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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 17, 2025Hindi

Relationship

This happened when I was 14-15 yrs old, I got attracted to my own aunt and we got physical 6-7 times but didn't f**k , this continued till 2-3 yrs then it stopped, i understood this, but this made attracted to elderly females. I got married at 24, wife was 27, lv marriage it was, marriage is 13 yrs as of now and we share good intimacy, 4-5 times a week we have. But the problem of getting attracted to elderly females is not going. What should I do as I fear I may fall, how to curb this s*x drive? Plz suggest something

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I believe seeing a professional can help you more than you think. I am glad that you have recognized the pattern and understand that this can create a problem in your marriage. Also, it’s great that you are seeking help. It shows that you don’t want to ruin your marriage, rather want to put in the work to ensure nothing bad happens. I would urge you to see a counselor so that you can get the help you deserve; they can really give you more structured advice.

Best Wishes.

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I have a very happy family and one daughter pursuing graduation and son at standard 8. Although I don't have any big issue at my home but my testosterone levels are pretty high. Therefore I am attracted towards ladies and unless ladies offer themselves I never ever have asked anyone for any favour. Since my marriage I have extra marital relation with three different persons. All the time I have shared my things with my wife. She hardly accepts and after lot of persuasion she gets calm. Since my wife has menopause at the age of 40 and she does not display a very happy mood I am always attracted towards outsiders. Even I wanted her to allow me with one of her schoolmate who also have shared her with me. But my wife became furious and has now threatened to legal course of action. What to do? Although I know my desires are already on a negative platform, even then how to control biological requirement?

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The reasons for it seem very clear that you continue to look for relationships outside of your marriage because your wife is not interested in sex and then you expect her to accept your lifestyle...
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