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My partner and I have temporarily been in a long-distance marriage due to our love for work.
When, I am with him in a nuclear set up, he is generally caring and cooperating giving me space to grow.
But my in-laws expect me to stay with them for months or wish to stay with us for two to three months at a stretch. They function very differently and hold traditional views. I am providing few examples although there are many other incompatibilities.
1. Want me to eat rice three times a day and cook the same for my husband
2. Refrain from wearing a few colours. Give remarks regarding length of my trouser.
3. Ask me to wear bangles all the time.
4. Tell me never to make my husband do my tasks like drying my clothes in the sun as this is against Indian culture.
5. My mother-in-law has strange rules like all food has to be thrown away if utensils touch the body accidentally.
6. I am not allowed to serve myself food in fear of above rule.
7. Excessive number of rituals and poojas.
I do not want to disrespect their culture or change them in their own life. I co-operate but I function extremely differently and my priorities are very different. I am not okay with them coming for two to three months at a stretch and I am freedom-deprived in my own home when I live with my husband.
I have a job that demands from me mentally even when I am at home. I can adjust to their rules for few days but not for so long. Also, I fear they will pressurize me into going there/coming here for a long time after a baby and try to tell me how to take care etc.
My husband is shy and often stays silent in front of his mother. He goes to his parents’ house for three months in a year and I am happy that he can be with his parents.
Please help in drawing boundaries/guide me in achieving balance.

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Dear MM,

Be very forthcoming and expressing to them that there are a few things that you might be unable to comply not because you don’t respect them or their customs, but because it causes you more effort to do that.

Another way to think is: it’s only a couple of months that they are around, can I simply work around it and sort this out amicably?

Truth be told: we focus on what we don’t like more than what you like and then what we don’t like starts to grow in the mind with situations and people associated with those become ‘villains’.

Now, I don’t say that you don’t have challenges, but to worry about a baby when there isn’t one as yet, seems like you have already decided how horrible things are and will be.

So, you will be fighting a battle with your partner and put him in a fix to fix things, Why don’t you do that yourself?

Draw boundaries by clearly stating what you can do and do that with a lot of love rather than as a favour.

Once they see and feel this, they are maybe willing to see things from your point of view as well and adapt to your way of thinking.

Give some, Take some.

I am sure this is something that you might surely be able to do considering that you are working hard to make things happen.

So, All the Best!

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Dear Anu, I have been married for 3 years. Everything is going well with my husband except there is one problem. If there is anything wrong done by his parents, he never takes a stand or protests.My in-laws are not very friendly people.After our marriage they have never tried to keep in touch with my parents or at least have the courtesy to invite once to their house. My parents have frequently tried to invite them and also tried to keep contact but nothing is achieved if it's one-sided. I told my husband about all this but he never ever tried to explain or correct them of their wrong doings.My mother-in-law had also insulted me few times raising questions on how I was brought up within the first year of our marriage. And later as well. I work and sometimes due to prolong working hours I am not able to contribute to household work. My mother-in-law started asking if at all I do any household work or whether I am always busy with my office work. She already knew that I would be working after marriage and was fine with it.Because of the lockdown we are staying with them for a long period and I am embarrassed to tell this but every day is killing me. When I stay with them I have to be a totally different person. I have to live their lifestyle which is totally opposite to how I used to live with my husband alone.Because of all the above circumstances, I am not keen on staying with them. I don't see a future where I can stay with them. I am ready to take care of them but can't stay under one roof. My husband is well aware of my feelings. But never does anything about it. Every time I tell him, he blames me that I don't want him to stay with his parents. Else he takes good care of me and is a good person. My parents also like him except this one complaint.I am totally clueless now how to make him understand because we end up fighting rather than discussing. In the long run I can't stay with my in-laws because our lifestyle doesn't match and of course the hurtful things they have done. They are not even ready to adjust rather would expect me to completely change for them. And that's what dreads me.I can't live in this way for long. It is causing me a lot of mental stress.Please provide your valuable suggestions.
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Dear SN,

Hasn’t the lockdown ended for a while now?

Why are you still with them?

What was the initial reason of moving in with them?

Does that reason still exist?

