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SSC CGL Aspirant at 25 with Financial and Health Issues: How to Regain Focus?

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Nov 13, 2024

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iTS Question by iTS on Oct 28, 2024Hindi
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DEAR, MA'AM YEAH DIR I DONT KNOW IF YOU ARE REPLAY ME OR NOT I TURN TO 25 THIS YEAR. I AM A ASPIRANT OF SSC CGL AND I HEARTINGLY WANT THIS I HAVE A CLEAR GOAL. ON WHICH I AM ALSO WORK IT BUT I STARTED LATE AND I THOUGHT MY AGE IS TOO MUCH I HAVE ALSO SO MUCH FINANCIAL OROBLEM. MY PARENT'S HEALTH AND ALSO MY HEALTH ARE WORST DAY BY DAY DUE TO ANXIETY . I AM NOT WILLING TO STUDY I GOT 113IN PRELIMS THIS YEAR IT WAS MY FIRST ATTEMPT BUT I CANT MOVE ON FROM THIS. WHAT DID I DO SO THAT I CAN AGAIN FOCUS ON MY STUDIES SO MUCH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND DESIRE GRAB ME I CAN'T CONTROL MYSELF????.

Ans: Please post your question in 'small letters' in the future. Anyway, coming to your current question, despite challenges, having a clear objective and the will to achieve it can help you refocus and recover control. To manage health and anxiety, identify your emotions, seek help, and focus on good living styles like exercise, sleep, and healthy food. Control stress regarding money by finding part-time or freelancing projects or government programs. Change your SSC CGL preparation method by evaluating your performance, creating smaller objectives, establishing a disciplined daily schedule, fighting negative ideas, limiting distractions, using resources wisely, and maintaining a positive outlook.

Finally, prioritize your family's health and well-being, even if it means standing stagnant. Remember that even little progress forward is preferable than standing stagnant. Remember that your resilience is already evident, and your will to rise once more counts. If you feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to ask for assistance or have a conversation with your friends and family members. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future.

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