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Engineering Fresher, Shy Around Girls: How to Approach Crush?

Ravi Mittal |579 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Oct 03, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 03, 2024Hindi

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Hello. I just started engineering about 3 weeks ago (1st year). Till 12th, I studied in a boys school. But now as I am in college, I found a girl with whom I am in deep crush. But I feel very shy to talk with girls. Sometimes, I feel that the feeling which I have for her, she might not have the same for me. I don't understand how to approach her. What should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it can be challenging to shift from an all-boys setup to a coed suddenly. And I am glad that you found someone you like, but first, it is important to understand whether she feels the same about you, or else approaching her might not be taken in the right way. The best thing to do here is to let her know that you have a crush on her and if she would be interested in going out for a cup of coffee or something with you. Make sure to communicate that it wouldn't be as "just friends," but rather as two people open to exploring if there are possibilities of becoming more than friends. If she says yes, there you go. If she seems uninterested, it's best to leave her be. After all a No is a No; it does not mean "convince me some more."

Directly going up to her and expressing your desire to take her out on a date might show her that you are mature and do not like to beat around the bush; also, you prioritize consent because you are asking her instead of assuming. Hope things work out for you.

Best Wishes.

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Hello sir. I am a first year engineering student. Till 12th I studied in a boys school. Due to this I feel very shy with girls. But now, as I am in college, I found a girl in my class with whom I am in deep crush. I don't understand how should I approach her? How to make her my friend? Sometimes, it feels like the feeling which I have for her, she might not have the same for me. What should I do ?

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I understand your dilemma. It is indeed difficult to cope with sudden exposure to a coed environment and speaking to the opposite sex can feel daunting. But trust me, talking to women isn't all that different from talking to men. They are humans too. You can start with a simple hi, where are you from, where did you study before, etc. If she seems comfortable to be friends, you can slowly let her know you are interested in her. If she doesn't outrightly reject the idea, you can ask her out for a cup of coffee. It doesn't have to be a "date" date; it's just an outing, where two consenting adults sip coffee and discuss life. If you ask her out directly, you can also figure out whether she reciprocates your feelings,

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Hello. I just started engineering about 3 weeks ago (1st year BTech). Till 12th, I was in a boys school. But now as I am in college, I found a girl with whom I am in deep crush. But I feel very shy to talk with girls. Sometimes, I feel that the feeling which I have for her, she might not have the same for me. I don't understand how to approach her. What should I do?

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It's great that you have found someone you admire. I understand the challenges of approaching your crush. Here is what I suggest- start with a smile and a hi. Then, instead of beating around the bush, ask her if she would like to go out with you for a cup of coffee. It doesn't have to be a "date" date. Just an outing, where two consenting adults sip on coffee and discuss life. Your direct approach should impress her and show you off as a person who can take charge of things. If you ask her out directly, you can also figure out whether she reciprocates your feelings or not.

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Hello Mam. I just started engineering about 3 weeks ago (1st year). Till 12th, I studied in a boys school. But now as I am in college, I found a girl with whom I am in deep crush. But I feel very shy to talk with girls. Sometimes, I feel that the feeling which I have for her, she might not have the same for me. I don't understand how to approach her. What should I do?

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What you are experiencing may or may not be a crush...It's just the feeling of being able to be around girls for the first time. There is no need to jump at the very first instance. Take your time and actually start by being friends with girls and boys as well. Socially start to gain acceptance within yourself for who you are before playing into these feelings. One step at a time...the larger your friend circle, the easier it gets to actually stepping into unknown and unfamiliar zones.

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Dear Sir, my Q is If there's no/ zero tax below 12 income then why 5% & 10% applied / proposed for 4-8 lacs & 8-12 lacs, slabs, respectively ❓ Sir, how many types of incomes exist for tax purpose , other than Salary income ❓ Can you please list all Or give me a weblink to know all types of taxed incomes & non taxed incomes sources ❓ Regards

Ans: Tax is calculated as per slab rate prescribed under both regimes and once tax calculation is done, there is a concept of rebate which is deducted from tax liability.

Accordingly, if taxpayers opt for a new tax regime, tax on 12 lacs of income will be 60000 and rebate will be 60000. Thus, tax liability will be Zero.

Please note that rebate is not available on special rate income like short term capital gain on equity shares which is taxable at 20%, long term capital gain on equity shares is taxable at 12.5%.

You can calculate tax liability, using advance income tax calculator available at following link:

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Ans: Considering taxable income of 18.2 lacs, under new tax regime gross tax liability will be Rs.1,70,560.

You can calculate tax liability, using advance income tax calculator available at following link:

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Question by Hardik - Feb 06, 2025

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We are a Private Limited Company with an employee strength of 60, and we strictly follow all PF rules. As per the applicable salary criteria, we contribute to the Provident Fund wherever required. Recently, we discovered that an employee who joined our company two years ago has an existing UAN linked to their Aadhaar. However, at the time of joining, the employee declared in Form 11 that they did not have a PF account. Based on this declaration, we did not contribute to their PF account. Now, the employee states that they were unaware of their PF account, and the UAN linked to their Aadhaar is currently inactive. Furthermore, they do not wish to activate their PF account. Given this situation, should we present Form 11 as valid proof for non-contribution, or are there any corrective actions required to comply with PF regulations? Kindly guide us on the appropriate steps to take in this matter.

Ans: Hello;

If the organisation is such that EPFO laws are applicable and if employee 's salary is as per the threshold given by EPFO (15 K basic +DA) then you don't have an option to avoid EPF.

The EPFO commissioner may issue your organisation a show cause notice as to why the form-11 submitted by the employee was not scrutinized thoroughly when it was submitted.

You may furnish joint declaration in the prescribed format to correct the mistake in form 11 and deposit all employer employee contributions till date with penalty as decided by the EPF Commissioner.

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Question by Kanwaljit - Mar 14, 2025

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Hi Sir, I had worked in a Pharma company since 1990 till 2004 with all the PF and Pension fund contributions paid. However I subsequently changed the organisation and a new PF no was allocated alongwith UAN No which I left in the year 2013. I do have a Scheme Certificate from the previous company but no UAN No (as the UAN nos came subsequently) and the older PF account has an erroneous DOB for which Y am persuing the previous employer. Now I wish to club the two PF accounts together. How to go about. Please guide and enlighten. Thanks and Regards Kanwaljit Singh

Ans: Hello;

You first need to correct your DOB in previous pf account by submitting a joint declaration(in the prescribed format) with your previous employer to the assigned EPFO office.

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