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Asked by Anonymous - May 20, 2024Hindi
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I met my this guy through my father in the arranged marriage setup. We developed a great rapport and a week ago,we got engaged.My fiancé is a really sweet guy! He has asked about my love life in the past,which i denied of having one. Even though he shared of a girl proposing him.Actually, i can share if the need arises but i am little afraid to share now,because when i shared my past with my former partner,he continued to taunt me throughout our relationship and never let me breath easily despite proving my innocence. I dont know what to do regarding my fiance? Should i tell him or just liet it be?

Ans: It's understandable to feel hesitant about sharing your past given your previous experience. Trust and transparency are important in a relationship, but timing and context matter as well. Since your fiancé has already shared some of his past with you, this indicates he values openness. However, your past experiences have taught you to be cautious. It might be helpful to observe and build trust in your current relationship before disclosing your past. If your fiancé continues to show understanding and kindness, it could create a safe space for you to share more about yourself. When you do decide to share, frame it as a way to build deeper trust and intimacy, emphasizing that past experiences have shaped who you are today. If he truly respects and cares for you, he will appreciate your honesty and the strength it took to share your story. Remember, the right partner will support and accept all parts of your journey.

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Ans: I totally understand your concern. My advise is not to get into arrange marriage in the first place. Because that's a very transactional relationship. Go out, meet more guys and then see if you find someone you love. You are too young to give into the pressure of arrange marriage. However if you still want to proceed, then whether you tell him or not doesn't really matter. It depends on his mindset and value system which i have no idea about and probably you too. So even if you don't tell him, it doesn't matter. If you want to be honest which is a good thing, then you embrace that uncertainty of his reaction to it.

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Hi, I am not yet mairred. I used to like a man and after a month we decided to get married. He was of my caste so I thought my parents won't deny this mairrage. I used to talk to and wanted to let him know everything about my past so that we can built a strong root of our relationship. I spoke every detail of my past life to him. Then before he proposed me for mairrage I went for a vacation with my male friend to dehradun. I didn't tell him that day as he didn't proposed me till that day then why would I tell everything about me to anyone. He was noone to me at that time. After that he came to visit me in Delhi and on the same when he was on train a friend of mine along with his fiance came to meet me after a very long time. I asked him and he didn't denied. After returning home he blocked me. I cried and cried, called multiple times but he didn't received my call. Even I went to his location and waited for almost 3 hr but he didn't came. Then I asked my sister to call him. Then he talked to me but he said me so much of harsh and vulgar words that I went in shock. I cried a lot but he went on humiliating me. But somehow I convinced him to stay with me. I never talked to that friend ever. Then I told my parents about him that I want to get married with this men. Being a girl's father my father enquired about him by being annonymous. And trust me noone has said anything good about him. Later on we get to know that his father has a murder case on him of his brother in law. But then I wanted to get married. Finally my parents agreed only for my happines. Meanwhile I was never being respected by him. He always doubt me, humiliate me, abuse me mentally and physically, and when I was like I don't want to be with you he used to say sorry and begged me to be with him. He even used to restrict to visit my uncle aunty. His mother wants used to defend him and never used to make him realise that he was wrong. Then before engagement we went to Kolkata to buy dress. Yes one more thing I have informed him on the very first day that I used to drink and smoke occassionally. So whenever he used to visit me he always wanted to drink with me whether I want it or not. He always used to abuse me and humiliate me in front of everyone after drinking, so after a period of time I used to avoid drinking. Then he used to fight with me for that also that why will you not drink. In kolkata the same thing happen. We stayed there for 3 days and he was convincing to go to club from the very first day but I refused. On 3rd he hit me. After engagement his family asked for dowry. After a lot of dealing my parents agreed for an amount. But I felt betrayed. I stopped talking. After after when I initiated the conversation he picked up a fight and said he won't marry. I tried to convince. But when everyone was blaming me then I broke my silence and said everything about him to my parent. But he manipulated everything and made me villain. My parents want me to get married What should I do
Ans: Dear Akriti,
After reading your question I can only give you one advice, please do not marry him no matter what people say. Even if we overlook every other red flag that he has exhibited, abuse of any form is unacceptable. Why are you trying to convince your parents to marry a guy who hits you? Do you think you deserve it or anyone, for that matter, deserves that?
Now, no matter who tries to manipulate you, or however much they try to convince you, get out of the relationship for the love and self-respect you have for yourself. It is a big decision but in your case, it is worth making that big decision. I'd normally never tell people they should this or they shouldn't do that, but in your case, no sane person would ever suggest you marry this man and be subjected to abuse for the rest of your life.

