Torn between Masters degree in the US and Arranged Marriage in India: 27-year-old woman seeks advice

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Dear AY,

And is your boyfriend also really depressed like you are?

Is he also desperate to get married?

Is he afraid of talking to his parents?

Does he also want to get married and settle down?

Is there a future for the two of you?

If the answer to each is a YES, please have that ‘uncomfortable yet firm’ conversation with your boyfriend.

Being in a limbo isn’t great, so please ask him how much time he needs to talk to his parents and when he is going to talk to them and how serious is he in this relationship?

Else, it will be an endless wait and that is what seems to be getting to you, the uncertainty.

So, by getting a clear commitment on the WHEN, will eliminate this stress that is eating you away. Things will get clearer, and you will know what to do!

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You handle this by not caving in to pressure and living life on your own terms.

I wouldn't go about pretending, but I certainly would stand my ground if I were you.

What's the big deal if you get married at 32 or 33 instead of 30? It's just a number at the end of the day.

Rather than deception, choose determination. And your parents really need to cool it with the forcing business! It's your life and you should get a say in when you marry.

Ans: Hello,

To begin with, thank you for contacting us. You appear to have had some ups and downs, but your determination is admirable. To answer your question first, I would like to let you know that having scored well on exams viz., the GRE and Duolingo, studying a master's in IT in the USA can be an excellent choice to enhance your job opportunities. In order for you to make the right choice, I would recommend that you take into account the following:

Firstly, consider your professional objectives. Think about whether an Information Technology (IT) master's degree will resonate with your long-term professional goals? To ensure that the investment is profitable, I would recommend that you investigate the labor market as well as the demand for IT specialists in the domain of your choosing. Remember that pursuing further education overseas can be a costly affair. To finance your own education, I would suggest that you take into account your monetary condition as well as look into possibilities for scholarships, monetary assistance, or part-time employment opportunities. Concerning your query that your father wants you to get married, I would recommend that you openly talk to him about your priorities. State your wish to focus on your job before marriage, and explain how seeking further education will help you advance your career and secure your future. I would like to tell you that your internship experience can offer meaningful insights into the sector and assist you in deciding as to whether IT is the best career route for you. Think about how your internship best resonates with your professional objectives and whether it has played a role in your choice to pursue a master's degree in Information Technology (IT). In order to acquire knowledge into the market trends, employment opportunities, and the importance of a master's degree in your preferred field of study, I would recommend that you seek guidance from employment consultants, instructors, and experts in the domain of information technology. Lastly, the choice you make should best resonate with both, your individual and professional objectives. I would suggest that seeking a master's degree in the USA could possibly be the best option for you if you are eager to pursue higher studies in information technology and believe that it will result in more employment prospects.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When he does not want to marry you, then what makes you waste so much time on him?
Move on with your life; it's not about getting married like the way your parents intend BUT more a signal to yourself to stop in your tracks and focus on what's important to you; your life...

He can be a good friend still supporting you (If the two of you can find that maturity) and you will both be able to walk on your own paths which isn't happening now. When he is clear that he is not going to commit to it, it should be enough data for you to look into yourself and know that you are trying hard to make something happen that does not want to happen. Making sense here?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: if you really are looking for suggestions here they are 1) shut all doors with the man who you are dating but you know you have no future with him. 2) get to know the man you have been introduced to and like him and tell him that you wish to know him for a year before you marry him. And let him know your plans on how you wish to know him through the year - all the best.