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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 08, 2024Hindi
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My wife got posted in distant place 10 years back. I had to ask for help from my inlaws as our child was very young. They started to live with her. After 1 year she got transferred back to the place where I was living. She got a flat from the company and we started to live together. Since then my inlaws are also staying with us. They purchased another flat nearby but are not willing to move there. Now, the problem is that whenever me and my wife have a quarrel she just stops talking and starts to take decisions in consultation with my inlaws. I am completely out of the loop in these circumstances. Over the years my relationship with inlaws has gone sour and quarrels with wife have been lasting longer (upto 2 months). My inlaws are otherwise well behaved but their presence somehow is hindering the process of natural reconciliation between me and my spouse or I am perceiving the situation incorrectly. Please guide

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What you all have done is jumped impulsively into one situation, made it comfortable asking people to help and then jumped back into the original situation and not knowing how to ask the same people to stay away!
Your wife has to grow out of her parents being around and you have to understand that your in-laws have got used to stepping in while you were away.
It's about time that you and your wife had a mature conversation on how to manage your family yourselves and be responsible for raising your child. But do remember to deal with your in-laws carefully. After all, they gracefully kept their lives on hold to help your wife and your child. Without hurting their sentiments, you are going to have to convey to them that you are thankful for what they have done for you BUT now you would like to be there for your family. Initially, this will hurt them and your wife, but anymore of this game will pull you and wife away from one another. So, they do need to move out...
You are not cutting strings but simply loosening the grip it currently has which is unhealthy for your marriage. Hope that your wife also understands this which means she will put you to test and in her mind or vocally compare what you bring to the table and how her parents supported her. Bear with it and as the two of you work together in putting the family back together, she will eventually understand that this is for the best.

All the best!
Asked on - Apr 15, 2025 | Answered on Apr 16, 2025
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Hello ma'am! It has been long time since the last update. After the counselling session, I moved back to my wife's allotted quarter though I stayed in a separate room. I have been trying to contribute both financially and physically to the family. I started to come home a little early (though still somewhat late). In one of the discussions, wife asked me to avoid going to functions or get together with her and also consider this as a temporary arrangement and move out after the daughter leaves home for college. Despite all this, we performed a "havan" at home a month ago with the aim to settle things down. Finally, after a lot of hesitation I talked to my in-laws in the absence of my wife. I explained to them the need of three of us to function as an unit and create our own space which requires either us or them moving out. However the father in law was of the opinion that I was doing this to pressurize my wife. 2 months ago he had suggested divorce as an option because of the mental stress borne by his daughter. Overall they didn't seem to accept the offer/ suggestion. Meanwhile, my relationship with my wife and daughter remains stagnant. Some inertia has also creeped into my mind with a decline in the intensity of my efforts. The daughter is not doing well in her studies and doesn't listen to me. Most of the times she is occupied in her mobile. We as parents differ in our views about handling this situation. I am of the view that she should be taken off mobile. Battling so many fronts I am puzzled about the future course of action. Please suggest...
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Clearly the in-laws interfering isn't helping at all. I hope they understand that their presence is causing issues in their daughter's marriage. Why don't you and your wife take a break away from all of this? At times, interference can become very overbearing and it's difficult to have an independent view of the marriage. Your wife needs to experience marriage without her parents being around...And on this break, talk about the future and how you will like the marriage to be. And also hear her out speak aloud...it's possible she's carrying a lot of weight about things...expressing these might help soften her stance a bit...

All the best!
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I refer to my previous mail question for which you have given me a general answer. To make you understand more, i take care of my twin babies most of the time in a day / every day. Both my Wife & in-laws avoid stating all sorts of stories and at the end of the day bringing up my twin kids falls on me and i don't even get a reliever for few minutes to take rest. Both of them, most of the time try to find fault with me, in me and try to blow up the issue. Till now, i have made myself very clear from all these issues and as you said, i tried to spend time with my wife, my in-law try to interfere with us and pulls out my wife with silly reasons like not well, body pain, house hold work. She never let us at least talk for few minutes with my wife and even suggested to my wife to part with me and they (my wife & In-laws) will stay away leaving me and my babies. After so much tolerance, i too told them to leave the babies with me and go as you wish. Now tell me sir, what should i do now???
Ans: I understand that you're facing a challenging situation in your family where you're primarily responsible for taking care of your twin babies, and your wife and in-laws seem to be creating obstacles and conflicts. It's important to approach this situation with care and consideration for the well-being of everyone involved. Here are some steps you can consider taking:

Open Communication: Try to have an open and honest conversation with your wife about how you feel. Express your concerns and emotions calmly and clearly. Let her know that you want to work together as a team to take care of your children and maintain a healthy relationship.
Seek Professional Help: If communication with your wife doesn't yield positive results, consider seeking the help of a marriage counselor or therapist. A neutral third party can provide guidance and facilitate productive discussions.
Set Boundaries: Discuss and establish clear boundaries with your in-laws. Explain to them that while you appreciate their concern, you and your wife need some private time together as a couple, and it's essential for the well-being of your relationship.
Share Responsibilities: If possible, work out a schedule with your wife to share childcare responsibilities more evenly. This can help both of you get some much-needed rest and time together.
Stay Calm and Patient: Dealing with family conflicts can be stressful, but try to remain calm and patient. Avoid engaging in heated arguments or confrontations. Instead, focus on finding constructive solutions.
Consider Legal Advice: In extreme cases, if your relationship with your wife continues to deteriorate, and you fear for your rights as a parent, you may want to consult with an attorney to understand your legal options regarding child custody and visitation.
Self-Care: Don't forget to take care of yourself physically and mentally. Caring for twin babies can be exhausting, so make sure to prioritize your well-being. If possible, seek support from friends or family members who can give you some respite.
Remember that every situation is unique, and it may take time to find a resolution. It's essential to maintain a calm and respectful approach throughout the process. Ultimately, the goal should be to create a harmonious family environment that supports the well-being of both you and your children.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 21, 2024Hindi
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Hi! I am married for last 12 years. I am living with my wife, child and in laws at a house allotted to her by the company where she works. When the child was 1 year old I had to ask for help from my in laws. Since then they have stayed with us. (Inlaws have a flat nearby which they have rented as they have some health issues and are not willing to move out ). My relationship with my wife and in laws is in a difficult situation. Wife manages a number of household issues in consultation with her parents. This has often irked me forcing a late return from work and not conversing much with the inlaws. The child also seems to be getting hold of the situation and often ignores me. Recently there was an altercation between me and my wife when she asked me to stay away from them. (She says it whenever we fight over any family matter). Now, I am staying away at a secluded place for the past few days and have not receiveda single call from anyone. I don't know how to deal with all this. Kindly guide.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Overstaying can lead to this. But how can you ask them to leave, right? They are you in-laws and they have been kind enough to help your wife when she needed it.
But, hey it was for a brief time and sadly neither your wife nor your in-laws have understood and they have begun to like to overstaying.
I think you and your wife need to talk this over where you express that its time the two of you took charge and managed the situation at home. As for your in-laws you can always thank them immensely and respectfully ask them to visit soon after a few months. It's a very strategic way of doing this as there are people involved with real raw emotions which in this case can become a huge mess.
But for this to happen, you and your wife need to be in perfect agreement otherwise, the whole thing could be turned against you where you will be looked upon as a villain. So, please express your concerns with your wife and make her understand that as a family the two of you and child need to have your space and privacy to bond and grow.

All the best!
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Hi sir I'm 30 years old and started my sip 10 months ago 1.5 lakhs invested till the date . Want to invest for 15 years Below are details Quant small cap 2.5 k per month Nippon India small cap 5k Motilal Oswal mid cap 5k Parag Parikh flexi cap 3k ICICI prudential nifty 50 index fund etf Rs 200/- 1. Currently investing Rs15700/- want to invest 20k suggest which Current MF to invest more amount or any changes need to be done. 2. Should I invest 5 lakhs in lump sum or in sip which is better
Ans: You have made a great start at the age of 30. Investing early builds strong financial foundation. You are investing Rs. 15,700 per month, which is a healthy amount. You are also planning to increase it to Rs. 20,000 monthly. That’s a smart move. You also have Rs. 5 lakhs for lump sum investing. Now let’s evaluate your mutual fund choices, portfolio structure, and ideal action plan.