Being part of a joint/extended family system isn’t a cake walk; each person is unique and so are their thoughts and experiences and they will want the other person to live by their experiences and rules. But of course, an emotionally mature person would believe in giving space for another person grow and evolve and swim around the family dynamics. Well, it isn't the case here.

Why don’t you drop down a pros and cons list for When I move out and for When I stay here.

Weigh it down to its granular detail. Also, try and figure out why your husband is so against talking to them.

Sometimes, it maybe a minor adjustment that everyone needs to go through, but our movies and sitcoms have done enough damage to our minds where the drama looks never ending and where one party is to blame. Usually, the adjustment has to happen from both ends.

Bring this to a place where everyone gains, and everyone is happy. Maybe moving out is an option that you seek but will this go well with your husband and remember, he might do this for you, and in the long run in might end up blaming you for it. It’s complicated.

So, take time and work on the pros and cons, why your husband is against talking to them about this and also ask yourself: Have I done everything that I can to live joyfully under one roof?
You will have a path to your solution soon.

All the best!

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I got married in 2018 and it was an arranged marriage. Everything seemed very perfect for me. But soon after things got weird as I realised my husband does not share good rapport with his own family. From day second, I felt I need to correct my husband' attitude towards his own parents. He loves me a lot and protects me from any type of problem while we were staying at my in-laws' house. But before completing 2 months we moved out and somewhere I knew there is no going back to his parents from that point. During the short 2 months stay I was told that my parents did not give me good stuff -- I mean bed, almirah and (that they) had not arranged our marriage function in the best way possible. I have seen them fighting among themselves for purchasing Maggi packets stating who will pay the price. I was told my husband who is eventually their real son contributed nothing to his sister's marriage, to their house construction and to his own marriage. I was asked to pay for the marriage album as my husband contributed nothing to his own marriage. Even after leaving their place bank payment related messages have been sent to me to pay the amount. One day after feeling helpless I asked them: If your son is having so much problem why did you marry him. They simply stated that they did it for the sake of society. The moments before leaving the house were tense. They threw a lot of tantrums -- they took the jewellery they'd purchased for me and also retained the jewellery given by my parents. I said nothing about it as those materialistic things never mattered to me. I had to take back a part of jewellery made by my parents from them as my parents wanted it back. But after leaving home they did not call to ask anything about our health or our problems with the new set up but instead called for money. They are threatening to come back if we don't talk to them on regular basis and bend their son on his knees to come back to his parents. Till some time, I was under the impression that my husband is having issues; that he is the monster who is abandoning his parents. When I learned his side of story, I realised he is not at fault completely. They never made him feel loved or accepted; and always compared him with others. They considered him as their investment plan as they are all the time cursing him for not providing any financial support without knowing at what salary he is working for, what are his monthly expenses and whether he is in a position to assist them financially.He doesn't have any good memories with his family. Still I tried to make him feel their pain to be left alone behind their only son. After leaving their house they started to abuse me on phone whenever they wanted. They cursed me and my parents for taking their son away from them. My husband is the typical Indian male who on the first night took control of my debit card as he thinks it is his birth right. He strictly told me what not to wear. Although these were major flaws in the attitude, he showed love towards me so I did also do the same. I am happy with him. But with this constant verbal abuse from his parents, I feel like I’m the one who is the culprit here. I was not ready to even extend my family with my husband but somehow I did take the decision after four years of my marriage. I am expecting now but my husband warned me to not inform about this to his parents otherwise, he will send me permanently to my parents’ house. My subconscious is shaking me in every 2 to 3 weeks that I’m the culprit here. I feel like my child will also leave me behind the way we left his parents behind. They insulted me in every possible way but I still don't want them to be left alone in their senior years like this. But I have no control over my husband he is way more detached towards them and maximum time insensitive to their problems. Also his parents always call to either abuse me or their son they did never ask us how we are if we are fine even in corona time I was positive and when they knew about they call my husband to make fun of this. Please suggest.
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Dear MB,

Too much going on in your mind all at once. Sometimes, it helps to compartmentalize.

It seems like you are being a nice human, have tried patching things between the son and his family.

Let it alone, it is unique and it’s their battle to fight. By you getting into this, it might eventually be pointed out that you are a bad wife and a bad influence on their son.

People when in distress lose sense of logic and blame everything on the external. So, you have done your bit, in vain…now stay away from their relationship.

