Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help

Inter-Caste Relationship: Seeking Advice for Marriage Approval from Both Families

Ravi

Ravi Mittal  |630 Answers  |Ask -

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Oct 03, 2024

Ravi Mittal is an expert on dating and relationships.
He founded QuackQuack, an online dating platform, in 2010 with just two people. Today, it has over 20 million users in India.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Oct 03, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship

Dear mam. Im in relationship about 6 years .my caste is charys bc nd his caste sc. This is major role in my story . Full of tears in my eyes now present searching person for my marriage in my caste. I recently told my parents about love but they said to me forget him. But I can't I want to marry him with my parents nd his parents acceptance only....what can I do. Now

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am very sorry to see you standing in such a difficult position. All I can suggest is to try and convince your parents to overlook the caste part and focus on the positives of your relationship like how happy he makes you, how you two are so committed to each other for so long, and other positive aspects of your partner- preferably a strong career and such. That is the only way to change their minds.

Going against a family's wishes can be very difficult. I hope things work out in the end.

Best Wishes.
Asked on - Oct 07, 2024 | Not Answered yet
Really Thank you for suggesting sir ..me nd my love both are willing to do marrige only with my both families acceptance only. But in my family atleast they can't ready to listen my words about this words also only with your acceptance only we can go a head like that. If anything I want to start the matter they only used to talk like don't ruin my prestige in society nd my dad said if you do we are ready to die . But, They didn't know only for my family iam avoided that boy nd I stopped my feelings about him by thinking my parents happiness.but they didn't understand me that what is make me happy I'm really in depressed state know I'm in this position atleast I can't share my thoughts to my family. Atleast no choice to talk about love or marriage I didnt understanding my current situation.i think may be another someone trusted person or anyone can tell to my family about me nd my boy about they can't live happy if you won't accept .if you do marrige to your daughter with another some person she don't live happily she used to cry every day nd sacrifice her whole life only for you. Then May be my family can think about me ..... I know it is really very difficult in my home about castes .. iam really scared what happens to my parents when I reaveal my love matter to them. Iam really full of fear In that situation....

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Love Guru

Love Guru   | Answer  |Ask -

Relationships Expert - Answered on Apr 16, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship
Hi..I just saw your page and found this is the right page where I can get answer.. I am so confused and so my thoughts coming in my mind and noone in my life which I can tell. However, I found you hopefully you'll get my answer I want to marry with my partner but he is not earning as much and I'm also earning but we both started our career in 2023. And my parents wants I should get Marry with someone and he is searching. But I told my parents that I love someone but the issue is he is not from my caste that is not the big issue main issue is that my partner belongs from very nuclear family like his mother and sister is there and noone is there in his family and my parents also saying the boy is not earning a good salary and noone is there in his family how will you be happy and I don't think so he is good for you.. but my partner loves me so much he loves me till 6 years and he waited for me also. My question is that for getting a married is all this stuff matters ? My parents is arising so many questions somehow she denied..should I convince to my parents or they are saying right ??
Ans: The salary is not a problem, if he doesn’t have misplaced ego about his wife earning more than him; some men are broad-minded enough to even be proud of their wives earning more. Nor is caste; love has no fixed faith. But this nuclear family business is a red flag; I would strictly advice not living under the same roof with his mother and sister. There is bound to be friction. Then relations sour and your marriage gets strained. If he is willing to step out from under their shadow and live separately with you, and the money-making is not an issue for him, you’re making the right choice of partner. If either of the above is not realistic, I would suggest you stop trying to convince your parents and listen to what they have to say.

