I have a dilemma where I cannot forget my ex from 15 years ago. We are both married and have supportive spouses. But somehow very hard to get her out of my head. We are in two different continents and try to avoid discussions via WhatsApp etc so it doesn’t keep dragging. No matter how much are current lives are great it always feels like I miss that first true love. I think I just need recommendations from people who might have face such a dilemma. We broke up for careers and now feel it was a great mistake. But family commitments need to keep things going. I want to be friends as that’s what we were through 2 years of online chats etc

Hi Shalini, My case is strange. I am 54 now. But I can forget my old flame of 1991. She was my neighbor, six years younger to me. We were good friends. She would often come to my house and she had great bonding with my mother. I liked her so I confessed my feelings and she accepted it. I was a believer that I will marry the girl, I fall in love with. So, I was looking for an ideal relationship and then ending in a marriage. To my shock, I found myself that she had 2 boy friends. One of them was a notorious guy who was jailed few times. She was not able to say no to anybody. Perhaps, she liked the fact that boys fell for her. I was disturbed. I failed in my engineering year that year. Later, I couldn't finish my degree Engineering. I had Diploma Engineering so I pursued my job basis on it and then became a Director of a US company. I got married and I have a loving wife taking my good care. We have a lovely kid and everything is fine. Somehow, my missing Degree engineering is still hurting me. That girl later married and shifted to the US and she also has two kids. How can I forever bury this hurt and move on to my life?

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Dating Coach - Answered on Sep 19, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 16, 2023Hindi

Ans: You can move on by focusing on what is working for you vs thinking about the past and things that have not worked out in your favour, wishing you the best.

i miss my ex from 15 years ago. desperately need to chat with her but she never responds back on whatsapp. we broke up for careers and ended up in different continents. but our friendship was great. how do i tell her to atleast talk this out and maybe we can be chat friends on whatsapp. i am in australia and she is in poland. both are married happily. but sometimes it feels like i am missing that old friend who i could chat with anytime and talk my heart out. its just whatsapp chat that i expect not even video calls. should i just directly ask her if we can keep in touch via whatsapp? there is pure friendship and i dont think of her in any physical way.

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jul 10, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 09, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

If your ex is not ready to be in touch with you or to be your friend, it would not be right to pursue or convince her. Moreover, even if your intentions are purely friendly, how do you think your wife will feel or react if she comes to know of this? Just in case you still want to connect with your ex, discuss the entire thing with your wife first. It shouldn't be worrisome to you since you mentioned your intentions are pure, should it? If you go behind her back, then it is time you reexamine your intentions and reconsider the entire thing.

Best Wishes.

Hello madam I a 32 year old married man with a kid , who is 6 years old. I have done arrange marriage with my own decision I agreed to my parents for the marrige at that time I was in a casual relationship with a girl I didn't said anything to the girl and get married to someone else. After that I tried to live a happay life with my wife without thinking about the girl whom I left behind, from outside I tried to be happy with my wife but my wife thought doesn't matches with me so I felt so disturbed from inside. Still I was trying to continue the relationship for sake of our child but suddenly I got my ex love contact and I was so happy that after so long time I got a chance to talk to her, I have tried to meet her but she always refused to meet me because she was in a relationship. I tried many times and due to some misconduct I again lost her for the second time. At this moment when she is not with me her thoughts memories are troubling me so much I am in pain, what am I suppose to do to get rid of the pain?? Please help

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 05, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 03, 2024Hindi

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is no point wanting a 'past' relationship just because you have one...what if that relationship did not exist, you would have possibly made efforts to make your marriage work, right?
Then do just that...DO NOT treat your marriage as an option...which marriage is a perfect one? And are all spouses tailor-made to fit one another?
So, if her thoughts don't match with yours, then even yours don't match with hers...so, should she also think of jumping into some other relationship. Please act mature about this especially with a child in the entire equation; try and understand each other...speak about your differences and find ways of working on them by accepting them. Ex-love etc looks all very nice, but come down to ground reality; please...work on your marriage!

All the best!
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