Age, Time Horizon and Investment Profile
Age: 30 years

Investment horizon: 15 years

Monthly SIP: Rs. 15,700 currently

Planning to increase to: Rs. 20,000

Lump sum available: Rs. 5 lakhs

Your strengths:

Long time horizon gives high compounding benefit

SIP is already running in good amount

You are open to increasing your investment

You are thinking long term. That’s the right mindset

Let’s analyse your mutual funds in a structured way.

Analysing Your Existing SIP Portfolio
1. Small Cap Exposure
Two small cap funds: Rs. 7,500 per month

These are high-risk, high-return funds

You are investing 48% of SIP into small cap category

That is a high concentration for a young portfolio

Small caps can be very volatile

Better to reduce exposure a little

2. Mid Cap Exposure
One mid cap fund: Rs. 5,000 per month

Mid cap funds are ideal for long-term investors

They balance growth and stability

32% allocation to mid caps is fine

3. Flexi Cap Exposure
One flexi cap fund: Rs. 3,000 per month

Flexi cap funds give fund manager freedom to move between cap sizes

These are good for diversification and dynamic allocation

You can increase allocation here

4. Index Fund (ETF)
Monthly investment: Rs. 200 only

You mentioned it as Nifty 50 ETF

This is an index fund

Index funds have no flexibility

They can’t protect in falling markets

They follow the index blindly

Active funds have proven to beat index consistently over time

Avoid index funds in wealth creation journey

You may exit this and reallocate to active funds

Suggested Portfolio Changes
You aim to invest Rs. 20,000 per month going forward. Let’s realign your portfolio with a strong mix.

Suggested fund category allocation:

Small Cap Funds: 25% of SIP

Mid Cap Funds: 30% of SIP

Flexi Cap Funds: 25% of SIP

Large & Mid Cap Funds: 20% of SIP

New monthly SIP allocation suggestion (Rs. 20,000 total):

Small Cap: Rs. 5,000

Mid Cap: Rs. 6,000

Flexi Cap: Rs. 5,000

Large & Mid Cap: Rs. 4,000

Key actions to take:

Reduce SIP in one small cap fund by Rs. 2,500

Continue with one small cap only. Pick the more consistent one

Increase allocation in Flexi Cap fund

Introduce one Large & Mid Cap fund to diversify

Exit the index ETF fund completely

It adds little value and lacks protection in correction

Should You Invest Rs. 5 Lakhs as Lump Sum or SIP?
This is a very important question. Your decision must consider market timing risk.

Risks in lump sum investing:

If market falls just after lump sum, portfolio value drops

Emotionally it becomes hard to continue

Market may not recover quickly

You may exit at wrong time if not mentally prepared

SIP offers smoother entry:

Rupee cost averaging works well in SIP

Emotional comfort is higher

Volatility is absorbed better

You avoid regret of wrong timing

Best way to invest Rs. 5 lakhs:

Do not invest all in one go

Spread it over next 6 to 9 months

Do STP (Systematic Transfer Plan) from liquid fund to equity funds

This gives safety and gradual market exposure

Choose funds where you are continuing SIP for long term

Avoid lump sum in small cap or sector funds

Suggested STP action:

Put Rs. 5 lakhs in a low-risk liquid fund

Transfer Rs. 55,000 to Rs. 80,000 per month into chosen equity funds

Use the same four fund categories for STP

Asset Allocation View for 360-Degree Planning
You are young. You can afford high equity exposure. But that doesn't mean 100% small caps.

Suggested equity exposure:

Total equity exposure: 90%

Liquid/emergency: 10%

You can take this exposure for next 10 years

Ideal allocation among equity styles:

Large cap and large & mid cap: 30%

Mid cap: 30%

Small cap: 20–25%

Flexi cap and multi cap: 15–20%

This structure gives better balance. It protects from high volatility and improves long-term returns.

Regular Funds vs Direct Funds
You didn’t mention if you are using direct plans. If yes, then please note these:

Disadvantages of Direct Funds:

You get no guidance during market volatility

You may stop SIP at wrong time

No proper rebalancing or strategy check

Emotionally hard to manage alone

Many direct investors make mistakes in fund choice and exit timing

Benefits of Regular Funds through Certified Financial Planner:

Ongoing tracking and review of your portfolio

Behavioural coaching during market fall

Proper rebalancing and performance audit

Long-term handholding for goal-based planning

Worth more than the small trail cost involved

For long-term wealth creation, professional support is very useful.