What is meant to be, will be. Any more interference might only harm the relationship further.

As for you, when they call and abuse, kindly assert that you will not be talked to in that manner OR simply avoid their calls till the time they ask, then say: I do want our conversations to be had with respect both ways.

As for your husband taking away your debit card; it does seem his way of exercising control which he lacks with himself in relation to his parents.

He feels helpless and him taking charge of what you wear etc is his way of establishing ground rules by being a patriarch.

Please rework this soon else this will be observed by your children especially if you have a girl child.

Your meek submission is what she will learn from you.

Just like you took your streedhan back, what you feel you have a personal association and right over, kindly take it back.

His love for you does not mean that he owns you and it does not mean you need to submit.

Of course, if it is to maintain peace for the time being, alright…but over a period of time this has to change.

Enjoy the pregnancy without bringing unwanted worries that your child will also leave you etc.

Too much of commercial movies can instil these fears. Your husband and his family made this choice to harbor animosity towards each other.

Why will your child do the same with you? There is no transference. Simply, enjoy being pregnant, focus on yourself and your child.

Think good, eat good, feel good, laugh a lot and choose what who you want around you. It affects the child directly.

Please become responsible now towards your unborn child. He/she needs you.

Be with Nature a lot, listen to calming music…your baby will thank you someday for this. So smile and get on to enjoying your pregnancy.

Be happy and all the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 08, 2024Hindi
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My wife got posted in distant place 10 years back. I had to ask for help from my inlaws as our child was very young. They started to live with her. After 1 year she got transferred back to the place where I was living. She got a flat from the company and we started to live together. Since then my inlaws are also staying with us. They purchased another flat nearby but are not willing to move there. Now, the problem is that whenever me and my wife have a quarrel she just stops talking and starts to take decisions in consultation with my inlaws. I am completely out of the loop in these circumstances. Over the years my relationship with inlaws has gone sour and quarrels with wife have been lasting longer (upto 2 months). My inlaws are otherwise well behaved but their presence somehow is hindering the process of natural reconciliation between me and my spouse or I am perceiving the situation incorrectly. Please guide
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What you all have done is jumped impulsively into one situation, made it comfortable asking people to help and then jumped back into the original situation and not knowing how to ask the same people to stay away!
Your wife has to grow out of her parents being around and you have to understand that your in-laws have got used to stepping in while you were away.
It's about time that you and your wife had a mature conversation on how to manage your family yourselves and be responsible for raising your child. But do remember to deal with your in-laws carefully. After all, they gracefully kept their lives on hold to help your wife and your child. Without hurting their sentiments, you are going to have to convey to them that you are thankful for what they have done for you BUT now you would like to be there for your family. Initially, this will hurt them and your wife, but anymore of this game will pull you and wife away from one another. So, they do need to move out...
You are not cutting strings but simply loosening the grip it currently has which is unhealthy for your marriage. Hope that your wife also understands this which means she will put you to test and in her mind or vocally compare what you bring to the table and how her parents supported her. Bear with it and as the two of you work together in putting the family back together, she will eventually understand that this is for the best.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I am 38 years old. I have been living abroad since I was 21 years old. I have been focused on my career since then. I got married in 2021 in India and just after 4 months living in India, we again moved abroad. This country was new for me and my my wife, but my brother was already settled in this country with his family. As I was living away from my family for many years, me and my wife decided to live in a joint family with my brother’s family. However, I was quite busy adjusting to my new job, my wife couldn’t adjust well to my side of the family, my brother, his wife and my mother. After living together with everyone for a year, me and my wife decided to live separately from my side of the family. Now after 5 months my wife became pregnant and we both wanted to have a child. So even though my family was quite close and could have supported us during this time. I decided to sponsor my in laws on a visa so that my wife could feel supportive during this time. We had a girl child and I have avoided to communicate to my family during this one year so that my wife doesn’t get any stress or anything from my family. However as soon as we had a child, I have invited my mother and my brother family to visit my daughter. Now my in laws have started quarreling with me once in a while. And they convinced my wife to go to India with them. My wife has been living in India since last 6 months, they would never let me see my daughter over the phone call, and whenever I called them they would ask me for the money/gifts. Let me add to that when I went abroad, my wife was not working initially and I used to give her 30% of my salary and I used to bear all the expenses. When my in laws started living with us, I over heard them talking if I continued having relationship with my side of the family, she would buy her a home in India and take my daughter away from me. Now recently I came to India to get everything sorted, I do not think my wife would be willing to come with me without my in laws. How could I convince her to start over and repair our relationship for us and our beautiful daughter.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure you see a pattern in your wife's actions. At the risk of sounding judgemental, I will say: She does like to get her way in most things.
How else do you explain that when she is stressed keep them away and when she needs, she wants them back?
How can you expect to have support from your side of the family when you two decided to alienate them?
How does it work when she decided to stay back with her family with absolutely no regard that you as father will want to be close to your daughter?
How do you explain that they secretly conspire to take your daughter away from you if you involve your family?

