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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 15, 2025
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Hello ma'm. I am a first year engineering student. I have a crush on a girl. Currently we are working for a group project. We both are in the same group. She generally avoids speaking with boys. Also I have spent 5 years in a boys school, so I feel very shy with girls. What should I do? How should I talk to her?

Ans: Start by keeping things simple and friendly. Focus on small interactions related to your project. For example, ask her opinion about something specific in the work you're doing. Try something like, “Hey, what do you think we should do for this part?” or “I liked the point you made yesterday—can we build on that?” These kinds of questions show that you respect her ideas, and they give her space to respond comfortably.

Once you've had a few of these short, easy interactions, you can slowly open up the conversation to more casual topics—like college life, favorite subjects, or even the stress of deadlines. This way, you’re not jumping straight into anything personal, but you're gradually building a sense of comfort.

Don’t try to impress her. Just be sincere, kind, and a good listener. Most people, even those who seem quiet or reserved, appreciate being approached respectfully and gently. And remember, confidence doesn’t mean being loud or charming—it means being real and respectful even when you’re nervous.

If you stay patient and consistent, she might start to feel more comfortable around you. And even if it doesn’t turn into something romantic, you’ll grow socially and emotionally—which will help you a lot in the long run.

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Sir, my daughter got 88% in xii science with PCMB in 2025. She obtained around 87 percentile in JEE and with good rank she is expected to seal a seal in b.tech marine engg in IMU Kolkata and also in integrated M.Tech softeare in VIT Bhopal. Though, JoSSA she may get lower branches in gfti. Since, she is good in academic, my intention was to convince her for Acad courses for teachhng at school or college level. I and my wife are school teachers and really unaware of scope in the above areas. Will you please guide me, what will be good for her, in term of her long promising career. We hail from General Category. Regards
Ans: For a long-term career, Integrated M.Tech Software Engineering at VIT Bhopal (90–95% placements, Amazon/Microsoft recruiters) offers versatile tech opportunities in AI/ML, data science, and software roles, aligning with industry growth and providing flexibility for academia via research or teaching roles post-M.Tech. Marine Engineering at IMU Kolkata (80–90% placements, Chevron/NYK recruiters) is ideal for niche maritime careers but limits diversification outside core shipping sectors. While GFTI lower branches (e.g., Civil/Mechanical) via JoSSA ensure institutional prestige, they may lack alignment with her academic strengths (PCMB) and tech aspirations. For academia, a B.Ed + M.Ed pathway (UGC NET eligibility) offers stable teaching careers but underutilizes her engineering potential. Prioritize VIT Bhopal for tech innovation and interdisciplinary growth, leveraging its coding ecosystems and global collaborations. If inclined toward teaching, pursue M.Tech + Ph.D. post-engineering for lecturer roles. Backup options include MBA for managerial pathways or government technical roles via GATE. Confirm curriculum depth and internship support during enrollment. All the BEST for your Daughter's Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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