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18-Year-Old Torn Between Dreams and Early Marriage Pressure: What Should I Do?

Ravi Mittal |605 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Sep 19, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 06, 2024Hindi

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I'm 18F and my bf is 28 I'm a student and I have lot of dreams but in my bf home they want him to get married and have kids before a year but I'm not ready yet idk what to do he's saying he can only wait 3 years but his parents can't but I have a life but i love to be happy i he's happy what should I do should I agree to marrige and marry this year or miss him forever

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I can't make the decision for you, but it is important to prioritize your dreams as much as your relationship. Ask yourself, if you pursue your dreams and get married a little late, will that hurt anyone? Next, ask yourself, if you get married and have kids right away, will you ever be able to achieve your dreams again? Once you answer these questions honestly, I think you will know what to choose.

Best Wishes.

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Hi Anu, I am 30 years old girl and for the past three years, I have been in relationship with a guy who is two years younger to me. He is Marwadi and his parents are not agreeing to our marriage. I have tried breaking up with the guy several times and tried moving on but he always keeps saying that his parents need some time. My BF is a genuine guy and he loves me a lot.My parents on the other hand want me to get married by the end of this year. I am really confused if I should wait for my BF or listen to my parents and get married by their choice. I am unable to understand what to do. I am really depressed. Will it be really late if I get married after 30 or is it okay to wait for my BF?Please help me out.

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Dear AY,

And is your boyfriend also really depressed like you are?

Is he also desperate to get married?

Is he afraid of talking to his parents?

Does he also want to get married and settle down?

Is there a future for the two of you?

If the answer to each is a YES, please have that ‘uncomfortable yet firm’ conversation with your boyfriend.

Being in a limbo isn’t great, so please ask him how much time he needs to talk to his parents and when he is going to talk to them and how serious is he in this relationship?

Else, it will be an endless wait and that is what seems to be getting to you, the uncertainty.

So, by getting a clear commitment on the WHEN, will eliminate this stress that is eating you away. Things will get clearer, and you will know what to do!

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 18, 2023Hindi

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