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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2025Hindi
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M 51 and she is 23 we met in office, we came up with relationship not totally of having sex but as attraction turned into love so many time like we kiss hug and caress each other but in My mind never thought about to have sex and sometimes she also was eager to have sex but she also denied later in office many of them had doubt of our relationship so some brain washed her mind and now she wants to end and she told me to discontinue as ahe factory and marriage can't be done as I m married with one kid, as also she has fear of her mother and family, ahe sometime says I got married and even now she wll get married to someone but end of this relationship but My feelings of truly love hurts me and I feel should I call her once and have sex so she will not think about ending relationship till marriage but My mind says it's wrong as I truly love her, what should I do to make her to stay or be with me as till she get married pls suggest I m in truly love can't able to sleep and too much stress became in My mind

Ans: First, she is 23 — very young, still forming her identity and values. You're 51, already married with a child. The relationship started in the context of attraction and care, but it now exists in a space of emotional imbalance and fear — not trust or possibility. She's not ending it because she doesn’t care about you; she's stepping back because she’s afraid of the consequences, societal pressure, and perhaps even the future she knows cannot unfold the way either of you may have wished.

You’re feeling pain and longing, and that’s human. But trying to convince her to stay by suggesting physical intimacy — especially when you yourself feel it’s not right — will only deepen the emotional conflict and guilt for both of you. Love doesn’t hold someone back just so we don’t feel the pain of their absence. True love honors freedom, even when it hurts.

Right now, the kindest thing you can do — for yourself and for her — is to accept that the relationship has reached a natural closure, however painful it may be. It’s not failure. It’s a sign that both of you must now return to your own paths.

If the emotional stress is unbearable — your sleep is affected, your thoughts are heavy — you may truly benefit from talking to a therapist or emotional wellness coach. Not because you’re weak, but because you deserve to heal in a healthy way.

You don't need to erase the love or the memories. But you do need to release the idea that you must hold on to her to keep yourself from breaking. You are capable of moving through this with dignity, and you deserve peace.

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I am 42 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 12yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some compulsion they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She told me that she loves me a lot is still waiting for me and doesn’t feel complete without me. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she dont want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a conditon to give our relationship a NAME in society. Everytimes she told me that she love me a lot and says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well. We shares everything with each other like husband-wife. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide.
Ans: Dear P,
This is a confused and confusing situation that you are in. Kindly do not confuse yourself any further. She might never be able to step out of her marriage and be with you. So, are you some kind of a 'spare' person? Are you willing to play a secondary role in someone's life when you have the chance to be the primary person in a well-defined relationship?
Being friends and supporting one another is one thing; but being in a relationship that has no structure invariably causes misunderstandings, anger, disappointments and more confusion.
When she is clear that she will stick by her marriage, let this be...why wouldn't you simply be a friend who also wants to create his own life.
It's nice to live in a fantasy world and assume that this kind of an engagement will work; it's far from the truth...You are worried about destroying her disturbed life; do look into what you are doing to your life as well. Chasing behind someone who is married and intends to be in it is like chasing a ghost that will never be seen or heard but will certainly cause anguish in some form to you.
Be wise, at 42, you still can build your life that is not dependent on someone else's emotions and boundaries. You deserve a good life; so create it.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 05, 2023Hindi
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I am 42 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 12yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some compulsion they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She told me that she loves me a lot is still waiting for me and doesn’t feel complete without me. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she dont want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a conditon to give our relationship a NAME in society. Everytimes she told me that she love me a lot and says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well. We shares everything with each other like husband-wife. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
She is married and not happy and loves you BUT will not recognize your relationship in public!
You are unmarried and want to wait for someone who won't give you the presence that you deserve!
Do the right thing...allow her to be committed to her marriage rather than be her emotional crutch...in the long run, you will be left high and dry after investing a lot of emotions into her...
Shift focus onto your life and building it the way that you want. When you put your life and emotions into someone else's hands, you end up becoming a puppet swaying about with no stability whatsoever. Put more energies into yourself instead...

All the best!

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I am 43 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 12yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some reason they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She told me that she loves me a lot and doesn’t feel complete without me. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she dont want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a conditon to give our relationship a NAME in society. Everytimes she told me that she love me a lot and says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well. We shares everything with each other like husband-wife. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It is refreshing to see someone so selfless as you. I understand and appreciate your love and how much you are ready to sacrifice for her. However, I would like to offer a suggestion – it's crucial to prioritize your own mental and emotional health in this situation. While it's unfortunate that she is dealing with challenges in her marriage, resorting to having an affair might not be the most constructive way to cope.

