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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 03, 2024Hindi
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Hello. I just started engineering about 3 weeks ago (1st year). Till 12th, I studied in a boys school. But now as I am in college, I found a girl with whom I am in deep crush. But I feel very shy to talk with girls. Sometimes, I feel that the feeling which I have for her, she might not have the same for me. I don't understand how to approach her. What should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand it can be challenging to shift from an all-boys setup to a coed suddenly. And I am glad that you found someone you like, but first, it is important to understand whether she feels the same about you, or else approaching her might not be taken in the right way. The best thing to do here is to let her know that you have a crush on her and if she would be interested in going out for a cup of coffee or something with you. Make sure to communicate that it wouldn't be as "just friends," but rather as two people open to exploring if there are possibilities of becoming more than friends. If she says yes, there you go. If she seems uninterested, it's best to leave her be. After all a No is a No; it does not mean "convince me some more."

Directly going up to her and expressing your desire to take her out on a date might show her that you are mature and do not like to beat around the bush; also, you prioritize consent because you are asking her instead of assuming. Hope things work out for you.

Best Wishes.

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