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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Tanya Question by Tanya on Mar 24, 2023Hindi
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Hii, mam i love a guy since 8th i used to propose hum he accepted but after a year due to his personal issues he left the school but when I was in my graduation we again connected again and now it been three years we talked to each every day in beginning he used to talk with me very nicely and i feel lobe from his side but now in these days he don't even talk with me seems he look frustrated with me and wants to get rid out of this relationship despite i don't know still why i love him that much I cried for him but now he never cared of this .. what should I do??

Ans: You have a choice (1) to be miserable and wait for someone not caring or (2) move on, heal yourself and then find someone who cares for you as much as you do for them.

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Hello Mam ! Mam I don’t know if I have right to ask you this cause Iam still 17 ! Mam Iam Seetha ..I have completed my inter 2nd year and I am preparing for Neet 2023 and Yes I am least confident about my first attempt so I’ll be preparing for Neet 2024 to ! There is a boy whom I know him since 5th class but we were close to each other from 9th class ….. but like a good friend and 4 months ago he proposed me and I slowly fell in love with him !!! He is a good guy he respects me a lot and he respects everyone …from past one month we were very close and we met several times ….. He is a guy who respects my time and his time he don’t have obsession like I have for him ….I always force him to stay or talk bit longer and he felt like I won’t respect his time and Said Iam a person who won’t understand his efforts he puts for us and he said 10 days ago that we should be away for a year so that concentrate on ourself and he said to that I should change to a mature person …and he blocked me everywhere but I refused but I done it I mean neither we talked or chatted with each other for 5 days but after few days I called him from other number and he know that and unblocked me so we spoke to each other ! He said that we should be apart for our self but then again he said we should have been friends only but whatever happened is happened now we can’t do anything he said ! I asked him that be true and if you want to ask for a break up you can buy he said no I want you and I don’t want to leave you … and yeah mam he never tried to be physical with me …only I was and for this he sayid that I never understand him and etc etc and said that I just loved him physically not truely and that broke my heart ! But I don’t know what I should do now ? He said this is test for us that will our love be the same for one year ? But then again few days ago We talked to each other and that to I started first …yesterday as a friend we were talking and he said he wrote a poem and I asked for whom u wrote this he said For my ex …he said that if she comes again then he will accept and I was really confused 😐…And we had a huge fight he felt bad and I too but lastly I said sorry and today he asked for a break up and I said I won’t repeat my behaviour gain and I asked for last chance so that I could change from childish behaviour to a mature girl as he likes … Now you please say me mam that what should be done ? Should I have to stay away from him temporarily until I get changed to a better person as he wants or should I break up with him since he said we should have been frnds only ! What should I do mam ? Kindly please reply me as fast as you could mam !!! 😕
Ans: Its important you focus on 2 things for now - (1) your self esteem and your confidence & (2) your education and career. Once you are financially independent is when you can think of a serious relationship - all the best.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 27, 2023Hindi
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Hi I am working in an compnay since 4 yrs i had and friendship with my senior and he ia married but staying alone. His family was at native place. We both r maaried and we know about we had family but now we are in relationships since 3 years. As his family was not here i helped him in every manner in covid situtation. We know pur priority is family first. But since his family is here from one year last. He has stopped chatting talking to me. Only we are mostly having one side fight. He is now feeling irritation in talking to me normally also. During my job i m doing better than also everytime he feels irritated. I dont know what to do. Now he is saying he dont have time. He dont want to leave me. But stopped everything's. Only when he needs help he speaks to me or replies to message. I dont want to leave my job nor complaint to someone. What shoul i do dont understand. I have ensured him that i dont want him also to leave his family. Nor i want to leavemy family. I m confused what to do. I have done everything for him and now he has forgot evething. He says he love me he dont want to leave me. But at this situtation what should i do.
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It's important to approach this with sensitivity and consideration for everyone involved. Understand that his family is a significant part of his life, and he may need time to adjust to the changes. Respect his commitments and responsibilities towards his family. Think about the long-term implications of the relationship. Consider whether it's sustainable in the current circumstances and whether it aligns with your personal values and priorities. Take some time to reflect on your own feelings and the dynamics of your relationship. Consider whether this situation is bringing you happiness and fulfillment, or if it's causing you distress. Establish clear boundaries in your relationship to ensure that both of you are comfortable and that these boundaries are respected. If he is feeling overwhelmed or stressed with the recent changes in his family situation, it might be helpful to give him some space. Encourage open communication make sure you both are on the same page about the nature of your relationship and the level of communication you both desire.Be prepared for the possibility that the relationship may need to change or come to an end. Reflect on your own priorities and boundaries. Ensure that your relationship doesn't negatively impact your personal and professional life. It's essential to maintain a healthy balance and focus on your own well-being. While this can be difficult, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and the well-being of everyone involved.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 27, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 19, 2024Hindi
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Sir, I am 40 years old banker. Earlier my wife was also working. My monthly salary is 1.50 lacs. I am planning to retire at 45 yrs age. I have twin children of 2 years age. All the below are savings of mine and my wife. We have property of 3 cr. Shares of 15Lacs, Mutual Funds of 23 Lacs. Fixed deposit 10 Lacs. NPS Amount 27 Lacs at present. Monthly contribution to NPS is 25000 ( employer + employer). Pension from NPS will start at 60 age. We have rental income of 60000 which will also increase with time. I will also get some heritage property of 2-3 cr. My monthly SIP is 40000. My current liabilities are a home loan of 37 Lacs. My monthly exp are 70000. I have not included here the expense of children education which I believe must not be more than 40000 yearly. Please advise how should I plan my retirement.
Ans: You have built a strong financial base. Your steady income, savings, and assets reflect disciplined financial planning. Let us analyse your situation and provide a comprehensive retirement plan.

