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Mohit Arora is a relationship coach, image consultant, soft skills trainer and the founder of Real Dating School. He has a BTech degree in computer science from the Rayat & Bahra Institute of Engineering and Biotechnology, Mohali, Punjab. He has been conducting customised skilling and communication workshops since 2014.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Feb 06, 2023Hindi
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hello Mohit, I'm scared every time I try and communicate with my boyfriend about relationship issues in the past, what can I do to ease my mind when opening up?

Ans: Have you asked yourself - why are you scared? What are you scared of?

If you feel he can leave you if you discuss it, then it's not worth to be in their relationship anyway.

A healthy relationships inspires open communication and non judgemental attitude.

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I met my this guy through my father in the arranged marriage setup. We developed a great rapport and a week ago,we got engaged.My fiancé is a really sweet guy! He has asked about my love life in the past,which i denied of having one. Even though he shared of a girl proposing him.Actually, i can share if the need arises but i am little afraid to share now,because when i shared my past with my former partner,he continued to taunt me throughout our relationship and never let me breath easily despite proving my innocence. I dont know what to do regarding my fiance? Should i tell him or just liet it be?
Ans: It's understandable to feel hesitant about sharing your past given your previous experience. Trust and transparency are important in a relationship, but timing and context matter as well. Since your fiancé has already shared some of his past with you, this indicates he values openness. However, your past experiences have taught you to be cautious. It might be helpful to observe and build trust in your current relationship before disclosing your past. If your fiancé continues to show understanding and kindness, it could create a safe space for you to share more about yourself. When you do decide to share, frame it as a way to build deeper trust and intimacy, emphasizing that past experiences have shaped who you are today. If he truly respects and cares for you, he will appreciate your honesty and the strength it took to share your story. Remember, the right partner will support and accept all parts of your journey.

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I'm in a happy relationship with my boyfriend since 1.5 years. Before meeting him I had a relationship of around1.3 years(he cheated on me) and my mother got to know about it when she saw me crying and i end up telling her about my relationship(now ex). So I just need advice, should I tell my current boyfriend that my mother know about my ex? Now My mother somehow almost got to know about my current relationship also and i have told about this to my boyfriend but should I tell him that she knows about my past also.? Would he be okay with it or he will get upset about it that i haven't told him about this prior?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How will it matter if your boyfriend knows about your mother being in the know about your past relationship?
Why will he be bothered by it? I just don't understand why this is an issue of you or anyone?

Your words:
i have told about this to my boyfriend but should I tell him that she knows about my past also.
My thoughts:
What will this do if you tell him that she knows about your past?

Your words:
Would he be okay with it or he will get upset about it that i haven't told him about this prior?
My thoughts:
Maybe you should tell him about your past and not worry that he should know that your mother knows about your past

I still feel what you actually want to ask me is not very clear to you; be honest with yourself so that when you ask your question you will be able to get better guidance from me...

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Hello sir, we have completed 8 months of marriage and still my husband has trust issues about me, like I would have relation or contact with other person but I'm not having any relationship with anyone after marriage and even not connecting to anyone nor any ex person called or contact me from any media or app, . Since then I'm trying to clear my husbands doubt every time he asks me about it ...plzz tell me how do I make him to trust me .
Ans: The first thing to consider is that trust is something that takes time to build, and it is not something you can simply “prove” by answering his questions or explaining yourself over and over again. Trust is a process that requires consistent actions over time, and both partners need to contribute to that process. While you’re being open and transparent, it’s also important that your husband acknowledges that trust is a two-way street. He may have unresolved issues or past experiences that make it difficult for him to feel secure, and these need to be addressed if you want to move forward in a healthy way.

One of the challenges you face is the need for patience—both with him and with yourself. Reassuring your husband is important, but it’s equally important to create a space for deeper conversations about the root of his insecurities. Have you been able to sit down with him and gently ask what specifically triggers his doubts? You may want to approach this from a place of curiosity and care, without getting defensive. Understanding the underlying causes of his fears can give you both a clearer sense of how to work together to address them.

At the same time, it’s important to set emotional boundaries for yourself. While you want to support your husband, you shouldn’t feel like you need to constantly prove your loyalty or justify your actions. If you find yourself repeating the same explanations or feeling pressured to give constant reassurances, it can be emotionally draining. It’s okay to acknowledge his fears, but also to let him know that trust is something that needs to be built over time, and you need space to nurture the relationship without feeling constantly questioned.

