funds offer access to international markets for diversification.

Potential for Long-Term Growth:
Equity-based funds typically outperform fixed-income investments over the long term.

Avoiding Index and Direct Funds
Shariah-compliant funds are actively managed by experts. Avoid index funds and direct funds due to:

Limited Customisation:
Index funds follow benchmarks and cannot adapt to specific Shariah requirements.

Professional Expertise Needed:
Direct funds lack the oversight provided by MFDs and Certified Financial Planners.

Tax Implications for Shariah Investments
Although you reside in the Middle East, taxation may apply if you invest in India.

Equity Investments:
LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%. STCG is taxed at 20%.

Sukuk and Gold:
Gains are taxed as per your income slab.

Consult a tax professional to optimise your tax liabilities based on your investments.

Final Insights
Shariah-compliant investing offers ethical and growth-oriented options aligned with your faith. Focus on a diversified portfolio for retirement, education, and family needs. Regularly review your investments with a Certified Financial Planner for sustained growth and compliance.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 20, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir, Am doing sip following in following mutual funds and time horizon is 15 - 17 years. Please analyse. 1. Motilal Oswal midcap fund 2400/- 2. Quant smallcap fund 2400/- 3. Motilal Oswal microcap fund 3600/- 4. Parag parikh flexicap fund 2000/-
Ans: Investing with a 15–17 year horizon is a wise decision, as it allows compounding to work effectively. Let’s assess your portfolio with insights to optimise it further.

Portfolio Overview
You are investing Rs 10,400 monthly across four funds.
The portfolio includes mid-cap, small-cap, micro-cap, and flexi-cap categories.
These investments reflect a growth-oriented strategy.
A well-diversified portfolio can potentially meet your long-term financial goals.
Key Strengths of Your Portfolio
1. Diversification Across Market Caps
Exposure to mid-cap, small-cap, and micro-cap ensures high growth potential.
The flexi-cap fund adds stability by diversifying across all market caps.
2. Long Investment Horizon
A 15–17 year horizon allows you to absorb market volatility.
It enables compounding to enhance your returns over time.
3. Growth-Focused Allocation
Small-cap and micro-cap funds can deliver substantial returns in the long run.
Mid-cap funds provide balanced growth and moderate risk.
Areas That May Need Attention
1. High Allocation to Smaller Market Caps
Nearly 80% of your portfolio is allocated to small, micro, and mid-cap funds.
This creates higher risk, as these funds can be volatile in the short to medium term.
2. Sectoral or Stock Concentration Risk
Some funds in your portfolio may have concentrated sectoral bets.
Over-concentration can increase risk during sector-specific downturns.
3. Flexi-Cap Allocation Is Low
Flexi-cap funds provide diversification and stability, especially during market corrections.
A low allocation to this category may reduce your portfolio’s balance.
4. Taxation Implications
Long-term capital gains above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
A high-growth portfolio may result in significant taxable gains.
Recommendations for Portfolio Optimisation
1. Rebalance Market Cap Allocation
Increase exposure to large-cap or flexi-cap funds to stabilise your portfolio.
A balanced allocation reduces risk while retaining growth potential.
2. Limit Micro-Cap Allocation
Micro-cap funds carry significant risk and longer recovery periods.
Restrict micro-cap allocation to 10%-15% of your portfolio.
3. Increase Flexi-Cap Allocation
Flexi-cap funds provide adaptive strategies across market conditions.
Raise this allocation to 25%-30% of your portfolio for better risk management.
4. Review Sectoral Exposure
Check if any fund has high exposure to a single sector.
Diversify to avoid dependence on specific industries.
5. Continue Investing Regularly
SIPs are the best way to handle market volatility.
Continue disciplined investing, even during market corrections.
Tactical Steps for Long-Term Wealth Creation
1. Set a Clear Corpus Goal
Estimate the corpus needed for your post-retirement lifestyle.
Account for inflation and your expected life span.
2. Increase SIPs Over Time
Gradually increase your SIPs as your income grows.
This helps you build a larger corpus by leveraging the power of compounding.
3. Monitor Performance Periodically
Review your portfolio every six months to ensure alignment with your goals.
Retain funds that consistently outperform their benchmarks and peers.
4. Adopt a Debt Allocation Near Retirement
Begin shifting a portion of your portfolio to debt funds 5–7 years before retirement.
This safeguards your corpus against equity market volatility closer to your goal.
Addressing Direct Funds and Regular Plans
Benefits of Investing Through Regular Plans
Direct plans may lack professional guidance and personalised advice.
Regular plans offer curated fund selection based on your risk profile.
A Certified Financial Planner ensures better alignment with your financial goals.
Why Active Funds Outperform Index Funds
Active funds capture opportunities in undervalued sectors and stocks.
Index funds lack the flexibility to capitalise on market changes.
For long-term investors, active funds offer superior potential returns.
Tax Planning Insights
Equity gains above Rs 1.25 lakh annually are taxed at 12.5%.
Consider redeeming investments in phases to minimise tax liability.
Plan withdrawals strategically to manage tax efficiency during retirement.
Final Insights
Your portfolio is growth-focused and aligned with your long-term goals. However, reducing micro-cap exposure and increasing flexi-cap allocation will optimise it further. Regularly review and rebalance your portfolio to manage risk and maximise returns. Stay disciplined with SIPs and increase investments periodically for a larger retirement corpus.

