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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 13, 2023

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The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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omveer Question by omveer on Apr 12, 2023Hindi
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hi Anu ji, good Afternoon!!! I am 45 and well settled.my wife loves me lot.I also love her.we have 3 childrens.we all are living a very happy life. I have a big concern that i always attract by other females.I was extra marital affair also.but now it closed.i have tried many times that it not happened.But failed to control. In morning i do morning walk,GYM and meditation .Its my daily routine to walk up at 5.30am and give self 1.30hrs.daily. All things are in control perhaps this. Please suggest what to do.

Ans: Dear Omveer,
Now only you can tell yourself the reason for looking for attention outside of marriage.
is it to drive away the stale air from the marriage or just validation from another woman to boost your self-esteem?
Whatever that is won't last long and you will get caught in a loop of never-ending chat windows living in a imaginary world of someone else making you feel better about yourself.
Instead you might want to try spicing things up within your marriage. Date nights, vacations together, cooking together, gym or meditation together...anything that helps the two of you to connect better can help you refocus on your marriage with a new pair of eyes.
Your choice creates your life...choose well...

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 16, 2022

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Hi Anu, I don't want to disclose my name. I am married and have two children. I have a beautiful wife but I always tend to think about having a relationship with other women. I haven't had any relationship but I also want to be loyal to my wife. Our sex life is average. Everyday I try to avoid thinking this is useless but I can’t. Please advice.
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Dear IS,

What we try and avoid, we obsess over that more.

What is the real reason for wanting a relationship outside of marriage?

It is very easy and tempting to run away from facing issues that might be plaguing your marriage and hold on to something outside. Justifications maybe many.

Have you and your wife worked out issues at an emotional level.

Sex is one element of marriage and not the only one.

Maybe she feels emotionally disconnected from you as you might feel physically disconnected from her.

Whatever it is, bringing another person into a marriage isn’t going to sort out anything.

But if you have decided that a few complications aren’t going to hurt, well that is what is leading you to obsess over wanting another woman.

Instead, can you actually think of rebuilding the marriage? Of course, the want needs to be there else it’s a pointless exercise.

It takes a lot of work and patience and calm understanding between spouses to make a marriage work. Slippages can cost a parson his/ her marriage.

So, maybe it’s time to actually list down the best qualities you see in your wife and oh, yes WHY the two of you married in the first place, This WHY can re-energize you to look at things differently and more usefully.

The fact that you want to be loyal to your wife does suggest that there is a lot of love and care still in the marriage.

Who knows, the obsessive thoughts may fade…give your marriage another chance. I am sure you know that it deserves that chance!

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 16, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 08, 2024Hindi
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I have a very happy family and one daughter pursuing graduation and son at standard 8. Although I don't have any big issue at my home but my testosterone levels are pretty high. Therefore I am attracted towards ladies and unless ladies offer themselves I never ever have asked anyone for any favour. Since my marriage I have extra marital relation with three different persons. All the time I have shared my things with my wife. She hardly accepts and after lot of persuasion she gets calm. Since my wife has menopause at the age of 40 and she does not display a very happy mood I am always attracted towards outsiders. Even I wanted her to allow me with one of her schoolmate who also have shared her with me. But my wife became furious and has now threatened to legal course of action. What to do? Although I know my desires are already on a negative platform, even then how to control biological requirement?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You say that you don't have any big issues at home, but your wife has threatened you with legal action is not a big issue?
The reasons for it seem very clear that you continue to look for relationships outside of your marriage because your wife is not interested in sex and then you expect her to accept your lifestyle...
She does not accept it and hence has gone the legal way; should that not tell you how right from the beginning of marriage you have been the cause for it to fail?
Rather than just blaming your high testosterone levels which could have been managed, you chose the easy way out by sleeping with multiple women and you think your wife must be okay with it?
So, kindly reevaluate how much you value your wife and your marriage. If this still matters, then I am sure you will make an effort to put things back together between the two of you...As for your high testosterone levels, there are ways in which you can manage (you know for sure how) them without getting into relationships with so many women that come and complicate things for you.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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