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Feeling Lost at 24: 4 Years of Inactivity and Now Wanting to Make My Parents Proud - What Should I Do?

Pradeep Pramanik | Answer |Ask -Follow

Career And Placement Consultant - Answered on Sep 10, 2024

Pradeep Pramanik is a career coach, placement consultant and director at Fast Track Career Consultants, which provides career counselling, soft skills training and placement consultancy services.
Pradeep, who hails from Bhagalpur in Bihar, has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for 15 years in sales, marketing, training and product management roles in companies like Lupin Pharmaceuticals, Elder Pharmaceuticals and Ranbaxy Laboratories.
During his tenure in the pharma industry, he has worked in different states including Bihar, Jharkhand, Andhra Pradesh, Telangana, Karnataka, Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu and West Bengal.
In 1998, he launched Fast Track Career Consultants with the aim of helping youngsters find jobs through the right career counselling, training and placement services.
They also offer HR analysis and appraisal services.
Over the years, he has been invited by management and engineering institutions to discuss education and employment policies, entrepreneurship, soft skills and emerging careers in India.
He has published four books on career counselling and contributed articles to print publications.... more

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 08, 2024Hindi

Career

Hi i am xxx. I am 24 years old and i have completed my graduation at 20 and haven't done any job,studies or any exam preparation for last 4 years and now that i look back i realise i have wasted 4 precious years of my youth .Now i am thinking to prepare for ssc exams to attempt it in next year but i am very stressed that wheather i am also wasting this year in this preparation and should try for a private job to get some job experiance but my parents wants me to do something good with my life and i want to make them proud .I am a girl so i don't have much time left to focus on my carrier at most next 2 years then i have to get married .What should i do???? please help me because i am getting really stressed about it and feel like there is no meaning of my life

Ans: Dear ,

The one knows what are his /her strengths and weakness or what he/she has plans for future , cant be called ignorant . You are only 24 and entire career is open for you . Once you decide and try with utmost sincerity , Clearing SSC exams will not be difficult. You will get advantages also being a girl . nce you are through , all negativities will vanish . As far as Your marriage is concerned , Now a days girls marry only after they feel confident of their life and career so Dont worry , concentrate on SSC exams.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 13, 2023Hindi

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Hellow sir, Request you to please suggest and help? I am 39 yrs old male with no job in hand. I am not married as well. Actually my mom was detected with liver cirrhosis and was asked to have liver transplant on Septemeber 2022. After tht i was all after taking care of my mom and looking out for donors. I didnt hav anybody to take care of my mom, my sister is settled in USA and she was expecting. Hence she could nt help, but all the financal help was done by her. My mom underwent Liver Transplant in the month of May 2023 and now she is recovering. I am with her taking care of her. I hav Dad, bt he is also very old. I was before sept 2022 working in a Reputed hospital as deputy marketing manager. I have done my MBA marketing as well with a hotel management degree. I have a total of 11 years of experience with 8.26 lakhs per year package. I always felt in regards of my marriage i m unable to get a match coz i dont hav a suitable job with good package. At 39 i m unable to upgrade my skills coz of all my responsibilities. Maybe September i am thinking of looking out for a job, as my sister is going to return from US. I want to get married and lead a normal life. I also want to grow in life so that i can keep my family happy. I m afraid of being alone all my life, coz my parents in regards with dere health are not doing well. I also want grow in my career. Request you to please guide me what should i do in life ahead . I had no relatives support that is why i had to leave my job to take care of my Parents. At 39 i feel tht i m too old to get married as dere are very few proposals of my age and those which are dere are very much well settled in life and would epexct somone who is more sucessful than me.

Ans: Hi,
I can understand that you have got two issues primarily. First, you need to get a job and secondly is to get married along with taking care of your parents. You can look for jobs through job portals and look for match through various matrimony portals and marriage bureaus. If you do this consistently for a few months, you are bound to succeed.

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Asked by Anonymous - May 15, 2024Hindi

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I am 23 old live in Kolkata, actually I was pursuing my graduation ( B.A ) back then . I would have been graduated by 2022 but I got a backlog in 2 sub , then I dropped out from college, meanwhile I tried multiple job like in multiple companies in job like customer service representative , content moderation , translation , but I left everywhere with in 2 & 3 months , so I realised that I can't do desk job , I hate corporate, so now I am confused about my life what should I do

Ans: If you have not completed your graduation, it would be recommended to complete your graduation. Else you may find problem in getting promoted in the future in whichever company you work. Since you do not like desk job, try your hand in field job. This could be sales. Apply to different companies to get sales experience. Try to stick to a company for a longer duration to learn the trade.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 04, 2024Hindi

