Torn between love and family: What should a young woman do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Inter-faith marriages are still a big NO NO in many homes and yours is not an exception. Like in many other cases, my suggestion has been that both sides must want to get to know the other person. Like your parents need to see a different side of your boyfriend to be willing to accept him.
What is it that he can bring in their daughter's life that will ease their concerns about his faith/religion?
So, your boyfriend must be willing to be patient and make efforts on his part to integrate into your family. It takes time, so be patient.
Now, for your job...do not confuse emotions and your job. Your parents feels that you might take drastic steps with your boyfriend and hence want you closer to home so that they can keep an eye on you. Address this concern by being mature and immersing yourself more into work that gives them the confidence that you are not about to do anything behind their back.
Addressing what bothers them is a better way out rather than trying to convince them...as the same issues will keep coming back if you force them to accept something. So, be patient and responsible for things to sort themselves out...

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yes, family, reputation, society...all this do come up within many Indian marriages.
But the point is: as two adults how smartly you deal with the issue of inter-caste marriage with your parents, the disappointments that they will subject you to, how effectively your partner is able to strike a rapport with your parents and show them how and why he is right for their daughter...lot of work, yeah? But, well...if that's the way forward, then you both need to work on all this.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Bhagyashree,
Love is nice, Love is fun...
At 19 and 20, isn't that a phase where one focuses on studies, their careers. That's message enough for you...
Regarding marriage, I guess when you and your boyfriend show some maturity by working and becoming financially independent, there's a fair chance that your parents might at least be willing to see things the way you want them to...
Why would they agree to let you marry someone who's 20 and still has to stand on his own feet? And you too...
Of course, unless, he's someone who has come up with genuine ideas and is making good money as an entrepreneur. Girl, focus on what needs your focus and someday things may fall in place.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am very sorry to see you standing in such a difficult position. All I can suggest is to try and convince your parents to overlook the caste part and focus on the positives of your relationship like how happy he makes you, how you two are so committed to each other for so long, and other positive aspects of your partner- preferably a strong career and such. That is the only way to change their minds.

Going against a family's wishes can be very difficult. I hope things work out in the end.

Best Wishes.