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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 21, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 18, 2023Hindi

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Iam 50 yrs old married man i have attraction towards my maid servant she is married.I gifted her some gifts she accepted the same but after she told me that if my wife knows that i have gifted her.I usually get attracted towards ladies.Kindly suggest the same

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Attraction is normal BUT acting on that attraction is a CHOICE...
So, what makes you choose to gift your maid and then create nuisance within your family life?
Someday when your wife is not so 'accepting' of this great gesture of yours, she may threaten to walk out OR worse still the maid may threaten to expose your deeds to other people around.
What makes you play around with your life like this?
'I usually get attracted towards ladies' - then kindly learn and train your mind to focus on things that add value to life instead. Indulging in this attraction will only make you want to earn the attention of more women. Instead gain the same attention by using your work expertise and/or hobby within your social circle and family. But this is only temporary...Find the motivation within you to be able to focus on things that matter for your growth...that's a good way to rework this habit that you have cultivated over time.

All the best!

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Dear Madam, I am that person which we have discussed about i get attracted to my maid servant. I noted it well. But whenever she comes i get the feeling of attraction and a sense of nudity whenever i am alone in my home or whenever i and she is alone in my home. Every morning i look to the porns.

Ans: Dear Jayesh,
I think if you are the same person that I answered to previously, I did suggest that this is going to ruin your reputation and also cause problems with your marriage.
Find something worthwhile to outside the house the same time that your maid is working, so you are not around to see her and stress and strain your mind with it...Making wise use of your time should not be a problem for you, no?

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I am 42 years old married who is woking at an establishment of a Public Sector company. I am holding a senior position. I have one female colleague who is of my age and married. She very frequently comes to my cabin and sits with me. She sits very close to me almost touching my body. She is very frank with me and discuss very personal things with me. She adores me a lot. Since last couple of days, I have started missing her when she is not around. I don't know how to overcome this situation. I think she also has liking for me. Please advise what to do

Ans: If you choose to go ahead, then let her know and take things forward with her. Its clear you are attracted to her.

If you are attracted to your colleague and you believe that she is interested in you, then you may want to consider pursuing a relationship with her. However, it is important to be aware of the potential risks and consequences of doing so.

If you don't want to proceed with her, then start focusing on your hobbies, works, other interests.

If you are not interested in pursuing a relationship with your colleague, then it is important to set clear boundaries and focus on other aspects of your life. This may include spending more time with your family and friends, pursuing your hobbies, or focusing on your career.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 05, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2024

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I am 29 years old man we have maid who is elder than me and married. I am getting attracted towards her. I want to get into relationship with her how to proceed

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Just imagine a situation where this maid cries 'foul' after your association and then you have to live within the same apartment/society/surrounding.
Oooops, and she's not attracted towards you, then why are you all over the place on this one? Better to focus on your life and it might help to find another maid to work at your place.

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I am 42 yrs old holding a senior position in an organization. I am married with 11 yrs old son. I am attracted toward my colleague who is also of my age and holding same position. She also expects complement from me like how is she looking in a particular dress and new hairstyle. She discusses very personal things like her gynic issues etc. Whenever she sits near me, she sits very close almost touching my body. I dont know whether she is also attracted towards me. I am in dilemma, should I express my feelings or not. Sometimes i think that I should totally ignore her and let these feelings die. I ignored her for 2 months but became more restless and ultimately started talking to her. Please help me how to come out of this situation. I am very very confused.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am assuming you are still married and if that’s the case, the thing that you should focus on is not your feelings for this colleague. It’s your feelings towards your wife. Does your wife know, or are you in an open setup? I need more details before I can help you any further.

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