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1673 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 14, 2024

Listen
Relationship
hello ma'am I'm 27 independent girl . i want to marry my partner but my parents not agree due to intercaste i tried to convinced my mom last three year but she not agree and last month i told my father about him. he is not agree with my whole family denied to marry him because to caste. he is independent and his family dont have any issue regarding anything.my parents are said that they will not given their permission for intercaste marriage due to what people will say.because of my family have name in society. my partner family also have name in society. my elder cousin refuse to help me. from last 3 year i was so emotionally tried and sometime i dont want to live . he love me so much i dont want to lose him or cheat him .i dont want are relationship end like that. he never ever forgive me if i leave him.he waiting for me from last 4 years and in 4 years he is loyal with me. i dont understand what to do i feel heavyheartness and low .i can't sleep and eat ,forget things easily now i am exhausted all of this.please reply me as you can with best solution .
Ans: Dear Albatross,
Inter-religion marriages are still a taboo in society; so you are dealing with what has been normalized in society.
If you looking at your parents' approval, it may never happen. So decide how you want to go about it...Of course, you can try to patiently work with your parents and your partner. Think about how to get the two of them together so that your parents get a chance to meet him and interact with him.
Still, be prepared for things not to work out, but do make that humble attempt!
Make a decision that seems the best and stick with it...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: https://www.facebook.com/anukrish07/ AND https://www.linkedin.com/in/anukrishna-joyofserving/

..Read more

Kanchan

Kanchan Rai  |623 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 24, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 23, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship
Hi mam, I am in relationship with a guy who is from different caste. It's been three years but his family is not agreeing due to family status and intercaste. My family is ready as I am the eldest daughter of my family and unturned 30 this year. I have no time but he can't marry me without his parents concent. My family is searching a boy for my marriage. I can't marry with another guy. what shall I do to marry him to convince his family or what should he do his monther is so rigid. Please ???? support us what should we do? Two lives will be spoiled bcz of this. The only problem is upper and lower caste.
Ans: Navigating a relationship where cultural norms and family expectations conflict is challenging, but it's crucial to approach it with empathy and patience.
You're deeply committed to your partner despite the pressure from his family due to caste differences. While your family supports your marriage, his family, especially his mother, is firm in their opposition. You're also facing time constraints and societal pressure, making the situation urgent and stressful.
Your partner needs to have ongoing, respectful conversations with his parents, emphasizing your love and commitment. He should explain why you are the right person for him and how you positively impact his life. Understanding and addressing their specific concerns, whether they are about societal judgment or family honor, is crucial.
Sharing personal stories and demonstrating the depth of your bond can help his parents see beyond the caste issue. Highlighting your shared values and how you both support each other can make your relationship more relatable to them.
Seek help from a trusted family member or friend who can mediate and help his parents see the relationship from a new perspective. A respected family elder who has navigated similar challenges can also be influential.
Changing deep-seated beliefs takes time. Your partner should continue to gently and persistently show his parents that his happiness lies with you. Patience will be key as they may need time to adjust to the idea
Engage with support groups or counselors experienced in intercaste relationships. They can provide valuable advice and emotional support.
Discuss potential scenarios if his parents don’t approve. Consider whether options like elopement or giving them time to come around could work for both of you. These conversations should be open and honest to ensure mutual understanding.

Throughout this process, maintain strong communication and support each other emotionally. Navigating these challenges together will strengthen your bond and help you both find a path forward that honors your relationship and family ties.

..Read more

Latest Questions
Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10125 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 11, 2025

Career
Hello Sir, my son has got Chemical engineering in BITS Goa and Computer Engineering in DJ Sanghvi . Kindly advise what he should take and why
Ans: Akita Madam, BITS Goa’s Chemical Engineering program at the Pilani offshoot campus delivers the renowned BITS brand, UGC and NAAC ‘A’ accreditation, and a rigorous curriculum covering process engineering, thermodynamics, and advanced electives, supported by doctoral-qualified faculty. State-of-the-art, air-conditioned laboratories and a practice-school training model facilitate hands-on learning. Chemical students recorded an 83% placement rate for first-degree cohorts, securing roles with Shell, Dow, and Honeywell, and achieving average domestic packages of ?21.14 LPA and a median of ?17.65 LPA. Robust alumni networks and on-campus research centers in materials and biotechnology further enrich academic exposure.

Dwarkadas J. Sanghvi College’s NBA-accredited Computer Engineering branch in Mumbai offers a four-year software-centric curriculum, including data structures, systems design, and emerging domains like IoT and AI, delivered by industry-seasoned faculty. Modern computing labs and collaborative spaces underpin learning, while industry proximity enables frequent internships, guest lectures, and hackathons. CSE students achieved near-100% placement rates with median packages around ?11 LPA, recruited by JP Morgan, Infosys, and Google. A proactive placement cell and vibrant campus life complement academic rigor.

