My wife had an affair before marriage.
She did not tell me about it.
After marriage, when I asked her, she admitted it but said she had no feelings for him any more.
How can I trust her when she did not tell me before marriage?
Should I divorce her?
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Hello My wife has affair before marriage, she has reveal her self, the relation ship has done before 2019, she said she has not having any physical relation ship, she has trusted me and revealed it, but this matters bothering me. what to do?

I have been married from last 20 years. It's arrange marriage and before marriage told me let she had an affair with a har college friend dena hai asked that if any relation physical relation has been done she said no I trusted her and married her but after 4 years of marriage I am notice that she didn't paid any attention or don't love me I always thought that there are some mistakes from my side that's why she behave like this . From last 16 years I was suffering from the situation. Recently I come to know when I saw her mobile accidentally and I come to know that she has the same affair from last 16 years with the same guy when I ask about this she told me that it was by mistake I am sorry I won't do this again after some pressureise she also told me that she did a physical relation with him before marriage and after marriage too. I was shocked cause physically I am fit and capable to satisfy her with all the way still she cheated me. Now she confess me all the things and told me promise me that she won't do any mistake henceforth. But no problem is whenever I am trying to get physical or emotional with her some thoughts in my mind game that she did all the things with another guy and cheating me so I can't make any relation ship with her. How can I trust her again we have to kids 10 year each. Please tell me what to do I am frustrated

I forgot to tell you that I already have confronted her and she admitted her affair but lied that it was for last 6 years only. She promised me to end her relation with her lover. I don't know if she is still keeping her communication with him.My question to you is that if a wife could cheat her loyal and completely dedicated husband for so many years can I ever trust her? I proposed her to marry her lover but she denied saying that he is good as a friend but not fit to be a husband. I understand that she likes me as a provider but loves him from her heart. If she had love and respect for me she could never have betrayed me ,that too for 12 years. Can I lead rest of my life with an infidel woman whom I cannot trust and respect any more? I accidentally came to know her affair with her lover, I would never know if she had or has multiple lovers over the stretch of 25 years of married life. Advise me sensibly keeping it a secret.