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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 04, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 27, 2024

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I have a boyfriend, but I'm in love with someone else. What should I do?

Ans: Ask yourself: What are you getting from each relationship? Are you still emotionally invested in your current relationship, or has it run its course? Are your feelings for the other person based on something deeper, or could they be influenced by temporary excitement or attraction? These questions can help you get a clearer sense of where your heart really lies.

If you find that your feelings for the person you're in love with are strong and genuine, it might be a sign that your current relationship isn't fulfilling you in the way you need. In that case, it’s important to be honest with your boyfriend. Continuing the relationship without being fully present or committed isn’t fair to either of you. It may be painful, but having an open and honest conversation about your feelings can help both of you find clarity.

At the same time, give yourself permission to explore why you're drawn to this other person before making any big decisions. Sometimes, feelings for someone else are a sign that something is missing in your current relationship, and understanding what that is can provide insight.

No matter what, honesty with yourself and your boyfriend is key. It’s natural to feel conflicted, but clarity will come with time and self-reflection.

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Ans: Dear Jyoti,
Firstly, how do you identify a relationship as toxic?
These days I see a lot of people in a relationship conclude that the relationship is toxic or their partner is toxic after a simple argument.
It provides a way of being lazy and not working on building the relationship.

But if you know and are sure that relationship is toxic, well the only way is to leave...yes, the partner will be hurt and will not agree with you, but stand your ground and get out before it robs you of your peace of mind.

1. Seek a lot of support and love from your friends and loved ones
2. Draw clear boundaries; a few people keep away by blocking the person on social media and phone for a brief period
3. Indulge yourself with a bit of self-care and self-love by pampering yourself
4. Remind yourself that everyday is a new day and that you will find love that will allow you to be YOU

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 27, 2024

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I already have a boyfriend but now I'm falling in love with another guy from my office. Now I am not sure who is right for me. I feel secure with one but more intimate with the other. I don't want to throw it all away but I don't know how to tell this to my boyfriend. What should I do?

Ans: Get your must-have in place - not more than 5-7 items - I talk a lot about the frame-work you can find it on my linkedin, reddit - once you have then take a call. all the best.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 16, 2024

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Hi i need advice. I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years and dated an ex of mine for a year now we broke up but he still wants me but i like with someone else. What do i do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you are not interested in being with someone, you shouldn't have to. I understand it might hurt the other person, but you cannot force yourself to be with him; it won't be fair to either of you. Please try to explain the same to him.

Best Wishes.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Mar 15, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 15, 2025Hindi

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Hello sir, I am 50 age and investing in the below funds by sip mode: Nippon india large cap - 2000 pm Nippon india multi cap - 2000 pm Nippon india small cap - 2000 pm ICICI prudential flexi cap - 2000 pm MO midcap fund - 2000 pm Mahindra ML large & midcap - 2000 pm Uti nifty 50 index - 1500 pm ICICI Pru nifty next 50 index - 1500 pm Nippon IT index - 1500 pm ICICI bse sensex index - 1500 pm ICICI Pru multi asset allocation - 5000 pm DSP multi asset allocation - 1000 pm SBI retirement aggressive - 1000 pm HDFC balanced advantage - 2500 pm Can I continue the above for the next 10 years OR is there a need for any changes to be made. My current MF investment stands at 20 L Looking forward to you advise please.

Ans: You are investing in a diverse set of funds across multiple categories. It is important to check if your portfolio is well-balanced, tax-efficient, and aligned with your risk appetite.

Fund Overlap and Diversification
You have too many funds in the same category.

Multiple large-cap, multi-cap, and index funds create unnecessary duplication.

A smaller, well-chosen portfolio will improve returns and reduce complexity.

Index Funds in Your Portfolio
You are investing in four index funds.

Index funds lack downside protection in market crashes.

Actively managed funds have better potential to beat the market.

Consider reducing index fund exposure to improve returns.

Sector and Thematic Funds
You have a technology sector fund.

Sector funds can be high-risk, as they depend on one industry’s performance.

A diversified portfolio is better than relying on a single sector.

If held, sector funds should be less than 10% of the total portfolio.

Multi-Asset and Hybrid Funds
Multi-asset funds help in balancing risk with exposure to equity, debt, and gold.

You have three multi-asset funds, which may be too many.

It is better to consolidate and hold only one or two of the best-performing funds.

Retirement Fund and Balanced Advantage Fund
SBI Retirement Aggressive Fund is designed for long-term wealth creation.

HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund helps in managing market volatility.

These funds are suitable for investors above 50, as they lower risk.

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Reduce fund duplication by keeping only one multi-asset fund.

Exit some index funds and switch to actively managed funds.

Limit sector funds to a small portion of your portfolio.

Continue investing in flexi-cap and balanced advantage funds for long-term stability.

Final Insights
Your portfolio has good diversification but can be simplified.

Reducing overlapping funds will improve returns and ease tracking.

Shifting from index funds to actively managed funds may provide better growth.

Holding for 10 years is a good strategy, but regular rebalancing is needed.

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Hi sir my son s doing his BSc microbiology final sem, pls suggest a better PG

Ans: The following options are available for higher education:

1. MSc in Microbiology
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4. MSc in Medical Microbiology
5. MSc in Medical Lab Technology (MLT)

Before choosing any course, it's important to keep in mind that meeting eligibility requirements is just the first step. I suggest he pursue internships in industries that align with his future goals. Here are some tailored suggestions based on his interests:

Interest in the Food Industry: He should consider internships in food processing industries or at the Central Food Technological Research Institute (CFTRI).

