Hi Anu I am 30 years old. I have done LLB and was not interested to practice in court so I tried to get a private job but I didn't get any.
Then I decided to start preparing for a government job but I missed it. I started to doubt myself.
I even had suicidal thoughts this was started when I was very little something happened to me when I was 16 since then I tried to kill myself and also tried to get involved with one of my friends in college. He liked me so much so we started having relationship.
When intimacy started I became nervous and afraid. It is like itching.
I want to run and hide in a safe place. He was very firm and honest and humble but didn't work out.
After that so many proposals came. I declined. Now my family wants me to marry.
I don't know if the husband would understand and give me some time to get involved with him. I don’t know what life after marriage would be.
I am a girl with absolutely no achievement and am not proud of anything in my life.
My parents are disappointed in me but they never show. What should I do? Pls do not disclose this
Ans: Dear JV,
It’s possibly the incident that happened to you (which I understand that you haven’t shared here) is preventing you from having a fulfilling life.
I can only say that the incident happened in the past, but you are living it even now.
You were a victim in that incident, but to continue to play the victim even now is to give your power away.
How can you be happy by giving your inner power away every day and every moment?
Reclaim your life.
What’s happened can be blurred by moving away from that incident and reminding yourself that you are far away from the past and in the NOW.
- Be grateful to what you have in the present
- Make a list of your strengths
- Write down your goal clearly by stating by when you want to achieve it
Remember bringing your past into the current time robs you of any goodness; professionally or personally.
So, to see something change, change the way you feel about your past.
Step out of the victim mode and become a person who has the power to change things at will.
I am sure you want to see how this pans out for you.
So, what are you waiting for? Step up and bring that newness of thought into your life.
All the best!
