Asked on - Aug 23, 2022Listen
When you don’t value yourself, why expect anyone to value you?
Thinking of attempting to take your life just because of a failed relationship only means that your life is always in someone else’s hands.
Obviously, your earning capacity is the way it is as you are not working to your full potential.
How can you with the way you think about yourself!
Your life is important and it counts. Value it; love yourself more.
Indulge in some hobby and treat your friends the way you want them to treat you. And if you feel that people act good with you only to take advantage of you, ask yourself if you are giving them your full attention while you are with them.
Time to stop pitying yourself, smile a lot, reassure yourself that this moment is a new beginning and most importantly: Love yourself even more.
All the best!
Asked on - May 16, 2022
Read this sentence that you have written:
“Even when he was with the girl he used to come to my house every Saturday and go on dates with that girl on Sundays.”
Do you not feel used and powerless?
How are you able to allow someone to treat you in such a disrespectful manner?
Did the two of decide to become friends and support one another in your respective relationships, like the way you stood by and watched him date this other girl while he walked into your life seeking approval?
Open your eyes please. The other girl is no longer in his life and he wails and comes back to you and now you are wondering what you should be doing?
If this was your sister or a best friend going through the same thing, will you tell them to put up with this toxic behaviour or will you ask them to take charge of their lives?
Will you tell them to love themselves more and reclaim their power or wait meekly to pick up scraps as and when the guy threw them around?
Stand up for yourself girl; at least he will think before trying this game with another girl.
Do the right thing by just being YOU and loving yourself more.
All the best!
Asked on - Apr 21, 2022Listen
He’s just in the playing field, trying out new things and experimenting.
You are possibly looking at a commitment which I am unsure of whether he is ready for it!
When you say that you are in a relationship, are you a couple or have you been simply hanging out together for the sake of being in each other’s company?
Relationship has a different meaning for each person. For some it’s being together and hanging out, for some till they are asked out, they don’t consider it a relationship.
So, please have a chat with him as to whether he wishes to be serious or not, is he looking for a long-term commitment or not.
When he digs deep for answers, he will also understand his mind space better, and it will give you a clear indication as to where this is all headed.
Till then all you will be doing is fixing and repairing his playing field.
All the best!
Asked on - Apr 13, 2022Listen
Straight and upfront; how much do you want to make this marriage work?
Do you feel he wants to be in this marriage as well?
Are you being a convenient façade for him to be the loving married husband with a child and then go behind your back to another woman?
Are you allowing yourself to be blackmailed into suppressing your doubts about him so that he will still be in the marriage?
What you can do further is bring in a neutral person to bring his ‘floating on the sky party’ to the ground.
His immaturity at not being able to be a father to his child at the time when his wife needs his emotional support needs to be addressed.
Ask an elder member to step in and bring some much needed sense into him so that there is an effort put into bringing you and him on the talk table for a much needed conversation to set things right.
You can do this, remember, you are a woman and now a mother who is strong and knows what she wants.
Step in and take charge and never allow yourself to be cowed down by anyone.
Be YOU and all the best!