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I'm struggling with mental health issues after my father's passing and a toxic work environment. Can I find peace without leaving my job or family?

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 07, 2024Hindi
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HI, I am don't want to disclose name I am facing some mental issue from last two year. In March my father passed I have not good relation with my parent, because their exception are very high which is not possible for me to satisfied. So after my father my mother start daily fight with me for small small thing, my mother has long history of mental issue, and my father did not address that . Now she want to what she did with my father. Due to daily quarrel my daily day to activity got affected. I can’t concentrate on my self. My confidence is loosing. I want to be alone and in peace. I have loving wife and caring son, but still I feel lost. And after covid my office atmosphere also get dirty. My senior keep me irritating without any issue. I know my problem is my mother and second is my office boss. Is there is any way without leaving to them. Otherwise, I am determined to leave both of them and live my life peacefully. Please advice

Ans: First, regarding your mother, it’s crucial to establish boundaries. Her mental health struggles are serious, but they shouldn’t be allowed to overshadow your own well-being. It might be helpful to seek professional support for her, such as counseling or therapy. If she’s unwilling, then finding ways to distance yourself emotionally from her criticism is key. It's not easy, but learning not to absorb her negativity can help protect your mental health. You might also consider speaking to a counselor yourself to help you process these feelings and find strategies for coping with her behavior without having to completely sever ties.

As for your work situation, it sounds like the toxic environment is wearing you down. If leaving isn’t an immediate option, try to find small ways to shield yourself from the negativity. Can you limit your interactions with your senior or find ways to compartmentalize work stress so it doesn’t bleed into your personal life? Sometimes, focusing on things outside of work—hobbies, time with your wife and son—can provide a needed escape.

It sounds like you're craving solitude and peace, and while leaving both your mother and your job might seem like a solution, it may not be the only one. Start with small, manageable changes: establishing firmer boundaries with your mother, finding a counselor to talk to, and protecting your emotional space at work. These steps can help you regain control and give you the peace you're seeking without drastic decisions. Remember, you deserve that peace, and it’s possible to find it with the right support.
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Thank you Kanjan Ji . Your advice mean for me. Again best regards

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General Comments:
People always delay retirement planning for later stage but this is not ok.

Because when you are young the investible surplus amount maybe less but you have the biggest resource, time on your side.

A mere 25K monthly sip can achieve 3 Cr in 20+ years

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If you need this corpus in 5 years then you need to make a monthly sip of 3.55 Lacs Minimum to reach 3 Cr corpus in 5 yrs.(modest return of 13% considered).

Focus on improving your earning because then you can earmark larger amounts for investing towards your goals.

Also try to prepay the home loan as early as possible through EPF corpus or some asset sale.

Do not panic if you diligently pre-close the home loan you have ample time to invest and create a comfortable corpus for your goals.

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Hi Gurus I'm 39, married and no kids, sole breadwinner in the family. My salary is 1.2 lakh per month and investing in mutual funds (since 2020) through SIP as below and step up investment 10-15% every year. Current corpus stands at 14 lakh. I have 10lakh in my PF account and I get another 5 lakh from gratuity. Mirae Asset tax saver fund 5k Parag parikh tax saver 3k Quant elss 3k Canara robecco small cap 5k SBI small cap 5k Tata digital India fund 5k I have parked 20 lakhs in debt fund and FD which I'm planning to use it to buy a flat within a year. Every month I keep aside 15k towards savings and emergency fund. I move it to debt fund, FD and I invest small portion of my bonus in existing MFs as lumpsum. My goal is to accumulate 2 CR by the time I turn 50 and need suggestions and plans to achieve the same.
Ans: You are 39 years old, married, and the sole breadwinner. Your monthly salary is Rs 1.2 lakh, and you have been investing in mutual funds since 2020. Your investments include a combination of tax-saving mutual funds, small-cap funds, and a sector-specific fund. You have also parked Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits for buying a flat within a year. Additionally, you have Rs 10 lakh in your Provident Fund (PF) and Rs 5 lakh in gratuity.

You have set a goal to accumulate Rs 2 crore by the age of 50. This is an achievable goal, but it will require some adjustments and strategic planning to optimise your savings and investments.

You are also setting aside Rs 15,000 each month towards an emergency fund and savings, while reinvesting some of your bonus into mutual funds. Let's go step-by-step to achieve your goal while ensuring financial security along the way.

Current Investment Strategy
Your investment portfolio includes:

Three tax-saving mutual funds
Small-cap mutual funds
A sector-specific fund
Rs 20 lakh parked in debt funds and fixed deposits for a future property purchase
Your current investment strategy is diversified across equity and debt instruments. This diversification is good, but there is room for improvement in your equity mutual fund selection and tax efficiency.

Analysis of Current Investments
Equity Mutual Funds
Small-Cap and Sector-Specific Funds: Small-cap funds can provide high returns over time but also carry higher risks. Over-exposure to small-cap funds can make your portfolio volatile, especially as you near your retirement goal. A sector-specific fund, while offering focused growth, can also be risky if the sector underperforms.

Tax-Saving Funds: While tax-saving mutual funds (ELSS) provide tax benefits, there may be an overlap in the holdings of your ELSS funds. Additionally, ELSS funds have a 3-year lock-in period, which reduces liquidity.

