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Dear Anu Madam,
Please help me with your urgent advice. I am a 23-year-old good-looking girl from well-to-do Marwari family.
Since 2017 I am in relationship with a 37-year-old who I met in a gym. He is a small-time model.
Within 1 month of meeting, we got physical. However, in August 2021, to my dismay, I came to know that he has two wives and children and that he is in physical relationship with several other girls. This pained me a lot and we broke up. But somehow we got back.
He pleaded sorry for hiding his marriage and cheating with other girls but he said that the other girls had forced him for a physical relationship. He says he is unhappy in marriage and if I marry him, it will give him new way of life. I loved him and decided to get married (he can legally have more wives). But still I felt absurd on my decision because I will face severe parental resistance as he is from different religion and has less money. Yet I made up my mind on marriage and so, six months ago I revealed this to my closest cousin and introduced her to him. I followed up with her to guide me on right decision but my cousin kept buying time. About two weeks ago, while accidentally checking her mobile messages, I found that though I introduced my cousin to my BF to help me, she was cheating on me. From her messages I could see that she persuaded my BF to get physical with her. This shattered me completely and I fought with her. Madam, please advise me. I love this guy and want to marry him. He is my 1st and last love. I am sure he will be a changed guy after our marriage, which will make us both Happy.

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Dear SK,

So, you want to marry a man who cheats, hides his escapades, and disrespects you?

What kind of life do you think you are going to have with a man who has no respect for women and sleeps with women to gain his self-esteem?

Talking about how you can be a saviour, only makes you a victim, so that you are constantly under his control.

It’s possible that you haven’t been able to see his intentions and that you have reached out to me.

Listen, you have a beautiful life ahead, so not waste it on a man who thinks of nothing and only himself.

Your friend also was able to sell you out so easily only suggest that this man is some sort of a charmer and women easily fall into his trap.

Beware, kindly step up first and respect and honour yourself.

Learn to Love yourself else you will keep falling into the same trap of falling for such men who have nothing to do with women other than use them.

Step out NOW and no explanations required…You are not obligated to give him any.

He will behave like a victim and place you on a pedestal so that you go back to him, STAND your GROUND…Love is pure and this cannot be your first or last love….selfishness cannot be love.

There are more beautiful relationships waiting to embrace you only if you first move on from this toxic relationship, love yourself and use your strength appropriately.

You can do this…be an example for all those girls who choose to celebrate men who are toxic to them. Be a source of strength to all of them.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 24, 2024Hindi
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HI ma'am, i am 30 years old women. I hv never been in any relationship with anyone in my life. But from one year 4 months I'm talking with my cousins neighbor, we both became good friends.6 months ago we decided to get into relationship. We both are in a very good relationship, we are very very happy with each other. He is my home and I'm his home, But the most serious issue here is He is married and have 4 year old son. But they both are not living together from past 2.4 years because they both have issues with each other and with each others families. 8 months back he went to court asking his wife to come back to him because his lawyer suggested to not to send divorce notice directly in the beginning itself. But now she is not willing to come back to him, Her lawyer said that she want Alumnae. my bf is very good guy he loves his son ,he don't wanna give any money to his wife because he is feeling like giving money means accepting that he made some mistake, But he didn't made any mistake and we all know him very well. And also he love me so much. but now in mean time i got match, My parents got this match through my brother in law, they are forcing me to get married to the alliance guy, But I'm not at all interested. My BF divorce is still in pending. my parents are forcing me to marry a guy . i told to the alliance guy that i don't like him, But he is not telling it to anyone and forced me to get married to him. what should i do?
Ans: Since your boyfriend's divorce is still in the process and there are unresolved issues with his wife, it’s important to be realistic about the timeline and possible complications. Divorce proceedings can be lengthy, especially when financial matters and custody are involved. It may also be challenging for him to fully commit to a new relationship while he's handling these issues. This period can give you both the chance to think through your future together carefully and see if it aligns with your values and goals.

With the family pressure, it can help to calmly explain to them why you aren’t ready to move forward with the arranged match right now. If you feel comfortable, you might express that you need more time to consider what you want for your future. Remind them that their support in finding a fulfilling relationship is important to you, and rushing into a marriage when you’re not ready or interested may not lead to happiness for anyone involved.

This situation is about respecting your own feelings while also managing family expectations, which isn’t easy. Give yourself the time you need to weigh your options and avoid rushing into any commitments. It’s okay to put your own happiness and well-being first, and if you need more time to let things play out with your boyfriend’s divorce, be clear with yourself and your family about that. This decision is deeply personal, so whatever path you choose, make sure it aligns with your true feelings and future vision.

