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Ravi Mittal |605 Answers |Ask -Follow

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Oct 19, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 18, 2023Hindi

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Hello I have a boyfriend, he wants to marry but im not ready yet What should i do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It is okay to be not ready for marriage. But you mustn't lead your partner on and let him believe that you will be getting married any time soon. Have a clear discussion with your partner about how you are feeling and take your time to figure out why you are not on the same page as your partner- the concerns, fears, and reasons for not feeling ready. It is important that you are clear about your feelings first so that you can better explain your perspective to your partner without harming your relationship.

Remember, your feelings are valid and no one should have to rush into a commitment, especially something as significant as marriage.

Best Wishes.

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Hi Anu, I am 30 years old girl and for the past three years, I have been in relationship with a guy who is two years younger to me. He is Marwadi and his parents are not agreeing to our marriage. I have tried breaking up with the guy several times and tried moving on but he always keeps saying that his parents need some time. My BF is a genuine guy and he loves me a lot.My parents on the other hand want me to get married by the end of this year. I am really confused if I should wait for my BF or listen to my parents and get married by their choice. I am unable to understand what to do. I am really depressed. Will it be really late if I get married after 30 or is it okay to wait for my BF?Please help me out.

Dear AY,

And is your boyfriend also really depressed like you are?

Is he also desperate to get married?

Is he afraid of talking to his parents?

Does he also want to get married and settle down?

Is there a future for the two of you?

If the answer to each is a YES, please have that ‘uncomfortable yet firm’ conversation with your boyfriend.

Being in a limbo isn’t great, so please ask him how much time he needs to talk to his parents and when he is going to talk to them and how serious is he in this relationship?

Else, it will be an endless wait and that is what seems to be getting to you, the uncertainty.

So, by getting a clear commitment on the WHEN, will eliminate this stress that is eating you away. Things will get clearer, and you will know what to do!

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 06, 2024Hindi

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I'm 18F and my bf is 28 I'm a student and I have lot of dreams but in my bf home they want him to get married and have kids before a year but I'm not ready yet idk what to do he's saying he can only wait 3 years but his parents can't but I have a life but i love to be happy i he's happy what should I do should I agree to marrige and marry this year or miss him forever

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I can't make the decision for you, but it is important to prioritize your dreams as much as your relationship. Ask yourself, if you pursue your dreams and get married a little late, will that hurt anyone? Next, ask yourself, if you get married and have kids right away, will you ever be able to achieve your dreams again? Once you answer these questions honestly, I think you will know what to choose.

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I have been in a relationship with him for 5 years and we want to marry . But the problem is that he has broken in the house or I am in the house. After 2 years of my marriage, my parents will marry someone else. Because he also has two brothers and sisters, they will get married earlier and my boyfriend will get married later, after 5 or 6 years, I have less time or there is no option for him too, he can marry me but after 5 or years. but i have less time because i am girl ( the elder daughter of the house ) , what should I do now?

Ans: Dear Zeenat,
I understand your problem. The best course of action would be to inform your parents about your relationship. Let them sit together and come to a middle ground, like an engagement or something that solidifies your relationship till your partner is ready to be married or his siblings are married off. This way, you both are compromising a little and yet getting somewhat of an official commitment.

But the first step is to bring the parents into the loop and see how it goes.

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I have been in a relationship with him for 5 years and I want to marry someone else. But the problem is that he is smallest son in his family or I am in the house. After 2 years of my marriage, my parents will marry someone else. Because he also has two brothers and sisters, they will get married earlier and my boyfriend will get married later, after 5 or 6 years, I have less time or there is no option for him too, he can marry me but after 5 or years. but i have less time because i am girl ( the elder daughter of the house ) , what should I do now?

Ans: Dear mam, I can understand that you are going through some issues in your life but I am unable to understand your problem as there are some grammatical mistakes in the paragraph that you have written. I request you to plz rewrite your query and send it again.
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