I suggest that she and her husband explore the option of seeking professional help through a marriage counselor. This could help them navigate the complexities of their relationship and make an informed decision about whether to continue their marriage or part ways. In case they decide to separate, it would be valid for you two to start a relationship and pursue a happy life together. But if they decide to remain married, I fear that you might end up sacrificing your own chance at a fulfilling love life. I realize that you might be okay with it, but it isn't fair to you.

I encourage you to have an open and honest discussion with her before committing to anything, ensuring that your feelings and well-being are also taken into account.

Best Wishes!

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I am 43 year old unmarried male . I loves someone from my childhood and she also loves me but because of her family she agrees and got married to someone else and now she had one 12yr child. After her marriage I never kept contact with her respecting her decision for her family and assuming that she is living a happy life But during Corona-2021 she contacted me and told me about her life where her husband is in relationship with other married woman and is giving everything to that lady as his wife. She told these to her parents but because of some reason they both discussed and decided to accept it and continue it the way as it is. She told me that she loves me a lot and doesn’t feel complete without me. She is honest in her married life but after these incident she dont want to live there but unable to exit because of family condition. She told me she loves me and need me above all and everything in life she wants me to remain with her like her life partner but because of some compulsion she is not in a conditon to give our relationship a NAME in society. Everytimes she told me that she love me a lot and says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well. We shares everything with each other like husband-wife. I am always there for her and will support her in all respect so that she became happy and lead a healthy life. But sometimes I feel that I shall come out from this as these will further destroy her disturbed life but at times I feel I don’t able to leave her and all I need is that she live a happy life and ready to do anything for these. What shall I do here? Please guide
Ans: Dear P,
This is undoubtedly a complex and emotionally challenging situation. It's important to approach it with care and consideration for both your feelings and hers. Reflect on your own feelings and desires. Consider what you want in a relationship and whether you can realistically achieve those goals in this situation Talk to her about your concerns, fears, and the impact this situation has on both of you. Discuss the future and what you both want. Ensure that you're on the same page about your expectations and the potential challenges that may arise Understand the potential consequences of continuing this relationship. Consider the impact on her family, your own well-being, and the well-being of any children involved. Be realistic about the challenges you may face. Consider the long-term implications of the relationship. If there is no possibility of it evolving into a more conventional partnership and that is something you desire, you may need to evaluate whether continuing the relationship is in your best interest Ultimately, the decision you make should align with your values, desires, and what you believe is best for your overall well-being. It may be a difficult decision to make, but taking the time to reflect, communicate, and seek guidance can help you navigate this challenging situation.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2025Hindi
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I am 46 years old..in a government job with salary in hand of 85k.I invest 9k in PFi 12.5 k each in PPFand sukanya samriddhi.My daughter is 13 at present.I pay 22k for HBLI invest 8k in SIP.will get around 10 k as rent of my flat. .I have a family floater where I pay 26k annually and an RD of 4K per month.My PPF Sukanya and PF as of now are all around 11lakhs.I will retire in 2039.I have a SBI life which is market linked priced at around 13.5 lakhs at present.It will mature in 2027.The outstanding loan amount of HBLis 7lakhs.where and how much should I invest to repay my loan as well as make investment for the future.
Ans: You have been thoughtful with your investments and savings. At this stage, clarity and right structuring are more important than increasing the number of investments.

Let us now look at your situation from a full 360-degree view and build a practical plan.

? Age, Income and Goals

– You are 46 now with 13 years left to retirement.
– Your in-hand salary is Rs 85,000 per month.
– You also receive Rs 10,000 monthly rent from your flat.
– So, your total regular cash inflow is Rs 95,000.
– Your daughter is 13 years old. Education and marriage are big upcoming expenses.
– Retirement planning is also a priority from now.

Time is limited, so every rupee must work smartly.

? Ongoing Financial Commitments

– You invest Rs 9,000 in PF (mandatory deduction).
– You invest Rs 12,500 in PPF and same in Sukanya Samriddhi.
– Your monthly EMI for home loan is Rs 22,000.
– You invest Rs 8,000 in SIPs.
– You pay Rs 26,000 per year as premium for family floater.
– You have an RD of Rs 4,000 monthly.

This shows a very good savings culture. But allocations need refinement.