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Feb 20, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 31, 2025
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Hello sir/ma'am...i am a girl of 21 yrs and my bf 24yrs.We met each other through an online friendly chat app.Since 1yr,we r chatting,video and voice calls.He told me,he loves me and wanna marry me.I too liked him and I took the matter to my parents and they agreed for our marriage also.I made him talk to my parents.He didn't still let this matter know to his parents.Recently,without my permission..my cousin sis took his insta id and chatted with him like an unknown girl for fun.She created an account in insta and sent a request to him n he accepted that request and continued chatting with her.She told him like she saw his profile and interested and so given a request.He was asking her for voice call,video call,but she didn't accept.She sent some other picture when he insisted her pic and later he asked her "do u like me" for which she funnily replied love at first sight and love you.He told her he want to express his love to her in voice call and later he too proposed..she showed all those screen shots to me. I am broken.I questioned him what is all this?...for which he replied...he just chatted to find out whether that account was a fake account or real account...but,the screen shots were showing something different..when my cousin called him bro..he was very upset and scolded her too. Now,he saying he thought it's a fake boy id and wanted to make fun of and even fought with me saying i don't trust him and without his acceptance..i gave his id to my cousin..but,i havent given.. He is saying he wanted to test whether it is a fake or a real account and so he made fun off and didn't mean it and that too just chatting it is n not to take it seriously and he loves me much.. I am confused after this whether to proceed for marriage..he isthe first guy and love in my life...should i believe him or let him go or should i give him one more chance?..please give u r advice..thank you
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. While I can't make a decision for you, I can help you by pointing out how this looks like from an outsider's perspective- your BF's interactions with this profile do not really support his claim of "just testing if it's a fake account." It seems like he was interested in chatting and continuing the flirty conversations. This does not mean he is in love with the person behind that online profile, but it surely looks like he can go behind your back for some thrill.

Trust and honesty are two very important things in a relationship, and if you are planning on getting married, this is not a good start. Moreover, his getting angry at you upon confrontation is a red flag- he tried to gaslight you.
It's your choice whether you want to leave or give him another chance but before you make a decision in haste, ask yourself-
1) If he loves you, would he flirt with someone or even chat with a stranger for entertainment?
2) Would you do the same to him?
3) Is he taking responsibility and asking for forgiveness?
4) Can you trust him completely after this or would you always keep wondering if he is cheating on you?
Once you answer these honestly, I think you will know what's the right thing to do.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2025Hindi
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Hello ma'am...i am a girl of 21 yrs and my bf 24yrs.We met each other through an online friendly chat app.Since 1yr,we r chatting,video and voice calls.He told me,he loves me and wanna marry me.I too liked him and I took the matter to my parents and they agreed for our marriage also.I made him talk to my parents.He didn't still let this matter know to his parents.Recently,without my permission..my cousin sis took his insta id and chatted with him like an unknown girl for fun.She created an account in insta and sent a request to him n he accepted that request and continued chatting with her.She told him like she saw his profile and interested and so given a request.He was asking her for voice call,video call,but she didn't accept.She sent some other picture when he insisted her pic and later he asked her "do u like me" for which she funnily replied love at first sight and love you.He told her he want to express his love to her in voice call and later he too proposed..she showed all those screen shots to me. I am broken.I questioned him what is all this?...for which he replied...he just chatted to find out whether that account was a fake account or real account...but,the screen shots were showing something different..when my cousin called him bro..he was very upset and scolded her too. Now,he saying he thought it's a fake boy id and wanted to make fun of and even fought with me saying i don't trust him and without his acceptance..i gave his id to my cousin..but,i havent given.. He is saying he wanted to test whether it is a fake or a real account and so he made fun off and didn't mean it and that too just chatting it is n not to take it seriously and he loves me much.. I am confused after this whether to proceed for marriage..he isthe first guy and love in my life...should i believe him or let him go or should i give him one more chance?..please give u r advice..thank you
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. While I can't make a decision for you, I can help you by pointing out how this looks like from an outsider's perspective- your BF's interactions with this profile do not really support his claim of "just testing if it's a fake account." It seems like he was interested in chatting and continuing the flirty conversations. This does not mean he is in love with the person behind that online profile, but it surely looks like he can go behind your back for some thrill.

