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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 07, 2024
Relationship

Hi ma'am, am 27 yr old guy [not yet married]. Recently i had a relationship with a married woman who has 3 kids and happily living with her husband, we were chatting regarding work and slowly started dating. It slowly became love between us and had a few physical relationship with her. Now she loves me so much that, am important than her husband and kids. Actually i dont have much of a problem her her. Whenever we fight,she begs me to talk with her, we meet, again we get wet. But my concern is, if i get married how should i end the relationship with her. But i feel having sex with her. I want sex. What should i do. Please help me

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This entire thing is about sex. Kindly don't mislead her any longer... End this and please find someone else who is not married and vulnerable. This is not all about you and your physical needs. This is also about who you are with and what situation of life they are in. A little thought beyond just you and your needs can help.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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M 51 and she is 23 we met in office, we came up with relationship not totally of having sex but as attraction turned into love so many time like we kiss hug and caress each other but in My mind never thought about to have sex and sometimes she also was eager to have sex but she also denied later in office many of them had doubt of our relationship so some brain washed her mind and now she wants to end and she told me to discontinue as ahe factory and marriage can't be done as I m married with one kid, as also she has fear of her mother and family, ahe sometime says I got married and even now she wll get married to someone but end of this relationship but My feelings of truly love hurts me and I feel should I call her once and have sex so she will not think about ending relationship till marriage but My mind says it's wrong as I truly love her, what should I do to make her to stay or be with me as till she get married pls suggest I m in truly love can't able to sleep and too much stress became in My mind
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You’re feeling pain and longing, and that’s human. But trying to convince her to stay by suggesting physical intimacy — especially when you yourself feel it’s not right — will only deepen the emotional conflict and guilt for both of you. Love doesn’t hold someone back just so we don’t feel the pain of their absence. True love honors freedom, even when it hurts.

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You are 55, working in Dubai, and currently covered under your company’s medical insurance worldwide. That cover is excellent, but please remember one important thing: it ends the day your employment ends. Health insurance planning has to look beyond employment.

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Will taking a policy now help reduce premium later?
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Premiums will still rise with age, but you avoid the sharp jump and uncertainty of entering as a new senior citizen.

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Think of this Indian policy as a retirement safety net, not a replacement for your employer cover.

You do not need to actively use it now.
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Many NRIs make the mistake of postponing this decision and then struggle at 60 when options become limited.

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A family floater for you and your wife

Decent coverage, not the bare minimum

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