Additional Suggestions for Long-Term Success
Emergency Fund Planning:

Keep 6 months expenses in a liquid fund

Never invest this portion in equity

Insurance:

Take pure term insurance if not yet done

Health insurance for self and family is also must

Periodic Review:

Review your SIP funds every 12 months

Do not change funds based on short-term return

Stick to the goal and asset allocation

Avoid These Mistakes:

Do not invest in traditional LIC plans, endowment or ULIP

Avoid high exposure to sector or thematic funds

Don’t go for trending new funds or NFOs

Avoid real estate for now. Liquidity is poor and returns are slow

Do not invest in index funds unless portfolio is very large

Taxation Point to Note:

Equity mutual funds: LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakhs taxed at 12.5%

STCG taxed at 20%

Debt fund returns taxed as per your income slab

Plan redemptions carefully to reduce tax impact

Finally
You have a great start at 30.

Keep investing consistently for 15 years

Reduce small cap exposure a little

Remove index fund ETF from your SIP

Use STP for Rs. 5 lakhs investment

Add one large & mid cap fund to portfolio

Review regularly with a Certified Financial Planner

You are on the right path. With a few changes and disciplined investing, you will build long-term wealth.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am a 55 years old man with wife and two children aged 18 years & 12 years respectively. I have a Mutual Fund Corpus having current value of approx 4.70 crores and PPF of Rs.51 Lakhs. I have my own residence (Actually 2 properties) . I want to retire in another 3-4 years. I want to know how much more corpus is required to have a monthly income of 3.5 Lakhs p.m considering that I have no liability in respect of any loan/EMI but have to settle my children. The elder child is going for Engineering starting this year and I will have to spend at least Rs.45 Lakhs on his education in 4 years starting from now and the younger one will take another 5-6 years to decide about his future for which I may require another Rs.50 Lakhs over a period of 4 years staring after 6 years from now. My monthly expenses is about 2.5 Lakhs currently. Please Advice
Ans: Current Family and Financial Profile
Age: 55 years

Retirement planned: In 3 to 4 years (Age 58–59)

Family: Wife (homemaker/earning not mentioned), two children (aged 18 and 12)

Corpus:

Mutual Funds: Rs. 4.70 crores

PPF: Rs. 51 lakhs

Assets: Own residence (two properties)

Monthly expense: Rs. 2.5 lakhs (likely to increase with inflation)

Desired monthly income in retirement: Rs. 3.5 lakhs

No loans or EMIs

Children’s education expenses:

Elder: Rs. 45 lakhs over 4 years

Younger: Rs. 50 lakhs, to be spent over 4 years starting after 6 years

Acknowledging Your Current Strengths
You have zero liability. This gives a strong starting base.

You own two residential properties. That gives long-term housing stability.

Your current corpus size is encouraging.

You have well-structured long-term instruments like Mutual Funds and PPF.

You have a clear idea about your future cash flow needs. That’s very helpful.

Expense vs Income: Present and Future
Current monthly expense: Rs. 2.5 lakhs

Expected retirement income: Rs. 3.5 lakhs per month

This gap of Rs. 1 lakh is reasonable and achievable.

However, post-retirement expenses may rise due to inflation.

Inflation impact (very important):

In 10 years, even 6% inflation doubles monthly expenses.

So, Rs. 3.5 lakhs today will be Rs. 7 lakhs after 12 years.

Your corpus must factor in this increasing need.

Immediate Financial Commitments: Children’s Education
Elder child (Engineering)

Starting this year

Total expense: Rs. 45 lakhs in 4 years

You will withdraw Rs. 11-12 lakhs per year

This will slightly slow your corpus growth

Younger child

Education expense of Rs. 50 lakhs

Will be needed 6 years from now

Will span across next 4 years after that

Better to create a separate, moderately aggressive plan for this

Action Plan:

Ringfence Rs. 1 crore from corpus for both children’s education

Keep this portion in hybrid or balanced funds

Withdraw in tranches as required

Avoid debt funds if redemption horizon is short

Avoid direct stock exposure for this portion

Retirement Corpus Requirement Assessment
Your goal is Rs. 3.5 lakhs per month post-retirement. That’s Rs. 42 lakhs per year.

You plan to retire in 3–4 years. You’ll need inflation-adjusted income for next 30 years.