Trust and honesty are two very important things in a relationship, and if you are planning on getting married, this is not a good start. Moreover, his getting angry at you upon confrontation is a red flag- he tried to gaslight you.
It's your choice whether you want to leave or give him another chance but before you make a decision in haste, ask yourself-
1) If he loves you, would he flirt with someone or even chat with a stranger for entertainment?
2) Would you do the same to him?
3) Is he taking responsibility and asking for forgiveness?
4) Can you trust him completely after this or would you always keep wondering if he is cheating on you?
Once you answer these honestly, I think you will know what's the right thing to do.

One more thing- if you really are thinking of taking this ahead, please make sure to meet up in person before committing. Love can happen online but for your safety, meeting IRL is very important.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 26, 2025Hindi
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Mere pass Parag Parikh flexicap,Sbi mid cap, axis small cap ,Motilal Oswal midcap and Quant small cap fund hai in sabhi me meri SIP chal rahi hai, abhi Stock market me bahut correction hua hai mujhe lumsum investment karna hai toh inme se kis fund me karu..?
Ans: Investing a lump sum after a market correction can be a good opportunity. However, choosing the right funds requires proper analysis.

Assessing Your Current Portfolio
Flexi-cap fund: This fund invests across large, mid, and small-cap stocks. It provides diversification and stability.

Mid-cap funds: These funds invest in mid-sized companies. They offer high growth potential but come with more volatility.

Small-cap funds: These funds invest in smaller companies. They have the highest return potential but also the highest risk.

Your portfolio already has a mix of flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds. Adding more funds from the same categories may lead to over-diversification.

Factors to Consider Before Investing Lump Sum
Market correction does not mean all stocks are undervalued. Some stocks may still be expensive.

Mid-cap and small-cap funds are volatile. Investing lump sum in these funds can be risky.

If you have a high-risk appetite, invest in small-cap or mid-cap funds. However, avoid putting the entire amount in one fund.

If you want balanced growth, allocate more to flexi-cap funds. These funds can shift between large, mid, and small caps based on market conditions.

Instead of lump sum, consider a systematic transfer plan (STP). This helps in averaging the investment over time.

Where to Invest the Lump Sum?
If you want lower risk: Invest in a flexi-cap fund. It provides stability and long-term growth.

If you want moderate risk: Invest in a mid-cap fund. These funds have strong growth potential.

If you want higher risk and higher returns: Invest in a small-cap fund. However, stay invested for at least 7-10 years.

If you are unsure, split your investment. Invest in a mix of flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.

Final Insights
Your portfolio already has exposure to different categories. Avoid adding too many funds.

A systematic transfer plan (STP) is better than lump sum investment in a volatile market.

Review your risk tolerance before investing in mid-cap and small-cap funds.

If markets fall further, consider staggered investing instead of putting all money at once.

Stay invested for the long term and review your portfolio regularly.

With the right strategy, your investments can grow steadily over time.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

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Iss time pe Flexicap,Midcap and Small Cap mutual funds kisme lumsum investment karna chahiye..?
Ans: Investing in flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap mutual funds through lump sum requires careful analysis. Timing, market conditions, and personal financial goals should be considered before investing.

Understanding Market Conditions
Flexi-cap funds: These funds invest across large, mid, and small-cap stocks. Fund managers have the flexibility to shift allocation based on market trends.

Mid-cap funds: These funds invest in mid-sized companies. They have higher growth potential than large caps but come with more volatility.

Small-cap funds: These funds invest in smaller companies. They offer high return potential but carry the highest risk.

Current Market Scenario: Mid-cap and small-cap stocks have seen strong rallies. Investing through a systematic transfer plan (STP) may be better than a lump sum.

Best Approach for Lump Sum Investment
Avoid investing the entire amount at once. Markets can be volatile, and a sudden drop can impact your returns.

Use a systematic transfer plan (STP). Park the lump sum in a liquid fund and transfer it gradually into equity funds.

Diversify across market caps. Do not invest only in mid-cap and small-cap funds. Flexi-cap funds provide balanced exposure.

Check valuations before investing. If mid-cap and small-cap indices are trading at high valuations, wait for corrections.

Consider your risk tolerance. Mid-cap and small-cap funds are volatile. Invest only if you can stay invested for at least 7-10 years.

Which Category is Suitable for You?
If you want stable growth with lower risk: Invest in flexi-cap funds.

If you can handle moderate risk and aim for higher returns: Invest in mid-cap funds.

If you have a high-risk appetite and a long-term horizon: Invest in small-cap funds.

If markets are at high valuations: Invest in balanced advantage or hybrid funds instead of pure equity funds.

