Hello everyone who sees this post! I've a very unique dilemma to deal with, but I'm sure someone could help me! I (M23) am in a relationship with this girl(F23) for 5 years and in the first 3 months I've told both of our parents her and mine that we're in a relationship, but my parents won't agree for her and her parents wants me to marry her daughter immediately (meaning just after I told them we're in a relationship that was 4 years back and PS:- I'm not yet married) So yeah, I didn't want to upset either one (my parents/ her parents/ her) so I somehow found a middle ground and persuaded mine & her parents for an engagement and wait for marriage till I earn. But now my parents don't want us to meet till I get a decent career/job. (That too can be a hoax) And this action is making her/parents to conclude that they (my parents) want us to get separated. So now, I must either listen to my parents (who wants their sons best is what I believe) or her/parents (who wants the best for this relationship). I don't know what to do, and yeah this is a brief! If someone could advice me I'll tell all the details so it would be easy for gurus to sum up an advice.

Ans: Hello dear.
The way in which you put the contents is not clear. Yet trying to collect the information to reply to you. Here is the preference order for you: (1) CS VIT Chennai (2) Amritha. Prefer the CSE branch with AI ML specialization if possible.
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Ans: You are 33, expecting a baby soon, and wisely planning both your loan and future funds. You already have strong savings and investments. This outlook gives us a great base to build a 360-degree plan for retirement, goal purposes, and balanced wealth growth. Let’s go step by step.

1. Financial Snapshot Summary
Age 33, married, expecting a baby

Home loan: Rs.?60?lakh, EMI Rs.?55k monthly, 18 years remaining

Monthly savings ability: about Rs.?5?lakh

Existing investments:

Index funds (Nifty 50 and Nifty Defence): Rs.?3.9?lakh

Large cap: Rs.?1?lakh

Large & mid cap: Rs.?4.6?lakh

Flexi cap: Rs.?3.2?lakh

Multi cap: Rs.?1?lakh

Mid cap: Rs.?85k

Small cap: Rs.?1.75?lakh

Tech sector: Rs.?50k

Infra sector: Rs.?1.7?lakh

PSU fund: Rs.?1.4?lakh

EPF balance: Rs.?8?lakh

Savings account: Rs.?10?lakh

You are already diversified across equity categories and hold good liquidity. Excellent discipline.

2. Understanding Your Priorities
Baby’s arrival and early family needs

Retirement corpus building

Managing home loan without rushing to pre-pay

Growing assets wisely rather than clearing low-interest debt

Your home loan interest is low compared to market returns possible via equity investments. Therefore, shifting focus to wealth creation is sensible.

3. Risk & Liquidity Assessment
Your savings of Rs.?10?lakh plus existing liquidity provide good emergency buffer

EPF of Rs.?8?lakh ensures retirement base

Continue to maintain liquidity of 6 months’ expense in safe instruments

Keep updating emergency cushion as family expands

This ensures you avoid disrupting your investment in case of unforeseen needs.

4. Why Not Clear Home Loan Early
Home loan interest is relatively low (~8–9%)

Equity returns over long term can outperform that

Paying loan early sacrifices the benefit of compounding growth

Instead of clearing, channel money into goal-based investments

Continue standard EMI payment to maintain discipline

You can review part-prepayment later if you receive a bonus or surplus income.

5. Reconsider Index Fund Exposure
You hold index funds tracking Nifty 50 and a sector index. But:

Index funds lack active intervention during downturns

No flexibility—mirror entire index performance

Sectoral index funds are highly volatile and cyclical

You already hold sector funds (Tech and Infra) separately

Actively managed funds offer better downside management

They can allocate, exit, and adjust as economic conditions change

Recommend gradually transitioning index allocations to active large-cap or balanced funds with guidance from CFP-led distributor.