Income Sources and Assets
Salary and Rental Income
Your monthly salary is Rs 1.5 lakhs.
Rental income of Rs 60,000 adds to your cash flow.
Rental income will likely increase over time.
Existing Investments
Shares worth Rs 15 lakhs provide growth potential.
Mutual funds of Rs 23 lakhs offer a diversified growth avenue.
Fixed deposits of Rs 10 lakhs provide stability and liquidity.
NPS corpus of Rs 27 lakhs ensures long-term pension security.
Property
Your property portfolio is valued at Rs 3 crores.
Additional heritage property of Rs 2–3 crores will add future value.
Liabilities
Outstanding home loan of Rs 37 lakhs is manageable.
EMI payments are part of your monthly expenses.
Analysing Your Retirement Plan
Target Retirement Age
You aim to retire at 45, giving five more working years.
Pension income from NPS starts at age 60.
You need to bridge the 15-year gap between retirement and NPS payouts.
Current Expenses
Monthly expenses are Rs 70,000, excluding children’s education.
Annual education expenses of Rs 40,000 are expected to rise gradually.
Retirement Corpus Requirement
Considering inflation, your post-retirement expenses will increase.
You need a large retirement corpus to sustain expenses for over 40 years.
Recommendations for a 360-Degree Plan
Maintain Emergency Liquidity
Keep Rs 10–12 lakhs in liquid funds for emergencies.
Ensure this fund covers at least 12 months of expenses.
Focus on Wealth Creation
Continue SIP investments of Rs 40,000 monthly.
Increase SIP contributions annually with salary increments.
Invest in actively managed mutual funds for better returns than index funds.
Maximise NPS Contributions
Continue your Rs 25,000 monthly NPS contributions.
This ensures a growing retirement corpus with employer contributions.
Partial Loan Prepayments
Use surplus funds to reduce the principal of your home loan.
This will lower the interest burden and free up cash flow.
Retirement Corpus Strategy
Pre-Retirement Investments
Allocate new investments to high-growth instruments like equity mutual funds.
Avoid locking funds in fixed-income instruments at this stage.
Diversify across funds with strong track records and managed by qualified professionals.
Post-Retirement Cash Flow
Use rental income of Rs 60,000 to cover a portion of your expenses.
Withdraw from mutual fund investments systematically to bridge gaps.
Ensure a balance between withdrawals and corpus growth.
Heritage Property Utilisation
Consider income generation from heritage property, such as rent.
Avoid selling the property unless absolutely necessary.
Children’s Education Planning
Start a dedicated SIP for children’s higher education.
Invest in child-specific plans with a high equity allocation for growth.
Review the education fund annually to ensure alignment with goals.
Tax Efficiency
Optimising Investments
Choose mutual funds offering tax benefits under Section 80C.
Long-term capital gains on mutual funds are taxed at 12.5% above Rs 1.25 lakhs.
Short-term capital gains are taxed at 20%.
NPS Tax Benefits
Claim deductions for NPS contributions under Section 80CCD(1) and 80CCD(2).
Avoid Common Pitfalls
Avoid Large Real Estate Investments
Real estate is illiquid and requires high capital.
Focus on financial instruments for better flexibility and returns.
Avoid Direct Equity Risks
Invest in equity through professionally managed funds.
This ensures better risk management and consistent growth.
Do Not Ignore Inflation
Plan for higher living costs post-retirement due to inflation.
Regularly review and adjust your investments to combat inflation.
Final Insights
Retiring at 45 is achievable with disciplined planning. Focus on creating a robust retirement corpus and managing cash flow efficiently. Ensure a balance between growth-oriented investments and stable income sources. Review your financial plan annually to align with changing needs and market conditions.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir, I am 31 years old, my monthly salary is 70 thousand. I have a existing home loan around 1986000 with ROI 9.25% for 29years. and till now through SIP I have invested 5 Lac and I keep liquid fund 2.5 Lac. My current balance including all SIP and liquid fund 9 Lac. I need a advise from you that I should repay my home with this 9 Lac or I should continue investing as SIP and continue EMI and repay homeloan as 1 or 2 EMI Extra in a year.
Ans: At 31, you have a strong financial foundation. Your disciplined SIP investments, liquid funds, and home loan management are appreciable. Let’s assess your options to help you make the best decision.