Final Insights
Investing in mid-cap and small-cap funds requires patience. Returns may be volatile in the short term.

A systematic transfer plan (STP) is better than lump sum investment in volatile markets.

Diversify across flexi-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds based on your risk profile.

Review your investments every year and rebalance if needed.

With the right strategy, your investment can grow steadily over time.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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Hi Sir, I have 2 goals - Kindly review my portfolio and let me know if the asset allocation is good to go. Retirement: 10+ years, SIP Value: 15k per month Nippon India Index Nifty 50 growth direct plan - 50% Kotak Nifty Next 50 Index Growth Direct Plan - 15% Motilal Oswal Nifty Midcap 150 Index Fund - Direct Plan - 15% Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund - Direct Plan -20% 7 Year Goal (Education, Marriage and buying car): SIP: 28K per month I am confused which portfolio to proceed for this goal. Can you review and confirm which one is good to proceed. Portfolio 1: Nippon India Index Nifty 50 growth direct plan - 25% Kotak Nifty Next 50 Index Growth Direct Plan - 15% Parag Parikh Flexi Cap direct growth - 20% HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund - Direct Plan - 40% Portfolio 2: Parag Parikh Flexi Cap direct growth - 30% HDFC Flexi cap direct growth - 30% HDFC Balanced Advantage Fund - Direct Plan - 40%
Ans: Your investment approach is structured and goal-based, which is excellent. I will review your portfolio and suggest improvements for better diversification and risk management.

Retirement Portfolio (10+ Years Goal)
Your retirement portfolio has the following allocation:

50% in a Nifty 50 index fund
15% in a Nifty Next 50 index fund
15% in a midcap index fund
20% in a flexi-cap fund
Observations:

Overexposure to index funds: Index funds have limitations, such as being market-cap weighted. This may lead to inefficiencies, especially in volatile markets. Actively managed funds have the potential to outperform index funds.
High allocation to large caps: While large caps provide stability, they may not generate high returns in the long term.
Lack of small-cap exposure: Small caps have the potential for higher returns over a long period.
No international diversification: Adding international equity funds can reduce risk and enhance returns.
Recommended Changes:

Reduce index fund allocation and increase exposure to actively managed funds.
Increase flexi-cap and midcap exposure for better growth potential.
Consider adding a small-cap fund for higher long-term returns.
Allocate a small portion to an international equity fund.
7-Year Goal (Education, Marriage, and Car Purchase)
You are investing Rs 28,000 per month and considering two portfolios.

Portfolio 1:
25% in a Nifty 50 index fund
15% in a Nifty Next 50 index fund
20% in a flexi-cap fund
40% in a balanced advantage fund
Portfolio 2:
30% in a flexi-cap fund
30% in another flexi-cap fund
40% in a balanced advantage fund
Observations:

Index funds are not ideal for short-term goals: Index funds can be highly volatile in a 7-year timeframe. Actively managed funds provide better risk-adjusted returns.
Lack of debt allocation: A 7-year goal needs some debt exposure for stability. Balanced advantage funds offer some protection, but a dedicated debt fund is better.
Overdependence on balanced advantage funds: These funds adjust equity-debt allocation dynamically, but they may not be the best for all market conditions.
Recommended Approach:

Reduce index fund exposure and add actively managed multi-cap and midcap funds.
Allocate at least 20% to high-quality short-duration debt funds for stability.
Consider a hybrid fund that balances equity and debt more effectively.
Final Insights
Your goal-based approach is commendable. Some modifications will improve diversification, stability, and potential returns.

Reduce index fund exposure and add actively managed funds.
Increase exposure to midcap, flexi-cap, and small-cap funds for retirement.
Add a small international equity fund for diversification.
Introduce short-duration debt funds for your 7-year goal.
With these adjustments, your portfolio will be well-balanced and aligned with your goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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I am 24, and I have around 1 lac in pf and 1.5 lac in mutual fund as I am investing around 25k per month, 70% in midcap and 30% in large cap, how to invest to have at least 1 crore before I turn 30?
Ans: You are 24 and already investing well. Your goal of Rs 1 crore before 30 is ambitious. You need the right strategy to achieve it.

Assessing Your Current Investments
You have Rs 1 lakh in PF and Rs 1.5 lakh in mutual funds.

You invest Rs 25,000 per month.

Your portfolio is 70% mid-cap and 30% large-cap.

Strengths in Your Investment Approach
You started early. This gives time for compounding.

You invest regularly. SIPs build discipline.

