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Nibedita Question by Nibedita on Apr 02, 2023Hindi
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Dear Madam I am a mother of 24 year daughter. She studied in a reputed school with convent background till class XII. After that she went to Bangalore to study Mass comm but came back to her home town. Here again she got admitted to a new college but due to influence of drugs she could not continue. However she is out of that now. In 2020 she fell for a guy who is two years older and started living with him separately without our consent .She was working with a tier 1 IT company then and later she was asked to leave due to attentdance. After that she joined many company but could not continue. Though the guy work sometimes but the main point is he beats her up. Many times she came out but again she goes back saying she cant leave him. She has 5 dogs. Recently also something happened and her friends from canada called me . We asked her to come back but then later she backed out. We are afraid that we might lose her. We are just clueless what to do. How to convince her as she never listened to us. She is our only daughter and me and my husband are working parents.

Ans: Dear Nibedita,



I'm sorry to hear about the situation you're facing with your daughter. It's understandable to feel helpless and unsure about what to do next.

First and foremost, it's important to remember that your daughter is an adult, and ultimately, it's her decision on what choices she makes. However, as her parents, you can still offer support and guidance to help her make the best decisions for her well-being.

It's concerning to hear that your daughter is in an abusive relationship, and it's crucial to ensure that she understands the gravity of the situation. One option is to speak with a professional, such as a therapist or counselor, who can provide insight on how to approach the topic and offer guidance on how to support her.

Additionally, it may be helpful to reach out to organizations that specialize in supporting victims of domestic abuse. They can provide resources and advice on how to deal with the situation and can even offer assistance in finding a safe place for your daughter and her pets.

It's important to maintain open communication with your daughter and let her know that you're there for her, no matter what. Try to avoid blaming or shaming her for her choices, as this can further isolate her from seeking help. Instead, express your concern and offer to assist her in finding a solution that works for her.

Ultimately, it's essential to prioritize your daughter's safety and well-being, even if it means taking difficult steps such as seeking legal action or involving authorities.

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Hi, my daughter got married in 2018. Her husband works in the US. Immediately after marriage she left with her husband to the US. My daughter is a single child and had a protected sort of life. At times immature and stubborn, she also has anger issues. She was not supposed to work, as my SIL wanted a housewife.There was compatibility issues between them from the beginning. He is from a very conservative family which we were not aware of before marriage. She got depressed there as the climate did not suit her and had no one to talk to. Most of her neighbours were working. SIL was busy with his work. They used to go out for drives or visit nearby places.We were not allowed to visit her. She finally came down to India homesick and in depression in 2020. Since then, he seems to be totally indifferent to her. She misses him terribly but he seems disinterested. He is only career driven and she has to message him always. He doesn't want to video chat or voice-call her. It’s nearly two years now. We tried talking to his parents but since they are financially dependent on him, they are not doing anything. What is to be done in this case? Please advise.
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Dear MM,

I am not against getting daughters married to people who live abroad, but at the same time, there’s only little that you know of them.

Just because the boy lives in the US, does not mean that he is broad minded and progressive.

Sadly, your daughter has fallen into a family that does not value feminine charm and power and wants to cull it before it can spread its magic around.

How do you explain something like this to her?

As a woman and mother, will you tell your daughter to grin it and bear it?

Someone who doesn’t have the decency to initiate a call to talk to his wife, sitting on a throne waiting for her to call? (I am going by the details provided by you as I don’t know his side of the story here).

It might be worth the effort to talk to your daughter and find out, if she has also put in the necessary work into growing into the marriage; as living far away from the family might have made her homesick and not working might have made her feel lonely.

This might have also caused her to isolate herself from the marriage which in turn would have caused cracks in it.

Hear both sides, and then come to a wise decision! Ultimately, she’s your daughter and I do know that you want what’s best for her.

So, think and act in a manner that’s best for her; unbiased to begin with.