6. Asset Allocation & SIP Repositioning
You aim to invest Rs.?5?lakh monthly and build a long-term wealth engine. Here's a refined strategy:

Equity Allocation (60–65%)

Large / Flexi Cap Active Equity: Rs.?1.25?lakh

Mid Cap Active Equity: Rs.?50,000

Small Cap Active Equity: Rs.?25,000

Multi / Hybrid Equity (Balanced Advantage): Rs.?50,000

ELSS Tax Saver: Rs.?25,000

Debt Allocation (25–30%)

Short-to-Intermediate Debt Funds: Rs.?50,000

Children’s Hybrid Fund (short horizon bucket): Rs.?25,000

Other

Allocation to overseas or thematic equity capped at 5–10% through active funds

This structure offers growth and risk balance while keeping liquidity.

7. Children’s Goal Fund Planning
Your baby arrives soon. Early-stage costs include delivery, essentials, childcare. For 1–2 year need:

Create a “Baby Care Fund” of Rs.?3–4?lakh

Use short-term debt or hybrid mutual funds

Systematically invest Rs.?50k monthly or use part of savings

This ensures funds ready around the time needs arise

Post that, start “Education & Future Security” goal fund via mid/large-cap SIPs.

8. Maintaining SIP Priorities
Your current investment portfolio includes various equity exposures. To make it cohesive:

Reassess index fund exposure and reduce gradually

Continue and increase active equity SIPs as outlined

Use CFP advice to choose 3–4 high-conviction active funds

Avoid direct plans—use CFP-backed distributor for discipline

Balanced funds help cushion during volatile periods

As you invest Rs.?5?lakh monthly, implement the above allocation gradually, not abruptly.

9. Why Avoid Direct and Index Funds
Direct Funds: No expert support, fund monitoring, exit guidance.
Index Funds: No flexibility, follow blind script, no crisis management.
Agile Active Funds via CFP: Strategic stock moves, timely shifts, tailored for your risk.

Your goals need proactive fund management, not auto-pilot passive tools.

10. Retirement Corpus Plan
You are 33, planning retirement maybe at age 60. You have about 27 years of horizon.

Using structured SIPs and portfolio growth, you can:

Build a strong corpus via equity

Maintain a stable allocation of 60–70% equity + 30–40% debt

Gradually tilt towards debt as you near retirement

Regularly review portfolio health fall under CFP supervision

Keep monitoring inflation-adjusted goal progress

This method ensures a secure retirement plan.

11. Insurance & Protection
You didn’t mention insurance. With a baby on the way:

Health insurance – at least Rs.?10–15?lakh family floater

Term life insurance – Minimum Rs.?1–2?crore to cover loan and dependents

Avoid ULIPs or endowment plans—go for pure term and health

Take these via CFP recommended provider and cover soon

Insurance protects your financial plan against sudden events.

12. Debt Management after EMI
Your EMI of Rs.?55k runs for 18 years.

After baby and higher expenses:

Continue EMI as is

Avoid prepayment unless you receive a sizable bonus

When EMI ends, recalculate funds available for SIPs and goals

Use that opportunity to increase SIP amounts further

Use part of EMI funds towards retirement or asset-building

This planned shift after EMI end creates space for accelerated growth.

13. Liquidity, Reserves, and Top-Ups
Your current savings and surge capacity of Rs.?5?lakh enable flexibility:

Continue keeping liquidity of 4–6 months’ expenses

Keep separate corner for baby fund and emergency

Use surplus income for goal-linked investments

Avoid unnecessary lifestyle inflation despite high income

Top-up SIPs when salary or bonus increases

Discipline in surplus use will compound your wealth efficiently.

14. Tax Planning & Gains
Use ELSS SIPs for 80C benefits

Equity fund LTCG taxed 12.5% above Rs.?1.25?lakh per annum

Debt / hybrids taxed as per income slab

Use balanced and debt funds to optimise taxable interest

File ITR, claim deductions, and plan redemptions to control tax incidence

This keeps tax bite minimal and saves more for your goals.

15. Monitoring & Rebalancing
Review portfolio performance and fund objectives every six months

Rebalance asset mix when any category drifts >5%

Stop or shift under-performing funds after review

Avoid knee-jerk reactions—stay thought-through

CFP guidance ensures structured portfolio management

Consistent monitoring protects you from drift and decay.