Analysing Your Current Financial Situation
Existing Home Loan
Your outstanding home loan of Rs 19.86 lakhs has a tenure of 29 years.
The interest rate is 9.25%, which impacts your long-term cash flow.
The EMI will consume a consistent portion of your salary over the years.
SIP Investments
You have already invested Rs 5 lakhs through SIPs.
Regular investments in SIPs help in wealth accumulation and compounding returns.
Your monthly SIPs are likely aligned with your financial goals.
Liquid Funds
You hold Rs 2.5 lakhs in liquid funds.
This provides a buffer for emergencies or short-term needs.
Options to Consider
Option 1: Use Rs 9 Lakhs to Prepay the Loan
Prepaying the loan can reduce the principal significantly.
This reduces the overall interest burden and loan tenure.
However, this locks your funds into a low-return liability.
Option 2: Continue SIPs and Pay Extra EMIs Annually
Continue your SIP investments for higher long-term returns.
Paying 1–2 extra EMIs yearly can reduce the tenure significantly.
This approach balances wealth creation and liability management.
Option 3: Split Funds Between Prepayment and Investments
Use a portion of Rs 9 lakhs for partial prepayment.
Invest the remaining amount in SIPs or other high-return instruments.
This ensures debt reduction and continued wealth growth.
Evaluating Return on Investment
Home Loan Interest vs SIP Returns
Your home loan interest rate of 9.25% is a guaranteed expense.
Equity SIPs typically yield higher returns, averaging 12–15% annually.
Investing in SIPs could create wealth faster than prepaying the loan.
Tax Benefits on Home Loan
You may claim tax deductions on home loan interest and principal.
Prepaying reduces the tax-saving benefits.
Recommended Approach
Maintain Emergency Liquidity
Retain Rs 2.5 lakhs or more in liquid funds.
This ensures financial stability during unforeseen situations.
Focus on SIP Investments
Continue SIPs to benefit from long-term compounding.
Increase your SIP contributions gradually with salary increments.
Make Partial Prepayments
Use a portion of Rs 9 lakhs for partial prepayment.
Aim to reduce the principal significantly to lower interest outflows.
Pay Extra EMIs
Commit to paying at least 2 extra EMIs annually.
This reduces your loan tenure and interest burden effectively.
Avoid Common Pitfalls
Do Not Over-Allocate to Loan Prepayment
Avoid locking all your funds into loan repayment.
This limits your liquidity and investment potential.
Avoid Real Estate Investments
Real estate involves high costs, illiquidity, and uncertain returns.
Stick to diversified mutual funds or equity investments instead.
Maintain Disciplined Financial Planning
Ensure a balanced approach between debt reduction and wealth creation.
Review your financial goals annually for necessary adjustments.
Final Insights
Your financial journey is off to a great start. Continue with SIP investments to maximise long-term growth. Use surplus funds for partial loan prepayments and extra EMIs to manage your debt efficiently. Balancing both strategies will ensure a secure financial future and help you achieve your goals effectively.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