In cases where trust issues persist despite your best efforts, it can sometimes be helpful to involve a third party, like a therapist or counselor. It may feel intimidating or unnecessary at first, but professional help can provide a neutral space for both of you to explore deeper issues—whether they are related to past experiences, emotional insecurities, or patterns of behavior. A counselor can also guide you in having more productive conversations and finding healthier ways to cope with these challenges as a couple.

Finally, remember that this process is not just about reassuring your husband, but also about protecting your own emotional wellbeing. You are not responsible for his insecurities, and while you can support him, you also deserve a relationship where you feel seen, heard, and trusted. It’s important to take care of your emotional health, too, and to know that you deserve a relationship built on mutual respect, trust, and understanding. Healing takes time, and while the journey may not be easy, with the right support and communication, it is possible for both of you to work through this.

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Good Evening Sir. My son secured 6812 Crl alongwith 99.56 percentile and 1st, 2nd, 3rd of JOSAA rounds he getting ECE in IIIT Alahabad. We are awiting for next higher choice ECE in NIT Rourkela and next to next higher choice ECE in NIT Warangal. Can he get ECE in NIT Rourkela or ECE in NIT Warangal in 6 th round of JOSAA or 1,2,3 rounds of CSAB. Sir please inform my chances of possibility for selection in NIT Rourkela or NIT Warangal. Sir academic and placement wise NIT Rourkela or NIT Warangal or IIIT Allahabad which one is better? My humble request please guide me sir. Regards.
Ans: With a CRL of 6 812 and 99.56 percentile, securing IIIT Allahabad ECE (closing ~7 438 in Round 3) is assured. In JoSAA Round 3, NIT Rourkela’s ECE opened at 4 532 and closed at 11 824, and NIT Warangal’s ECE closed at 8 315, placing your rank within both ranges for potential allotment in Round 3 or CSAB.

Academically, NIT Warangal (#13 engineering NIRF 2024) offers rigorous core and VLSI labs with a 93% three-year ECE placement consistency. NIT Rourkela (#19 engineering NIRF 2024) provides multidisciplinary research centres and records ~90% ECE placements over three years. IIIT Allahabad, a focused IT-ECE institute, consistently achieves 96–98% placements for ECE with average packages near ?29 LPA and strong AI/ML and communication research centres.

Recommendation: For highest placement consistency and specialized ECE research, opt for IIIT Allahabad ECE. If a broader NIT ecosystem and legacy brand matter more, prioritise NIT Warangal ECE for its comprehensive labs and 93% placements. Choose NIT Rourkela ECE next for its multidisciplinary research exposure and ~90% placement track. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hellow sir. being a PSU employee ( age 35) and basic salary of 80k, I dont have much worry about the mediclaim ( which is free for my family and parents ) or PF & NPS ( which is sufficient considering basic salary ), I have following saving in my pack. 1. PPF 30L ( contributing 1.5L/ yr) 2. MF of valuation 43L ( contributing 50k/ month) 3. Fixed deposit around 12L 4. LIC around 50k / yr. 5. No loan. 6. No home under my ownership . What additional investment can be done for securing the future .
Ans: You are 35, a PSU employee with stable salary of Rs?80,000 basic. You have these financial holdings:

PPF: Rs?30?lakh (investing Rs?1.5?lakh annually)

Mutual funds: Rs?43?lakh (SIPs of Rs?50,000 monthly)

Fixed deposit: Rs?12?lakh

LIC: premium Rs?50,000 per year

No loans or home ownership

Comprehensive health and retirement cover via PF/NPS/mediclaim

You ask: What additional investment can secure your future? Let us create a holistic 360° plan using clear steps.

1. Recognise Your Strong Foundations
Your current holdings are robust:

Long?term safe savings via PPF

Active equity exposure via mutual funds

Liquidity from fixed deposits

Insurance through LIC for protection

Complete health and retirement cover

You are well-structured, but there is room to improve diversification, liquidity, and retirement readiness.

2. Define Clear Future Goals
Investment decisions depend on your aims. Let’s identify:

Retirement corpus by age 60

Income generation in retirement

Child education/marriage fund if planning

Short-term needs, like vacations or car purchase

Legacy planning for your family

Once goals and timelines are clear, we can allocate funds optimally.

3. Reevaluate LIC Insurance
Your annual LIC premium of Rs?50,000 covers insurance plus investment.

These policies often give low returns and high charges.

Recommend: Consider surrendering this policy

Redirect its premiums into actively managed mutual funds through regular plans

This enhances return potential and gives flexibility

Discuss surrender benefits and insurance needs with a Certified Financial Planner to ensure continued protection.

