hi Anu ji,
good Afternoon!!!
I am 45 and well settled.my wife loves me lot.I also love her.we have 3 childrens.we all are living a very happy life.
I have a big concern that i always attract by other females.I was extra marital affair also.but now it closed.i have tried many times that it not happened.But failed to control.
In morning i do morning walk,GYM and meditation .Its my daily routine to walk up at 5.30am and give self 1.30hrs.daily.
All things are in control perhaps this.
Please suggest what to do.
Ans: Dear Omveer,
Now only you can tell yourself the reason for looking for attention outside of marriage.
is it to drive away the stale air from the marriage or just validation from another woman to boost your self-esteem?
Whatever that is won't last long and you will get caught in a loop of never-ending chat windows living in a imaginary world of someone else making you feel better about yourself.
Instead you might want to try spicing things up within your marriage. Date nights, vacations together, cooking together, gym or meditation together...anything that helps the two of you to connect better can help you refocus on your marriage with a new pair of eyes.
Your choice creates your life...choose well...
All the best!