Best wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 27, 2023Hindi
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Dear Anu, I am married for 24 years having two grown up children. Both are studying. My wife is not working. She had been adamant and spendthrift since the beginning of our marriage. Just to maintain peace I was putting up with her undue demands. Than in last decade my business suffered for quite sometime still I sold some property and managed the household expenses. Than in 2017 the business started picking up and it started doing well. but having learned the lesson I became very firm with wasteful expenses. And by end of 2017 she broke all ties with me, and started sleeping with our daughter in her room. Now since last six years we are hardly talking to each other despite living in the same house . Her parents are also hand in glove with her and disconnected with me. I also came to know lot of factors about her family. Her father claimed to be a businessman before marriage and later I learned he was working in subcontracts division of a company and making money by illegal means from vendors. He was a heavy drinker and had relations with many women. I also came to know that her father had thrown his father out of house and that old man had died in a temple. To make matter worse her parents are having one more daughter which they claim to be given to some family member and now they don't have any relationship with that girl or the couple to whom they have given their daughter to. So prima facie they have a child or children which they have hidden from society. We attended marriages of her uncle's daughters out of Mumbai. His uncle and his family attended my marriage and marriage of my wife's only brother. Now after all marriages are over they have broken up with that uncle too. He is real brother of my father in law. Her aunty expired two years back I offered to call her uncle and offer condolences she said no need now relationship with uncle is over. With all these I am able to come to a conclusion that the family doesn't value relationships and once their purpose is served they discontinue the relationship. Due to constant problems my children have also become very adamant and are not concentrating on studies. Kindly suggest what should I do in the given situation. Can the marriage be annulled on the grounds her family concealed vital information before marriage. I offered her to go for marriage counselling and therapy but she refused. Please suggest some suitable solution.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Too much of a mess, yeah?
Why they hid certain facts and what impact that has had on your marriage is something that you are experiencing. Relationships are built on trust and honesty leads to that trust. You possibly feel being misled multiple times over and it will indeed affect the mind state of your children.
Good that you have woken up to this NOW.
Are you sure that you want to end this marriage? Or is there a possibility of saving it?
If you want to end it through a legal recourse, find an able lawyer who specializes in divorce cases. She/he will advise you on annulment or mutual consent divorce or filing for one. These options come to a better choice when you seek an expert in legal matters.
In the meantime, keep your mind in a place where it is calm. Too much of muddle and constant over processing will make you have bitter thoughts and keep you engaged in stress building situations.
Accept what's happening (difficult, I know)...but doing this will enable you to take the right decision not only for your life but also for your children. Also, I suggest spend a lot of time with the children and teach them not to take sides of any parent.
Whatever you decide is going to impact them and they must be prepared anyway. So, talk to them like they are grown ups and let them grow into it supporting you both rather than be caught in the cross fire.
I am sure if you have had the courage to understand what has been happening to you, you can surely take additional steps to safeguard your mind space and do what's right for the children as well.
All the best!
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Hello,Mam Good day to you I have recently gone through your answers to various queries of several people so thought to ask you something which is pinching my heart daily. I married to a girl in April 2019 as an arranged one.I work on board merchant ships & have to stay away from home for several months(6-7) months & also being Manglik as per my horoscope details hence was finding difficult to get someone agreed for the marriage.However at the age of 32 years,I got married in 2019 without considering & giving much thought as I was frustrated with talking to so many families & denied by most of them due to above stated reasons. After marriage,I found her not been capable to take the responsibilities at home and much interested towards house chores or helping my parents at home.Many things were concealed by their parents & were just being hided.She is not able to cook food for the family,not able to read,write Hindi, English properly.My parents gave her enough support & tried to teach her & learn but even after 4 years of marriage she is unable to take her responsibilities at home.She now also shows some unexpected behaviour like laughing unnecessarily & speaking to herself most of the times while working or sitting at any public place, shop etc which makes me very embarassing. After seeing all this,I took her to the Hospital (Medical College in Lucknow) for check up where the doctors told me that she has Scheophrenia ( mental depression) for which medication will continue for a long time which has a deep rooted shock to me. She stayed twice with her parents 6-7 months in a year when I was at work on board merchant ships. Now again she is staying with her parents as we are unsure if anything goes wrong with her then her family will blame us. I want to give her divorce but don't know how to go for it ? At this age of 36 years will I get someone else or not is what coming in my mind ? Both of us are not talking neither our family members with each other. We don't have any child ,my father is handicapped senior citizen,mother also being old & makes difficult to manage at home. Can she ask for any alimony if I proceed for divorce now ? Please reply Thanks.
Ans: Dear Ravi,
Yes, it has been a very challenging time for you indeed; I can only imagine what you must be going through.
But when Empathy calls, you must realize that your wife is going through a very difficult life too. Living with Schizophrenia is hard for her and for her caregivers as well and the symptoms must be managed lifelong.
But what I don't understand is: Why did her family keep this fact away from you?
This could have been a decision point before the marriage was arranged. It is obvious that their job was to get her married at all costs; even if it meant LYING to you.
Anyway, I am not going to get into what she can and can't do as basic life skills as severe mental ailments can decapacitate the person from easy and obvious usual functions that a human being is expected to perform.