You have growth-focused funds. Mid-cap funds can give high returns.

Challenges to Achieving Rs 1 Crore in 6 Years
Market volatility. Mid-cap funds fluctuate more.

Time frame is short. Equity needs at least 7-10 years.

High return expectation. Achieving Rs 1 crore in 6 years is difficult.

Steps to Improve Your Strategy
Increase Investment Amount
Rs 25,000 per month may not be enough.

Try to increase it to Rs 35,000–40,000 per month.

Use yearly salary hikes to boost SIPs.

Balance Your Portfolio Better
Mid-caps are good but risky.

Reduce mid-cap exposure to 50%.

Increase large-cap allocation to 40%.

Add 10% flexi-cap funds for stability.

Use Lump Sum Investments
Invest any bonuses, increments, or extra income.

Avoid keeping too much in PF, as equity gives better returns.

Avoid Index Funds and Direct Plans
Index funds cannot outperform markets.

Active funds are managed by experts and can generate better returns.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) for the best selection.

Tax Considerations
LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

STCG is taxed at 20%.

Plan redemptions wisely to save tax.

Finally
Your goal is aggressive but possible with discipline. Increase your SIPs and maintain asset allocation. Invest wisely through Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and MFD. Stay focused, and you can reach your target.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 02, 2025Hindi
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Mai 25 sal ka hu 6 sal nokri ho gye army mai shadi nahi ki abi 61000 pay hai samj nahi aa rahi kass investment kru
Ans: I will provide a detailed investment plan for you based on your age, income, and financial situation.

Financial Security Comes First
Emergency Fund: Keep at least 6 months' expenses in a bank FD or liquid mutual fund.

Health Insurance: Even if the army covers you, get a personal Rs 10-20 lakh health policy.

Term Insurance: If you have dependents, buy Rs 1 crore term insurance.

Investment Plan Based on Goals
Short-Term Goals (1-3 Years)
Keep funds in a bank FD or ultra-short-term mutual fund.

This is for urgent needs like a vehicle or course fees.

Medium-Term Goals (3-7 Years)
Invest in balanced mutual funds to grow wealth safely.

These funds balance risk and reward.

Long-Term Goals (7+ Years)
Invest in actively managed equity mutual funds through SIPs.

Choose a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

Avoid index funds, as they cannot outperform the market.

Investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and MFD ensures better fund selection.

Asset Allocation for You
50% Equity Mutual Funds (for long-term wealth creation).

20% Balanced Mutual Funds (for medium-term stability).

20% Bank FD or Liquid Funds (for short-term needs).

10% Gold ETF or Sovereign Gold Bonds (for diversification).

Tax Considerations
Equity mutual fund gains above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains taxed at 20%.

Debt fund gains taxed as per your income slab.

FD interest is also taxable.

Finally
You are young and earning well. Start early to build wealth. Follow the right asset allocation. Investing with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) helps avoid mistakes. Stay invested for the long term.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner
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Hi I purchased my parents house by paying half amount to my brother and paying a loan of 45k per month now the property value is in good appreciation but lacking in financial stability I want to sell my property now and purchase new property in outskirts of city and want to invest 10 percent in mutual fund and remaining amount to do fd with monthly income is it a good move
Ans: You purchased your parents’ house by paying your brother’s share and taking a loan. Now, the property value has appreciated, but you face financial instability. You are considering selling the house, buying another one on the outskirts, investing 10% in mutual funds, and putting the rest in fixed deposits (FDs) for monthly income. Let’s analyse if this is a good decision.

Financial Challenges of Holding the Current Property
High Loan EMI Pressure

You are paying Rs 45,000 per month as EMI. This is a financial burden if your income is not stable.

Liquidity Issues

Most of your wealth is locked in the property. You may not have enough emergency funds.

Opportunity Cost

The property value has increased, but it does not generate regular income. Holding the house may not be the best financial choice.

Selling and Buying Another Property: Pros and Cons
Advantages of Selling
Debt-Free Life

If you sell, you can clear your home loan. This removes EMI pressure.

Better Financial Stability

You will have liquid funds to manage your expenses and investments.

Disadvantages of Buying Another Property
New Property May Not Appreciate Quickly

Properties in city outskirts may take longer to appreciate. Demand is usually lower.

Additional Costs Involved

Buying a new house involves stamp duty, registration fees, maintenance, and taxes.

Liquidity Issues Continue

If you reinvest in another house, you may again face cash flow problems.

