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Tanveer Question by Tanveer on Jan 26, 2025Hindi
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I'm 22 years old now, i had a relationship last long 5yrs but my parent's didn't like the boy just because of he is a dancer by profession so they forced me to broke up with him and harassing me so badly my uncle beat me i got heart and forcefully asked me to marry some other guy im very depressed

Ans: Dear Tanveer,
You might need to seek help from an NGO for all this abuse within the family. They may not like the boy but beating you and forcing you to against your wishes needs some intervention. Seek the help of a local NGO or the police so that your uncle is taken care of. This will at least give you time and safety to think about how to deal with your issues.

All the best!
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My son has got 91 percentile in the recent jee exam , he has next attempt in april, but i feel its difficult for him , can i know about other good colleges in karnataka , as im based their. interested in computer science and aeronautical degree, also advise some recent good courses for his career in india.
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