Factors considered here:

Monthly withdrawal from age 59 to 85+

Inflation-adjusted income

Healthcare costs increase after age 65

Regular expenses

Periodic travel or leisure

Major life events like marriages, gifting, home maintenance, etc.

Total corpus needed (excluding children's education):

Based on your lifestyle and inflation

You need around Rs. 12.5 crores to Rs. 13.5 crores

This includes buffer for emergencies and rising medical costs

Your Current Position: Gap Analysis
Current mutual fund corpus: Rs. 4.70 crores

PPF corpus: Rs. 51 lakhs

Total current investable corpus: Approx. Rs. 5.21 crores

From this, earmark Rs. 1 crore for both children's education

Effective available retirement corpus: Rs. 4.21 crores

Required corpus at retirement: Rs. 13 crores approx.

Additional requirement: Around Rs. 9 crores more in next 3–4 years

This may look large. But you still have time to grow the corpus.

Steps to Bridge the Gap
1. Invest Aggressively and Strategically for Next 3–4 Years
Focus on high-growth mutual fund strategies

Use actively managed diversified equity funds

Avoid index funds due to lack of flexibility and inability to beat market consistently

Index funds carry hidden risk in falling markets. They blindly follow index movement.

Instead, select active funds with quality fund managers and long-term track record

2. Avoid Direct Funds if Not Monitored Properly
Direct funds save commission, but lack professional hand-holding

Many investors underperform due to wrong timing or switching

Investing through a MFD (Mutual Fund Distributor) with CFP certification adds personalised planning

Regular funds ensure long-term behavioural discipline and portfolio reviews

You avoid emotional mistakes in volatile periods

Peace of mind and handholding is worth the trail cost

3. Regular Investments Until Retirement
Every year till retirement, invest at least Rs. 15–20 lakhs

Prefer SIP + lumpsum when market provides opportunities

Deploy idle funds wisely but avoid overexposure to small caps

Stay away from sector-specific or thematic funds

Asset Allocation: Pre and Post Retirement
Current Phase (55 to 59 years)

Equity-oriented mutual funds: 70%

Hybrid/Conservative Hybrid: 20%

PPF & Liquid assets: 10%

Post Retirement (59 years onwards)

Equity: 50% (for growth and inflation protection)

Hybrid: 25% (for stability)

Debt/Liquid: 25% (for regular withdrawals and low volatility)

Keep minimum 3 years' expenses in debt funds or liquid sources

Important:

Always follow proper SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan)

Rebalance portfolio once a year

Increase withdrawal only after reviewing portfolio health

Additional Planning Areas to Address
Medical and Health Care Costs
Buy a comprehensive health insurance (if not already covered)

Consider super top-up plans for higher medical cover

Medical inflation is higher than general inflation

Allocate Rs. 1 crore over time for health-related expenses

Emergency Fund
Maintain Rs. 20–25 lakhs in ultra short-term funds or liquid funds

Do not touch it for any planned expenses

This is only for unexpected emergencies

Estate Planning
Create a Will

Mention all investments, nominee details clearly

Appoint a trustworthy executor

Educate family about how to access financial documents

Retirement Lifestyle Planning
Think about lifestyle goals post-retirement

Leisure, travel, social goals should be part of the plan

Allocate 10% of retirement corpus for non-essential goals

Avoid These Common Mistakes
Do not invest in traditional insurance plans

Avoid ULIPs, endowments, or investment cum insurance policies

Do not lock large amounts in FDs with poor post-tax returns

Avoid real estate as a retirement asset. It's illiquid and risky.

Do not depend on annuity plans. They offer poor returns and no flexibility.

Don’t withdraw large amounts from equity when market is down

Tax Planning in Retirement
Keep equity exposure for tax efficiency

LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakhs taxed at 12.5% only

Avoid large STCG in equity mutual funds. Tax is 20%

For debt mutual funds, both LTCG and STCG are taxed as per income slab

Use SWP to reduce taxable income smartly

Use senior citizen schemes (if needed) in a limited way

Finally
You are already in a good position.

But there is a visible gap in future requirements.

Focus next 4 years on wealth building with right mutual fund strategy.

Avoid distractions like poor-performing traditional plans

Continue disciplined investing

Your goal of Rs. 3.5 lakhs per month is possible

But only with planned execution, proper asset mix and professional guidance

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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