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Feeling Lost at 24: 4 Years of Inactivity and Now Wanting to Make My Parents Proud - What Should I Do?

Pradeep Pramanik | Answer |Ask -Follow

Career And Placement Consultant - Answered on Sep 10, 2024

Pradeep Pramanik is a career coach, placement consultant and director at Fast Track Career Consultants, which provides career counselling, soft skills training and placement consultancy services.
Pradeep, who hails from Bhagalpur in Bihar, has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for 15 years in sales, marketing, training and product management roles in companies like Lupin Pharmaceuticals, Elder Pharmaceuticals and Ranbaxy Laboratories.
During his tenure in the pharma industry, he has worked in different states including Bihar, Jharkhand, Andhra Pradesh, Telangana, Karnataka, Maharashtra, Tamil Nadu and West Bengal.
In 1998, he launched Fast Track Career Consultants with the aim of helping youngsters find jobs through the right career counselling, training and placement services.
They also offer HR analysis and appraisal services.
Over the years, he has been invited by management and engineering institutions to discuss education and employment policies, entrepreneurship, soft skills and emerging careers in India.
He has published four books on career counselling and contributed articles to print publications.... more

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 08, 2024Hindi

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Hi i am xxx. I am 24 years old and i have completed my graduation at 20 and haven't done any job,studies or any exam preparation for last 4 years and now that i look back i realise i have wasted 4 precious years of my youth .Now i am thinking to prepare for ssc exams to attempt it in next year but i am very stressed that wheather i am also wasting this year in this preparation and should try for a private job to get some job experiance but my parents wants me to do something good with my life and i want to make them proud .I am a girl so i don't have much time left to focus on my carrier at most next 2 years then i have to get married .What should i do???? please help me because i am getting really stressed about it and feel like there is no meaning of my life

Ans: Dear ,

The one knows what are his /her strengths and weakness or what he/she has plans for future , cant be called ignorant . You are only 24 and entire career is open for you . Once you decide and try with utmost sincerity , Clearing SSC exams will not be difficult. You will get advantages also being a girl . nce you are through , all negativities will vanish . As far as Your marriage is concerned , Now a days girls marry only after they feel confident of their life and career so Dont worry , concentrate on SSC exams.

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Hi Anu... Am 39 and single woman with no income. Not working. Dependent on family. Did my MBA . I don't know what's happening in my life. Donno what to decide and how. Where to start. When to start. What to start. Should I 1st start earning or get married. I lost all my life bcz of my negligence and family issues. Never had a happy n peaceful day in my life. Something or other will be in family n life. Am not strong enough to take bold decisions. And lead my life independently. I want my family to be happy. My mom and dad's is love marriage but they didn't have a best life so even we children never had happy moments. But mentally very much attached to family. Can't live without them. What should I do? Am interested in marriage but alliance have huge demands and now am aged. People think am not good looking so I didn't get any proposal. I don't believe in love eventually I never supported love marriage of my friends and cousins. Ofcourse they are having best life. Now I feel alone.. I want to earn my bread. I want a family. I want to be married and enjoy family life too... Please help...

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Push your boundaries and first do something that can give you a WIN. That will boost you to take on challenges in every area of your life that you have possibly been avoiding.
No life or nothing is created or built without challenges.

The key question for you is: Have I been avoiding failure which is the reason for me to wander and not make a few decisions that would have helped me?
Start somewhere and a WIN in an area that you have control over, is what I suggest you start at...

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Finally, prioritize your family's health and well-being, even if it means standing stagnant. Remember that even little progress forward is preferable than standing stagnant. Remember that your resilience is already evident, and your will to rise once more counts. If you feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to ask for assistance or have a conversation with your friends and family members. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future.

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