A structured approach ensures you achieve financial independence post-retirement.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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sbi small cap direct growth 15 year return tell me sir ? and if i invest 15k month sip then how many year create 1 cr and more that ?
Ans: Investing in small-cap funds can offer high returns over the long term. However, they come with higher volatility and risks. Let’s address your question about achieving Rs 1 crore through a Rs 15,000 SIP and the performance of small-cap funds.

Historical Returns and Small-Cap Funds
Small-cap funds have historically delivered returns ranging from 12% to 15% annually over 10-15 years.

These funds perform well during bullish market cycles but may underperform during downturns.

Always consider the long-term horizon to average out market volatility and benefit from compounding.

Time to Achieve Rs 1 Crore with Rs 15,000 SIP
At an assumed return of 12%, it takes 19 years to reach Rs 1 crore.

At an assumed return of 15%, it takes 15 years to reach Rs 1 crore.

Staying disciplined and investing consistently is critical to achieving your financial goals.

Disadvantages of Direct Funds
Direct funds require market expertise, time, and effort for continuous tracking.

Many investors face challenges in monitoring performance and making timely decisions.

Investing through a Certified Financial Planner ensures better fund selection and portfolio optimisation.

Regular funds provide personalised guidance, helping maximise your returns efficiently.

Importance of Small-Cap Funds in Your Portfolio
Small-cap funds are ideal for long-term investors looking for aggressive growth.

These funds can deliver substantial wealth but carry higher risk compared to large- and mid-cap funds.

Balancing small-cap funds with other categories diversifies risk and improves stability.

Actively Managed Funds vs. Index Funds
Actively managed funds leverage fund managers' expertise to identify growth opportunities.

Small-cap segments often outperform benchmarks through active management due to inefficiencies in the market.

Index funds, in comparison, are passive and miss out on stock-specific opportunities.

Actively managed funds ensure dynamic adjustments based on market conditions, unlike index funds.

Monitoring Your Investment
Regular reviews help track your SIP’s progress toward Rs 1 crore.

Rebalancing your portfolio periodically maintains an ideal asset allocation.

Seek professional guidance for optimising returns while managing risks.

Taxation for Small-Cap Funds
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) over Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20% for equity mutual funds.

Consider these taxes while calculating the net growth of your portfolio.

Finally
A Rs 15,000 SIP in small-cap funds can help you achieve Rs 1 crore in 15 years at 15%.

Focus on long-term discipline and diversify your portfolio for consistent growth.

Prefer actively managed funds for small-cap investments to capitalise on professional expertise.

Stay committed to your financial plan while regularly reviewing and rebalancing your investments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Dear Sir, I am investing 40000/- per month since 2 years my Goal is to create 2 Cr till i reach 60. I am 45 now. My Investment HDFC Flexi, Parag Flexi, Nippon small cap, SBI large & Mid cap, Axis Blue chip, HDFC mid-cap oppourtunites, kotak emerging, Nippon India multi-cap fund, HDFC pharma, HSBC value fund. Pls advise. Thank You
Ans: You are investing Rs. 40,000 per month across various mutual funds. This disciplined approach is commendable. At 45, your goal to accumulate Rs. 2 crore by 60 is achievable. Let’s evaluate your portfolio and optimise it to align with your goal.

Strengths of Your Investments
Diversification Across Market Caps: Your portfolio includes small-cap, large-cap, and multi-cap funds.
Sectoral Exposure: The inclusion of a pharma fund offers specific growth potential.
Blend of Strategies: Value and growth strategies are present, providing balance.
Consistency: A monthly SIP for two years reflects financial discipline.
Areas That Need Improvement
1. Overlapping Funds
Many funds in your portfolio have similar objectives.
This results in unnecessary duplication and reduces efficiency.
2. Sectoral Overexposure
The pharma fund increases sector-specific risks.
Sectoral funds should be a minor part of a balanced portfolio.
3. Lack of Focus on Goal Alignment
The portfolio lacks a clear connection to your Rs. 2 crore goal.
Optimising fund selection is necessary to stay on track.
4. Limited Allocation to Large-Cap Funds
Large-cap funds provide stability and consistent growth.
Your current allocation to large-caps is inadequate.
5. Tax-Efficiency Awareness
New tax rules for mutual funds need consideration.
Restructuring may help minimise tax liabilities in the future.
Recommendations for Portfolio Optimisation
1. Streamline Your Portfolio
Reduce overlapping funds to improve returns.
Retain 5-7 funds that cover all market caps and investment styles.
2. Increase Focus on Large-Cap Funds
Large-cap funds offer lower volatility and steady growth.
Increase allocation to ensure a balanced portfolio.
3. Minimise Sectoral Funds
Limit sectoral funds to 5-10% of your portfolio.
Diversify across sectors instead of focusing on one.
4. Add a Balanced or Hybrid Fund
Hybrid funds provide stability during market downturns.
Consider allocating a portion of your investment here.
5. Target Your Rs. 2 Crore Goal
Increase SIP contributions if possible.
Factor in inflation to ensure the corpus retains its value.
6. Review Your Portfolio Regularly
Monitor fund performance every 6-12 months.
Replace underperforming funds with guidance from a Certified Financial Planner.
7. Opt for Regular Funds Through a CFP
Regular funds offer professional advice and support.
This helps in managing your portfolio effectively.
Key Insights on Direct Funds and Actively Managed Funds
Disadvantages of Direct Funds:

Requires extensive market knowledge.
Lack of professional guidance increases risk.
Time-intensive for monitoring and decision-making.
Benefits of Regular Funds via CFP:

Get expert advice for fund selection and rebalancing.
Avoid emotional investment decisions.
Align investments with financial goals.
Actively Managed Funds vs Index Funds:

Actively managed funds can outperform benchmarks over the long term.
Fund managers adjust portfolios for changing market conditions.
Index funds lack flexibility and may deliver lower returns.
Additional Steps to Strengthen Your Finances
1. Emergency Fund
Ensure 6-12 months’ expenses are saved in liquid funds.
This provides a financial cushion during emergencies.
2. Adequate Insurance Coverage
Have term insurance with Rs. 1 crore coverage.
Maintain health insurance for yourself and your family with Rs. 20 lakh coverage.
3. Plan for Post-Retirement Income
Invest in balanced funds or SWP for steady income post-retirement.
Avoid products with low returns like annuities.
4. Tax Efficiency
Keep ELSS funds for tax-saving under Section 80C.
Review fund taxation under the new capital gains rules.
5. Focus on Goal-Based Investing
Define clear financial goals for retirement and other needs.
Allocate investments to each goal for better clarity and planning.
Final Insights
Your current investment strategy shows great discipline. However, reducing overlapping funds and sectoral overexposure will optimise returns. Adding large-cap and hybrid funds will balance growth and stability. Increase your SIP or invest surplus funds to meet your Rs. 2 crore target comfortably. Seek professional advice to align your portfolio with your goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am invested in Quant small cap MF for 4 months now and since then I sm experiencing negative returns. should I stay invested or switch? If stay invested, then advise approx time to invest patiently in this fund?
Ans: Small cap funds invest in emerging companies with high growth potential.
These funds are volatile, with sharp short-term ups and downs.
They require patience as they perform well over long periods.
Evaluating the Current Situation

A four-month period is too short to judge a small cap fund's performance.
Small cap funds need at least 5–7 years to show consistent results.
Market cycles often affect small cap funds more than other categories.
Negative returns over a short term are normal for this category.
Market Volatility and Fund Performance

Recent market fluctuations may impact small cap returns temporarily.
Small cap funds perform better during market recovery or growth phases.
Historical data shows small caps can outperform over longer periods.
Why Staying Invested May Be the Best Option
Long-Term Potential

Small cap funds reward investors with long-term patience.
Early-stage companies in the portfolio need time to grow and deliver returns.
Recovery in Market Cycles

Small caps tend to recover strongly after market downturns.
A long holding period ensures you benefit from this recovery.
Professional Management

Actively managed funds, especially through MFDs with CFPs, allow expert handling.
Fund managers rebalance portfolios based on market trends.
Switching May Not Be Ideal Right Now
Short-Term Returns Are Misleading

Short-term performance doesn’t reflect the fund’s future potential.
Switching based on 4-month returns could lead to missed opportunities.
Exit Loads and Taxation

Switching now could attract exit loads and short-term capital gains tax.
This reduces the overall value of your investments unnecessarily.
Approximate Investment Horizon
Recommended Holding Period

Small cap funds need at least 7–10 years for optimal returns.
This allows companies in the fund to mature and capitalise on growth opportunities.
Mid-Term Reviews

Review fund performance annually, not monthly or quarterly.
Ensure the fund aligns with your financial goals and risk tolerance.
Key Considerations Before Staying or Switching
Reassess Your Risk Tolerance

Small cap funds are not for low-risk investors.
Ensure you are comfortable with high volatility and short-term losses.
Verify the Fund’s Quality

Check the fund’s historical performance over at least 3–5 years.
Assess the consistency of returns and the fund manager’s expertise.
Ensure Portfolio Diversification

Avoid overexposure to small caps. Balance your portfolio with large and mid-cap funds.
This reduces risk while ensuring steady returns.
Stay Patient and Focused on Goals

Small cap funds demand patience for wealth creation.
Stick to your financial plan without reacting to short-term market changes.
Final Insights
Your investment in small cap mutual funds requires patience and a long-term perspective. Negative returns in the short term are expected but not indicative of future performance. Exiting now could lead to unnecessary costs and missed opportunities for growth.

Continue investing for at least 7–10 years to maximise your returns. Regularly review your portfolio with a Certified Financial Planner to ensure it aligns with your goals. Focus on building a well-diversified portfolio to balance risks and rewards effectively.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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