? Existing Assets Summary

– PPF, PF, Sukanya total is around Rs 11 lakh.
– SBI Life (market-linked) value is Rs 13.5 lakh, maturing in 2027.
– You also own a house and earn Rs 10,000 rent from it.
– These are strong financial pillars to build upon.

You are not starting from scratch, which is a great position to be in.

? Loan Situation

– Outstanding loan is Rs 7 lakh on your home.
– EMI is Rs 22,000 per month.
– You have 13 years to close the loan before retirement.
– Ideally, loans should be cleared before retirement.

Let us see how to manage this smoothly.

? Cash Flow Evaluation

– Monthly inflow: Rs 85,000 salary + Rs 10,000 rent = Rs 95,000.
– Expenses + SIP + EMI + savings = around Rs 75,000–80,000 monthly.
– You may be left with Rs 15,000–20,000 buffer.

This buffer must be managed with purpose and not by chance.

? SBI Life Policy Assessment

– This is a market-linked insurance policy.
– Value now is Rs 13.5 lakh. Maturity is in 2027.
– These insurance cum investment plans often give lower returns.
– Better to surrender it after 2027 maturity.
– Reinvest the entire maturity amount into mutual funds.
– Do not renew or reinvest in another ULIP.

ULIPs are expensive and do not provide long-term value. Shift to mutual funds.

? Home Loan Repayment Planning

– Do not pre-close home loan in a hurry now.
– Keep regular EMI going from your salary.
– Instead, focus your extra savings to grow wealth.
– In 2027, when SBI Life matures, use Rs 2 lakh from it.
– Use that to make a part-payment of the home loan.
– This will reduce EMI burden in later years.

Target complete closure of loan by 2034 latest. Do not keep till retirement.

? Emergency Fund Requirement

– You must keep at least Rs 2 lakh in liquid form.
– This is not for investment. It is for protection.
– Use part of your RD and savings account for this.
– Stop RD if needed, and create emergency fund instead.

Without this, any sudden expense will force you into loans again.

? Child Education and Marriage Planning

– Your daughter is 13 now. Graduation in 5 years.
– Post-graduation and marriage will follow after that.
– Your Sukanya account and PPF help with this.
– But that alone is not enough. Add a goal-based SIP.
– Use regular plans of actively managed mutual funds.
– Avoid direct funds. Avoid index funds.

Regular plan SIPs with Certified Financial Planner help in review and changes.

? Why Avoid Index Funds and Direct Funds

– Index funds cannot manage downside risk.
– They fall when market falls. No protection strategy.
– They follow the index blindly without human guidance.
– Direct mutual funds look cheaper but offer no support.
– You won’t get regular review, asset allocation help or correction.
– Without expert guidance, direct funds underperform in long term.

A Certified Financial Planner with MFD support brings strategy and safety together.

? SIP Strategy Going Forward

– You already invest Rs 8,000 in SIPs.
– Continue this. Do not stop unless emergency arises.
– After 2027, increase this to Rs 12,000 or more.
– Use part of SBI Life maturity to start extra SIP.
– Use mutual funds that match your time horizon and goals.
– One SIP for daughter, one for retirement.

All new investments should be with specific targets in mind.

? Retirement Planning from Age 46

– You have 13 years left till retirement.
– PF and PPF will help, but are not enough.
– Inflation will reduce value of PPF corpus.
– Mutual funds offer better post-tax returns.
– Regular investing over next 13 years is critical.
– Increase SIP as your salary grows.

You must target financial independence before retirement. Not just pension dependency.

? Health Insurance and Risk Cover Review

– You have a family floater. That’s good.
– Check sum insured is at least Rs 10 lakh.
– Top it up if needed. Health costs rise each year.
– Also ensure you have term life insurance.
– Amount should be minimum 10 times your salary.
– Do not mix investment with insurance.

Protection planning is as important as wealth planning.

? Real Estate Holding – Just Maintain It

– You get Rs 10,000 rent monthly from your flat.
– That is good passive income. Do not sell this property.
– But avoid buying any more real estate.
– Maintenance, taxes and liquidity make real estate less attractive.
– Better to invest in mutual funds for flexibility and return.

More assets do not mean more wealth if they are not liquid.

? Income Use Plan from Now to Retirement

– 2024–2027: Focus on loan EMI, SIP and emergency fund.
– 2027: Use part of SBI Life maturity for loan part-payment.
– Rest of the money to be invested in SIP.
– 2027–2034: Increase SIP for retirement and daughter’s future.
– 2034: Plan to fully close home loan.
– 2035–2039: Save maximum possible in SIPs.