If you have decided on separation. kindly seek the advice of a good lawyer who can check every angle that is fair to you and your wife. And take care of your mental health by not focusing on what could have happened but what can now happen. Kindly proceed on these lines.
Best wishes!
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I am 43 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 13yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some reason they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she don't want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a condition to give our relationship a NAME in society. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide
Ans: I understand that you're in a complex and emotionally challenging situation. It's commendable that you want to support and ensure the happiness of the person you care about. However, it's crucial to consider your own well-being and emotional health as well.

Here are some steps you might want to consider:

Communication is key: Have an open and honest conversation with her about your feelings, concerns, and expectations. Understand her perspective as well. Clear communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship.

Set boundaries: Determine what you're comfortable with and establish clear boundaries for your relationship. Consider the impact on both of your lives, and ensure that the arrangement is sustainable and healthy for both parties involved.

Consider professional help: Given the complexity of the situation, it might be beneficial for both of you to seek guidance from a therapist or counselor. They can provide support, help you navigate through challenging emotions, and offer practical advice on how to move forward.

Evaluate your own well-being: Reflect on your own needs, aspirations, and emotional health. It's important to prioritize your happiness and fulfillment as well. Consider how the situation might affect your overall life satisfaction.

Explore options: Depending on the circumstances, there might be ways for her to address the challenges in her marriage, such as seeking therapy, counseling, or discussing her concerns with her family. Encourage her to explore these options, and provide support where possible.

Ultimately, the decision on how to proceed is a personal one and depends on the dynamics of your relationship and the well-being of everyone involved. Taking the time to reflect, communicate openly, and seek professional guidance can be instrumental in making informed decisions. Remember to prioritize your own happiness and consider what is sustainable for both of you in the long run.
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Namaste Kirtan Sir, I have Started SIP 2014 with one fund, but started really focusing on from last 2 years with multiple fund and also increased the top-up on few fund. New SIP Fund Details 1. Aditya Birla Sun Life Gold Fund - Gr : 2500 from Jan-2024 2. Kotak Business Cycle Fund - Gr : 2000 from Oct-2022 3. NJ ELSS Tax Saver Scheme - Gr : 3000 from Aug-2023 4. SBI Blue Chip Fund - Gr : 2500 from Jan-2024 Existing SIP Fund & TOP up 5. Baroda BNP Paribas India Consumption Fund - Gr : 1500 from Sept-2022 & Top Up from Jan-2024 6. Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund - Gr : 1500 Started from Sept-2022 & Top Up from Jan-2024 7. Tata Equity P/E Fund Gr : 2000 from July-2014 & Top Up from Jan-2024 Total of 20k SIP Can you just review my portfolio and guide us wither investment is on right fund. Thank you in advance Rohith Adiga
Ans: Rohith,

It's commendable to see your dedication towards building a diversified investment portfolio through SIPs. Reviewing your portfolio is crucial to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance.

Firstly, let me appreciate your proactive approach in diversifying your investments across multiple funds. This spreads risk and enhances potential returns. However, it's essential to periodically evaluate the performance of each fund and make adjustments as necessary.

Consider factors like fund performance, consistency, fund manager's track record, and investment objectives. Additionally, assess whether your portfolio reflects your risk appetite and investment horizon.

Remember, investing is a journey, not a destination. Stay informed, stay patient, and stay committed to your financial goals. Regularly review and rebalance your portfolio to adapt to changing market conditions and personal circumstances.