Investment Plan for Better Stability
You are considering investing 10% in mutual funds and putting the rest in FDs for monthly income. Let’s evaluate this plan.

Mutual Fund Investment: A Better Approach
Growth Potential

Mutual funds offer inflation-beating returns over the long term.

Flexibility

You can withdraw through a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) instead of locking funds in an FD.

Tax Efficiency

Long-term capital gains tax on equity funds is only 12.5% above Rs 1.25 lakh. This is better than FD taxation.

Fixed Deposits: Limited Benefits
Lower Returns

FD interest rates are lower than inflation. This reduces your purchasing power over time.

Tax Disadvantage

FD interest is taxed as per your income slab. This reduces your post-tax earnings.

Lack of Growth

FDs do not allow wealth accumulation over time.

Better Strategy for Financial Stability
Sell the Current House to Reduce Debt

This removes EMI stress and improves your financial flexibility.

Avoid Buying Another House Immediately

Instead, rent a house in the desired location. This keeps your money liquid.

Diversify Investment

Allocate a portion to mutual funds for long-term wealth creation.

Keep some funds in short-term debt funds instead of FDs for better tax efficiency.

Maintain an emergency fund in a savings account or liquid funds.

Finally
Selling the house is a good decision if you struggle with financial stability.

Avoid locking funds in another house, as it may cause liquidity issues.

Invest wisely in mutual funds and liquid assets for a balanced financial future.

A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can guide you on tax-efficient investments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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My parents had purchased a flat in 1978 which we sold in 2014 & bought a house now the price of the house has doubled from our purchase value, now as my parents r no more it's been transferred in my name in 2014 can I sell that flat & use the funds for swp, can we invest proceedings of the sold house in mutual fund for swp, kindly ADVISE. Also wat would be the capital gain tax. DDM
Ans: You inherited a house from your parents in 2014. Now, the house value has doubled, and you want to sell it. You also wish to use the proceeds for a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) in mutual funds. Let’s evaluate the taxation and investment aspects in detail.

Capital Gains Tax on Selling the House
Inherited Property Taxation Rules

When you inherit a house, there is no tax at the time of transfer. However, when you sell the house, capital gains tax applies.

Calculation of Cost of Acquisition

Since your parents purchased a flat in 1978 and later bought the house in 2014, the cost of acquisition will be the purchase price in 2014. This cost will be adjusted for inflation using the cost inflation index (CII).

Long-Term Capital Gains (LTCG) Tax

Since you are selling the house after more than two years, LTCG tax will apply. You need to calculate indexed capital gains, which is the difference between the selling price and the indexed cost of acquisition. The LTCG tax is 20% after indexation.

Exemptions Available

You can reduce your capital gains tax by using exemption options:

Section 54: If you buy another house within two years or construct a house within three years, you can claim an exemption.

Section 54EC: You can invest up to Rs 50 lakh in specified bonds (NHAI/REC) within six months of the sale to save tax. These bonds have a lock-in period of five years.

Using the Proceeds for SWP in Mutual Funds
Why SWP is a Good Option?

Instead of reinvesting in another house, you can invest in mutual funds and use an SWP. This provides regular cash flow while allowing capital growth.

Debt vs Equity Funds for SWP

Debt Funds: Lower risk but taxed as per your income tax slab.

Equity Funds: Higher risk but LTCG tax is only 12.5% above Rs 1.25 lakh.

Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) Benefits

Regular income without selling large portions of investment.

Better tax efficiency compared to fixed deposits.

Principal amount remains invested and continues to grow.

Direct vs Regular Funds: Which is Better?
Risks of Direct Funds

Many investors choose direct funds to save commission. However, this can lead to poor investment decisions.

Need for Professional Guidance

A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) ensures that your investment strategy matches your financial goals. They also help with tax-efficient withdrawals.

Emotional Investing Issues

Direct fund investors often panic during market downturns. A CFP helps you stay invested with a structured withdrawal plan.

Best Way to Use the Sale Proceeds
Diversify Investment

Avoid investing all proceeds in one fund. Consider a mix of equity and debt funds for balanced growth.

Start SWP Only from Growth Investments

Your capital should grow at a higher rate than withdrawals. This ensures sustainability.

Tax-Efficient Withdrawal Strategy

Plan withdrawals to stay within lower tax brackets.

Finally
Selling the house will attract long-term capital gains tax.

Exemptions under Section 54 and 54EC can reduce tax liability.

Investing in mutual funds with SWP is a smart alternative to real estate reinvestment.

A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can help with fund selection and tax-efficient withdrawal planning.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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