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Ravikant Question by Ravikant on Nov 26, 2020Hindi
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Hi Komal
Both my parents are heart patients.
My father, who is 80 years old, had heart surgery last year.
My mother, who is 76, had angioplasty in January.
They live with me.
How can I best take care of them? Both are stubborn about the traditional oily cooking.
Ravikant Bhimani

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‘Old is Gold’ is a very famous adage which I believe in!

Older generations had a good sense of healthy cooking.

They generally cooked in ghee, which is a healthy fat containing saturated fatty acids.

But ghee must be consumed in small quantities.

There is nothing wrong with their cooking habits and beliefs. It is just that they find it difficult to adapt to the current trends at times.

You need to incorporate changes in their lifestyle in a subtle manner.

Make their food in healthy although minimal fat.

Give them lots of fruits and vegetables, dal and whole grain cereals which they are fond of.

Small frequent feeds, good water intake, proper sleep are all requisites of a healthy lifestyle.

Take them for a short walk and keep them happy!

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