Iam 27 years girls and iam in love with the guy past 9years and iam very true to him and now he is saying he dnt have love with me any more but he's saying that he will marry me.. what should i do in this case

Ans: You have a choice (1) to be miserable and wait for someone not caring or (2) move on, heal yourself and then find someone who cares for you as much as you do for them.

Ans: My Dear Nikita,

It sounds like you have been in a challenging situation for some time, where you have been sacrificing your values and thoughts for your partner, and he has been disrespecting you with his words and behavior. It's important to remember that no one deserves to be treated with disrespect in a relationship.

It's understandable that it hurts to think about leaving the relationship, especially after investing so much time and effort into it. However, you need to prioritize your own well-being and happiness, and it seems like this relationship is not fulfilling that for you.

It's important to have a clear and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. Let him know that his behavior has been hurtful, and that you cannot accept his condition of not working after marriage. It's important to communicate your boundaries and what you need from the relationship.

If he is not willing to respect your boundaries and make changes to improve the relationship, it may be time to consider ending it. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you are respected, valued, and your needs are met. It may be difficult, but prioritizing your own well-being is important for your long-term happiness.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear that you are going through such a tough time. I understand that it must be hard to move on after putting so much effort into building a relationship for nine years. But if there are threats of harm involved in it, I have no other advice than to inform your parents about the same and keep a safe distance. I am sure your partner has tried his best but looking into everyone's best interest, keeping your distance for the time being seems like the best option right now. You can ask your parents to talk to his parents; if they still continue to threaten you, as any well-wisher, I would be forced to ask you to reconsider the relationship.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

If he is not sure about the relationship, maybe it's time you have a serious discussion with him. Ask him once and for all, what are his intentions. Don't let him turn this on you with "you will find better guys." If he says so, let him know that that's your concern, not his; ask him to clearly state his plans- does he want to take this relationship ahead and get married or is he confused? If he isn't sure about you, I don't see why you would want to stick to him still. I understand it isn't easy to leave someone you have loved for so long, but a long relationship does not equate to a healthy and happy one. Please think about your future, and understand your worth.

Best Wishes.