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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 06, 2024Hindi
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I'm 18F and my bf is 28 I'm a student and I have lot of dreams but in my bf home they want him to get married and have kids before a year but I'm not ready yet idk what to do he's saying he can only wait 3 years but his parents can't but I have a life but i love to be happy i he's happy what should I do should I agree to marrige and marry this year or miss him forever

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I can't make the decision for you, but it is important to prioritize your dreams as much as your relationship. Ask yourself, if you pursue your dreams and get married a little late, will that hurt anyone? Next, ask yourself, if you get married and have kids right away, will you ever be able to achieve your dreams again? Once you answer these questions honestly, I think you will know what to choose.

Best Wishes.

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And is your boyfriend also really depressed like you are?

Is he also desperate to get married?

Is he afraid of talking to his parents?

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If the answer to each is a YES, please have that ‘uncomfortable yet firm’ conversation with your boyfriend.

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