Debt Funds and FDs
You have wisely parked Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits, which ensures stability and liquidity for your property purchase. However, investing large amounts in fixed deposits may not be the most tax-efficient strategy in the long run due to the high tax on interest income.

Suggestions for Achieving Your Rs 2 Crore Goal
To accumulate Rs 2 crore by the age of 50, you need a more optimised approach. Here are the steps:

1. Review and Adjust Your Equity Allocation
Increase Mid-Cap and Flexi-Cap Exposure: As you are still 11 years away from your goal, consider shifting a portion of your investments from small-cap and sector-specific funds to more balanced options like mid-cap and flexi-cap funds. These funds offer a balance between risk and return, providing more stability than small-cap funds while still offering high growth potential.

Reduce Sector-Specific Fund Exposure: Sector funds can be volatile. Consider reallocating your investment in this fund to more diversified equity funds like flexi-cap or large-cap funds. These funds are less volatile and provide more stable returns over time.

2. Reassess Your Tax-Saving Funds
Optimise ELSS Investments: You already have multiple ELSS funds, which may result in overlapping holdings and lower diversification. You could consolidate your ELSS investments into one or two well-performing funds. This will simplify your portfolio and improve returns while still offering tax benefits.

Consider the Lock-in: Keep in mind the 3-year lock-in period of ELSS funds. If liquidity is a concern, consider reducing your ELSS exposure once you’ve maximised your Section 80C limit.

3. Focus on Regular Funds over Direct Funds
Investing through a certified financial planner (CFP) in regular funds is better than investing in direct funds by yourself. A CFP can provide ongoing advice, portfolio rebalancing, and support during market fluctuations, which is crucial for reaching your Rs 2 crore goal.

4. Build a Strong Emergency Fund
You are already setting aside Rs 15,000 per month towards savings and your emergency fund. Aim to build a fund that covers at least 6 to 12 months' worth of expenses. Given your Rs 50,000 monthly expense, this would mean an emergency fund of Rs 3 lakh to Rs 6 lakh.

Continue to park this money in debt funds or fixed deposits for easy liquidity. This will safeguard you from any unforeseen expenses while ensuring that your long-term investments remain untouched.

5. Bonus Investment Strategy
You are already investing your bonus into mutual funds as a lump sum. This is a good practice, but consider utilising this money strategically:

Top-Up Your Existing SIPs: Rather than investing the entire bonus in one go, you could use it to top up your SIPs in your existing mutual funds. This will average your investment cost and reduce market timing risks.

Boost Equity Allocation: If your risk appetite allows, allocate more of your bonus towards equity mutual funds. This can provide higher returns in the long run, contributing significantly to your Rs 2 crore goal.

6. Step-Up Your SIPs Annually
You have mentioned that you step up your SIPs by 10-15% every year. Continue with this approach, as it aligns well with your growing income and inflation. This will accelerate your wealth accumulation and keep your goal on track.

For instance, a 10-15% increase in SIP amounts every year can make a significant difference to your final corpus. By increasing your SIPs, you will also take advantage of compounding and market growth.

7. Debt Fund Considerations
You have Rs 20 lakh in debt funds and fixed deposits. Once you buy your flat, this money will likely be reduced. However, after the purchase, you should maintain a portion of your savings in debt funds as part of your overall asset allocation.

Debt funds provide stability and reduce risk, which is essential as you approach your retirement goal. A balanced portfolio of equity and debt is necessary for sustainable growth.

8. Retirement Planning
To achieve Rs 2 crore by the time you turn 50, you need a mix of aggressive growth in the early years and risk mitigation in the later years.

Increase Equity Exposure for Now: As you have 11 years until retirement, continue focusing on equity funds for growth. However, once you are within 5 years of your retirement goal, gradually shift a portion of your equity investments to debt funds to protect your capital.

Avoid Real Estate Investments: Since you are planning to buy a flat within a year, avoid additional investments in real estate. Real estate is illiquid and may not provide returns aligned with your retirement timeline.

Maximise Provident Fund Contributions: You already have Rs 10 lakh in your PF, and this will continue growing with your monthly contributions. Provident Fund provides a safe and stable return and should remain a core part of your retirement corpus.

9. Tax Efficiency
As your investments grow, consider tax efficiency:

Tax on Equity Mutual Funds: Long-term capital gains (LTCG) on equity mutual funds above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%. Be mindful of these taxes when planning withdrawals.

Tax on Debt Funds and FDs: Interest income from fixed deposits is taxed as per your income slab, which is less tax-efficient than equity investments. You can reduce your tax burden by keeping longer-term investments in equity funds and shorter-term savings in debt funds.

Final Insights
With proper planning, accumulating Rs 2 crore by the age of 50 is within your reach. You are already on the right track with a balanced approach to savings and investments. However, minor adjustments in your mutual fund selection, better tax efficiency, and maintaining a strong emergency fund can further optimise your strategy.

Your commitment to stepping up your investments and regularly reviewing your portfolio will help you stay on track. Be consistent with your SIPs and disciplined in maintaining your long-term focus.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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