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I am a professional with 19 yrs of work experience in Banking and financial industry in India. Want to explore if at the age of 40 and being single, which country is best to relocate with much stable job opportunity as per my work experience of Indian Banking system with a minimum salary of 50 lac p.a

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Question by Bhaskar - Mar 15, 2025Hindi

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My brother wants to study MBBS m jss medical College

Ans: Thank you for choosing a career in medicine. You can opt for various paths, but it is essential to follow the guidelines provided by the government.

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Question by Tanvir - Mar 13, 2025

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Mera tin mahine baad jisse shaadi hone waali he uska pahle ek ladke se affair tha. Halanki meri fiency padhi likhi he aur job karti.Un dono ke bich me sex relation bhi ho chuka tha jab maine usse iske baare me puchha to usne kaha ki ye pahle ki baat ab mera usse koi wasta nhi he.lekin mujhe lagta he ki uska abhi uske relation me he .kya mujhe usse shadi karni chahiye

Ans: Dear Tanvir,
Pichli baatein ko wahin rakhna chahiye jahaan pe woh hue the. Usko aaj ke tareek mein baar baar doharaane se aapa aaj bigad sakta hai aur aapke mann mein shanka badhti hi jaayegi. Jab aapki fiancee keh rahi hain ki yeh pehli baat hai, ya toh aap is baat par vishwaas kare ya na kare, yeh aap pe nirbhar hai. Agar aap shaq karna chahte hain toh bahut baatein hai is baat ko saabit karne ke liye par agar aap is baat ko bhi peeche rakhke aage badhna chahte hain toh yeh bhi ho sakta hai par uske liye aap ko aapki fiancee par vishwaas karna padega aur unki baaton par. Shaq ki nazron se kuch bhi dekhoge toh shaq hi saamne nikalke aayega. Ab aap ka chunenge?

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Hello, I am 32 year male, got married last year almost a year now. My wife has not been able to perform intercourse with me since our marriage, we both are virgin. She is having fear of penetrating and also even if I try to perform fingerring, she feels pain and feels irritation there. We both are happy couple but I am worried how to go ahead as I already tried water based lubricant, forplay everything. Please suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If all is well medically, then the only thing that can stop a couple from getting sexually intimate are fears of what intercourse really is. Focusing on sex especially since this is the first time for the both of you CAN put you under tremendous stress. Instead focus on connecting first with each other. Emotional bonding through love, care and affection can allow for a lot of non-sexual intimacy first. Keep at this until you get comfortable with one another and then you take things to the next level that will ease you both into sexual intimacy.
Being in LOVE and a very close emotional connect can actually be huge boosters into getting intimate and ease you two into sex.

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 12, 2025Hindi

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What are possibilities of getting maintenance for a working woman (with a kid) from husband . My husband has abandoned us since birth of my daughter 4years. Not taking the child's responsibility. Husband says as I am earning I should take care of financial requirement of the child too. I am doing extra duties/ work just to take care of my daughter's education and future. As I am a healthcare professional my work consists of night duties. These duties are taking toll on my health and also my daughter's . People are saying as I am a working woman I can't claim maintenance from husband. But taking care of young child is more difficult with working. I just can't leave my job , just to show nil income to claim maintenance as no one is there to support me and my daughter. Hiring a nanny , maid etc along with rent comes around 85k per month apart from school expenses. As I live in metropolitan city. Husband earns more than me but transfers money to his mother's account.He has taken me granted financially since marriage.Not able to save anything for the future. Don't have any property on my name .

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This is a question for a legal expert; so go ahead and seek the guidance of someone who can handle your case. Along with this, you will have to think of a good balance that will allow for you to manage work and home plus your health.

All the best!
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Question by Sanjay - Mar 12, 2025Hindi

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Hello Madam, Request your guidance on query on behalf of my friend - On 2-3 occassions money has been stolen from friend's wallet, he has doubt on his uncle's son staying in their house but not sure...please advise !!

Ans: Dear Sanjay,
What would you do if something like this happened in your house? Suggest the same to your friend.
But also, before accusing or doubting someone, please make sure that your friend has not misplaced the money.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Mar 14, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 14, 2025Hindi

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Hello sir, I am planning to buy a flat, with some stock sale proceeds and bank loan. Can I claim section 54F, for the entire registration amount for a flat, along with registration fee ? Or bank loan part is not considered

Ans: Eligibility for Section 54F
Section 54F provides capital gains exemption when selling assets like stocks.
You must invest the full net sale proceeds in a residential property.
The new flat must be purchased within two years or constructed within three years.
You should not own more than one residential house at the time of sale.
Treatment of Bank Loan Under Section 54F
Exemption applies only to the portion funded by stock sale proceeds.
The bank loan portion is not considered for exemption.
You need to invest the entire net sale proceeds to claim full exemption.
Registration Charges and Stamp Duty
Registration charges and stamp duty qualify as part of the property cost.
These expenses can be included for exemption under Section 54F.
However, only the part paid from capital gains is eligible.
Ensuring Full Exemption
If you reinvest only part of the net sale proceeds, the exemption is partial.
Any remaining capital gain will be taxed.
To avoid tax, the full capital gain amount must be reinvested.
Tax Implications If Conditions Are Not Met
If you sell the new property within three years, the exemption is reversed.
The capital gain becomes taxable in the year of sale.
Ensure compliance with all conditions to retain tax benefits.
Alternative Planning Strategies
If full reinvestment is not possible, consider capital gains bonds.
These bonds provide an alternative exemption under Section 54EC.
This helps in tax-efficient planning while keeping liquidity options open.
Final Insights
Section 54F helps save tax if proceeds are fully reinvested.
The bank loan portion does not qualify for exemption.
Registration costs can be included but only if paid from capital gains.
Ensure compliance to avoid future tax liabilities.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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