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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 16, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - May 15, 2024Hindi
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I'm 25 year old. I'm in love with one guy since very long time. But didn't confess my feelings at that time, due to career building. Two years back I confessed my feelings to him. But not he is not accepting my praposal because he is already in relationship with his office colleague. He told me that if I could have asked him earlier, he would have thought about my praposal. But now there is no chance. I'm not able to like any other guy & my parents are forcing me for marriage. I'm not able to get over out of him as I'm in love with him since very long & I can't think about any other guy in that way. What to do

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Move on...
There are many wonderful men out there who will be able to respect the reason as to why you couldn't approach them earlier.
There are many out there who will not send you on a guilt trip for whatever you thought was best at that time to do.
Clearly, this guy is on an ego trip and also respect the fact that he is in a relationship and move on...
No point waiting and no point feeling guilty...Move on and HOW?
By reminding yourself that the best is yet to come and that he is not the last human around for you.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Could you please let me know which year you completed your course and whether you are currently doing an internship or apprenticeship? An internship is part of the curriculum, where students gain practical training, sometimes with a stipend and sometimes without. After completing your course, you can opt for an apprenticeship, which typically lasts one to one and a half years and includes a stipend, usually split 50%-50% between the industry and government.

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