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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 15, 2025
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Hello ma'm. I am a first year engineering student. I have a crush on a girl. Currently we are working for a group project. We both are in the same group. She generally avoids speaking with boys. Also I have spent 5 years in a boys school, so I feel very shy with girls. What should I do? How should I talk to her?

Ans: Start by keeping things simple and friendly. Focus on small interactions related to your project. For example, ask her opinion about something specific in the work you're doing. Try something like, “Hey, what do you think we should do for this part?” or “I liked the point you made yesterday—can we build on that?” These kinds of questions show that you respect her ideas, and they give her space to respond comfortably.

Once you've had a few of these short, easy interactions, you can slowly open up the conversation to more casual topics—like college life, favorite subjects, or even the stress of deadlines. This way, you’re not jumping straight into anything personal, but you're gradually building a sense of comfort.

Don’t try to impress her. Just be sincere, kind, and a good listener. Most people, even those who seem quiet or reserved, appreciate being approached respectfully and gently. And remember, confidence doesn’t mean being loud or charming—it means being real and respectful even when you’re nervous.

If you stay patient and consistent, she might start to feel more comfortable around you. And even if it doesn’t turn into something romantic, you’ll grow socially and emotionally—which will help you a lot in the long run.

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What are the good college for architecture with jee mains paper 2 (architecture) rank 23000 female and Delhi as home state
Ans: With a JEE Main Paper 2 (Architecture) rank of 23,000 as a female candidate from Delhi, you still have a fair shot at getting into some good architecture colleges. Here's a streamlined overview of your options:

Top Choices:
School of Planning and Architecture (SPA), Delhi
As a Delhi resident, you have an edge due to the Delhi quota and female category. Your rank may be within reach for admission here.

Jamia Millia Islamia (JMI), New Delhi
JMI’s Faculty of Architecture and Ekistics is another strong option in Delhi/NCR.

Birla Institute of Technology (BIT), Mesra (Ranchi)
BIT is a solid choice. The female category might boost your chances of getting in with this rank.

National Institutes of Technology (NITs)
While NITs usually have tougher cutoffs, you might have a chance at some like NIT Calicut or NIT Rourkela, especially with the female and Delhi quotas.

Other Options:
Private Universities
Consider private institutions like Lovely Professional University (LPU) or CT University in Punjab, which tend to have more flexible admission criteria.

State-level Colleges
Some Delhi-based colleges might admit students through state-level entrance exams or alternative criteria.

Things to Keep in Mind:
College Cutoffs
Each college has different cutoff ranks—be sure to check them, especially those for female candidates and Delhi residents.

Counseling Process
Your admission will depend on the centralized counseling process, where you’ll list colleges based on your preferences and rank.

Reservation Policies
Delhi may have specific seat reservations for women or local candidates, which can work in your favor.

Final Advice:
Research past cutoffs carefully, especially for your category and location. Prioritize colleges that align with your preferences and where your chances of admission are strongest. Understanding the counseling process will also help you make strategic choices.

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