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Russles Question by Russles on Jul 07, 2023Hindi
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My son is in class 10, he is infatuated by a girl of his class, both of them want to do medical in higher classes, the girl is brilliant in studies and he also scores around 80%, but i want him to focus on education than girls this time, can you help

Ans: Dear Russles,

Infatuations are a part of growing up. There's nothing to worry about it. As a parent, the best you can do is be your child's friend, so when he gets his heart broken, which is inevitable, he has someone to confide in. Moreover, have an open discussion about his studies, and speak in his language. Tough love might not work on every kid. Let him know how studies and careers will wait for none, while love- if it's true, will be there even after years. Whether you believe in it or not, it is important that you let your child believe in the concept of true love. It is a substantial part of growing up. Let him understand through his own experience that most love stories don't end in a happy ending.

Best Wishes!

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Hi Mam, Hope you are doing well. I am very worried about my son who is now 12.5 years old and studying in 7th standard in a very reputed school. Since childhood, he has no interest in studies, unless we doesn't seat in front of him, he doesn't study. Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class and the result is he doesn't get good marks in the exam. When we scold him for studies, he does it for that particular time only and then get back to his non-interest mode again and start to run from studies. He will play video games, goes to play around with his friends, he will find some or the other reason for not doing studies or homework. The irony is that he is not interested in any sports or any other kind of activities. In every summer holidays, we make him to join some sports or music classes, but there also he doesn't show interest and do things just for the sake of showing. From last year, we have started sending him to tuitions also, but no change in attitude. This year we have found a teacher of his reputed school who is retired and taking tuitions, we are sending him to her and she is charging a big amount for tuitions. please guide how can we change his attitude and make him more serious in any activity he does as he doesn't have interest in anything (we have observed doing everything we can).
Ans: Hello Sunil!!

I am doing great, thank you for asking, God bless you!

I can totally understand when you say you are worried.

Your son is 12.5, he will soon be a teenager. There will be different challenges, I want you to read up on parenting a teenager and be ready to handle him well.

The problem as I see it is that everyone of you, his teachers included have made studies like a burden for him.... and subjected the young child to a lot of anxiety, he just wants to run away form it....
"Every teacher from his kindergarten days upto now has the same complaint that he is doesn't pay attention in class".... this statement of yours... it is the teacher's duty to ensure the child listens to him/her, how can she start labeling a child like this. From a young age your son has been conditioned to believe that he is not not good in studies, he doesn't focus and he doesn't sit in one place. All my sympathies are with your son...every child comes with immense potential and it's our duty as parents and teachers to nurture the child.

The following is what I propose so that we bring him back to loving to learn ( not score marks, that should never be the barometer)-
1. Love your child the way he is now
2. Give him lot of positive strokes
3. Have one on one sessions for any activity you plan for him... let him choose the activity, empower him
4. choose a teacher, who can get along with him and help him develop a positive attitude towards studies and life in general
5. look for a school where they nurture him... not just a reputed one...less number of students and a teacher who is invested in her/ his students,

If you can connect with me, I can help him. Have had many a students in this kind situation.
This is my website..
https://transformme.co.in/

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hi me ek gov. servant hu meri monthly salary 80000/- hai maine sbi home loan 2500000/- liya (Des-2022 / 18 years) hai monthly emi 230000/-hai wo maine ghar pune mai liya hai usko rent par diya hai 15000/- meri 20 years se job kar raha hu maine gpf mai 40,00,000/- saveing kar li hai jo latest rate of intreast 7.1 % hai jo comunding milta hai mai gpf har saal 300000/- saveing karta hu 6000/- mutual fund main sip hai bachhonki (11Years girls & 5 years Boy ) school fees har saal 100000 hai aur sukanya samrudhi main bhi minimum savng hai muje next ek ghar banawana hai jo maine ek plot liya tha uspar abhi mere pas 1400000 hai jo baki paiso ke liya kya gpf mese paise nkale ya lone lake aur meri saveing sahi hai
Ans: Your planning is disciplined. You are managing loans, savings, and family needs with balance. Let’s go point-by-point and assess your situation professionally from all angles. This will help you take the best decision for building your second house and securing your future.

Current Financial Snapshot
Your monthly salary is Rs. 80,000.

Your EMI is Rs. 23,000 for the home loan taken in Dec 2022.

You earn Rs. 15,000 monthly from renting this house.

You have completed 20 years in government service.

You have saved Rs. 40 lakh in GPF earning 7.1% interest compounded.

You are contributing Rs. 3 lakh every year to GPF.

You have SIP of Rs. 6,000 in mutual funds.

You have two children – one is 11 years and the other is 5 years.

You pay Rs. 1 lakh yearly as school fees.