Both institutes feature robust infrastructure, personalized faculty support, active student services, and strong industry linkages, yet they target distinct career trajectories—process and chemical engineering versus software and IT roles. BITS Goa emphasizes specialized chemical research and global brand value, while DJ Sanghvi leverages Mumbai’s tech ecosystem for broader technology career pathways.

Recommendation: Opt for DJ Sanghvi’s Computer Engineering for its high?placement ecosystem, technology-driven curriculum, and Mumbai industry proximity. Choose BITS Goa Chemical Engineering if he is passionate about core process industries, values elite brand recognition, and seeks specialized research opportunities. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10125 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 11, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 10, 2025Hindi
Career
Sar my son got IIT Dhanbad civil he joined in IIT Dhanbad 2025 now he got isser Bhopal engineering science which is better to get a placement please tell me and which done we will take please give me suggestion
Ans: IIT Dhanbad's Civil Engineering program benefits from the IIT brand recognition and established industry connections, with approximately 55% placement rate for civil engineering students achieving median packages around 13 LPA. The institute maintains robust infrastructure, modern laboratories, and a strong alumni network spanning decades. However, civil engineering placements lag significantly behind other engineering branches, with only 26 out of 47 students securing placements in recent data. IISER Bhopal's Engineering Science program offers interdisciplinary exposure combining physics, chemistry, mathematics, and engineering principles with stronger research orientation. Recent placement statistics show 45 out of 239 students placed with median package of 19 LPA for BS-MS programs. IISER emphasizes research culture, international collaborations, and provides excellent foundation for higher studies with over 80% students typically pursuing PhD or advanced research. Both institutions offer quality infrastructure, experienced faculty, comprehensive student support systems, and active placement cells, but cater to different career trajectories - IIT Dhanbad for traditional engineering roles and IISER Bhopal for research and interdisciplinary science careers.

Recommendation: Choose IIT Dhanbad Civil Engineering for established brand value, traditional engineering career paths, and core infrastructure industry connections. Opt for IISER Bhopal Engineering Science if your son prefers research-oriented education, interdisciplinary learning, and potential for higher studies in cutting-edge scientific fields with emerging career opportunities. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10125 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Aug 11, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 10, 2025Hindi
Career
Can i do bds and bba (online) degree together?
Ans: Pursuing BDS alongside an online BBA degree is theoretically possible under the UGC's revised 2025 guidelines allowing students to pursue two academic programs simultaneously, provided class timings do not overlap. BDS is an intensive 5-year program requiring 4 years of classroom education plus 1 year of mandatory rotating internship, with 240 teaching days per academic year consisting of 8 working hours daily, totaling 5200 hours of lectures, practicals, and clinical training. The curriculum demands extensive hands-on clinical experience, patient interaction, and practical laboratory work across dental anatomy, pathology, surgery, orthodontics, prosthodontics, and community dentistry. Online BBA programs offer flexible schedules with typically 8-10 hours weekly commitment, self-paced learning through recorded lectures, and choice-based credit systems. UGC-approved institutions like Jain University Online, Manipal University, Amity Online, University of Mysore, and GITAM provide recognized online BBA degrees with dual specializations in marketing, finance, HR, and entrepreneurship. However, the demanding nature of BDS clinical rotations, hospital-based training schedules, patient care responsibilities, and extensive practical requirements would significantly challenge simultaneous pursuit of another degree. Time management becomes critical as BDS requires consistent physical presence for clinical training, laboratory work, and patient interactions, while online BBA demands dedicated study time for business concepts, case studies, and project submissions. The combination requires exceptional organizational skills, strong academic foundation, supportive infrastructure from both institutions, comprehensive student services including academic counseling, technical support for online platforms, and robust placement assistance for career development.

Recommendation: Consider pursuing online BBA only after completing BDS clinical years, as the intensive nature of dental clinical training makes simultaneous study extremely challenging. If determined to pursue both, ensure strong time management skills and institutional support systems are in place. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x