Clear path like this gives financial control and peace.

? Asset Diversification

– Avoid locking more in PPF or RD now.
– Keep PPF running, but don't increase contribution.
– Stop RD and move that money to SIP after emergency fund is ready.
– Avoid gold, crypto, or other complex assets.
– Just focus on simple, quality mutual fund SIPs in regular plan.

Simple, consistent approach wins over long term.

? Finally

– You are in a strong position due to early planning.
– But some parts need correction and better allocation.
– Use next 3 years to organise your finances more efficiently.
– Don't rush to pre-close loan unless there’s surplus.
– Reinvest the SBI Life maturity wisely.
– Avoid index funds, direct funds and real estate.
– Stick to regular plan mutual funds with guidance.
– Focus on specific goals – child education, marriage and your retirement.

Clear direction now will ensure peace later. You are very much on track.

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Hi Sir I have Purchased a Home which is Around 25L with all my Savings,M.funds. My Inhand Salary is 60,000/-, And Debt details are as follows Personal Loan- 2Lac Gold Loan - 2.25Lac From Relatives - 4.5Lac.(1yrear time taken) Now I am finding very difficulty to Save the money and tracking every Single Penny.. Kindly suggest me in this Case what to do.
Ans: Let’s carefully understand your financial position and work step-by-step to improve it. The current situation seems tight, but with the right planning, things can be managed well.

? Current Financial Snapshot

– Home purchased for Rs 25 lakh with your entire savings and mutual funds.
– No home loan, which is a good point. Property is fully owned.
– In-hand monthly salary is Rs 60,000.
– Existing debts include:

Rs 2 lakh personal loan

Rs 2.25 lakh gold loan

Rs 4.5 lakh borrowed from relatives
– You mentioned that you are struggling to save or track money.

This is a very common challenge in the early years of home ownership. Let’s take one step at a time.

? Cash Flow Stress Analysis

– Your monthly income is not matching with outflow due to EMI and regular expenses.
– Personal loan and gold loan EMIs may be high due to short repayment terms.
– You also have a moral obligation to return the amount to your relatives in 1 year.
– Your current cash outflows may be above 70% of your income.

This gap creates financial stress. We need to balance it.

? Immediate Focus: Create a Monthly Budget

– Write down every expense, even the smallest one.
– Break expenses into 3 parts: Must-Have, Flexible, and Avoidable.
– Must-Have: Rent (if any), groceries, child school fees, transport.
– Flexible: DTH, OTT, eating outside, non-essential shopping.
– Avoidable: Unused subscriptions, unplanned EMI purchases, gadgets.
– First target is to reduce the flexible and avoidable categories.

You must review this every 15 days. It will give clear spending awareness.

? Debt Prioritisation Strategy

– Start with the costliest loan: usually personal loans and gold loans.
– Try to close the personal loan first. Interest is normally very high.
– Next focus on gold loan, since delay may lead to loss of gold asset.
– Relative loan is at zero or low interest, repay slowly.
– Talk to relatives honestly and request 6 more months for comfort.

It’s okay to request this. Most families do understand.

? Use a Debt Avalanche Method (Without Calculation)

– Pay minimum EMI on all loans.
– Use any surplus to close highest-interest loan first.
– Then move to next high-interest loan.
– Do not try to repay all equally. That will not reduce total interest much.

Focused repayment brings mental peace.

? Emergency Fund Creation

– Right now, you don’t have any savings left.
– Without an emergency fund, any small expense will push you to borrow again.
– Start building a fund of at least Rs 30,000 to Rs 50,000 in a savings account.
– Set small goals like saving Rs 2,000 a month.
– Emergency fund is not for investments. It is for protection.

This step avoids future personal loan traps.

? Investments Can Wait – But Not Planning

– Do not start any SIP or investment now. Focus only on debt clearing and emergency fund.
– But track your expenses and income as if you are planning for a SIP.
– This mental discipline will help when you are actually ready to invest.
– Planning must begin today, investing can wait 6–9 months.

Clarity in numbers always comes before wealth creation.

? Role of Mutual Funds Later

– Once debts are cleared and emergency fund is ready, only then start investing.
– Go for actively managed mutual funds through Certified Financial Planner and MFD.
– Regular plans allow you to get guided review and handholding.
– Avoid direct plans unless you are trained in market analysis.
– Regular plans offer rebalancing, portfolio review and behavioural support.