Please make the right choice.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that your virginity is important to him and you should not have kept this from him, but do you understand that your virginity is your choice? Why does he have a say in it? He is your partner- he loves you, but he doesn't own you. And what you did in your past is not something he can judge you by; why should that affect your relationship? I know that you love him but it's better to tell him the truth and accept the outcome than to keep lying and feel guilty about something you should not even be worrying about.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 10, 2025
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Hi Sir, I am 42 years old private employee and around 1lakh salary per month. I have 2 kids of 7yrs and 4yrs each. I have savings like in NPS as 11lakhs, PPF as 8lakhs, Sukanya as 2lakhs, 1 term policy and lic policy. Medical insurance is from company and no person health insurance. And I have 72k in MFs till now. I have started it and regretting as I ignore MFs as I don't have much financial knowledge on this. So requesting you to please give a suggestion for my family future needs like education, marriage etc. and importantly pension fund after retirement. Hope you will reply and help me.
Ans: You're doing well so far. You have started important savings and protection steps. You are rightly thinking about your children and retirement. Let’s now look at your full financial picture step by step. This is to guide you in building a solid future for your family.

Current Financial Overview – Evaluation
Your monthly income is Rs.1 lakh. This gives you decent capacity to plan.

You are 42 now. That gives you around 15 to 18 years for retirement.

You have Rs.11 lakhs in NPS. This is a good start.

PPF of Rs.8 lakhs is useful for long-term needs. Well done.

Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana of Rs.2 lakhs is good for daughters. Keep it up.

You have term insurance. This is a very important safety net.

You have company medical insurance. But you must take personal health cover too.

Rs.72,000 in mutual funds is a good beginning. You should continue.

You have a LIC policy. This is a mix product. We need to check its usefulness.

Children’s Future – Education and Marriage Planning
Your kids are 7 and 4 years old. Their higher education starts in 10-14 years.

For education and marriage, equity mutual funds are best suited.

They can give better growth than PPF, Sukanya, or fixed options.

Continue Sukanya Samriddhi. It is safe and tax-free.

But add mutual funds as major part for education goals.

Use regular plans through MFDs with CFP support. This gives proper guidance.

Avoid direct plans. They miss out expert monitoring and adjustment support.

Direct plans seem cheaper. But lack handholding and ongoing advice.

Choose child-focused mutual fund portfolios with 10+ years view.

Invest monthly through SIPs. This builds wealth slowly and safely.

Target two separate funds: one for elder, one for younger child.

Review goals every year with your CFP and adjust SIPs.

Your Retirement – Pension Planning Steps
NPS of Rs.11 lakhs is a decent beginning. You should continue it.

But don’t depend only on NPS for full retirement.

Add mutual funds as second pillar for retirement.

Invest in balanced and multi-cap equity mutual funds via regular plans.

Regular plans through CFP and MFDs will give review and corrections.

Avoid direct funds. You may miss right fund changes and rebalancing.

Equity funds can help you beat inflation over next 15-20 years.

Don’t invest in annuity plans. They give low income and low flexibility.

Increase your SIP amount every year by 10%-15%.

Consider retirement planning as your most important goal.

Estimate a comfortable monthly need after retirement.

Plan now to reach that amount by 60.

Maintain separate SIPs for children’s education and for your retirement.

Life Insurance – Policy Review and Action
You already have a term insurance. This is perfect. Continue it.

If your term insurance is below Rs.1 crore, increase it now.

Avoid traditional LIC endowment or ULIP policies.

These mix insurance with investment. Gives poor return.

If your LIC is traditional or ULIP, plan to surrender it.

Take surrender value. Invest that amount in mutual funds.

Pure term plans protect your family better than endowment plans.

No need to mix insurance and savings.

Health Insurance – Important Next Step
Company insurance is not enough. Buy personal family health insurance.

After leaving job, company cover may stop. Risk is high without personal cover.

Take a Rs.10 lakh floater plan now for your family.

Add super top-up of Rs.15-20 lakhs later. Premium is low.

This gives peace of mind against big medical bills.

If you delay this, you may get exclusions or waiting period.

Emergency Fund – Safety Cushion Plan
Keep at least 6 months of expenses in savings or liquid mutual fund.

This is your safety net during job loss or medical need.

Use sweep-in FD or liquid funds for better returns.

Don’t touch emergency fund for any investment.

Keep it ready and separate from regular savings.

Mutual Funds – Growth Engine for Long Term Goals
You have Rs.72,000 in mutual funds now. Good first step.

Continue investing monthly through SIPs. Choose regular plans.

Use the help of MFDs and CFPs for fund selection and review.

