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Child and Parenting Counsellor - Answered on Jul 20, 2023

Dr Aarti Bakshi is a psychologist licensed by the Rehabilitation Council of India.
A school counsellor, she has worked for 15 years with young adults.
She has two PhD degrees -- developmental psychology from Global Institute of Healthcare Management and clinical psychology from Singhania University.
She is on the CBSE panel for counsellors and special educators. She collaborates with SAAR Education to help children develop life skills.
She has authored SEL (social emotional learning) journals for Grades 1-8.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jul 20, 2023Hindi

My friend's niece who is 11 years old is going through a difficult phase. Her parents are separated not divorced. She is currently staying with my friend and her maternal grandmother. The girl is fine until she receives a call from her mother. None of us know what they talk about but the girl becomes disturbed and behaves aloof from everyone. She doesn't want to talk about it either. She doesn't have a lot of friends. How can we help? Should we consult a child counsellor, a teen counsellor or a psychiatrist?

Ans: Connecting with a child psychologist will help. Being there for her as a family and supporting her when she approaches works too. It is tough for anyone to process so many emotions yet with therapy and support, children n teens find strategies to heal.
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