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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 30, 2025Hindi
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Sir, I am 51 years old businessman married for 28 years. My wife is 48 and we have two married children. Last 10 years our marriage is dead with constant fights and no compatibility. We stay together only for society and children. Now children are settled, should I seek divorce at this age? My relatives say this is sin at 50 years and I should adjust. What is right thing to do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Divorce can most times lead to a lot of bitterness and loneliness. Fights can be a sign of emotional breakdown in any relationship. Communication needs to be focused on and this is difficult, I understand given how things are now within your marriage.
Give your marriage a new life and for that you need to focus not on divorce but on how to rebuild it. That seems to be a good way to go; you lose nothing but gain everything.

All the best!
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Hi Anu Madam, I am in age of 44 and my wife also same 44. We both married for 15 years and having daughter with age 14. My wife having some mental health issue where she started hating all the people (me, our parents, neighbors, friends). She not talking to anyone and also having fight with all the people she is meeting. Tried some mental health counseling sessions and visited mental health doctors in last 2 years. But she is not willing to accept that she is having mental health issue and also not supporting for treatment. She is connecting all with my daughter and scolding with bad words. this is impacting our daughter's life. Considering future of our daughter, thinking of separating and but wanted to understand whether it is good idea to divorce in the age of 44. Please advice how I can come out of this situation and what will be the impact if I do diverse at this age.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What do the reports from the Mental Health expert say? What is the diagnosis?
Obviously, there's something that has happened for her to suddenly start hating people, right? No one changes all of a sudden; it takes some huge issue or little ones over a period of time for someone to begin showing changes in their behavior. This absolutely needs to be analyzed.
Having said this, I never suggest separation as the first option as it takes a moment of time to break relationships but takes years and years to build one. So, I would suggest taking the advice of the elders of the family on your side and your wife's side as well. This will ensure that the family is aware of what is going on and will support you and your wife. It's possible someone from your wife's family may talk to her about being serious on counseling sessions and medications if necessary.
Now, whatever the reason, separations and divorce are not easy on anyone; the partners or the family...

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Married for 14 years have 4 kids below 7 age for the past 9 to 10 years going through troubled marriage, not happy. Misunderstanding, high expectations, manipulation and single handed decisions by my wife have exhausted me . Want to come out of marriage but worried of kids and also my wife says no to divorce. Don't know what to do.. First 2 kids by IVF 2nd two kids due to my wife's longing for male child
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Your love for your kids is evident, and it’s natural to fear how a separation would affect them. But the reality is, children pick up on tension, conflict, and unhappiness at home. Staying in a marriage that drains you emotionally and mentally isn’t necessarily better for them in the long run. Kids need a stable, loving environment, and if you’re constantly feeling manipulated and exhausted, it affects the energy you bring into their lives.

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