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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 21, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 18, 2023Hindi

Relationship

Iam 50 yrs old married man i have attraction towards my maid servant she is married.I gifted her some gifts she accepted the same but after she told me that if my wife knows that i have gifted her.I usually get attracted towards ladies.Kindly suggest the same

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Attraction is normal BUT acting on that attraction is a CHOICE...
So, what makes you choose to gift your maid and then create nuisance within your family life?
Someday when your wife is not so 'accepting' of this great gesture of yours, she may threaten to walk out OR worse still the maid may threaten to expose your deeds to other people around.
What makes you play around with your life like this?
'I usually get attracted towards ladies' - then kindly learn and train your mind to focus on things that add value to life instead. Indulging in this attraction will only make you want to earn the attention of more women. Instead gain the same attention by using your work expertise and/or hobby within your social circle and family. But this is only temporary...Find the motivation within you to be able to focus on things that matter for your growth...that's a good way to rework this habit that you have cultivated over time.

All the best!

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Question by JAYESH - Jan 02, 2024Hindi

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Dear Madam, I am that person which we have discussed about i get attracted to my maid servant. I noted it well. But whenever she comes i get the feeling of attraction and a sense of nudity whenever i am alone in my home or whenever i and she is alone in my home. Every morning i look to the porns.

Ans: Dear Jayesh,
I think if you are the same person that I answered to previously, I did suggest that this is going to ruin your reputation and also cause problems with your marriage.
Find something worthwhile to outside the house the same time that your maid is working, so you are not around to see her and stress and strain your mind with it...Making wise use of your time should not be a problem for you, no?

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 06, 2024Hindi

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I am 42 years old married who is woking at an establishment of a Public Sector company. I am holding a senior position. I have one female colleague who is of my age and married. She very frequently comes to my cabin and sits with me. She sits very close to me almost touching my body. She is very frank with me and discuss very personal things with me. She adores me a lot. Since last couple of days, I have started missing her when she is not around. I don't know how to overcome this situation. I think she also has liking for me. Please advise what to do

Ans: If you choose to go ahead, then let her know and take things forward with her. Its clear you are attracted to her.

If you are attracted to your colleague and you believe that she is interested in you, then you may want to consider pursuing a relationship with her. However, it is important to be aware of the potential risks and consequences of doing so.

If you don't want to proceed with her, then start focusing on your hobbies, works, other interests.

If you are not interested in pursuing a relationship with your colleague, then it is important to set clear boundaries and focus on other aspects of your life. This may include spending more time with your family and friends, pursuing your hobbies, or focusing on your career.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2024

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I am 29 years old man we have maid who is elder than me and married. I am getting attracted towards her. I want to get into relationship with her how to proceed

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Just imagine a situation where this maid cries 'foul' after your association and then you have to live within the same apartment/society/surrounding.
Oooops, and she's not attracted towards you, then why are you all over the place on this one? Better to focus on your life and it might help to find another maid to work at your place.

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Hi i passed 12th in 2021 ( covid batch ) since everything was closed so in anxiety joined DU as sciences students but kept simultaneously preparing for neet it was very hazardous to manage both in offline neet prep and bsc so shifted to distance education bsc so i was in Du like 2021-2023 then 2023 took distance mode finally when i couldnot clear cutoff i thought will let this distance finish and side wise join some different and good course so came down to law in reputable law college of south . Is my decision ok or am i going too mmuch

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The students from the Covid batch have faced numerous challenges and are still struggling to settle down, including those in school. You have done your utmost to support them. Since you have completed your BSc and are now pursuing a degree in Law, you are in a favorable position.

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Ans: Diversification is the key Your portfolio is well-diversified across large-cap and flexi-cap funds. Adding quality mid-cap and small-cap funds enhances long-term growth potential.
Risk Management is required to Balance aggressive investments (mid/small caps) with conservative debt funds.
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Took home loan in May 2022. House construction completed in June 2023. Sold old house in Dec 2024. Can I set off the captial gains by repaying my home loan?

Ans: Repaying a home loan does not qualify as a "purchase" or "construction" of a new residential property, so it won't help you claim the exemption. No, you cannot set off capital gains by repaying your home loan. Your Options are -
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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 29, 2024

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Hi , male happily married for 6 years . I find my ex collegue very attractive. Part of me is yearning to have some good sex with her. She is also married and a good human being, she likes me but still bit sure if she really wants to have sex with me. She loves being with me.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do you have an open marriage? If so, I understand what you are saying. If not, do you understand what you are saying?

I am assuming that you have an open marriage- even so, if you are not sure about your colleague's feelings for you or have no idea about her marital arrangements, it would be a terrible idea to approach her with this. Moreover, she has never voiced her interest in you- “loves being with you” is not the same as she loves you romantically or lusts for you. Please tread very carefully.

I am saying all of these considering you have an open marriage. If that isn't the case, I don't think I have to tell you how wrong all of it is, and how much you should focus on your marriage and whatever is lacking in it; you can even try marriage counseling.

