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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 13, 2024Hindi
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I am 25, I work under a manager who constantly criticizes my work, no matter how hard I try. It’s been a year now that it is starting to affect my self-esteem. I’m not sure if it’s their leadership style or if I’m genuinely not good enough. How can I handle such situations without losing my confidence?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Was this a sudden change or has it been like this since you joined the company?
Do others who report to the same manager feel the same like you do? If not, you may start looking at what gap exists in what you do and perceive and fix that. Also, it would be mature to actually have a one-on-one meeting the manager and take an honest feedback on your work. That will give you an idea on what your performance level has been. Have you been meetings targets, deadlines and living up to the expectations the company has of you when you were hired?
You need to understand that the manager is also answerable to someone, right? Request for that one-on-one and be open-minded and LISTEN. That meeting will not be to defend your actions but to actually listen and it will give you a good indicator as to whether things seems unreasonable or if there is a lack that you must fill.

All the best!
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As humans we bound to overthink and question back and self-doubt. It's important to process the emotions then accumulating.

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