Do you not see the immaturity of how they have very systematically alienated you from your family and your daughter?

To be able to put things together, your wife really needs to get away from her parents. They seem to hold the strings and have no qualms about spoiling their daughter's life...Bring her out of that family and move to a location that is not easily accessible to them; as in maybe back abroad, so they are not in and out of your home. Start building your relationship with your wife by being a hands-on father and that may also give her an idea as to the person that you are. You must be appreciated for the person that you are...Give this a shot!

All the best!
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Hi, i'm 49 years old and investing in HDFC Flexicap, HDFC Mid cap oppurtunities and ICICI prudential Nifty 50 index and also in NPS per month 5000 each. Is this sufficient for next 10 years.
Ans: Your current investment strategy reflects commitment and discipline. Here's a detailed evaluation and guidance for the next 10 years.

Existing Portfolio and Investment Pattern
Your investments in diversified equity mutual funds are a good starting point.

National Pension System (NPS) contributions add long-term security.

A balanced combination of equity and retirement-focused investments is appreciable.

Advantages of Actively Managed Funds
Actively managed funds outperform benchmarks during market volatility.

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Your selected funds offer growth potential through expert-driven strategies.

Drawbacks of Index Funds
Index funds merely replicate a market index without adapting to changes.

They miss opportunities to outperform during market corrections.

Actively managed funds suit long-term goals better with higher growth prospects.

Investment Diversification
A mix of equity categories provides stability and growth.

Mid-cap funds add growth potential, while flexi-cap funds offer stability.

Ensure your portfolio balances risk and long-term returns effectively.

National Pension System (NPS) Contribution
NPS is a disciplined, tax-efficient retirement savings tool.

Allocations to equity and debt within NPS align with your risk appetite.

Regular contributions ensure a robust corpus for retirement.

Monitoring Inflation and Future Costs
Inflation impacts purchasing power and future goals.

Assess if your investments match inflation-adjusted needs.

Consider additional investments if current contributions fall short of future requirements.

Tax Implications on Mutual Fund Investments
Equity mutual funds have new capital gains tax rules.

Long-term gains above Rs 1.25 lakh attract 12.5% tax.

Short-term gains are taxed at 20%, reducing net returns.

Regular Review of Investments
Periodically evaluate your portfolio's performance.

Assess alignment with changing financial goals and market conditions.

Seek advice from a Certified Financial Planner to optimize your strategy.

Contingency Planning
Build an emergency fund to cover 6-12 months of expenses.

Keep it liquid in instruments like savings accounts or short-term debt funds.

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Avoid direct funds; regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner offer better insights.

Regular funds provide guidance, performance tracking, and informed decision-making.

Diversify further into large-cap or balanced funds if needed for reduced volatility.

Health Insurance and Risk Coverage
Ensure adequate health insurance for you and your family.

Review life insurance to match liabilities and responsibilities.

Separate insurance and investment for better clarity and effectiveness.

Adjusting Contributions
Increase investments as income grows over the next decade.

Regular increments enhance your corpus significantly over time.

Automated increases in SIP amounts can align with inflation and financial growth.

Future Goals and Planning
Define clear financial goals, including retirement, children’s education, and lifestyle.

Allocate funds based on goal timeframes and priorities.

Maintain a balance between aggressive growth and stability.

Final Insights
Your current strategy lays a solid foundation. However, continuous assessment ensures its relevance to future needs. Strengthen your portfolio with diversified investments, consistent reviews, and adjustments to achieve financial independence over the next decade.