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there is a girl and i truly love her but apparently not vice verca, she is dating bad guys and getting hurt again and again but not giving a single chance to me , i truly love her and ready to do anything for her, i confessed my feelings multiple times in front of her but she is like let it be and let the god do whatever he wants also she ghosts me pushed me away and many more things but from the first day we are in a complicated situationship.

Ans: Dear Dakshesh,
I can't speak for her, but I can tell you that when a person, man or woman, is pushing you away and voicing their disinterest, it's best to give them their space. It can either be she is not interested in you romantically or she needs time to get there. But you cannot manipulate, push, or convince her to like you that way. If it happens organically, then good. Or else, you should respect her decision. Moreover, don't you think you deserve someone who likes you back the same way and chooses you over everyone else? I sure think you deserve better.
Please let her make her own choices and as for you, make better choices that are good for you. This toxicity and complicated relationship might be subconsciously exciting right now, but it won't be for long. You will get exhausted.

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Mujhe love relationship me success nahi milti aisa kyu

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Finding the right relationship takes time for most people. Sometimes we have no control over these things. I can suggest dating apps. You can add a bio that describes you well and also mention the kind of person you want. This way you will only attract people who are compatible with you. It can increase your chances of having a successful relationship. Nevertheless, everyone's love story happens at different paces. Don't worry. You will find yours too, in time.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 31, 2024

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I’m feeling really lost right now. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year, and things started out great. We have a lot in common, and we both enjoy going out with friends. But recently, I've noticed something that’s been bothering me. He works as a bartender, and every time I go to his bar, he gets upset about my friends being there. It feels like he’s trying to push me away from them, and I don’t know how to deal with it. Last weekend, we went out, and after a few drinks, I mentioned how uncomfortable it made me that he talked badly about my friends when they come to his bar. I thought I was being calm about it, but he just flipped out. He started yelling at me in the car, and I was so scared because he was driving way too fast and swerving. I told him I was going to call the cops, but he didn’t listen. Eventually, he pulled over, got out of the car, and started screaming and running around. It all felt so intense and out of control. When he came back to the car, things got physical. I slapped him in an attempt to make him stop, which I regret because I’ve never done that before. In the heat of the moment, he slapped me back and pushed me into a bush. The next day, I had bruises, and I just couldn’t stop thinking about everything that happened. Now, he’s been trying to buy me things and even booked a trip for us, begging me to stay. But I feel so unsure of what to do. I keep telling him that I need space, but it feels like he’s not really understanding the severity of what happened. I’m torn between wanting to make it work and realizing that this situation isn’t healthy. What should I do? Should I give him another chance or listen to my instincts and walk away for good?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First of all, physical violence is never the answer to any problem. I think you already know that. Coming to your main query, I think you should take the chain of events that followed after you confronted him very seriously. It's not healthy to slap and be slapped back and pushed into a bush. I am sure he regrets it just like you, but it can become a pattern. I would strongly urge you to rethink this relationship. If you are keen on keeping it going, I recommend either having an open discussion about what happened to make sure it is never repeated, or even better, consulting a therapist to work through the issues. You can have concerns and queries as to why he doesn't like it when your friends are around- that does not warrant such a harsh reaction.

I hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 25, 2024Hindi

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Sir I am 39 years old. I want to retire at age 50.Now I have 60 lacs in fd in different banks and post office. I have 3.5 lacs in Mutual Fund. I have different properties including home valuing approximately 3.5 Cr.I have no loan.What is my financial position exactly now.How should I plan to get 1 lac monthly after retirement.

Ans: You have a solid financial foundation , Having static property is good to have, unless it is creating any income, otherwise it will be consuming expenses for maintenance. about plan to get 1 lac monthly after retirement at 50 you need to plan certain investments, for 12L(1L per month) per year you need corpus of 3 CR . Retirement Corpus Allocation: Plan to Achieve Your Goal:
1. Maximize FD Efficiency- Shift ?30 lakhs from FDs to debt mutual funds or balanced advantage funds for better post-tax returns (~7-8%). Keep ?30 lakhs in FDs/post office for emergencies and stable returns. 2. Grow Mutual Fund Investments:
Increase equity exposure to at least ?50 lakhs by systematic investments of ?50,000/month in equity mutual funds (e.g., index funds, large-cap funds). By doing this your Expected returns: 10-12% over 10 years, growing the corpus to ~?1.2 crore.
3. Utilize Properties- Explore rental income or liquidate one property closer to retirement to add to your corpus.
If one property generates ?50,000 monthly, you’ll need a smaller investment corpus for the remaining ?50,000.
At retirement allocate-50% in debt funds/FDs for stability and regular income. 50% in equity mutual funds for growth and inflation adjustment. Build an Emergency Fund: Maintain ?10-15 lakhs for unforeseen expenses post-retirement.
Regards, Nitin Narkhede , Founder Prosperity Lifestyle Hub Community.

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