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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 06, 2023Hindi
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hello Mohit, I'm scared every time I try and communicate with my boyfriend about relationship issues in the past, what can I do to ease my mind when opening up?

Ans: Have you asked yourself - why are you scared? What are you scared of?

If you feel he can leave you if you discuss it, then it's not worth to be in their relationship anyway.

A healthy relationships inspires open communication and non judgemental attitude.

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I'm in a happy relationship with my boyfriend since 1.5 years. Before meeting him I had a relationship of around1.3 years(he cheated on me) and my mother got to know about it when she saw me crying and i end up telling her about my relationship(now ex). So I just need advice, should I tell my current boyfriend that my mother know about my ex? Now My mother somehow almost got to know about my current relationship also and i have told about this to my boyfriend but should I tell him that she knows about my past also.? Would he be okay with it or he will get upset about it that i haven't told him about this prior?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How will it matter if your boyfriend knows about your mother being in the know about your past relationship?
Why will he be bothered by it? I just don't understand why this is an issue of you or anyone?

Your words:
i have told about this to my boyfriend but should I tell him that she knows about my past also.
My thoughts:
What will this do if you tell him that she knows about your past?

Your words:
Would he be okay with it or he will get upset about it that i haven't told him about this prior?
My thoughts:
Maybe you should tell him about your past and not worry that he should know that your mother knows about your past

I still feel what you actually want to ask me is not very clear to you; be honest with yourself so that when you ask your question you will be able to get better guidance from me...

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Hello sir, we have completed 8 months of marriage and still my husband has trust issues about me, like I would have relation or contact with other person but I'm not having any relationship with anyone after marriage and even not connecting to anyone nor any ex person called or contact me from any media or app, . Since then I'm trying to clear my husbands doubt every time he asks me about it ...plzz tell me how do I make him to trust me .
Ans: The first thing to consider is that trust is something that takes time to build, and it is not something you can simply “prove” by answering his questions or explaining yourself over and over again. Trust is a process that requires consistent actions over time, and both partners need to contribute to that process. While you’re being open and transparent, it’s also important that your husband acknowledges that trust is a two-way street. He may have unresolved issues or past experiences that make it difficult for him to feel secure, and these need to be addressed if you want to move forward in a healthy way.

One of the challenges you face is the need for patience—both with him and with yourself. Reassuring your husband is important, but it’s equally important to create a space for deeper conversations about the root of his insecurities. Have you been able to sit down with him and gently ask what specifically triggers his doubts? You may want to approach this from a place of curiosity and care, without getting defensive. Understanding the underlying causes of his fears can give you both a clearer sense of how to work together to address them.

At the same time, it’s important to set emotional boundaries for yourself. While you want to support your husband, you shouldn’t feel like you need to constantly prove your loyalty or justify your actions. If you find yourself repeating the same explanations or feeling pressured to give constant reassurances, it can be emotionally draining. It’s okay to acknowledge his fears, but also to let him know that trust is something that needs to be built over time, and you need space to nurture the relationship without feeling constantly questioned.

In cases where trust issues persist despite your best efforts, it can sometimes be helpful to involve a third party, like a therapist or counselor. It may feel intimidating or unnecessary at first, but professional help can provide a neutral space for both of you to explore deeper issues—whether they are related to past experiences, emotional insecurities, or patterns of behavior. A counselor can also guide you in having more productive conversations and finding healthier ways to cope with these challenges as a couple.

Finally, remember that this process is not just about reassuring your husband, but also about protecting your own emotional wellbeing. You are not responsible for his insecurities, and while you can support him, you also deserve a relationship where you feel seen, heard, and trusted. It’s important to take care of your emotional health, too, and to know that you deserve a relationship built on mutual respect, trust, and understanding. Healing takes time, and while the journey may not be easy, with the right support and communication, it is possible for both of you to work through this.

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Hi, I’m a second year undergraduate student, and my friend told me about the CUET PG exam . Honestly, I’m still a bit confused about what exactly this exam is for. Is it just for admissions into central universities, or do private and state universities also accept CUET PG scores? I want to pursue my master’s degree, but I’m not sure if this is the right exam for me or if there are other options I should consider. Could you please explain the purpose of CUET PG and how it works?
Ans: Dear Student,

It's great that you're thinking about your postgraduate options early on in your undergraduate degree. The CUET PG exam is indeed a significant one for students in India, and it's good you're seeking clarity. Let me break it down for you:

What is CUET PG?