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Hi Anu... Am 39 and single woman with no income. Not working. Dependent on family. Did my MBA . I don't know what's happening in my life. Donno what to decide and how. Where to start. When to start. What to start. Should I 1st start earning or get married. I lost all my life bcz of my negligence and family issues. Never had a happy n peaceful day in my life. Something or other will be in family n life. Am not strong enough to take bold decisions. And lead my life independently. I want my family to be happy. My mom and dad's is love marriage but they didn't have a best life so even we children never had happy moments. But mentally very much attached to family. Can't live without them. What should I do? Am interested in marriage but alliance have huge demands and now am aged. People think am not good looking so I didn't get any proposal. I don't believe in love eventually I never supported love marriage of my friends and cousins. Ofcourse they are having best life. Now I feel alone.. I want to earn my bread. I want a family. I want to be married and enjoy family life too... Please help...

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Life and it's highs and lows are what makes us, breaks us and then makes us back again.
It is okay to be confused BUT it is not okay to wander about without making a decision which only leads to believe that life is hard.
What are the things that you have been wandering about?
- Marriage or being in a relationship
- Becoming financially independent
- Putting your degree to good use
- Stepping beyond home and family to create a life

Now, you have begun to think of it and maybe it frustrates you that it's too late. But better now than never...
Push your boundaries and first do something that can give you a WIN. That will boost you to take on challenges in every area of your life that you have possibly been avoiding.
No life or nothing is created or built without challenges.

The key question for you is: Have I been avoiding failure which is the reason for me to wander and not make a few decisions that would have helped me?
Start somewhere and a WIN in an area that you have control over, is what I suggest you start at...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Question by iTS - Oct 28, 2024Hindi

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DEAR, MA'AM YEAH DIR I DONT KNOW IF YOU ARE REPLAY ME OR NOT I TURN TO 25 THIS YEAR. I AM A ASPIRANT OF SSC CGL AND I HEARTINGLY WANT THIS I HAVE A CLEAR GOAL. ON WHICH I AM ALSO WORK IT BUT I STARTED LATE AND I THOUGHT MY AGE IS TOO MUCH I HAVE ALSO SO MUCH FINANCIAL OROBLEM. MY PARENT'S HEALTH AND ALSO MY HEALTH ARE WORST DAY BY DAY DUE TO ANXIETY . I AM NOT WILLING TO STUDY I GOT 113IN PRELIMS THIS YEAR IT WAS MY FIRST ATTEMPT BUT I CANT MOVE ON FROM THIS. WHAT DID I DO SO THAT I CAN AGAIN FOCUS ON MY STUDIES SO MUCH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND DESIRE GRAB ME I CAN'T CONTROL MYSELF????.

Ans: Please post your question in 'small letters' in the future. Anyway, coming to your current question, despite challenges, having a clear objective and the will to achieve it can help you refocus and recover control. To manage health and anxiety, identify your emotions, seek help, and focus on good living styles like exercise, sleep, and healthy food. Control stress regarding money by finding part-time or freelancing projects or government programs. Change your SSC CGL preparation method by evaluating your performance, creating smaller objectives, establishing a disciplined daily schedule, fighting negative ideas, limiting distractions, using resources wisely, and maintaining a positive outlook.

Finally, prioritize your family's health and well-being, even if it means standing stagnant. Remember that even little progress forward is preferable than standing stagnant. Remember that your resilience is already evident, and your will to rise once more counts. If you feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to ask for assistance or have a conversation with your friends and family members. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future.

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Question by Lohithkumar - Jul 08, 2025Hindi

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Sir nit patna or andhra university

Ans: Lohith, National Institute of Technology Patna, an Institute of National Importance established, holds AICTE, UGC and NBA approvals for key branches and is ranked 55th in NIRF Engineering 2025. It recorded a 74.96% overall placement rate in 2024 with CSE at 89.6% and an average package of ?9.9 LPA, supported by over 100 recruiters and robust core and IT sector internships. Andhra University College of Engineering, founded in 1946, is NAAC A+-accredited, functions under TEQIP funding, and offers PhD-led CSE programmes with modern AI/ML and software labs. Its BTech median package has risen to ?5.88 LPA with an 82% placement consistency over the last three years. AU’s lower tuition (?1.78 L total) and coastal setting contrast with NIT’s stronger national branding, higher package potential, and wider research collaborations.

For superior national recognition, stronger placement rates, and higher average packages, the recommendation is NIT Patna BTech. If cost-effectiveness, a NAAC A+-accredited urban campus, and smaller class cohorts appeal more, choose Andhra University College of Engineering CSE. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 08, 2025Hindi

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