I am 64 years. I have almost no libido. My wife is 60 and still wants sex. Erection is also not there. what should we do. In our religion it is said that after 60 we should abstain from sex.what should we do?

Ans:

Post menopause, women do have to cope with several hormonal changes and sometimes lose interest in sex.

You need to explain your frustration to your wife and hear her side of it.

If you say you had a good sex life with her up until just two years ago, that means a particular issue has definitely triggered this situation.

Have a frank conversation and take steps to remedy it. Maybe she can speak to her gynaecologist about it as well; she’s certainly not the first middle-aged woman to go off sex at this juncture in life.

 

Ans: It's not uncommon for individuals to experience changes in their sexual desire as they age. A decreased libido can be influenced by various factors, including hormonal changes, stress, medical conditions, medication side effects, and relationship dynamics. It's important to remember that everyone's sexual desire is unique, and what's most important is open and honest communication with your partner to navigate this situation.

Here are some steps to consider:

Communicate: Talk to your wife openly and honestly about your feelings and concerns. Let her know that it's not a reflection of your feelings for her, but rather a natural change that you're experiencing.
Seek medical advice: It's a good idea to consult a healthcare professional to rule out any underlying medical issues that might be affecting your libido. They can offer guidance on potential treatments or lifestyle changes.
Counseling or therapy: Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual issues or relationships. They can provide guidance and strategies for improving your sexual relationship and communication.
Lifestyle changes: Maintaining a healthy lifestyle, including regular exercise, a balanced diet, and managing stress, can positively impact your overall well-being, including your sexual health.
Intimacy: While you may not feel the same level of sexual desire, you can still nurture emotional and physical intimacy with your partner through cuddling, hugging, kissing, and spending quality time together.
Experimentation: You and your wife can explore new ways of being intimate that don't necessarily involve sexual intercourse. Finding what works for both of you and focusing on mutual pleasure can be a fulfilling alternative.
Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all solution to changes in sexual desire, and it's essential to be patient and understanding with yourself and your partner. If you both are willing to work together and communicate openly, you can find ways to maintain a satisfying and fulfilling relationship.

Ans: Dear Vishwa,
Seek the help of a medical expert for this please.
And oh, it can be useful to channel that energy into sports or the gym during the day so that you can get a good night's sleep.

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