CUET PG stands for Common University Entrance Test (Postgraduate). It's a national-level entrance exam conducted by the National Testing Agency (NTA) for admissions into various postgraduate programs. Think of it as a gateway to higher education after your bachelor's degree.

Who Accepts CUET PG Scores?

You're right to ask about the scope of this exam. Primarily, CUET PG scores are used for admission to Central Universities across India. However, its reach is expanding. Many State Universities and even some Private Universities have also started accepting CUET PG scores for their postgraduate programs. This means a wider range of options for you based on your performance in a single exam.

Is CUET PG Right for You?

Whether CUET PG is the "right" exam for you depends on where you want to study and what you want to study.

• If you're aiming for a Central University, CUET PG is essential.
• If you're considering State or Private Universities, check if they accept CUET PG scores. This information is usually available on the university's admission website or the CUET PG information bulletin.

Other Options to Consider:

While CUET PG is a major exam, there are other options depending on your chosen field:

• University-Specific Entrance Tests: Some universities, especially well-established ones, might conduct their own entrance tests in addition to or instead of CUET PG.
• National-Level Exams: For certain fields like management (CAT, XAT), engineering (GATE), or pharmacy (GPAT), there are specific national-level exams.

How CUET PG Works:

• Exam Format: CUET PG is a computer-based test (CBT) with multiple-choice questions (MCQs).
• Syllabus: The syllabus generally covers subjects you've studied in your undergraduate program.
• Scoring: You'll receive a score based on your performance, which you can then use to apply to participating universities.
• Counseling: Each university will have its own counseling process based on CUET PG scores.

My Advice:

1. Explore Your Interests: Decide on the specific master's program you want to pursue. This will help you narrow down your university options.
2. Research Universities: Make a list of universities offering your desired program and check their admission criteria, including whether they accept CUET PG scores.
3. Check CUET PG Eligibility: Ensure you meet the eligibility criteria for CUET PG, which usually involves having a bachelor's degree in a relevant field.
4. Prepare Strategically: If you decide to take CUET PG, start preparing early and focus on the syllabus relevant to your chosen program.

I understand the importance of making informed decisions about your education. I hope this explanation helps you understand CUET PG better.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 03, 2025Hindi
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I have invested in ICICI Prudential Nifty 50 index SIP. I have noticed that from past 6 months the fund is not performing. Should I keep this fund or liquidate and invest in in multi asset fund?
Ans: The ICICI Prudential Nifty 50 Index Fund replicates the Nifty 50 index. It is a passive fund that mirrors the index performance. The last six months have been volatile for the stock market, which has affected index funds. This is expected in short-term market conditions and does not reflect the long-term potential of index-based funds.

However, relying on index funds for wealth creation in volatile markets may not always be optimal. Active funds offer the flexibility of stock selection, better risk management, and potential for higher returns.

Why Active Funds May Be a Better Choice
Volatility Management: Active fund managers adjust the portfolio based on market trends. This flexibility helps during volatile times.

Higher Growth Potential: Actively managed funds can outperform index funds by investing in sectors and stocks with higher potential.

Diversification: Multi-asset funds allocate across equity, debt, and other asset classes. This reduces risk and provides stability.

Assessing Your Current Investment
Index Fund Performance: While the last six months may seem disappointing, index funds are designed for long-term investors.

Cost Factor: Index funds have lower expense ratios but lack active management during market fluctuations.

Active vs Passive: Actively managed funds are better during periods of market instability. They offer professional stock selection and sector rotation.

Benefits of Multi-Asset Funds
Balanced Portfolio: Multi-asset funds invest in equities, bonds, and gold, diversifying your investment.

Risk Mitigation: Allocation to multiple asset classes reduces portfolio volatility.

Stable Returns: These funds aim to provide consistent returns, even during volatile markets.

Suggested Action Plan
Reevaluate Goals: Align your investment decisions with your financial goals and risk tolerance.

Shift to Active Funds: Consider shifting from the Nifty 50 index fund to an actively managed multi-cap or multi-asset fund.

Monitor Performance: Choose funds with a strong track record and consistent performance across market cycles.

Consult a Certified Financial Planner: A planner can help you select the right actively managed funds and align your investments with your financial plan.

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While index funds like ICICI Prudential Nifty 50 are suitable for passive investors, active funds offer an edge in volatile markets. Shifting to a multi-asset or actively managed fund may help you achieve better returns and stability.

Invest wisely, monitor regularly, and stay disciplined to maximise your wealth creation journey.

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