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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 01, 2024Hindi
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Hello Anu Ji, I have cheated by one of my friend for almost 2 lakh rupees Plus i have my own personal loan of nearly 4 Lakhs in addition i have debt of nearly 3 lakh rupees of credit cards every thing was going well until jan 2024, suddenly i lost my job 2 months back. Now due to heavy loan bank people keeps calling me for repayment. I am under lot of pressure and think of ending my life some times. what should i do in this situation

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's time to buckle up NOW!
Stop all wasteful expenditure first...
Clear pending bills by selling immovable properties/other investments if any.
Also, if it is possible to invite a trusted friend/relative who can help you plan on how to get you out of this, that will be a good thing to do...
Ending your life is only giving up...hold on, seek help and people are willing to step in. Be graceful to whoever is willing to help you to plan on easing this mess and promise to make it up to them when things get better for you...AND keep this promise...
The future can be bright BUT only if you take the right steps now to ensure that...
Push on and keep at it...it's a phase that you are going through; it will ease!

All the best!
Asked on - Mar 05, 2024 | Answered on Mar 08, 2024
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Thanks for the Answer. Started doing exactly the same as you said. And i am not going to end my life anyway.....because many difficult situations before and i came through by Gods Grace. ....and i am Gods favourate child... God Testing me
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am happy to know that you trust yourself more than ever before.
Things sort themselves out only if we strongly believe that everything is a phase; keep the mind steady through these phases that are challenging and you will have a clear mind to solve any issue that might come your way.

All the best!

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Dear ma’am, I really appreciate you helping the community getting mentally healthy.I feel very complicated and sleepless. Please help.I am 45, male. My whole life, as I remember, I have been taken advantage of -- by friends, parents, siblings.I am sensitive, I have anger but I cannot talk back or stand up for myself and try to adjust, move on, simmer within, not to talk back to elders (or anybody). If I talk back I get so much guilt, and maybe so continue to be taken advantage of.I have had many soft abuse/humiliation/pressure episodes with friends/family that are stuck and stuck; but those don't happen since I am grown-up, plus people are no more around. I feel I got damaged that way.But financially since the last 20 years -- relatives, friends, father, siblings have cheated me loaning money with false promises and they don't take care about their loan responsibility and live their sporty life. Here I feel like a beggar the whole time enquiring about getting my own stuck money back, getting false promises, false reasons, hundreds of those conversations, also sometimes making me feel guilty in reverse (what is your money urgency type?) to ask my own money back. Those people are still around. The total runs in many lakhs just principal and nominal interest also will run that much. I don't have energy deal those people, negativity, bad values that comes along. So last few years, I just kept mum, on surface smile (internally bad memories). But that is bu**sh**Six months ago, I decided and started cutting off those people for good. I don't need negativity. I have enough savings. I felt relaxed that I at least mentally I took that hard decision.But other side, it is so difficult as they are close people, family, friends -- I am bound to see them at family functions, my mom/wife/kids talk with some, they may call them home also etc. I feel afraid and super angry to even see their face, and even if they hypothetically return money -- I don't feel like accepting it also; let them remain cut off from my life.Plus I suffer from depression since 15 years (on/off medicines) that mom/kids don't know, wife cannot really empathize. I just feel too weak. Did I do the right thing to cut off people and stick to that decision in future? How to face them in life then?
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Dear KK,

The reason why people bend backwards to do things for people and have trouble saying NO is because they worry not being loved by others or getting their attention.

Maybe they also worry about being alone because others might reject them if a boundary is drawn.

So, find out why you have been allowing these people (family and friends) take advantage of you.

When will you find the strength to respect and value yourself?

Once you do, others will do that as well and not complain about you standing up for yourself. And there is no need to hold onto people by being nice to them by loaning money. Are they going to lie you for the money or for who you are?

Work with the person who has prescribed medicines for your depression on the deep-rooted cause for your poor self-esteem which makes you depend on others to make you feel good or feel anger when you see them.

Till you work on these, your connection with your family will be a struggle. So, help yourself first by taking care of your emotional health.

All the best!