Guided approach helps in emotional control during market changes.

? Why Not Index Funds

– Index funds may seem cheaper, but carry hidden risks.
– They cannot protect you during market crash.
– They blindly follow the index without risk filters.
– No scope for active management or downside protection.
– Actively managed funds give better returns in uncertain markets.

Safety with growth is key for salaried individuals like you.

? Income Expansion Attempts

– If possible, take small freelance work in weekends or evenings.
– Tutoring, online assistance, delivery work, or any skill-based work helps.
– Even Rs 3,000 extra income can fast-track loan closure.
– Don’t ignore small side income. Every rupee counts in debt management.

This step adds strength to your plan.

? Lifestyle Adjustments – Temporarily

– Pause all unnecessary spending like dining out, movies, and clothing for now.
– Stick to basic lifestyle until all high-interest debts are cleared.
– Use old phone, avoid gadgets, reuse clothes and accessories.
– Don’t feel bad. This phase is temporary and purposeful.

Short-term sacrifice brings long-term peace.

? Avoid These Mistakes

– Do not take another loan to repay existing loans.
– Don’t swipe credit cards for regular expenses.
– Avoid BNPL or EMI traps on online shopping.
– Don’t invest in gold or crypto now.
– Avoid insurance policies that combine investment and life cover.

Focus only on liquidity and debt reduction now.

? Family Support and Communication

– Speak with your spouse or parents honestly about current situation.
– Assign small responsibility to each family member.
– Even saving Rs 200 in electricity or food matters.
– Emotional support from family boosts financial discipline.

Unity brings faster solutions.

? Future Planning – Once Stable

– After debt closure, build 3 months' salary as emergency corpus.
– Then, set financial goals like retirement, children education, and vacations.
– Start SIP in 2-3 mutual funds under regular plan with guidance.
– Choose goals-based investing, not trend-based investing.
– Review goals every 6 months with a Certified Financial Planner.

Future planning needs structure, not trial and error.

? Insurance Check

– Ensure you have term life cover equal to at least 10x of your annual income.
– If you have ULIPs or traditional endowment plans, review them with a CFP.
– Surrender if needed and shift to mutual funds for long-term wealth.
– For health, minimum Rs 5 lakh cover is needed for family.

Insurance is protection, not investment.

? Mental Framing for Money Success

– Stop comparing lifestyle with others.
– Avoid social media-based spending urges.
– Be content and frugal for next 1–2 years.
– Celebrate small financial wins – like repaying one EMI early.
– Keep reminding yourself – this is a phase, not forever.

Discipline is more powerful than any investment plan.

? Finally

– You have already done one good thing – bought a house without a home loan.
– This is your foundation. Now your job is to build peace and liquidity.
– Cut expenses, increase income, repay loans smartly.
– Say no to lifestyle pressure and wrong investment traps.
– Once you are stable, mutual fund investment under regular plan will guide your growth.

Keep moving step by step. You are already on the path.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Sir CSE in BITS if to choose between goa and hyderabad then whivh one should we opt for and why ? We have git hyderbad and will get Goa if done freeze the option in preference
Ans: Sharma, Both BITS Goa and BITS Hyderabad offer excellent Computer Science and Engineering programs with identical curriculum, faculty standards, and degree credentials under BITS Pilani. BITS Goa (established 2004) provides a picturesque 188-acre campus with pleasant weather, strong cultural festivities including the renowned Waves festival, and slightly higher placement consistency with First Degree placements at 91.15% in 2023. The campus features modern computing labs, proximity to beaches, and a vibrant social atmosphere. BITS Hyderabad (established 2008) offers a sprawling 200-acre campus with state-of-the-art infrastructure, modern laboratories, and excellent connectivity to Hyderabad's IT ecosystem. The campus recorded First Degree placements at 87.23% in 2023 with strong industry partnerships. Both campuses maintain similar median packages around ?17-18 LPA and attract identical top recruiters including Google, Microsoft, Amazon, and other leading firms. The Practice School program and academic rigor remain consistent across both locations, ensuring comparable educational quality and career outcomes.

Recommendation: Choose BITS Goa if you prioritize pleasant weather, cultural vibrancy, scenic beauty, and slightly better placement consistency; opt for BITS Hyderabad if you prefer state-of-the-art modern infrastructure, proximity to India's IT hub, and enhanced industry exposure opportunities within a rapidly growing tech ecosystem. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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