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Can I Overcome My Shyness and Approach My Crush?

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 21, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 20, 2024Hindi
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Hello Mam. I just started engineering about 3 weeks ago (1st year). Till 12th, I studied in a boys school. But now as I am in college, I found a girl with whom I am in deep crush. But I feel very shy to talk with girls. Sometimes, I feel that the feeling which I have for her, she might not have the same for me. I don't understand how to approach her. What should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What you are experiencing may or may not be a crush...It's just the feeling of being able to be around girls for the first time. There is no need to jump at the very first instance. Take your time and actually start by being friends with girls and boys as well. Socially start to gain acceptance within yourself for who you are before playing into these feelings. One step at a time...the larger your friend circle, the easier it gets to actually stepping into unknown and unfamiliar zones.

All the best!
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Hello ma'm. I am a first year engineering student. I have a crush on a girl. Currently we are working for a group project. We both are in the same group. She generally avoids speaking with boys. Also I have spent 5 years in a boys school, so I feel very shy with girls. What should I do? How should I talk to her?
Ans: Start by keeping things simple and friendly. Focus on small interactions related to your project. For example, ask her opinion about something specific in the work you're doing. Try something like, “Hey, what do you think we should do for this part?” or “I liked the point you made yesterday—can we build on that?” These kinds of questions show that you respect her ideas, and they give her space to respond comfortably.

Once you've had a few of these short, easy interactions, you can slowly open up the conversation to more casual topics—like college life, favorite subjects, or even the stress of deadlines. This way, you’re not jumping straight into anything personal, but you're gradually building a sense of comfort.

Don’t try to impress her. Just be sincere, kind, and a good listener. Most people, even those who seem quiet or reserved, appreciate being approached respectfully and gently. And remember, confidence doesn’t mean being loud or charming—it means being real and respectful even when you’re nervous.

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Sir why do you use chat gpt to answer every question
Ans: HI Jagrav,
No. I am not using CHATGPT.
I used to prepare what I wanted to communicate, and then I would rephrase it. If you are referring to rephrasing, that might be the case. However, I am not using ChatGPT; there are many platforms available. I do not respond with one-word answers because that would affect the readers' understanding. I need to elaborate, and to do that, I must use some tools.

The current generation tends to give one-word answers, but that is not possible for me. As a teacher, I need to provide detailed explanations. Similarly, when writing an article for publication, I prepare an outline to capture the main ideas. Once I have the essence of what I want to say, I will use a platform to rephrase it. After rephrasing, I must check for plagiarism; if there are more than 20% similarities, I will need to alter it again. I have become accustomed to this process.

The reason we use these tools is that, as you know, English is not my native language. My mother tongue often interferes with how I respond to queries. I know many of my students use platforms like ChatGPT and Quillbot to gather information. Unfortunately, they tend to submit their work without further analysis, which can make them lazy. They think the task is complete, but that is not true; ChatGPT does not analyze in depth.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 05, 2025
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I'm scoring 601 in NEET 2025. A lot of rank predictors are showing my rank to be less than 10000. Should I believe them? Will i get a government college? Please let me know if i should keep hoping or not
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The NTA has not yet declared the results and rankings for NEET2025. Generally, predictions are based on probabilities, and many factors are involved in determining the exact rank.

For example, you have only shared your marks, but not other important details such as category and domicile. If your category changes, it can significantly affect your predicted rank. To get a more accurate prediction regarding availability, you need to provide comprehensive details, including expected marks, category, gender, whether you are physically challenged, and relevant details..

With your score, changing parameters such as your category can lead to significant changes in predictions. The purpose of these predictions is to help you prepare for what comes next, especially before you appear for counseling. This process is crucial for your future. It is important to accept guidance—even if it’s virtual—because there are lakhs of candidates appearing and numerous seats available across the country, and seat allocation must be done fairly.

Since the information provided is freely available, it is not good to simply ignore or question it. A positive attitude is essential.

If you haven't shared the proper information with the predictor and gathered the necessary details, please do so.

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