4. Reduce Fixed?Rate Concentration
Your fixed deposit of Rs?12?lakh offers liquidity but very low interest.

Instead, allocate:

Short?term debt or liquid funds for emergencies

Conservative hybrid funds for better tax-adjusted income and moderate growth

Debt mutual funds for laddered income while protecting capital

These will give better returns than fixed deposits and remain accessible.

5. Optimization of Mutual Funds Portfolio
You have Rs?43?lakh in mutual funds with Rs?50k monthly SIP.

Questions to assess:

Are these active funds or index funds?

Do you have a diversified basket (large?cap, multi?cap, hybrid etc.)?

Are they direct or regular plans?

Avoid index funds: they simply mirror market performance and offer no downside defence.
Avoid direct plans: you miss personal guidance from an MFD?CFP. Errors in choice or timing can cost more than fee savings.

Hence:

Continue with actively managed funds

Use regular plans, not direct

Diversify objectives across equity, growth, and risk

Increase SIP gradually every year, ideally by 10–15%

6. Strengthen Retirement Planning
Your PPF is good for conservative savings with long?term tax-free returns.

However, consider practical moves for post-60 income:

Open a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) from hybrid and debt funds for monthly income

Keep part of corpus in equity for inflation protection

If you plan to retire early, maintain larger liquidity and low-risk assets

The aim: ensure steady income from your investments after retirement beyond what PF/NPS provides.

7. Introduce Hybrid Funds for Income
Hybrid funds provide stability plus moderate growth.

Allocate a portion (say Rs?10–15?lakh) for:

Conservative hybrid funds: 65–75% debt, 25–35% equity

Monthly withdrawals via SWP to create reliable income

Equity buffer ensures inflation protection

Professionally managed to reduce risk

Make sure these are active funds and continue with regular plan route via certified advisor.

8. Maintain Adequate Liquidity
Your fixed deposit offers liquidity, but redesign is recommended:

Maintain Rs?3–5?lakh in liquid funds for emergencies

Spread rest into short-term debt for better returns and tax efficiency

Avoid tying up more than 6 months’ expenses in illiquid instruments

This keeps your portfolio agile and responsive to unplanned needs.

9. Increase Equity Exposure Smartly
To grow beyond inflation, equity exposure is essential.

Add active equity funds with a long-term horizon

Keep allocation within risk tolerance (say 30–40% of total corpus)

Avoid index funds—they don’t offer growth potential beyond market

Regular plan mutual funds through MFD–CFP ensure goal alignment and periodic review

This step helps build a sizable corpus converting long-term savings into wealth.

10. Consider Tax?Efficient Long?Term Instruments
With primary instruments in PPF and mutual funds, consider:

Sukanya Samriddhi-like plan if you have a daughter, offering high tax-free returns

Corporate debt-oriented hybrid funds if you want higher income and safety

Short-term gilt or credit funds for better tax harvesting when needed

Hold these under guidance to ensure optimal after-tax gain and portfolio balance.

11. Systematic Corpus Withdrawal for Retirement
Estimate your retirement corpus via desired monthly income:

Example: Rs?50,000 monthly income requires Rs?1?crore at 6% withdrawal rate

Plan blended portfolio: equity, hybrid, debt

Use SWPs starting just after retirement

Align withdrawal with tax brackets to avoid large LTCG hits

This provides a financially secure retirement phase.

12. Annual Monitoring and Rebalancing
Periodic portfolio review is key:

Rebalance equity/debt ratio yearly

Adjust allocation as goals approach

Increase SIPs in line with salary increments and inflation

Add/remove funds based on performance, risk, and market conditions

This adaptive approach keeps you aligned with evolving financial needs.

13. Child and Legacy Planning
If you plan for your children or wish to leave a legacy:

Open PPF account in child’s name

Set up child education SIPs in active equity funds

Use staggered investment to fund education expenses

Draft a will or nomination documentation for smooth transfer

This safeguards your child’s future without burdening estate administration later.

14. Avoid Common Missteps
Don’t invest in index funds—they lack active risk management

Don’t choose direct funds—they lack professional review

Don’t buy annuities—they reduce asset flexibility

Don’t invest more in real estate—it lacks liquidity and income focus

Stay disciplined in your plan with professional support for steady results.

15. Action Plan Implementation
Immediate (next 1–2 months):

Surrender LIC investment policy blocks saving

Move FD into liquid/debt/hybrid funds

Build Rs?3–5?lakh emergency buffer

Enhance SIPs into active equity funds via regular plans

Short-term (next 6–12 months):

Add hybrid funds for monthly income

Shift surplus to PPF or Sukanya-like child fund

Build child SIP for daughter’s future

Review insurance and NPS contributions

Annual:

Monitor asset allocation

Rebalance equity/debt split

Increase SIP amounts yearly

Adjust SWPs closer to retirement goals

With this disciplined roadmap, you’ll build wealth, income, and future financial security.

