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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 20, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 20, 2024Hindi
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Kanchan mam, I feel underappreciated at work. I have been working in this IT research company for 4 years now. No promotion, no increment or bonus. My manager doesn't have the time or feel the need to train me or share feedback. I feel like I am underutilised here and I am always questioning my abilities. How can I get over this phase? What do you suggest I do?

Ans: It's understandable to feel frustrated and undervalued in your current work situation. Schedule a meeting with your manager to discuss your concerns. Express your desire for more challenging work, feedback on your performance, and opportunities for growth within the company. Be specific about what you're looking for and how you believe it will benefit both you and the company.If your manager is unable to provide regular feedback, consider seeking it from other colleagues or mentors within the company. Their perspective can help you gain a better understanding of your strengths and areas for improvement Define your career goals and discuss them with your manager. This can help align your work with your long-term objectives and demonstrate your commitment to professional development.Look for opportunities to take on new responsibilities or projects that interest you. This can demonstrate your value to the company and showcase your skills and capabilities.Consider taking courses or certifications to enhance your skills and stay current in your field. This can make you more valuable to your employer and increase your confidence in your abilities.If you feel that your current job is not meeting your needs, consider exploring other opportunities within or outside the company that align better with your career goals and values.
Remember to approach these steps with a positive attitude and a willingness to take action. By proactively addressing your concerns, you can take control of your career and work towards a more fulfilling professional life.

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Hi Mayank,I was going through this article Struggling with your career? and it prompted me to write this email.I am Kalpesh Desai, aged 45, working with an MNC as project manager in Mumbai.I feel I have reached a kind of dead-end and am unable to crack that due to office politics, coupled with my inability to say ‘Yes boss’ everywhere and my poor marketing skills as far as my own work is concerned.I am bad at speaking lies and I am process oriented. This just adds to my woes.I feel I end up being used without getting recognised.Changing jobs seems to be easy option but does not guarantee a better situation in future jobs. Kindly share insights on how to come out of this.Warm regards,Kalpesh Desai
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Dear Kalpesh,

Many of us face this situation in this stage of our careers.

It’s something I have faced as well.

I can share what I have learnt from my experience; I hope it will help you.

1. Reinvent yourself. Upgrade your competencies; take up some courses in your field from a reputed institute.

2. Set clear goals and expectations with your manager. You don't have to be a 'yes man', but you must be aligned with the goals of your manager and the organisation at large.

3. Have a career discussion with your manager. Clearly express what you are looking for in your career and what help you need from the management.

4. Move out of your core area of functioning. For example, you could move from project management to analytics, strategy or even sales.

5. Ensure that you have a good financial plan to secure the future of your family.

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi Sir , I have been working in a company for 3 years as Relationship Manager and that company is not given me appraisal since last 3 years , however , Performance is Good so please tell me what should I do that and I have already spoke to Higher senior management, not solution yet.
Ans: It can be quite disheartening to not receive an appraisal despite good performance and consistent efforts. Here are some steps you can consider taking:

Document Your Performance: Keep a record of all your achievements, targets met, and any positive feedback from clients or colleagues. This will help you build a case for your appraisal.
Request a Formal Meeting: Schedule a formal meeting with your HR department or manager to discuss your concerns. Present your documented performance and ask for specific reasons for the lack of appraisal.
Understand the Policy: Ensure you understand the company’s appraisal policy. Sometimes, appraisals may be tied to factors beyond individual performance, such as company-wide financial constraints.
Seek Feedback: Ask for constructive feedback on your performance. There may be areas of improvement that you’re unaware of, which could be affecting your appraisal.
Explore Internal Opportunities: Sometimes, moving to a different department or taking on new responsibilities can lead to recognition and appraisal.
Consider External Options: If you feel your growth is being stifled, it may be worth exploring opportunities outside your current company.
Professional Advice: Consider seeking advice from a career coach or mentor who can provide an objective perspective and suggest further actions.
Remember, it’s important to approach this situation professionally and to seek a resolution that aligns with your career goals. Good luck!

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My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

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My son will be appearing for JEE Main & JEE Advanced 2026 and will participate in JoSAA Counselling 2026. I request clarification regarding the GEN-EWS certificate date requirement for next year. I have already applied for an EWS certificate for current year 2025, and the application is under process. However, I am unsure whether this certificate will be accepted during JoSAA 2026, or whether candidates will be required to submit a fresh certificate for FY 2026–27 (issued on or after 1 April 2026). My concern is that if JoSAA requires a certificate issued after 1 April 2026, students will have only 1–1.5 months to complete the entire procedure, which is difficult considering normal government processing timelines. Also, during current JEE form filling, students are asked to upload a GEN-EWS certificate issued on or after 1 April 2025, or an application acknowledgement. This has created confusion among parents regarding which year’s certificate will finally be valid at the time of counselling. I request your kind guidance on: Which GEN-EWS certificate will be accepted for JoSAA Counselling 2026 — a certificate for FY 2025–26 (issued after 1 April 2025), or a new certificate for FY 2026–27 (issued after 1 April 2026)?
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You need not worry about the EWS certificate. Even if you apply for the next year's certificate on 1 Apr 2026, the second session of JEE MAINS will still be held, followed by JEE ADVANCED, which will be held in May. JOSAA starts in June. so you will have 2 months in hand for fresh EWS certificate.

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