As a Certified Financial Planner, my role is to guide you on this journey, providing insights and recommendations tailored to your unique situation. Feel free to reach out for further assistance or clarification.

Wishing you success in your investment journey!
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Hello Sir, I am 46 Y old . Recently i lost my job and serching for Job . I have 3 Flats , 80 L , 80L, 1.5 Cr . I have loan of 2 nd flat 6 L and Vila Loan 1,18 Cr . I have savings 15 L Mutual Fund, 9 L FD. 10L Govenment bonds, 17.5 L PPF(Eife). 7.5 L PPF(Myself), 2.5L gold bond, 2.5 L shares. EPF 72 L . I require 40 L for my daugter education in 4 year Span starting from 2024-2028. I require 40 L for my son education 2028-2032. If i sell my two flats and do loan free the Vila , I left with 40 L . I see visiblity of 30 L for my son and daughter education and left with 1.2Cr as saving . For house hold my wife earn 52 K which is ok for us monthy usage. Please help me a programe so that i can full fill my retirement objection ( 50K) per month . I may get job or not but want to secure the future of children as wella s my retietment . Please suggest .
Ans: I understand your situation and your desire to secure your children's education and your retirement. Let's outline a plan to achieve your objectives:

Education Fund for Children:
You have visibility of 30 lakhs for your children's education, which is a good start. To bridge the gap, consider allocating a portion of your remaining savings towards an education fund. You can invest in diversified mutual funds or fixed income instruments based on your risk tolerance and investment horizon.
Additionally, explore scholarship opportunities and educational loans to reduce the financial burden.
Debt Management:
Selling two flats to become loan-free on the villa is a prudent move to reduce debt burden. It will also free up cash flow for other financial goals.
Consider refinancing or restructuring the villa loan to reduce interest payments and accelerate debt repayment.
Retirement Planning:
With 1.2 crores in savings, you can create a retirement corpus through systematic investments in a combination of equity and debt instruments.
Allocate a portion of your savings towards diversified equity mutual funds for long-term growth potential. Aim for a balanced portfolio to manage risk effectively.
Consider investing in debt instruments like PPF, government bonds, and fixed deposits for stability and regular income during retirement.
Maximize contributions to EPF or consider opening a Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF) account to enhance retirement savings.
Emergency Fund:
Maintain an adequate emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months of living expenses to handle unforeseen circumstances without dipping into long-term investments.
Review and Adjust:
Regularly review your financial plan and make adjustments based on changes in income, expenses, and market conditions.
Stay disciplined with your savings and investment strategy to achieve your financial goals effectively.
It's important to remain optimistic about your job search while simultaneously focusing on securing your family's future. Consider seeking guidance from a certified financial planner to tailor a comprehensive financial plan aligned with your specific circumstances and objectives. With careful planning and disciplined execution, you can work towards a secure and prosperous future for yourself and your family.
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Hello sir, i am 32 years old and just started a SIP investment of 7K per month for the following funds for wealth creation for next 10 - 15 years. Core portfolio (60%) 1. Parag Parikh flexicap fund - 1.5K 2. JM Flexicap - 2K 3. Navi Nifty 50 - 0.5K Satellite portfolio (40%) 1. Kotak Emerging Equity Fund - 0.8K 2. JM Midcap fund - 1K 3. Tata smallcap fund - 0.7K 4. Edelweiss midcap 150 momentum 50 - 0.5K Could please review and advise me whether the above funds is to be considered good. Please provide some suggestions if changes required.
Ans: Your SIP portfolio seems well-diversified across various categories of equity funds, which is a good approach for long-term wealth creation. Let's review each fund and provide some suggestions:

Core Portfolio (60%):

Parag Parikh Flexicap Fund: This fund follows a flexible investment approach across large, mid, and small-cap stocks. It's known for its quality stock selection and has delivered consistent returns over the years.
JM Flexicap Fund: Another flexi-cap fund, providing exposure to companies across market capitalizations. Ensure you review its performance and consistency compared to peers.
Navi Nifty 50: Investing in an index fund like Navi Nifty 50 provides exposure to India's top 50 companies. It's a low-cost option with a focus on large-cap stocks.
Satellite Portfolio (40%):

