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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 03, 2025
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I am married but I find my neighbour very hot. He recently smiled at me and since then I am unable to resist talking to him. Is it normal to be attracted to a male after you're married?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Being married doesn’t turn off your ability to appreciate good looks of people other than your partner but it is only okay up to a certain point. Most of the time, these attractions are fleeting and what really matters is how you handle them. But while we are at this discussion, I would remind you that your marriage or partner might not seem as interesting and exciting right now, but it is much more than that. Long-term relationships can become mundane. It is important to address anything that you might be lacking in this relationship- is the excitement missing? Do you need more emotional support or maybe more time and attention? N number of things can trigger what you are feeling right now, and at the same time, this can be stemming from nothing and you simply found another human being good looking. But I would still recommend healthy boundaries even if your intentions are completely pure.

Hope this helps.

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A long-term relationship might seem mundane and routine after a while but that does not permit you to develop feelings for someone else. While meeting up with your female colleagues is no big deal, when you have feelings for that colleague and doubt that you might cross a line, do you still think it's worth considering the meet-up? I doubt that.

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