You contribute to Sukanya Samriddhi at minimum level.

You have Rs. 14 lakh saved to build a house on your plot.

Now the key question is: Should you use GPF for building your house or take a loan?

Let’s assess this from multiple angles.

Home Construction: Options Available
You have 2 choices to complete the home construction:

Withdraw money from GPF

Take a new home construction loan

Each option has benefits and limitations. Let’s compare clearly.

Using GPF for House Construction
Advantages

It is your money, so no interest to pay.

No EMI burden or repayment pressure.

Withdrawal from GPF for house is allowed as per rules.

Emotionally peaceful – you are not increasing debt.

Disadvantages

GPF gives 7.1% compound interest.

Once withdrawn, that compounding stops on that amount.

GPF is your retirement backup.

Reducing it will affect your old age financial safety.

Building a house is one-time, but retirement is a long journey.

Professional Insight

GPF should be your last option, not the first.

Withdraw only if no other option is available.

Taking Home Construction Loan
Advantages

You keep your GPF intact.

You continue to earn 7.1% interest compounded.

You get home loan tax benefits under 80C and Section 24.

Repayment can be structured as per your budget.

Disadvantages

You have to pay EMI regularly.

Loan rate may be 8-9% range, higher than GPF interest.

It adds more debt pressure on you.

Professional Insight

EMI is manageable if you plan carefully.

GPF balance of Rs. 40 lakh gives safety cushion.

So taking loan makes more sense, if EMI is affordable.

Monthly Budget Assessment
Salary: Rs. 80,000

Existing EMI: Rs. 23,000

Rent income: Rs. 15,000

School fee yearly: Rs. 1 lakh

SIP: Rs. 6,000

You are already managing EMI, fees, and SIP with discipline.

If you take another loan of Rs. 10-12 lakh, EMI will be Rs. 8,000 to Rs. 10,000 approx.

This is possible, if rent is used wisely and you avoid big expenses.

Child Education and Future Planning
Your daughter is 11 years. In 7 years, college will start.

Son is 5 years. So you have 13 years before his higher education.

You should increase SIP gradually every year.

Sukanya Samriddhi is good, but minimum saving is not enough.

Start SIPs for both kids’ future goals separately.

Target long term goals like higher education and marriage.

Continue SIP even during home construction.

Retirement Safety Evaluation
GPF is your retirement backbone.

Rs. 40 lakh at 7.1% compounded will double in around 10-11 years.

If you withdraw now, final corpus will reduce sharply.

Avoid disturbing it unless absolutely needed.

Continue Rs. 3 lakh yearly contribution without fail.

Strategy for New House Construction
You already have Rs. 14 lakh saved.

Let’s say construction needs Rs. 25 lakh.

Gap is Rs. 11 lakh approx.

Best strategy:

Use Rs. 14 lakh saved by you.

Take home construction loan of Rs. 10-12 lakh.

Keep GPF untouched.

Keep GPF for future security.

How to Manage Construction Loan EMI
Use rent income to cover part of EMI.

Avoid unnecessary luxury spending.

Cut gold and festival expenses if needed.

Take loan with flexible prepayment option.

When bonus or arrears come, use for loan part-payment.

Investment Rebalancing Tips
Increase SIP from Rs. 6,000 to Rs. 10,000 next year.

Keep mutual fund SIP for both child and your retirement.

Start one new SIP for daughter’s higher education.

Use mutual fund only for long-term goals.

Avoid index funds. They don’t beat inflation after tax.

Active funds adjust to Indian market better.

Emergency Fund Reminder
Keep at least Rs. 1.5 to 2 lakh as emergency fund.

Don’t use this money for house or loan.

Keep it in savings account or short-term liquid fund.

Insurance Planning
Check if you have term life insurance.

Minimum Rs. 50 lakh coverage is needed.

Premium is low for government servants.

Also take health insurance for full family.

School Fee and Lifestyle Cost
Your school fee is Rs. 1 lakh yearly.

It will grow as kids grow.

Plan SIP in liquid funds to prepare yearly school fee.

Final Construction Strategy
Estimate house construction cost with contractor clearly.

Plan in 2-3 stages. Use cash first, then loan.

Keep Rs. 1 lakh buffer for emergency during construction.

Finally
Your savings habits are very good.

GPF is strong pillar. Keep it growing.

Don’t touch GPF now.

Take small loan for second house.

Manage EMI smartly with rent and budget.

Increase SIP yearly for kids and retirement.

Avoid index funds.

Stay consistent.

Review yearly with proper planning.

