Hy im 21 yr old guy and m bisexual, i was in live in relationship with my parter who is a doctor age 27+ . We lived happily for 5-6 months thn we got separated cause it was predicided that we have to separate in future . But eventually i fall harder for tht person.. he wants to leave n i just want to stop tht person . We both ended on bad note, ...its been a year now he didnt look back once....i cant stop loving him

Ans: Dear Rinku,

If you know in your heart that this man does not value you, why would you still want to pursue a relationship, that too, an extramarital one? Well, I can't comment on the choices you are making concerning your marriage, but to answer your question, you should definitely call it quits with this guy. You miss him, but the reality is he does not. Is that your worth?

Ans: It sounds like you are struggling with strong feelings of attachment to this person, and that these feelings are causing you distress when you are not able to be with them. While it's normal to miss someone you care about, it's important to find a balance between spending time with them and taking care of yourself and other aspects of your life.

It's possible that you may be experiencing some symptoms of an attachment disorder, but it's important to note that this would be a clinical diagnosis that should be made by a mental health professional. That being said, it's clear that your attachment to this person is having a significant impact on your life, and seeking support from a therapist or counselor could be helpful in addressing these feelings and developing healthy coping strategies.

In addition to seeking professional help, there are some things you can do on your own to manage your attachment-related feelings. This might include engaging in self-care activities that make you feel good, such as exercise, spending time in nature, or connecting with friends and family. You may also want to try practicing mindfulness or other relaxation techniques to help you manage your anxiety and stress levels.

It's also important to communicate with the person you are attached to about your feelings and needs. Let them know that you value your time together, but that you also need time to focus on other aspects of your life. Try to set boundaries around your time together, and make sure that you are communicating your needs clearly.

Remember, it's okay to care about someone deeply, but it's also important to take care of yourself and prioritize your own well-being. With the right support and self-care strategies, you can learn to manage your attachment-related feelings in a healthy way.

Ans: You need to stop and focus on yourself and pamper yourself - make yourself a priority - forget this person you are pining for - and then see the awesome change you experience in your life.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Addiction to anything and anyone is never good and online romances can be a huge gamble too...you haven't met this man and you are in love with him and addicted to him?
It seems like a good escape from your marriage, so maybe if you find a way to make your marriage work by connecting better with your husband, things might actually improve for you...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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