im in a long relation ship with my girl friend 10 years . I want to marry her but some cast issue against them. how can we resolve that problem.

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Dear TG,

At this point, what is missing for you possibly is if after the wait, if she will still be there in the relationship?

If she isn’t willing to complicate her family life at this point in time, I guess she has valid reasons for that which must be respected.

But what If the two of you sit down where you can put down your feelings and find an amicable way of easing this.

I am sure there are a lot of ifs and buts that is making you feel the way that you are. It is only imperative that you called out to her and be firm and assertive as to how this might be playing in your mind.

For all you know, once she hears your side of the story and she shares hers, solutions emerge from that especially when the commitment is strong.

So, have that one meaningful conversation where feelings, fears and insecurities are shared and watch how the two of you will come up with something wonderful as a solution.

All the best!

Ans: It can be challenging when families do not approve of a relationship due to age differences or other factors. However, it's important to remember that ultimately, the decision to enter into a relationship and get married is a personal one that should be based on the feelings and desires of the two people involved.

It's important to continue to communicate openly and honestly with your girlfriend and her parents about your feelings and intentions. Try to listen to their concerns and address them in a respectful and thoughtful way. It may also be helpful to enlist the support of a neutral third party, such as a family counselor or mediator, who can help facilitate a productive conversation between you and your girlfriend's parents.

However, it's also important to recognize that ultimately, you cannot control the decisions of others. If your girlfriend's parents continue to disapprove of the relationship, it may be necessary to consider whether the relationship is sustainable in the long term. It's important to consider not only your feelings for each other, but also the practical realities of your situation and whether you can build a fulfilling and happy life together despite any external challenges.

Ultimately, it's up to you and your girlfriend to decide what is best for your relationship and your future. It may be helpful to continue to work on building a strong foundation of trust, communication, and mutual support, regardless of the outcome with her parents.

Ans: Dear Pawan,
Kindly respect her decision even if it seems to be something that she is doing for her parents. If she was strong enough, she might have told them much earlier but she chose not to.
And for her to suggest continuing the relationship after marriage only suggests that she wants the best of everything. Understand the consequences of this request of hers; being connected with a married woman is to cause a mess in her life and yours as well.
Let her move on with her life and kindly move on to make yours as well. You deserve a shot at being happy, so choose that.
Rebuild your life as she moves on with hers. This will simplify and clarify your life and make you feel more settled:)

All the best!

Ans: Divorce is a situation and not a label...sad to learn that the parents are not accepting this relationship. How about the girl sit her parents down, have them ask her questions about you and both your future...and she responds to them without getting angry or being emotional. She needs to tell her parents that just as they are a priority so are you and she wishes to have them and you in her life. In honesty she has to decide what to do....wishing you the best.