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Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Hello Sir I have a question that i have existing home loan of now rs 2900000 and 25 years of time has left rest i have paid , i am investing 1 lac per month in mutual funds and investing in gold as well shall i pay my laon first or keep.investing in mf and gold and keep paying emi plus extra amount in loan my loan roi is 8.80%
Ans: Your approach is sincere and responsible. Managing Rs. 29 lakh home loan while investing Rs. 1 lakh monthly needs clarity. You also invest in gold. Your focus seems on building wealth and becoming debt-free. Let’s assess your current situation from all angles and guide accordingly.

Understanding the Current Scenario
You have a home loan balance of Rs. 29 lakh.

Loan interest rate is 8.80%.

Loan tenure left is 25 years.

You are investing Rs. 1 lakh every month in mutual funds.

You are also buying gold regularly.

You are paying regular EMIs.

You are also thinking to prepay the home loan partially.

This situation is not uncommon. Many in your position face the same decision. Let us now break it down for better understanding.

Loan Repayment vs Investment: Core Conflict
Loan EMI gives guaranteed interest saving.

Mutual funds and gold have market risk. Returns are not fixed.

Loan rate is 8.80%. This is a high cost in long term.

Mutual funds can give 12% in long term. But no guarantee.

Gold can give 6-7% return over long term. Also not guaranteed.

So comparing loan vs MF or gold is not just about return.

Risk, liquidity, and financial goals must be seen together.

Evaluating Home Loan Repayment Strategy
Home loan gives tax benefit on interest under Sec 24(b).

But this benefit reduces over time as interest part reduces.

Long tenure increases total interest paid.

If you prepay loan now, you save high future interest.

Partial prepayment every year brings great interest saving.

Even Rs. 1 lakh prepayment per year can cut 4-5 years from loan term.

So prepayment makes sense if no other high priority goals pending.

Understanding Mutual Fund Investment Potential
You are investing Rs. 1 lakh monthly. That is commendable.

Mutual funds help build long term wealth.

Actively managed funds perform better than passive ones in India.

Index funds don’t beat inflation much after tax.

Active funds adjust to market cycles better.

Your SIP of Rs. 1 lakh may give strong corpus in 15-20 years.

Taxation on MF has changed now. Need to plan redemption smartly.

Short-term capital gains are taxed at 20%.

LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Role of Gold in Portfolio
Gold acts as hedge in portfolio.

It protects against currency devaluation and global risk.

But gold alone should not be large part of investment.

It gives 6-7% return in long term.

It is not cash flow generating.

Use gold for diversification only. 10-15% is enough.

Assessing Your Loan Repayment Capacity
If you can spare extra Rs. 20-30K per month, loan prepayment makes sense.

Continue EMI as usual. Add lump sum when possible.

Avoid using your mutual fund SIP for prepayment.

Don’t stop gold purchase fully. Just reduce it if needed.

Balance your cash flow between all goals.

Combining Both: Smart Way Forward
You can do both prepayment and investments side by side.

Continue Rs. 1 lakh monthly in mutual funds.

From bonuses, windfalls, use part for home loan prepayment.

Avoid stopping SIP. It compounds over time.

Increase SIP by 5-10% yearly if income grows.

This way you build wealth and reduce debt slowly.

Tax Impact and Liquidity Planning
Prepaying home loan gives emotional peace.

But MF investments are liquid in emergencies.

Loan prepayment is not reversible.

Once paid, money is locked in property.

Keep emergency fund ready. 6 months expenses is good target.

Your Child and Family Needs
You have a child. Future education will need funds.

Mutual funds can fund child education and marriage.

Prepaying loan is less flexible than investing for child's future.

So don’t rush to be debt free if child goals are underfunded.

Cash Flow Planning for Better Balance
Track your monthly cash flow closely.

Prioritise emergency fund first.

After that, child education fund.

After that, home loan prepayment.

Avoid big gold purchases if loan EMI is tight.

Keep gold for portfolio balance only.

Emotional vs Logical Decision-Making
Loan-free life feels peaceful.

But wealth creation needs patience.

Don’t get swayed by fear of loan.

Instead, make clear plan.

Mix investment with prepayment.

What You Can Practically Do Now
Continue SIP of Rs. 1 lakh.

Build emergency fund equal to 6 months expense.

Invest at least Rs. 5-10K monthly for child education.

Reduce gold purchase to 10-15% of monthly investment.

Once emergency fund is ready, prepay Rs. 1-2 lakh per year in home loan.

Final Insights
Your loan is at 8.80%.

Mutual funds can beat this in long term.

But loan is risk-free return.

Emotional peace matters too.

Balance both wisely.

Stay consistent.

Do yearly review of all investments.

Increase SIP and loan prepayment step-by-step as income grows.

Avoid random investment decisions.

Be goal-based always.

Invest through certified professionals who guide with long-term vision.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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