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I am doing SIP in QUANT SMALL CAP & MIDCAP since last 2 years. Recently they are involved in front running case and SEBI investigation is going on. My doubt is shall i continue SIP or stop the investment ? I am already having another 5 SIPS in small cap , midcap & flexi cap since last 5 years which are having CAGR of above 15%. If you advice me to stop SIP in QUANT, i will divert this amount in above 5 sips.
Ans: The ongoing SEBI investigation and other highlighted concerns about Quant Mutual Fund raise significant questions. Here is a comprehensive evaluation of whether to continue your SIPs or stop them.

1. Understanding the Current Situation with Quant Mutual Fund
SEBI conducted a search-and-seizure operation, not a routine enquiry.

Quant Mutual Fund clarified that the operation was part of a court-approved investigation.

Changes in leadership, such as the CFO's resignation, have added to investor concerns.

Despite these challenges, the fund house continues to assure full cooperation with SEBI.

2. Performance and Reputation of Quant Mutual Fund
Quant Mutual Fund has shown exceptional growth, with AUMs rising from Rs 233 crore to Rs 94,000 crore in four years.

The fund's small-cap schemes have delivered outstanding performance, often topping the charts.

Critics highlight red flags, including over-reliance on one individual and potential SEBI rule violations.

Momentum-based strategies and concentrated stock holdings raise questions about risk and sustainability.

3. Risks Associated with One-Man Show Management
Investment decisions reportedly rely heavily on Sandeep Tandon, the key figure at Quant.

Lack of a robust team structure and research capacity may pose systemic risks.

A one-person-driven strategy can lead to inconsistent performance in volatile markets.

Inadequate team size and resources could hinder the fund’s ability to address SEBI’s queries effectively.

4. Evaluating Diversification in Your Portfolio
You already have five SIPs in small-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds performing well with over 15% CAGR.

Diversifying across multiple fund houses reduces exposure to single-entity risks.

Overlapping strategies within the same fund categories may lead to over-concentration.

Reassess your portfolio’s allocation to ensure alignment with your financial goals.

5. Tax Implications of Stopping SIP and Redeeming Investments
If you decide to stop SIPs and redeem investments, consider the tax impact.

LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%, while STCG is taxed at 20%.

Plan redemptions to minimise tax liability and reinvest strategically.

Use a Certified Financial Planner for tax-efficient portfolio adjustments.

6. Alternatives to Quant Funds for SIP Diversion
If you stop SIPs in Quant funds, divert the amount to your existing well-performing funds.

Actively managed funds with strong teams and transparent processes are ideal alternatives.

Ensure new investments align with your risk appetite and financial objectives.

Balance between equity and debt funds for portfolio stability and growth.

7. Impact of SEBI Investigation on Investor Confidence
SEBI’s findings may impact Quant Mutual Fund’s reputation and future performance.

Regulatory actions could introduce stricter compliance measures across the mutual fund industry.

Monitor updates on the investigation and assess its implications for the fund house.

Maintain vigilance about regulatory developments affecting the fund.

8. Importance of Fund House Credibility
A fund house's governance and transparency are critical for investor trust.

Reevaluate investments in funds with potential governance issues.

Choose funds with a strong track record of compliance and ethical practices.

Avoid funds overly dependent on individuals rather than institutional processes.

9. Making a Decision on Quant SIP Continuation
Reasons to Consider Stopping SIPs in Quant Funds:

Regulatory risks due to SEBI investigation.
Over-reliance on a one-man strategy.
Lack of institutional structure and research team.
Reasons to Consider Continuing SIPs in Quant Funds:

Exceptional past performance.
Potential for future returns if the fund overcomes current challenges.
10. Final Insights
The SEBI investigation and governance concerns warrant a cautious approach. If you are uncomfortable with the risks, stopping SIPs and diverting funds to your other well-performing SIPs is prudent. Maintain a diversified and balanced portfolio to safeguard your financial goals. Stay updated on SEBI developments and periodically review your investments with a Certified Financial Planner.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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My father expired recently. His Savings Accounts and FD's all are in nationalized banks. In most of the accounts my mother is nominee. As far as FD is concerned either he has kept my mother as nominee or they are joint holders. In all this banks my mother also has savings account and fds in her name. Kindly advise about the banking procedure. We want to invest my fathers hard earned money. Also flat is owned by my father and mother jointly. Advise about that procedure also. I have one sister and I am married with son. Before dying he has not left any will.
Ans: Losing a loved one is always difficult. Managing financial matters requires careful attention. Below is a detailed plan to handle your father’s accounts and investments.