Kotak Emerging Equity Fund: This fund focuses on emerging companies with high growth potential. Review its performance and ensure it aligns with your risk appetite.
JM Midcap Fund: Mid-cap funds like JM Midcap can offer higher growth potential but come with higher volatility. Monitor its performance and risk closely.
Tata Smallcap Fund: Investing in small-cap funds can provide exposure to high-growth companies. Ensure you're comfortable with the risk associated with small-cap investing.
Edelweiss Midcap 150 Momentum 50: This fund follows a momentum-based investment strategy, focusing on mid-cap stocks showing positive price momentum. Understand its investment approach and risk profile.
Suggestions:

Monitor Performance: Regularly review the performance of your funds and ensure they're meeting your expectations. Consider replacing underperforming funds with better alternatives.
Risk Management: Given the higher allocation to mid-cap and small-cap funds in your portfolio, be prepared for higher volatility. Ensure your risk tolerance aligns with the risk profile of these funds.
Review Fund Selection: Consider diversifying across fund houses to reduce concentration risk. Also, consider adding an international equity fund or a debt fund for further diversification.
Long-Term Perspective: Stay focused on your long-term investment horizon and avoid making knee-jerk reactions based on short-term market movements.
Overall, your SIP portfolio appears well-structured for wealth creation over the next 10-15 years. However, regularly monitoring and reviewing your portfolio's performance is essential to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance. Consider consulting with a financial advisor for personalized guidance based on your individual circumstances.
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Good morning sir, my daughter is in btech. ECE final semister, can I send for ms in abroad, or any job related courses in India, my daughter also not much intrested to go abroad. Kindly suggest better way.
Ans: Hello,

First and foremost, thank you for getting in touch with us. I am glad to hear that your daughter is pursuing the final semester of her Bachelor of Technology in Electronics and Communication Engineering. To answer your question first, I would like to tell you that we only deal with overseas education. Yes, you can definitely send your daughter abroad to pursue her Master's. I would like to tell you that owing to their renowned universities, top-notch education, and vast array of opportunities, a number of countries are well-known for pursuing Master of Science (MS) degrees abroad. With its vast array of top-tier universities and research centres, the USA continues to be a sought-after destination for pursuing MS programs spanning different disciplines. Likewise, a number of international students are also drawn to countries viz., the UK, Canada, Germany, Australia, and Switzerland owing to their cutting-edge academic programs, culturally diverse settings, and significant focus on innovation and research. You would be glad to know that MS students are offered distinct advantages and opportunities in these countries, in turn, making them highly popular destinations for individuals looking for further education overseas.

As mentioned by you, if your daughter is not interested in pursuing a Master's abroad, I would suggest that she looks into other possibilities that best resonate with her interests and professional objectives. Post finishing her Bachelor of Technology (B.Tech) degree, she could think about acquiring professional experience via internships or entry-level work in her field of interest. Gaining this practical experience can prove beneficial for her career growth and may help her determine her professional path. In order to improve her abilities and credentials without committing to a full-time Master's program overseas, she could also look into advanced certifications or specialized courses. Lastly, I would suggest that you motivate your daughter to investigate these possibilities and assist her in discovering her true calling, which in turn, could result in a gratifying and prosperous professional path.