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HI ALL OR CONCERNED GURU/S, AM OVER 50, SALARIED, FAMILY OF 3, DAUGHTER IN IST YEAR IN BSC BIOTECHNOLOGY....WIFE HOME MAKER. I AM CERTAINLY FEELING SCARED....COULD NOT ACCUMULATE MONEY FOR SAVINGS, DO NOT HAVE ANY PROPERTY....SEVERELY UNDER DEBT. MORE SO AS FOR MORE THAN LAST TWO YEARS, FOR MY SIBLING'S SUSTENACE(TERMINALLY ILL PATIENT), EXHAUSTED SAVINGS, SOLD CAR AND MORTGAGED WIFE'S ORNAMENTS. SKIPPED EMIS OF MY PREVIOUS LOANS AND CC. HE DIED RECENTLY, FATHER TOO DIED TWO YEARS BACK, MOTHER DISOWNED ME HENCE NOT GOING TO GET ANYTHING OF MY FATHER.....I WANT TO GET DEBT FREE IMMEDIATELY BUT NO BANK OR NBFC GIVING ME FOR OBVIOUS REASON OF LOAN DEFAULT. I AM LIKE LIVING FOR TODAY. GETTING SCARED FROM LIFE AND THINKING OF GETTING PERISHED BY ENDING MY LIFE. IT IS LIKE LIVING LIFE IN A DARK TUNNEL, NO STREAK OF LIGHT AT ALL.....PLEASE HELP.
Ans: Referring to your query regarding the debt and uncertain expenses at all times. Please find some suggestions for your reference.

• Get a part-time job (Increase your Source of Income): If you have the time and energy, getting a part-time job can be a great way to earn extra money to pay down your debt.

• Make a budget: Once you have a good understanding of your cash flows, you can create a budget to help you track your spending and make sure your cash flow will be managed properly (Expenses are not more than your earnings)

• Prioritize your debts: Not all debts are the same. Some debts, like credit card bills, have higher interest rates, which means that you will be paying more in interest over time. Focus on paying off these debts first.

• Negotiate with your creditors: If you are struggling to make your payments, contact your creditors and see if they are willing to negotiate with you. Many creditors may adjust the repayment schedule you can afford.

There are some resources that may be helpful:

Debt relief organizations: There are a number of organizations that can help you get out of debt. They can provide you with counseling, and they can also help you negotiate with your creditors to reduce your payments or create a repayment plan.
• National Foundation for Credit Counseling: 1-800-388-2227
• Consumer Credit Counseling Service: 1-800-642-2227
• Credit Karma: 1-888-239-7066
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 29, 2024Hindi
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I retired earlier now at 53. Invested 7L in ELSS and using 60L on short term equity trading (with monthly average gain 2L) and having own apartment home worth 40L. Having dependent widowed mother, wife with 13 yrs old daughter. Intended to raise daughter as doctor. Please suggest better investment options.
Ans: Congratulations on your early retirement! It sounds like you've made some good initial decisions, but there's definitely room for improvement to secure your family's future, especially considering your dependents. Here's how you can optimize your investments:

Reduce Risk in Short-Term Equity Trading:

While a ?2 lakh monthly gain from short-term trading sounds impressive, it's a very risky strategy. The market can be volatile, and these gains may not be sustainable. Consider allocating a much smaller portion (maybe 10-20%) to short-term trading and focus on more stable options for the majority of your investable assets (?60 lakh currently in trading).
Focus on Long-Term Growth and Stability:

Increase Investment in ELSS: ?7 lakh is a good start, but for your daughter's education and your retirement needs, you'll likely need a much larger corpus. Consider increasing your SIP amount in ELSS or similar diversified equity mutual funds with a long-term horizon (10+ years).
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Doctorate studies can be expensive. Start an SIP in a dedicated child education plan or invest in aggressive equity funds specifically for this goal. Talk to a Certfied Financial Planner for personalized recommendations based on the estimated cost of medical education.
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Dear Sir My age is 34 yrs. I have working alredy 10 yrs and my average total income till date 40L minimum. Still I did not save 1rs till now. Request you please advice how to start savings also make future retirement plan. My expected retirement age is 55yrs.
Ans: It's never too late to start saving for retirement, and kudos to you for taking this important step at 34! Here's how to get on track:

1. Assess your situation:

Track your expenses: For a month, track where your money goes. This will help identify areas to cut back and free up savings.
Emergency fund: Aim for 3-6 months of living expenses in an easily accessible savings account for emergencies.
2. Start saving:

Automated savings: Set up a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) in a mutual fund. Start small, even with ?1,000 per month, and gradually increase as you get comfortable.
3. Retirement plan:

Employer benefits: Check if your employer offers a retirement plan like a Provident Fund (PF). Contribute the maximum allowed for tax benefits and long-term savings.
Individual options: Explore options like National Pension System (NPS) or Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) for long-term growth. Talk to a Registered Investment Advisor (RIA) for personalized advice based on your risk tolerance and goals.
Here's a breakdown based on your income:

You mentioned an average annual income of ?40 lakhs. Aim to save at least 10-15% of your income, which translates to ?4,000-?6,000 per month.
Remember: Consistency is key! Starting early, even with a small amount, allows time for your savings to grow through the power of compounding. Don't be discouraged if you can't save a lot initially. Every little bit counts!
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