The boy I like is dating another girl. But he is giving me mixed signals. I am afraid if I ask him now I might lose any chance of knowing him and asking him at the right time. I am 22, he is 26. What should I do?

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The office situation would have been messy, but now you're leaving so that's great!

You've wasted a decade already, so I'd say it's high time you make your move.

Just ask him out for coffee and see where things go from there. Don't make any huge proclamations of love on a first date but read the signals...you'll know if he's interested or not.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained!

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Why doubt yourself so much? He smiles at you, lunches with you...Maybe it's time to break the ice and at least start talking to him?

You'll see where the conversations lead and you'll soon know for sure whether he's genuinely interested or not.

And remember to be yourself. You don't have to overtly try and impress anyone, a person should like you for who you are.

 

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

From what I understand, she might not be interested in connecting with you. It is possible that she is interested in someone else and is already talking to that person. Take the hint and move on. You deserve someone who likes you as much as you like them. And I'm sure you will find that someone soon.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Ask yourself: What are you getting from each relationship? Are you still emotionally invested in your current relationship, or has it run its course? Are your feelings for the other person based on something deeper, or could they be influenced by temporary excitement or attraction? These questions can help you get a clearer sense of where your heart really lies.

If you find that your feelings for the person you're in love with are strong and genuine, it might be a sign that your current relationship isn't fulfilling you in the way you need. In that case, it’s important to be honest with your boyfriend. Continuing the relationship without being fully present or committed isn’t fair to either of you. It may be painful, but having an open and honest conversation about your feelings can help both of you find clarity.

At the same time, give yourself permission to explore why you're drawn to this other person before making any big decisions. Sometimes, feelings for someone else are a sign that something is missing in your current relationship, and understanding what that is can provide insight.

No matter what, honesty with yourself and your boyfriend is key. It’s natural to feel conflicted, but clarity will come with time and self-reflection.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your confusion but it is entirely possible that he is sharing all of these with you as a friend. There’s another possibility; maybe his feelings for you have changed and he does like you now. Feelings aren’t always set in stone, you know. My suggestion is to have a clear conversation about this with him. If you still feel the same way for him, let him know that and ask if he feels similarly about you. This way, you will have clarity. And if he isn’t into you romantically, you can explore other possibilities outside of this one relationship that did not happen.

I hope this helps.