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Yoga, Naturopathy Expert - Answered on Dec 16, 2021

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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Dec 16, 2021Hindi
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Dear Roopashree,
I would request you not to misunderstand my question.
I am a 35-year-old male virgin.
Due to certain circumstances, I do not plan to marry nor do I want to establish sexual relations with anyone.
At the same time, the desires are there.
Is there any natural way to supress sexual desire?
Thank you.
Name withheld on request.

Ans:

If you have chosen to practice celibacy, there are certain methods that yogis used to implement to focus their energies on meditation and other goals.

Yog recommends a Sattvik diet to enhance the sattva element in our body, ie to bring a balance in energies that leads to calmness, mental clarity and eventually bring us true happiness.

A Sattvic diet consists of ample fresh fruits and vegetables -- cooked and consumed with love and gratitude.

It can include certain nuts and legumes which are easy to digest.

Also, if you do not have any major ailments, try taking neem (crush 3-4 leaves with some water, strain and drink) or bitter gourd juice first thing in the morning for a detox.

Do this for 21 days. However, please discontinue if you feel any discomfort.

To further balance your energies and keep your mind calm, you can do light exercises in the morning. Follow this with the Anulom Vilom pranayama, starting with five minutes and eventually doing it for a minimum 20 minutes every day.

Before going to bed, you can do deep breathing in the Dhyaan mudra to get a peaceful and deep sleep.

 

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