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? rediff.com Rediff Gurus Logo Hi Anwesha | Sign Out HealthHealth MoneyMoney RelationshipRelationship CareesCareer Ask your questions about health, money, relationship or careers here Ask Anonymously You posted: My boyfriend's ex happens to be his sister-in law's sister (first cousin). That was his first serious relationship and she had dumped him. It has been quite a few years since, but it bothers me that he is indirectly still related to her. My boyfriend's sister-in-law has a daughter (his niece) whom he loves very much. But whenever he talks to his sister in law or plays with the kid, it makes me uncomfortable. I am broadly uncomfortable with the fact that he is the uncle to the same kid his ex is aunt to. Which means they are somewhat familialy related. I have seen his ex post videos of the kid playing around in his house, which means she still gets regular updates about his household through her sister (his sister-in-law). I really don't want to get into something this complicated, but I love my boyfriend very much. He also loves the kid a lot which makes me hate myself for projecting my hate on the kid/sister-in law because they're not at fault. But it really bothers me whenever I hear the kid's voice or his sister in law's because that reminds me of his ex. I feel extremely insecure and uncomfortable and I don't know how to deal with this, but I really want things to work out between my boyfriend and me. What is the solution?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, this feeling ain't going away that soon as you are bordering on obsession possibly without reason.
Jealousy leading to insecurities and constantly monitoring him is only going to make it worse on you...so either you trust him or you don't...which is it going to be?
Has he given you any reason to doubt him OR is it only your fear and hate fueling it? If it's the ex coming along and bringing with it all the fears inside of you, then work at it before you make this really ugly and now it's in your hands.
Jealousy is a normal human emotion BUT how you deal with it is a choice you are going to have to make. So, start to reassure yourself by saying that it's all okay and good. Challenge your thoughts every time they crop up so that it doesn't grow large enough for you to start projecting. Talk to your boyfriend requesting him to be more patient with you if at all you snap at him for anything. But not for long as he will run out of patience.
If there is nothing going on between him and his ex, why is it taking you so much to trust him? More than a love, a relationship needs trust and understanding. Pour these into it and not only will you feel better, your boyfriend will also be more supportive of what you are going through. Trust or not; it's your choice!

All the best!
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Hi Kirtan, I am 45 now. I am looking for a pension plan. I can invest upto Rs 5000 per month. Should I go in NPS or LIC? What are pro and cons for both?
Ans: Considering your age and investment amount, NPS (National Pension System) could be a preferable option over LIC for a pension plan. Here's a breakdown of the pros and cons of each:

NPS (National Pension System):
Pros:

Flexibility: NPS offers flexibility in choosing investment options, including equity, corporate bonds, and government securities, allowing you to tailor your portfolio based on your risk tolerance and investment goals.
Tax Benefits: Contributions to NPS are eligible for tax deductions under Section 80C, with an additional deduction of up to Rs. 50,000 under Section 80CCD(1B). Additionally, partial and lump-sum withdrawals are tax-exempt up to certain limits.
Low Cost: NPS has a relatively low-cost structure compared to traditional pension plans, with competitive fund management charges.
Cons:

Lock-in Period: NPS has a lock-in period until retirement age, with limited withdrawal options before that. Early withdrawals are subject to restrictions and penalties.
Market Risk: Since NPS invests in market-linked instruments, such as equities, there's a level of market risk involved. Returns may fluctuate based on market performance.
Limited Annuity Options: The annuity options under NPS may be limited compared to traditional pension plans offered by insurance companies like LIC.
LIC (Life Insurance Corporation):
Pros:

Guaranteed Returns: LIC pension plans typically offer guaranteed returns, providing a sense of security and predictability in retirement income.
Death Benefit: Some LIC pension plans come with a death benefit, ensuring that your nominee receives a lump sum or annuity in case of your demise.
Wide Range of Annuity Options: LIC offers a wide range of annuity options, allowing you to choose a plan that best suits your retirement needs and preferences.
Cons:

Lower Flexibility: LIC pension plans may offer limited flexibility compared to NPS in terms of investment options and withdrawal flexibility.
Higher Costs: Traditional pension plans from LIC may have higher costs compared to NPS, including administration charges and agent commissions.
Limited Tax Benefits: While premiums paid towards LIC pension plans are eligible for tax deduction under Section 80C, the overall tax benefits may be limited compared to NPS.
In conclusion, NPS tends to offer more advantages over LIC for a pension plan, given its flexibility, tax benefits, and lower costs. However, considering the potential advantages of mutual funds over NPS in terms of flexibility and potentially higher returns, you may also explore mutual fund options for your retirement planning
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I am 63 years old.Yearly pension 6.50 lacs Annual interest from bank deposits 5.50 lacs ( Bank deposits Rs.60 lacs). Monthly pension is sufficient to meet expenses since my children are settled.How to redeploy the bank deposit to maximize income
Ans: Given your stable pension income and surplus from bank deposits, optimizing your investments for higher income while maintaining liquidity and minimizing risk is crucial. Here's a strategy tailored to your needs:

Fixed Income Investments: Consider allocating a portion of your bank deposits to fixed income instruments such as Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS), Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS), or Tax-free Bonds. These instruments offer regular income with relatively lower risk compared to equities.
Debt Mutual Funds: Invest a portion of your bank deposits in debt mutual funds with a focus on short to medium-term duration funds or monthly income plans (MIPs). These funds offer the potential for higher returns compared to traditional fixed deposits while maintaining liquidity and capital preservation.
Dividend-Paying Stocks: Explore investing a small portion of your surplus in dividend-paying stocks of stable companies. Focus on sectors with a history of consistent dividend payouts, such as utilities, consumer goods, or pharmaceuticals. Dividend income can supplement your pension and bank interest income.
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP): Consider setting up a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) in debt mutual funds or balanced funds to generate regular income while preserving capital. SWPs allow you to withdraw a fixed amount periodically, providing a steady stream of income similar to an annuity.
Emergency Fund: Ensure you maintain an adequate emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months' worth of living expenses in a liquid and easily accessible account. This fund will provide a financial cushion in case of unforeseen expenses or emergencies.
Tax Considerations: Evaluate the tax implications of your investment choices, especially considering your current income sources and tax bracket. Optimize your investments to minimize tax liability while maximizing post-tax returns.
Consultation: Seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner or investment advisor who can assess your specific financial situation, risk tolerance, and investment goals. They can help design a customized investment strategy tailored to your needs and objectives.
By diversifying your investments across fixed income instruments, mutual funds, dividend-paying stocks, and maintaining an emergency fund, you can maximize income while ensuring capital preservation and financial security in your retirement years.
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Hi. I am currently living in India and have received a job offer from Dubai. As I plan to shift, I needed to understand some nuances about managing my SIPs, Equity Holdings and EMIs in India. I have following: 1. 80K SIP in 2 DSP Funds and 2 Quant Funds 2. 70K EMI for a home loan 3. About 1Cr equity holding in a demat account Once I move, I will let my flat out on rent. Wanted to understand following: 1. For rent collection, EMI, SIP etc what account is advisable? NRE or NRO? For EMIs, SIPs etc I will have to transfer money from overseas account to Indian account 2. For SIPs - I will have to change my existing account to an NRE/NRO account as well? 3. Demat holdings - is there a separate category of demat accounts for NRIs?
Ans: Moving to Dubai while maintaining financial commitments in India requires careful planning. Here's a breakdown of considerations for managing your SIPs, EMIs, and equity holdings:

Account Choice: For rent collection, EMI payments, and SIP investments, opening an NRE (Non-Resident External) account is advisable. NRE accounts allow you to repatriate funds freely, making them suitable for managing finances while abroad. However, for domestic transactions, you can also consider an NRO (Non-Resident Ordinary) account, which has restrictions on repatriation but facilitates local transactions.
SIP Management: You'll need to transition your existing bank account linked to SIPs to an NRE/NRO account to facilitate seamless fund transfers from your overseas account. Ensure you inform your mutual fund provider about the change in bank details to avoid any disruptions in your SIPs.
EMI Payments: Similarly, you'll need to link your home loan EMI payments to your NRE/NRO account for smooth transactions. Set up standing instructions or auto-debit mandates to ensure timely EMI payments while you're abroad.
Demat Holdings: As an NRI, you can hold equity investments in India through a designated NRI demat account. You'll need to convert your existing demat account to an NRI demat account to continue managing your equity holdings seamlessly.
Tax Implications: Be mindful of tax implications both in India and Dubai. Consult with a tax advisor to understand your tax obligations in both countries and optimize your tax planning strategies.
Legal Compliance: Ensure compliance with RBI regulations and other legal requirements concerning NRI investments and remittances to avoid any regulatory issues.
Communication: Maintain open communication with your banks, mutual fund providers, and brokerages to update them about your NRI status and ensure smooth transition and management of your financial affairs.
By proactively addressing these considerations and seeking guidance from financial advisors and legal experts, you can effectively manage your financial commitments in India while pursuing opportunities abroad.
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