Avoid index funds. They don’t beat market. No fund manager support.

Actively managed funds perform better with expert fund management.

Also avoid direct funds. You need handholding and goal tracking.

Regular funds cost little more. But give huge benefit of expert advice.

Equity mutual funds should be used for all long-term goals.

For short-term needs, use short duration or hybrid funds.

Review your portfolio yearly. Adjust based on life changes.

PPF, Sukanya and NPS – How to Use Them Properly
PPF is safe and tax-free. Continue till maturity.

Use it as part of your retirement strategy.

Sukanya is good for your daughters. Continue till they reach 21 years.

NPS is useful for building retirement money. Continue your contributions.

But NPS has lock-in. So don’t make it your only retirement tool.

Mix it with equity mutual funds to create balance.

Review asset allocation with a certified planner every year.

Tax Planning – Smart Use of Instruments
Use Section 80C fully with PPF, Sukanya, Term Insurance, ELSS.

ELSS mutual funds give tax benefit and growth potential.

Don’t put too much in low-yield tax-saving policies.

Use HRA and NPS also for tax savings if available.

Equity mutual funds: LTCG above Rs.1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

STCG is taxed at 20%. So, hold equity funds for more than 1 year.

Debt mutual fund gains are taxed as per income slab. Plan accordingly.

Action Plan – What You Can Do Next
List your goals: retirement, kids’ education, their marriage.

Estimate time left for each goal.

Assign investments to each goal. PPF, NPS, Sukanya for retirement and kids.

Start or increase SIPs in regular equity mutual funds.

Take personal health insurance without delay.

Check and surrender LIC if it is traditional or ULIP.

Build an emergency fund equal to 6 months of salary.

Increase your term insurance if less than Rs.1 crore.

Review all investments yearly with a certified financial planner.

Finally – Insights to Keep in Mind
You are doing many right things. Just needs better alignment.

Don’t feel regret about delay. You are now taking steps forward.

Invest in mutual funds regularly with expert guidance.

Avoid direct and index funds. Go with regular plans via CFPs.

Plan each goal separately. Don’t mix children and retirement funds.

Protect your family with term insurance and health cover.

Stay consistent with SIPs. Wealth builds over time.

Review once a year. Track goals and adjust your plan.

Always take advice from certified financial planners.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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I am 31 years, unmarried bachelor and lead celibacy. I have investment in equity mutual fund growth option cost of which is 20 lacs now valued at 45 lacs. I don't require this for next 30 years and reserve it for my retirement. Do I need to save now for retirement, or can I spend 99% of my current earning as I have a retirement corpus of Rs.45 lacs at current value. I have life cover of 1.5 cr and for health Rs.40 lacs and comfortably earning from MNC for my survival, healthy with no bad habits and lead a disciplined and minimalist life style. Please guide me do I need more retirement corpus, or the accumulated Corpus is enough for retirement. If so how much more corpus do i need?
Ans: You have shown excellent discipline. At age 31, you already have Rs.45 lacs in equity mutual funds. That’s a rare position to be in.

You lead a minimalist life. You are healthy. You don’t have dependents. You are earning well. You are living with purpose and clarity.

Still, retirement planning is not only about a lump sum today. It also needs a 360-degree analysis.

Let us now evaluate in detail if this Rs.45 lacs is enough for your retirement.

We will assess from lifestyle, inflation, investment risk, tax rules, personal values, and health perspective.

We will also answer your main question: Can you spend 99% of your earnings now?

Retirement Planning Is Not Only About Current Corpus
Rs.45 lacs looks large now. But you are 31. Retirement is 29 years away.

A rupee today won’t have the same value 30 years later.

With inflation, prices can rise 5x or even more by then.

Your current Rs.45 lacs may not buy much in 2054.

So it is not enough to just grow. It must grow faster than inflation.

What If You Don’t Add Any More Investment?
If you don’t invest any more for retirement now, your Rs.45 lacs must grow for 30 years.

Let us assess few key points:

If the investment is fully in equity, volatility is high.

Long-term returns can be rewarding, but not always predictable.

Also, equity mutual funds attract capital gains tax.

New rule: LTCG above Rs.1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

This will reduce the final retirement corpus.

So you cannot assume all returns will be tax-free.

Impact of Inflation on Lifestyle
You are minimalist today. But that may not be the case at 60.

Even basic costs like food, rent, medicine, utilities will go up.

At 6% inflation, Rs.25,000 monthly expenses today may become Rs.1.5 lacs after 30 years.

Medical inflation is higher. You may need Rs.5 lacs per year for healthcare alone at retirement.

So the same Rs.45 lacs will lose value every year.

