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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 11, 2024Hindi

How to get rid of sexual feelings as a Student of age 21,I don't know why i stuck into imagination of having sex or creating sexual fantasy.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Sexual feelings and fantasies are extremely common, especially for someone your age. But if it is bothering you, or hindering day-to-day activities, try engaging in hobbies of your choice, sports, or any other activity that will keep you busy and help divert your mind. You can try joining the gym. Endorphin released from exercising can help with stress and all that physical exertion might reduce your urges. Meditation is another great way of being in control of your thoughts. Limit triggers, i.e., avoid types of media or situations that make you think about these. Focus on healthy social interactions- it promotes positive thoughts.

Having said that, I want to repeat that sexual thoughts are not unnatural as long as you are not thinking of harming another person. Do not beat yourself up for urges that are perfectly normal. But everything is alright as long as they are in moderation and within your control. If these thoughts are getting out of hand, try speaking to a professional therapist. They can offer specific help for your concern.

Remember, the goal is not to eliminate them but to, merely control them so they don't interfere with your daily life or responsibilities.

Best Wishes.

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Dear Roopashree, I would request you not to misunderstand my question. I am a 35-year-old male virgin. Due to certain circumstances, I do not plan to marry nor do I want to establish sexual relations with anyone. At the same time, the desires are there. Is there any natural way to supress sexual desire? Thank you. Name withheld on request.

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If you have chosen to practice celibacy, there are certain methods that yogis used to implement to focus their energies on meditation and other goals.

Yog recommends a Sattvik diet to enhance the sattva element in our body, ie to bring a balance in energies that leads to calmness, mental clarity and eventually bring us true happiness.

A Sattvic diet consists of ample fresh fruits and vegetables -- cooked and consumed with love and gratitude.

It can include certain nuts and legumes which are easy to digest.

Also, if you do not have any major ailments, try taking neem (crush 3-4 leaves with some water, strain and drink) or bitter gourd juice first thing in the morning for a detox.

Do this for 21 days. However, please discontinue if you feel any discomfort.

To further balance your energies and keep your mind calm, you can do light exercises in the morning. Follow this with the Anulom Vilom pranayama, starting with five minutes and eventually doing it for a minimum 20 minutes every day.

Before going to bed, you can do deep breathing in the Dhyaan mudra to get a peaceful and deep sleep.

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