16. Asset Creation vs Real Estate
You didn’t mention owning other real estate. But goal stated flat purchase may fit as goals.

However, central financial focus is investing in financial assets:

Equity, hybrid, and debt instruments remain central

Property can be considered separately once you hold large financial corpus

Keeping financial assets liquid allows better flexibility

Avoid overloading liquidity for real estate purchases

Enhancing financial assets comes first—it empowers freedom and choice.

17. Lifestyle & Support
Your surplus income supports lifestyle well.

Avoid big-ticket impulsive spending

Use value-based spending for travel, family events

Invest in skills or certification to grow income

Create additional income streams (freelance, side projects)

This increases your saving ability further

Lifestyle and income both support your wealth journey.

18. Succession & Estate Planning
With a baby on the way, important to secure your legacy:

Ensure you have proper nomination for all investments

Create a will or simplified estate plan

Appoint guardians, trustees as needed

This ensures smooth wealth transfer and peace of mind

These administrative steps protect your family and planning.

19. Roadmap Execution Timeline
Prioritize and allocate baby fund in short-term debt

Shift index and sectoral funds gradually to active funds

Structure SIP allocation for retirement and hybrid safety

Purchase insurance soon for protection

Continue EMI; use part payment only if surplus

Post-EMI, increase SIP allocation with added liquidity

Review portfolio semi-annually for performance and rebalance

Plan for education/long-term goals via systematic planning

Keep emergency reserve intact and live beneath means

Write a will and estate file once baby arrives

Stay consistent with your 5-lakh monthly allocation. The structure supports multiple goals.

Final Insights
Your income and savings are robust—very encouraging

Shift towards active, goal-based funds guided by CFP

Maintain discipline in EMI, insurance, and liquidity

Create dedicated buckets for family and retirement

Monitor and rebalance regularly, not reactively

Invest in yourself and grow income to amplify wealth

Be flexible—adjust plans as baby's arrival and life shifts

This structured 360-degree approach balances family, future, and financial freedom.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: Hello dear
You did not mentioned anything about his score and rank. Unable to guide you. If he is interested in Mechanical Engg, then prefer Manial Jaipur as 1st choice and Thapar as 2nd. The final decision will be yours.
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Ans: Hello dear
Wait for JosAA 5 and 6, as well as for the 2nd attempt of BITSAT. Based on the mentioned scores from JEE Advanced and your category, the chances of gaining admission to good colleges are moderate to slim. With your COMEDK rank, there are opportunities to secure a seat in a good college with a decent branch. According to the information you provided, here is the preferred order: (1) CSE @ SRM (2) RR Campus (3) VIT (4) PES
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Ans: Hello Mallikarjuna
You did not mention any details about the entrance exam and score/rank, so I am unable to suggest appropriately. However, I recommend ECE (VLSI) @ BIT if it is offered to your daughter.
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Ans: Both the Integrated M.Tech in Software Engineering and B.Tech Electrical and CSE with Minor in AI & ML at VIT Chennai offer strong academic and placement prospects, but they serve different career goals. The Integrated M.Tech in Software Engineering is a five-year program with about 70% placement rate, focusing on deep software engineering skills and providing a direct pathway to advanced roles in the IT sector, but it limits flexibility if you wish to switch fields later. The B.Tech Electrical and CSE with Minor in AI & ML is a four-year program, nearly 90% of students are placed, and it offers broader exposure to both core engineering and software, with the added advantage of specialization in high-demand AI/ML domains. Both programs benefit from VIT Chennai’s strong placement ecosystem, with top recruiters like Microsoft, Amazon, and Qualcomm, and average placement rates above 80% in recent years. The B.Tech with CSE and AI/ML minor provides more flexibility, industry relevance, and better prospects for diverse roles in both software and technology sectors, making it the preferable choice for most students seeking strong career options in a rapidly evolving job market. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Hello Priya
It is not possible for us to name a particular college here on this platform. However, there is a chance to get into a good college.
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Ans: Hello dear.
It would be better to visit the placement division in person or communicate directly with them, as they can provide you with authentic and up-to-date information.
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