What If You Live Longer?
Longevity is increasing in India. You may live till 90 or 95.

That means 30 years working and 30+ years retired.

So retirement may last longer than your working life.

Your money has to work for you after 60.

Even a Rs.3 crore corpus at retirement may fall short if not planned properly.

Health Cover and Life Cover Are Good
Rs.1.5 crore term insurance is good.

Rs.40 lacs health cover is excellent. Keep renewing it.

But insurance is not a substitute for retirement planning.

Also, insurance does not build wealth.

You Have Time on Your Side
You are 31. That gives you 30 years to grow your corpus.

That is your biggest strength.

Small, consistent investing now can multiply your corpus over 30 years.

Even Rs.10,000 per month extra can change your future.

Can You Spend 99% of Earnings?
It is not wise to spend 99% of earnings even with Rs.45 lacs corpus.

It makes your life dependent on just one investment.

Also, it leaves no buffer for job loss, health crisis, or early retirement.

Spending most of your income will reduce your financial freedom later.

Risks of Not Saving Enough
Future jobs may not pay this well.

You may face burnout or wish to retire early.

Markets may not perform as expected.

Emergencies may force early withdrawal.

Expenses can rise unexpectedly.

What Should Be the Ideal Retirement Corpus?
There is no fixed number. It depends on your lifestyle.

Still, we can estimate based on some broad assumptions:

A basic retirement needs at least Rs.4 to 5 crores at age 60.

A comfortable life with travel, hobbies, and good healthcare needs Rs.6 to 8 crores.

A rich life with freedom and legacy needs Rs.10 crores or more.

You may not need all of it. But you must aim higher and stay flexible.

How Much More Corpus You Need?
You already have Rs.45 lacs.

Assuming 10% annual return, and no withdrawal for 30 years:

Your current Rs.45 lacs can become Rs.8 crores in 30 years.

But tax and inflation will reduce its value.

After adjusting, this may be worth only Rs.3 to 4 crores in real terms.

So yes, you are on the right path. But you are not done yet.

Should You Stop Saving Now?
No. Stopping now is not safe.

You should continue to invest at least 20% to 30% of income.

You don’t need to be aggressive.

But you must not stop completely.

Advantages of Continuing SIPs in Actively Managed Mutual Funds
Actively managed funds are more responsive to market changes.

They are driven by research and fund manager insights.

They can beat inflation better than passive options.

They help create real wealth over time.

You can invest through mutual fund distributor with CFP. That gives expert help.

Disadvantages of Direct Mutual Fund Investing
Direct funds seem cheaper. But they miss the human touch.

No professional reviews. No behavioural guidance.

You may exit in panic or enter at wrong time.

Mistakes in direct investing are costly.

Regular funds via a Certified Financial Planner offer support, reviews, and strategy.

Financial Planning Is Not Just About Corpus
Financial planning is lifelong.

You need a written retirement plan.

Include health, taxes, estate, and liquidity in that plan.

Set goals every 5 years and review progress.

Don’t think of corpus only. Think of financial independence.

Your Current Strengths
Strong investment of Rs.45 lacs

No dependents or liabilities

High income and low expenses

Health insurance and term cover

Discipline and minimalism

What You Can Do Now
Continue SIPs in actively managed funds via expert help

Review portfolio yearly with a Certified Financial Planner

Create a written retirement plan

Don’t touch your Rs.45 lacs till 60

Save 30% of income. Enjoy 70%.

Finally
You are doing well. You already have Rs.45 lacs at age 31. That shows foresight.

But retirement is not a fixed-point goal. It is a moving target with inflation and uncertainty.

You must not stop saving. Keep adding regularly. Small steps now can lead to a rich future.

Aim to build a Rs.6 to 8 crore corpus. That gives you safety, comfort, and peace.

Spending 99% now is risky. Don’t do that. Instead, reward yourself within limits. But keep investing for freedom.

Discipline today gives freedom tomorrow.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - May 09, 2025
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Sir, we had a dispute in our ancestral property we approached the court and the verdict said we are entitled to a portion of the property The dispute was the land was sold without our knowledge etc., after getting the verdict we got patta, registration in our name. Now we are planning to sell the land, a lawyer said get a ratification deed, I don't know what it is and also weather it is needed or not. The lawyer called us and said the the other party who has purchased the land illegally is not agreeing to sign and is asking money to settle the matter as he has purchased the land. Even after receiving court orders this kind of dodging is happening. The amount of money he is asking is senseless, even if I sell the land I wouldn't get that much amount, I am unable to put in writing many other problems kindly advise what next steps to take. also let me know what are all the documents to have as a owner. Thank you
Ans: You have taken rightful steps. Court verdict is in your favour. That shows your legal ground is strong.