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www.holisticinvestment.in
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 27, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 11, 2024
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51 years old , I am started 25000 rs investment in mutual fund from last year , presently two houses one loan of rs 40 lakhs and 1/2 kg gold and 35lakhs fd, and 1 open plot of worth 65Lakhs my daughter is studying B.E and son 9th is it effoungh for my retirement.Lic of rs 5000.rs.per month.
Ans: At 51, you are building a good foundation for retirement. Let us evaluate your current situation and provide actionable insights to strengthen your plan.

Current Financial Assets
Mutual Funds: A monthly SIP of Rs. 25,000 started last year is a strong beginning.

Real Estate: You own two houses and an open plot worth Rs. 65 lakhs.

Fixed Deposits (FDs): You have Rs. 35 lakhs in FDs for stability.

Gold: Possession of 1/2 kg of gold adds diversification to your portfolio.

Insurance: A LIC premium of Rs. 5,000 monthly ensures some financial protection.

Loan: You have a Rs. 40 lakh home loan that requires regular servicing.

Strengths in Your Portfolio
Asset Diversification: Your portfolio includes real estate, mutual funds, gold, and fixed deposits.

Children’s Education: You are well-placed to support their higher education expenses.

Steady Investments: The SIP ensures consistent contributions towards wealth creation.

Areas for Improvement
Mutual Fund Investments
Expand Your SIP Contributions: Rs. 25,000 monthly may need an increase to meet retirement goals.

Focus on Active Funds: Actively managed funds can deliver higher returns than index funds over time.

Disadvantages of Index Funds: Index funds lack adaptability during market fluctuations, limiting growth potential.

Use Regular Plans Through CFP: Regular funds ensure expert guidance, tax efficiency, and consistent monitoring.

Real Estate
Low Liquidity: Real estate may not offer quick access to cash during emergencies.

Maintenance Costs: Real estate requires ongoing expenses, reducing its overall profitability.

Fixed Deposits
Inflation Risk: FD returns are lower and may not match inflation rates.

Better Alternatives: Consider debt funds for higher post-tax returns.

LIC Premiums
Low Returns: Traditional insurance policies like LIC provide limited returns compared to mutual funds.

Recommendation: Surrender and reinvest the proceeds into mutual funds for better growth.

Children’s Education Planning
Daughter’s Higher Education: Prioritise building a specific education fund for her postgraduate expenses.

Son’s Future Needs: Start early to save for his higher education.

Balanced Allocation: Use equity for growth and debt for stability in these funds.

Loan Management
Accelerate Loan Repayment: Clear your Rs. 40 lakh home loan faster to reduce interest costs.

Avoid New Debt: Focus on reducing liabilities to achieve financial independence sooner.

Emergency Fund
Liquidity is Key: Ensure at least 6–12 months of expenses in a liquid emergency corpus.

Fund Sources: Your FDs or a portion of your SIP can be redirected for this.

Retirement Planning
Corpus Estimation
Inflation Adjustment: Factor in inflation to calculate the required retirement corpus.

Living Expenses: Estimate your monthly needs post-retirement, including healthcare and leisure.

Asset Rebalancing
Gradual Shift to Debt Funds: From 55 onwards, reduce equity exposure for stability.

Balanced Allocation: Aim for a 60% debt and 40% equity ratio by retirement.

Tax Efficiency
New MF Tax Rules: Plan redemptions considering the 12.5% LTCG tax above Rs. 1.25 lakh.

Debt Funds Taxation: Gains are taxed as per your income slab; plan accordingly.

Final Insights
Your current financial status is strong, but enhancements are necessary. Increase SIP contributions, diversify into actively managed funds, and focus on reducing liabilities. Revisit your LIC policy and redirect funds for higher returns. Secure your children's education and your retirement with a clear and balanced strategy.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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