1. Managing Savings Accounts
Check for nominee details on all savings accounts.

If your mother is the nominee, the process is straightforward.

Submit the following documents to the bank:

Death certificate of your father.
Nominee’s identity proof and address proof.
Bank account details of the nominee for fund transfer.
The bank will verify documents and transfer funds to the nominee’s account.

If no nominee is registered, the bank will request legal heir documents.

A succession certificate may be required.
Apply through the district court for this certificate.
2. Handling Fixed Deposits (FDs)
Joint Holder FDs:
If the FD is jointly held with “either or survivor” clause, your mother can access it directly.
Submit the death certificate and a simple application to continue or withdraw the FD.
Nominee FDs:
If your mother is the nominee, submit her identity proof and the death certificate.
The funds will be transferred to her account.
FDs Without Nominee:
For such cases, the legal heir process will apply.
Obtain a succession certificate for claiming the funds.
3. Managing the Jointly Owned Flat
The flat is jointly owned by your parents.

Your mother automatically inherits your father’s share.

To update ownership records:

Submit your father’s death certificate to the housing society.
Request a name transfer form from the society.
For legal ownership transfer:

Update property records with the sub-registrar’s office.
Submit the death certificate and joint ownership documents.
Discuss with your sister to ensure no future disputes.

4. Creating an Investment Plan for Your Mother
Assessing Current Funds:
Consolidate all proceeds from your father’s accounts and FDs.
Include the savings, FDs, and other assets your mother holds.
Identifying Financial Goals:
Prioritise safety and liquidity for your mother’s needs.
Create provisions for emergencies and regular income.
Suggested Investments:
Invest in a mix of debt and balanced mutual funds for stability.
Include senior citizen savings schemes for guaranteed returns.
Ensure liquidity by keeping some funds in fixed deposits or liquid funds.
5. Family Consent and Legal Safeguards
Discuss all financial matters openly with your sister.

Take written consent from family members before major decisions.

Create a will for your mother to avoid future complications.

Include all assets and their intended distribution in the will.

6. Tax Implications and Planning
Consult a Certified Financial Planner to manage taxes efficiently.

Interest income from FDs and mutual funds will be taxable.

Plan investments under Section 80C and 80D to save tax.

Keep track of long-term and short-term capital gains taxation.

7. Building a Comprehensive Financial Plan
Ensure your mother has adequate health and life insurance.

Set aside emergency funds for unforeseen expenses.

Regularly review investments for optimal performance.

Diversify funds to reduce risks and maintain steady returns.

8. Educating Your Family on Financial Matters
Involve your family in understanding financial procedures.

Teach them the importance of nominations and joint accounts.

Create a list of all assets and liabilities for easy reference.

Share this list with your spouse and trusted family members.

Final Insights
Handling your father’s hard-earned money requires care and responsibility. Following the correct procedures ensures smooth transitions. Create a robust financial plan to protect and grow these funds for your family’s future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am 43 years old drawing monthly salary of 3.5 lakhs. I have multiple loans going on for property and the monthly outgo is 2.4 lakhs. Rental income 30k. The loans would end in next 5-6 years. My monthly SIP amount is 34000. Total accumulated amount is 31 lacs. Annual LIC is 80k. Maturity value of LIC is 30 lacs and i policies wud mature in 4 years. My another investment is in TATA AIG life insurance for which annual outgo is 5.5 lacs for next 3 years. I would receive 65 lacs approx after 13 years. Total PF amount is 60 lacs as of now, plan to work till 65. I have term plan of 1.5 cr till 75 yrs. family health insurance of 1cr. I have son aged 12 n daughter 3 . I would need around 1cr for their education and an equal amount for their wedding. I would need a corpus of around 3 to 4 cr for retirement. What should i do to reach this goal. How do i reduce my obligations which this moment seems to be significant.
Ans: At 43, you have significant responsibilities and aspirations. Balancing your current obligations and future goals requires a structured approach. Let us create a plan that helps reduce your financial burden and achieve your long-term goals.