But still, the other party is asking for money. That too, an unfair amount. You also mentioned a lawyer suggested getting a ratification deed. Let us try to understand the full situation and assess all possible options. We will also cover what documents are needed to prove your ownership.

This reply gives you a 360-degree view. It will help you make a sound and confident decision.

Understanding Your Current Legal Standing
You said the land was sold without your knowledge. That makes the original sale illegal. The court has agreed with you. That is a key win for you.

You now have patta and registration in your name. These are strong documents. They show you have legal title.

Based on this, you are now the legal owner. That means you have the full right to sell the land. But the buyer must also be confident. So legal clarity is very important.

What Is a Ratification Deed?
A ratification deed is a It confirms a past act done without proper authority. The current party gives approval to that act.

In your case, it seems the buyer who bought the land earlier is being asked to “ratify” that sale. That is, to agree that you are the rightful owner now.

This is not a mandatory document by law. But it is sometimes used to make the title stronger. Some buyers or their banks ask for it.

However, since the court has already ruled in your favour, you may not legally need it. You already have the stronger claim.

Why Is the Buyer Still Causing Issues?
The person who bought the land earlier might feel he lost money. He may think the sale to him was legal. But since the court disagreed, he now holds no right.

His demand for money is unjust. It is a pressure tactic. He is trying to recover his loss by troubling you.

You are not legally required to pay him. He has no power to stop your sale.

Assessing Options Now
You can now evaluate your next steps from three angles – legal, practical, and financial.

Legal Options
Talk to your lawyer again. Ask: is a ratification deed mandatory in your case?

Get a written legal opinion. This should clearly mention your rights and position.

File a complaint if the other party is threatening you or asking money.

Send a legal notice through your lawyer to that person. Mention that he has no right now.

Practical Options
Try selling to a buyer who trusts the court order. Show them all documents.

Explain clearly that title is clean. Show the judgment, patta, and registration.

Use a reputed real estate lawyer for the sale. That gives buyers more confidence.

Financial Assessment
Do not agree to pay huge amounts. It may cause loss for you.

If needed, consider a small settlement. But only after full legal review. And only if it makes the sale smooth and quick.

Ask yourself: Even if I settle, will the person agree to give in writing? If not, don’t pay.

Must-Have Documents to Sell the Land
As a rightful owner, you must hold the following papers:

Patta in your name (this is land ownership proof)

Registered sale deed or title deed (issued after the court judgment)

Copy of the court verdict

Encumbrance Certificate (EC) (shows your name as the current legal holder)

Legal heir certificate, if you inherited the land

Property tax receipts in your name

Aadhar and PAN card copies

Suggested Steps to Make Sale Smooth
Get a detailed Title Certificate from a lawyer. It should mention the court case and outcome.

Keep a summary note ready. It should explain how you became owner.

Ensure name match across all your documents.

Keep a certified copy of court order with you at all times.

Use a reputed property consultant or broker only if needed. Prefer buyers who are local and familiar with such cases.

Emotional and Mental Pressure
You also mentioned you are facing many other issues. That is understandable. Land disputes take a heavy toll on health and peace of mind.

Please do not worry. You already have legal strength.

You have cleared a big milestone by getting the court’s support.

Don’t allow fear or threats to stop you.

Stay strong. Keep family informed. Talk regularly with your lawyer.

How Certified Financial Planner Can Help
A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can guide you better with your sale proceeds.

If you plan to sell, prepare a written cash flow plan.

Think about your family’s short-term and long-term needs.

Keep emergency funds aside. Don’t invest all money at once.

Mutual funds managed by professional advisors can be considered. They offer long-term wealth building.

What Not To Do
Do not deal in cash. Always use cheque or bank transfer.

Do not sign any paper without lawyer check.

Do not get emotionally disturbed by their false threats.

Do not delay your next steps due to confusion or fear.

Finally
You have shown good courage. You followed the legal process. You now own the land as per law.

The other party is only trying to misuse your fear. Do not fall for it.

If the buyer still refuses to cooperate, avoid them. Choose another buyer.

If a ratification deed is insisted by your new buyer, ask your lawyer: Is it really needed?

If not needed, move ahead without it.

If needed, try again to convince the other person. If they demand unreasonable money, don’t agree.

Let your lawyer send notice. You can also explore police help if needed.

Always work with proper documents. Keep everything in writing.

Keep calm and move forward. With legal support and proper documents, you will win.

If you need help with managing the money after sale, we can help with a long-term financial plan.

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