Hi Ravi Thanks a ton mate, Even i realised it's 12 years back we can't change anything. I forgave my beautiful ???? wife it's a mistake but she came back from it like a queen. She is offcourse a wonder woman. You can't imagine I went through hell 45 days just thinking about it. Thank you so much for making it easy to understand. I'm loving my wife more now.hahhaahhha You are a top man.

My Dear Anu Krishna Ji, first of all I wish to thank you very humbly for having answered my message. I dont hold any grudge with anyone expecially with my wife. Even to this day I help my wife to the best of my capacity and capability. Within 2 years of getting married my parents were troubling me and my wife so I left my parental house and property and took the risk and came out . This even my wife knows. Thereby we did not get a single rupee from my parental property and my younger brother took everything. But I dont hold any old grudges with anyone. I still love and respect my wife and also respect and honour knowledgeable people who have been good enough to answer my message. I will never forget the kindness you have shown to me by answering my message. Many Many thanks Dear Anu Krishna Ji.

Hi Mohit.. I am 51 year old male. We have been married for 26 years, but my wife recently confessed to me that she was in a 11 year relationship with our next door neighbour but now she has ended that relationship. Seems the way it happened 11years back is we had got shifted to a new place, she was handling situation alone (since I used to work in a different city and used to be home only during weekends and plus I admit i was always stressed in my jobs). Then she felt her parents are also not available for her.. so thats why she started 'leaning' on this next door neighbour, fell in love with him and soon got caught up in an affair with sex also involved worse, they used to meet at our place and make out in MY BED ... so anyways my wife confided in me now and admitted this because she says she ended this affair about a year back.. but seems he called her suddenly one day recently and told her he would confide about this affair to his wife (which meant that this would come in to the open and I would come to know), so my wife decide to tell me herself finally she says shes is sorry, feels lot of guilt and to forgive her, give a 2nd chance etc.. thing is there are 2 grown up children- daughter 21 years and son 17 years.. I just cannot bring myself to forgive her.. 2 things keep haunting me 1) we even went to that guys marriage (affair started @1 year before his marriage) and I feel like a fool now for attending his marriage. I used to talk to him like any neighbour would 2) Thought of them making out in my bed, and that he used to come over to my house where my children live even when nobody was at home. Besides this part, she has been a good wife, but isnt this affair too serious a thing what she has done??- she made a fool out of me for the last 10 years, isnt it? At the same time, seperation/divorce is out of the question- since it will adversely impact my children and parents.. Worse I am in the US staying alone for work, while they are in India, when she confessed this a month back. So I am all along dealing with this pain, anger and hurt. My head tells me to forgive her and move on, but my heart just cannot forget this and I keep getting images of them together.. Pls help me how to process my hurt, anger and pain.