1. Evaluate Current Financial Situation
Your monthly salary is Rs 3.5 lakhs.

Loan EMIs amount to Rs 2.4 lakhs monthly, with 5-6 years remaining.

Rental income of Rs 30,000 offsets some EMIs.

Your SIP amount is Rs 34,000 monthly, and the accumulated corpus is Rs 31 lakhs.

LIC premiums of Rs 80,000 annually will mature in 4 years with Rs 30 lakhs.

TATA AIG life insurance premium is Rs 5.5 lakhs annually for 3 more years.

This policy offers Rs 65 lakhs after 13 years.

Your EPF corpus is Rs 60 lakhs and will grow until retirement.

You have a term insurance plan of Rs 1.5 crore till 75 years.

Family health insurance coverage is Rs 1 crore.

2. Understand Your Financial Goals
Education funds of Rs 1 crore for your children are needed over time.
Wedding expenses of Rs 1 crore are anticipated in the future.
Retirement corpus required is Rs 3-4 crore by age 65.
3. Address High Financial Obligations
Your loans consume 68% of your salary. Prioritise early closure.
Use bonuses or increments to prepay loans.
Focus on high-interest loans first, like personal loans or high-interest EMIs.
Consider restructuring loans for lower EMIs if possible.
4. Optimize Current Investments
LIC Policy:
The annual premium of Rs 80,000 adds to your financial burden.
Surrendering this policy and reinvesting in mutual funds can yield better returns.
Consult with your Certified Financial Planner for the exact process.
TATA AIG Life Insurance:
The annual outgo of Rs 5.5 lakhs is substantial.
Evaluate the policy’s cost-benefit ratio.
Surrender the policy if returns are suboptimal. Redirect funds to mutual funds.
SIP Investment:
Continue your Rs 34,000 monthly SIP.
Diversify across equity, hybrid, and debt mutual funds.
Allocate more to equity funds for long-term goals.
5. Focus on Children’s Education and Wedding Goals
For education, start investing separately in balanced mutual funds.
Target medium-term funds that align with your child’s higher education timelines.
For weddings, allocate funds into conservative equity and hybrid funds.
Review the progress every year to ensure sufficient accumulation.
6. Build Your Retirement Corpus
Your EPF corpus of Rs 60 lakhs will grow significantly by 65.
Supplement EPF with equity SIPs for long-term growth.
Increase SIP contributions gradually as loan EMIs reduce.
Reassess your retirement needs regularly, adjusting for inflation.
7. Ensure Adequate Insurance Coverage
Your term insurance of Rs 1.5 crore is sufficient for family protection.
Maintain your Rs 1 crore health insurance for unforeseen medical expenses.
Avoid ULIPs or endowment plans for insurance; stick to term insurance.
8. Tax Planning for Maximum Savings
Claim deductions under Section 80C for PF, SIPs, and insurance premiums.
Use Section 80D for health insurance premium tax benefits.
Plan investments to reduce tax outgo and boost savings.
9. Monitor and Adjust Investments
Review your portfolio every six months.
Rebalance to maintain the right asset allocation.
Seek advice from a Certified Financial Planner for better decisions.
10. Manage Lifestyle Expenses
Track discretionary expenses to identify areas for savings.
Avoid lifestyle inflation to increase your surplus.
Redirect savings toward investments and loan prepayments.
Finally
Your goals are achievable with disciplined planning. Start reducing obligations and focusing on efficient investments. Take guidance from a Certified Financial Planner to stay on track.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |7510 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 14, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 14, 2025Hindi
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Iam 48 year man , no investment yet. I need to start invest 30000 monthly in sip. Please advise.
Ans: You are taking a vital step toward financial stability. Starting SIPs of Rs 30,000 monthly is a great choice. Here's how you can maximise this opportunity:

1. Understand Your Financial Goals
Define your goals clearly.
Split goals into short-term, medium-term, and long-term categories.
For instance, goals may include retirement, children's education, or a contingency fund.
2. Emergency Fund Comes First
Build an emergency fund equal to 6-12 months' expenses.
Keep it in a liquid fund or savings account.
This ensures financial security during unexpected events.
3. Risk Assessment
Assess your risk tolerance based on age, goals, and responsibilities.
As you are 48, balance risk and returns carefully.
Avoid taking excessive risks at this stage of life.
4. Asset Allocation is Key
Allocate funds wisely between equity, debt, and hybrid mutual funds.
Equity mutual funds are ideal for long-term goals like retirement.
Debt funds suit medium-term goals like a child’s education.
Hybrid funds offer balanced growth and safety for moderate goals.
5. Select Actively Managed Funds
Actively managed funds can outperform index funds in the Indian market.
Fund managers adapt strategies to market conditions.
This flexibility can lead to better returns compared to index funds.
6. Systematic Investment Plans (SIPs)
Invest Rs 30,000 monthly in a mix of equity, debt, and hybrid funds.
SIPs bring financial discipline and reduce market volatility impact.
Long-term SIPs benefit from the power of compounding.
7. Tax Efficiency in Mutual Funds
Equity mutual funds offer lower long-term capital gains (LTCG) tax.
LTCG over Rs 1.25 lakh annually is taxed at 12.5%.
Debt funds are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Choose funds based on your tax bracket and investment horizon.
8. Regular Funds Through a CFP
Invest in regular funds with guidance from a Certified Financial Planner.
CFPs help you choose the right funds based on your goals.
Regular funds come with professional support for better management.
9. Review and Rebalance Portfolio
Review your investments every six months or annually.
Rebalance based on market changes and goal progress.
Adjust allocations to maintain an optimal risk-return balance.
10. Insure Yourself Adequately
Ensure sufficient health and life insurance coverage.
Avoid mixing investment and insurance in one product.
A term insurance policy is ideal for life cover.
11. Retirement Planning is Crucial
Invest in equity funds for long-term retirement goals.
Aim for a corpus that sustains your post-retirement lifestyle.
Consider inflation and rising healthcare costs while planning.
12. Monitor Lifestyle Inflation
Keep lifestyle inflation in check to save more.
Prioritise needs over wants to increase your savings potential.
Focus on financial discipline for a secure future.
13. Avoid Common Pitfalls
Avoid stopping SIPs during market downturns.
Do not withdraw funds prematurely without valid reasons.
Avoid emotional decisions; stick to your plan.
14. Consult a Certified Financial Planner
A CFP ensures you stay aligned with your financial objectives.
They help optimise your portfolio for better returns.
Professional guidance helps you navigate market complexities.
15. Educate Yourself About Investments
Understand the basics of mutual funds and market dynamics.
This knowledge helps you make informed decisions.
Stay updated on economic trends and fund performance.
Finally
Your initiative to invest Rs 30,000 monthly is commendable. Consistency and discipline will bring excellent results. Follow the above steps to build a robust financial future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Radheshyam Zanwar  |1142 Answers  |Ask -

MHT-CET, IIT-JEE, NEET-UG Expert - Answered on Jan 14, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 14, 2025Hindi
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Maine msc zoology kiya hai teaching line me mujhe jyada pais nahi mil raha hai kya mai computer line jaise jetking se course karke mujhe IT engineer ban sakti hu mujhe jyada salary milegi
Ans: Hello dear.
You completed an M.Sc. (Zoology) and started a career in teaching. Only due to less money/salary, do you wish to change the career option? I think this is not good at an early stage. If the person excels in a subject like Biology then there is no problem with getting a job and a high salary. If you are well aquatinted with computers then you can run online classes for Biology or can join a branded institute where offline along with online coaching is done. To achieve this level, you have to excel in subject knowledge, communication skills, computer skills, and a sound technique to connect with the students to gain success in the teaching field. Now, looking towards your other option for joining other computer courses via any institute at this level is not recommended. To excel in IT, you need at least 5-6 years of strong exposure and need to make very hard efforts for that. It is not sure that you may get a job with a high salary. Rather, you can choose some diploma courses related to A.I. and digital Marketing, etc. where you can start your career with a moderate salary but can reach to your desired level in a short time if you master the skills.

Final suggestion: It is better to search for a job related to M.Sc. (Zoology) other than teaching if not satisfied.

If satisfied, please like and follow me.
If dissatisfied with the reply, please ask again without hesitation.
Thanks.

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