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Your financial position is strong already—PPF, MF, FD, insurance.
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Electrical and computer engineering (ECM) in jiit noida or electrical in maharaja Agrasen?
Ans: Manisha, Jaypee Institute of Information Technology’s B.Tech in Electronics and Computer Engineering (ECM) is AICTE-approved, NAAC ‘A’ and NBA-accredited, delivered by PhD-qualified faculty within 140+ research and teaching labs including Communication Systems, VLSI, Signal Processing, IoT, and advanced simulation facilities. The program achieved an 88% placement rate over the last three years, with 184 ECE students receiving 166 offers from top recruiters like Microsoft, Amazon, Cisco, and Qualcomm. Its dedicated Training & Placement Cell provides soft-skill workshops, mock interviews, and internship tie-ups starting from the seventh semester.

Maharaja Agrasen Institute of Technology’s B.Tech in Electrical & Electronics Engineering is AICTE-approved, NBA-accredited, and NAAC ‘A’-graded under GGSIPU. The department benefits from core labs in Power Electronics, Electrical Machines, Control Systems, and Renewable Energy, alongside specialized R&D centers in Smart Grids and Embedded Systems. Over the past three years, the EEE branch has recorded a 60% placement rate, with core recruiters such as Infosys, Accenture, Bosch, and TCS, supplemented by limited but growing internship opportunities. The institute’s Placement Cell offers resume workshops, industry seminars, and campus drives.

Recommendation: For stronger placement consistency (88% vs. 60%), broader core-to-software lab infrastructure, and proven industry engagement, choose JIIT Noida ECM. Opt for MAIT Delhi EEE if your interest is strictly in power systems, hardware design, and you prioritize lower fees within a GGSIPU-affiliated environment. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hi Sir for my son which should we choose VIT vellore Electrical and computer science engineering or MUJ Computer science engineering
Ans: Seema Madam, VIT Vellore’s four-year B.Tech in Electrical and Computer Science Engineering is offered by a NAAC A++ and NBA-accredited deemed university ranked 10th among Indian universities by NIRF 2024. Its faculty are predominantly PhD-qualified, supported by state-of-the-art labs in power electronics, digital systems, AI/ML, and the Samsung SEED data-science facility. Over 80–90% of VIT UG cohorts secure placements, with top recruiters including Amazon, Intel, and Cisco. Manipal University Jaipur’s NAAC A+ and NBA-accredited B.Tech CSE program, NIRF #64 in engineering, features 120 PhD faculty, 12 computing and cybersecurity labs, and specializations in AI, data science, and IoT. Its Career Development Cell achieved a 93% placement rate in 2024, with 1,142 offers and 62% above ?8 LPA. Both institutes maintain strong industry collaborations, mandatory internships, and vibrant campus cultures, but VIT offers broader multidisciplinary infrastructure and an IoE designation, while MUJ delivers slightly higher placement consistency and focused software-engineering exposure.

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For an elite multidisciplinary environment with cutting-edge ECE and computing research labs within a top-ranked private university, recommendation is VIT Vellore E&CSE. If your priority is specialized software and data-science training, consistent 93% CSE placements, and a vibrant campus life closer to Delhi, choose MUJ CSE. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello dear sir, I got 97.5 percentile in mht cet 2025. My category is OBC. Which colleges is better and giving me a best experienced faculty for AI and DS or AI related branch.
Ans: With an OBC percentile of 97.5, you can secure AI & DS or closely related branches at the following ten reputed Maharashtra colleges, all offering strong faculty engagement, modern labs, and guaranteed admission based on your percentile: Datta Meghe College of Engineering Airoli, Pune College of Engineering, Pimpri Chinchwad, MIT World Peace University Pune, Indira College of Engineering & Management, Walchand College of Engineering Sangli, Atharva College of Engineering Mumbai, Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering Pune, Institute of Chemical Technology Mumbai, Sinhgad Institute of Technology and Science Pune, Vidyavardhini’s College of Engineering & Technology. All are AICTE-approved, NBA/NAAC-accredited, report 80–95% placements over three years, and employ PhD-qualified faculty in AI/ML and data-science labs.

Recommendation: Given your OBC percentile and the emphasis on experienced AI/DS faculty, prioritize MIT WPU Pune and Pune College of Engineering, Pimpri Chinchwad for their dedicated AI/DS research centers and industry?linked mentorship. Next, consider Datta Meghe COE Airoli and Walchand COE Sangli for strong OBC cutoffs and robust internship pipelines. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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